10 Relationship Milestones and When They Should Happen

Relationships are made up of milestones that take place over time. But for beginners at relationships, here’s a guide to when they should happen.

Milestones are the events, big or small, that lead a relationship in a new direction. They mark the first time something is done, something that makes you both a little more comfortable. While every relationship has milestones, long-term ones have more, just because there’s more time together. Certain things that happen five years in just don’t happen during the first year.

While every relationship is different, and timelines may vary, there are some general time frames that seem to work for most. No matter how long you’ve been together, there’s a milestone or two you should be crossing.

When should these milestones occur?

While there’s no rule for when you should be able to accomplish something in a relationship, it’s still a good idea to know if your relationship is progressing the way most normal relationships do.

#1 Anything related to bowel movements, farts, going to the bathroom together, using it with the door open, etc. For farts, that should happen in the first 2 – 3 months, as there’s bound to be a time when you won’t be able to hold it in. Talking about going to the bathroom should happen 4 months in, but some men tend to do that as soon as they possibly can. Actually going to the bathroom together and watching each other go number one? That takes about a year, unless you happen to find yourself in a situation where it can’t be helped.

The moral of the story is people are gross, and if you love each other, you won’t really mind your partner’s bowel movements. They happen, whether or not you can see them, and the sooner you come to terms with that, the better. [Read: 13 unique ways to build intimacy with your partner]

#2 The first time one of you cries. Let’s face it, women will be more open to showing their tears than men will ever be. She might cry during a movie, when a sad song plays, or when she’s having a really rough day and crying is her outlet. This could happen within the first few months, or if she’s got a steely resolve, it might take her more than a year.

On the other hand, men are generally reluctant to cry in front of their partners, and will only do so when they’re under extreme duress or when they’re in physical pain *and that’s still pretty rare*. But men will usually be more likely to show a woman tears after at least a year of being in a relationship with her.

#3 The first time you let the crazy out. You know that weird thing you do when no one else is around, like eating cereal out of a mug, adding ketchup to your steak, or obsessively scrubbing the grout in your bathroom? The first time you show that really weird and unexplainable side of yourself to your partner is a milestone. If they stick around despite your strange ways, they might be worthy of your love. This tends to happen within the first year, roughly 4 – 8 months in.

#4 The minute you realize you’re no longer in the honeymoon phase. This is soul-crushing for relationship first timers, but for people with experience, this is the best time. No longer are both of you on your best behavior, living a lie, and being too cheesy for your own good. Now, the real fun begins, and you really get to know each other. This happens in a matter of 6 – 8 months. So, technically, those dating for a year have barely scratched the surface. [Read: The 10 stages of dating for a successful relationship]

#5 Sharing space, even if it’s at mom and dad’s house. This is when your partner’s toothbrush, hairbrush, spare clothing, and beauty products have taken over a drawer in your bedroom and the medicine cabinet in your bathroom. It happens to most people, and it’s probably bound to happen to you in time. It makes for messier breakups, but no one thinks about that when they wake up at their partner’s place and need to shower.

This should happen after at least a year of knowing that you’re serious with each other. For some, it happens in months, but those relationships tend to phase out quickly most of the time. Of course, for those on the more conservative side of the spectrum, you may find that you’ll only be sharing a space after you’re married. [Read: 14 tips to make moving in together before marriage work for you]

#6 Being at ease with the parents. This is a tough one. When you first meet them, they tend to look at you like an alien, or they’re very nice, which makes you wonder what they’re saying behind your back. This has a pretty hefty time frame, and should go away in 2-4 years.

Why so long? Because while you might feel comfortable around one parent, you might have a tinge of self-awareness around the other for a while. If you’re over it in a year or less, you’re one of the few lucky ones. [Read: 7 signs it’s time to meet the parents]

#7 The first time you take care of your sick partner or vice versa. The first year in, you’re still a little too vulnerable for this. Maybe bring them soup when they have a cold, at best. But you know that one time you needed a toilet and a trashcan at the same time for basically a full 24 hours? That kind of full-time nurse treatment doesn’t happen until 2 years in. [Read: How to take care of a sick partner without losing it]

#8 The first time one of you is too tired to have sex. This really does depend on how kinky of a relationship you two have. More so than going to the bathroom together. Some couples love to have sex, even when tired, and this “too tired to have sex” thing doesn’t happen until 3-4 years in. For others, it can happen in 2.

It really boils down to two main reasons: external forces *new job stress, a year filled with major life changes, death in the family, etc.* and your sex drive. You could easily be the kinkiest couple, with the sex drive of jackrabbits, but at the end of the day, you need to endure the “too tired to have sex” talk due to job-related stress and exhaustion.

Plus, let’s be realistic: after a while, it’s OK to admit that you’re not free to do the deed 24/7. It doesn’t mean your sex life is done for, it simply means you’re secure enough to know that there are some nights when it just won’t happen. It’s when it rarely happens that you need to worry.

#9 When you finally express your hatred toward someone in your partner’s family. It could mean their sister, mother, or uncle. It doesn’t matter. This isn’t spoken of a year in, maybe not even 2. For many, it doesn’t happen until the third year in, mainly because it will take you a while to actually get to know someone enough to dislike them.

There’s a higher chance of it coming out in the open if it’s someone your partner also doesn’t like. But if your partner is close to the person you dislike, or your partner simply doesn’t seem to have an issue with them, there’s a chance it’ll take longer. Here’s the funny thing though: say it’s their sibling. Even if your partner hates their sibling, you’ll probably hold your tongue until the third year mark anyway, simply because it’s your partner’s sibling.

#10 When you finally learn about each other’s gross habits. This happens late in the first year, but doesn’t fully explode into giant rants of honesty until the second year. You’ll start off small, like you didn’t shave your legs or you didn’t change the sheets because you didn’t expect them over. But by the third and fourth year, you’ll be describing how you haven’t showered in a week, and how you didn’t know you could smell this bad. It just escalates with time.

The good thing about this is that you reach a point where you’re used to these descriptions, and you tend to build up a natural mental blockage that prevents you from being completely turned off by your partner.

[Read: 9 relationship stages that all couples go through]

Even if your particular relationship milestone is absolutely disgusting or disheartening, they mark a time in which both of you have gotten closer, and have shared something that you didn’t realize could be special. It may be planned or it may come out as a surprise, but one thing’s for sure, each milestone deserves to be cherished.

 

 I hope this was helpful. I’d like to hear your thoughts on this piece.

 

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Ambria – Chapter 5 – Wednesday Night – Part Three

I pay the check. It’s $65. I figured a cheap happy hour with my new flower that would consist of $2 beers and $1 tacos. But it hasn’t played our like that. It never does. But this one isn’t like the others.  Nothing like the others.

What is happening?

We leave El Rey. What Ambria doesn’t know is that El Rey is owned by the same company who own the Rainstead Room. The server tells me we can cruise through the kitchen and go to Rainstead, but I say no. I want to take Ambria outside, and around the corner to the dirty alley to where the Rainstead resides.

We step into the night, and walk around the corner to the alley-like street that is Ranstead,  She seems a little nervous. But I put her at ease. I tell her it’s up ahead. On the balcony there is a red light. Before us is a black door with two R’s on it. Ranstead Room!

I open the door for her and in she goes. The vestibule, which more like and entrance hall is illuminated in red light and there is a young lady sitting there to host us inside. She grabs the next door and in we go. Inside is a very dark plush bar. Dimly lit, with a long white bar and a room of dark private booths. Blues plays in the background and the walls are adorned with paintings of nude women. It’s like something out of a Tarantino film.

Ambria instantly loves the place. She had no idea that it existed. She went with a vodka driven, light, sweet drink. I went with a spirit forward rye infused cocktail. These drinks are well crafted and delicious. They’re not cheap. But Ambria already said she’s paying so…

There’s a lot of gazing into eyes, hand holding and just general touching. There’s talk about us making love. I can’t believe this is happening on the second date! There’s such amazing chemistry between us.

It’s really uncanny.

I think of how difficult it is for people to really connect in this modern world, and how everyone is so connected through social media now. But that’s all it is, social media. It isn’t really connecting with anyone at all. Not in any real way. But I did meet Ambria on Tinder. But let’s look at what that is. It’s the new way to meet people and connect. But once you’ve swiped right and made contact, it’s up to you. Some people just want to hook up and have sex. That’s fine. That’s not for me, and not the way I operate in the world. I can only be intimate with someone I really like. The sex isn’t simply a release or a desire. It’s a celebration of our physical selves because we love each other. Now, that may sound corny to some of you, but what’s better than making love to someone you absolutely adore. It’s amazing.

Ambria says she’s a giver. I tell her I am as well. I have always been a giver. I can’t believe my good fortune for this sort of lightning to strike with such a wonderful lady.

This is our second date. It started officially around 5:45pm today. It’s now 10:30pm. The two and a half our lunch yesterday, and now four hours into our second date the very next day are strong indicators that there is a powerful attraction happening here.

She slips her shoes off, and puts her feet up on my chair. Just the way she’s listening to me when I speak. I can see she’s really into me. This is great. I feel her foot press gently against my crotch. This is a hot night.

She has to get a train back home. I ask her how and when. It’s getting late. She says she hasn’t given a thought about the clock or going home. She is lost in this wonderful night with me. The next train is at 11:30pm. That’s like an hour from now. We’re not doing that. I tell her I’ll call an UBER for her and send her home on my account. She likes that idea far better than going over to Suburban Station and waiting for a train and then getting home after midnight.

She pays for the two rounds of drinks like she said she would.

What a great girl.

We go outside and immediately start making out. I don’t mean like kissing, I mean deep, penetrating sensuous making out. That hasn’t happened on any of these dates that I’ve been on up till now.

I kissed her and it didn’t feel like a first passionate kiss. That awkward connecting of our mouths to be intimate that happens sometimes when you start making out with someone. The making out usually has to be later perfected as you get to understand the movement and rhythm of the person you’re with. There was none of that. It felt like she already belonged to me. Like we’d been together for a while.

Like I was kissing a girlfriend.

We walk up to 20th and Market and I summon the UBER. I thought East Falls where she lives was far away. It’s not. She won’t be waiting for a train at 11:30. She’ll be home in a few minutes. The ride is only going to cost me $8 bucks.

Before the car arrives there is more delicious kissing with Ambria. We’re both hot for each other and I’m really happy I met this lovely girl. We’re both buzzed and as I put her in the car.

I almost tell her I love her.

Almost…

 

 

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Tales of Rock – Tony Iommi

Birmingham was an industrial town in the Sixties, “much like our Detroit.” He had been welding, but grew infatuated with making music, playing guitar and accordion. When a band he was playing in wanted to tour Europe, he decided he’d take the rest of the day off from welding, but his mother sent him back to finish off the day. “They put me on a huge machine, a massive thing, and I didn’t know how to work it,” he said. “As I was pushing the metal into the machine, it came down with such a force and bang, it just chopped my fingers. There was blood going all over the place.”

A co-worker had put his fingertips in a matchbox and sent him to the hospital, but doctors told him he could never play again. “I was extremely depressed and very down,” he said. “The manager of the factory came to visit me at home…and then he told me the story about Django Reinhardt, who had lost his fingers.”

Feeling inspired, he created makeshift fingertips, invented light-gauge strings, dropped his tuning and explored a number of other ways he could play guitar. The combination led to an “aggressive, raw and fat” sound that became Black Sabbath’s signature style.

“Of course, losing my fingertips was devastating, but in hindsight it created something,” he said. “It made me invent a new sound and a different style of playing, and a different sort of music. Really, it turned out to be a good thing off a bad thing.”

Thank you Tony, for 45 years of joy!

 

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Miscellaneous Stories – So, You Want To Date An Entrepreneur? Here’s How

So, You Want To Date An Entrepreneur? Here’s How…

Being with an entrepreneur can be very challenging, well, because we’re not normal! We’re a very different breed, from the way we think to the way we carry ourselves.

Entrepreneurs spend a lot of time thinking up new ideas and creating things out of nothing.

It’s extremely difficult to connect with one, but when you do, there are some things you must know if you don’t want your relationship to be a rollercoaster.

Well, what do I mean by that? Let me tell you how to date an entrepreneur…

 

Have a life of your own

When dating an entrepreneur, it is important to not be too needy and to have a life of your own.

Don’t get upset if we’re not texting you back or can’t stay on the phone with you all day. It’s nothing personal, we’re just busy!

Entrepreneurs literally can’t afford to spend all day with you, so it’s crucial that you have something going for yourself to keep occupied.

However, when it comes to spending time and going on dates, rest assured that the time will be well spent and truly of quality!

 

Help or get out of the way!

Entrepreneurs are extremely busy, and we wear many hats! With that being said, it is insanely challenging to keep track of all that we have to do!

We honestly don’t have time for any whining or complaining.

If there’s anything that you can do to lighten up your entrepreneur bae’s load, then by all means, do it!

If your partner needs a book of stamps, go get them!

If he/she has a ton of packages to send off, but is occupied with other things, offer to send off the packages for them!

Go the extra mile! You’ll not only be appreciated, but we’ll probably love you forever.

 

Be supportive

Understand that dating an entrepreneur is nothing like dating someone who works a traditional nine to five.

We don’t get to work for eight hours then relax! We’re always working!

Be mindful of this and understand that we will make time for you, but first, we need to take care of business!

Many times, things don’t go as planned, and starting out, money isn’t always flowing!

Just be there and let your partner know that you support him/her in whatever it is they’re doing, and you two will get a lot further!

The truth is, as entrepreneurs, we never get tired of talking about the empire that we’re trying so hard to build, and an ideal partner is someone who will never get bored listening!

If you can be that person, be faithful and supportive, then there’s no way that the relationship can fail!

 

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Dating and Relationship Advice – 7 Things Nice Guys Do That Girls Mistake for Flirting

things guys do that girls mistake for flirting

Nice guys do lots of things for women out of the goodness of their own hearts. But that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s trying to flirt with you!

Nice guys don’t always finish last. Many times they don’t care if they are first or last, because they are more concerned with others than themselves. That’s because they have manners, and that’s what nice guys do.

I know it might be hard to understand that there really are just some nice, good guys out there. No, they don’t all live in the south. They are everywhere!

Anyway, let me reiterate the fact that if a guy is nice to you, it does not mean he wants to sleep with you. I mean, he might, no doubt, but it’s very important to remember that there really are just some great guys out there in the universe, who were raised properly, and know how to treat people.

7 signs he’s just being a nice guy, and not a flirt

Check out the ways nice guys continue to confuse girls everywhere, by simply being nice and gentlemanly in all that they do.

#1 Nice guys holding doors for you. This might be a shocker, but just because you breathe the same air a guy breathes, does not mean he’s flirting with you. Just because you might be walking into the same entrance as the dude in front of you on your way to work, and find that the dude happens to pause, and motions for you to go ahead of him, all the while holding the door for you, does not mean he is in love with you.

He is however just a human with really awesome human common sense. It’s called manners people, go and get you some. He’s just a dude holding a door for you, and if you were to turn around to see him holding the door for you, you would probably find him still holding it for the other ten people walking up, including other women. Who knew! [Read: How to read mixed signals and turn it into love]

#2 Nice guys smiling at you. We all know the whole bitchy resting face look people have. But did you know that people have the capability to smile, and that smiling is way easier than frowning, and probably even easier than walking around with bitchy resting face? If a guy smiles at you, it does not mean he wants to get with you.

It simply means he’s probably a happy little fella, who has no problem spreading his happiness out into the world and being a really nice person. If a guy smiles at you, stop being so vain and thinking he wants you. [Read: 7 reasons you’re not being approached by guys who like you]

#3 Nice guys buying drinks for you. I know most people probably assume that if a guy buys you a drink, he’s just trying to get you home. Although this might seem hard to understand, it’s true. Some guys literally just have the manners and kind heart to want to buy you a drink, even if you don’t even know him.

Think about the random strangers paying for other strangers in the Starbucks drive-thru that went viral. It’s an act of kindness, and doing acts of kindness not only make you feel good about yourself, but it makes others feel good too. Who wouldn’t want to be in a complete feel-good environment?

So remember, just because a guy might buy you a drink, alcoholic or not, does not mean he is flirting with you or trying to hit on you. It literally just means he’s offering to pay for your drink. Now, if he were to invite you over to his table or offer to keep you company, then that’s when you’ll know if he is indeed flirting with you.

#4 Nice guys complimenting you. Have you ever had one of your girlfriends tell you that your hair looked great, or they liked your shoes? Yes, of course, you have. And unless your friend is a lesbian, then your friend wasn’t giving you the compliment because she wanted to get in your pants. Perhaps she wanted to borrow them, but not get “in” them.

Just like girls, guys are allowed to compliment you without it meaning they are flirting with you. Why wouldn’t you want a guy to tell you he likes your shirt, or hair, or whatever compliments his kind-hearted soul wants to give you.

Take it, enjoy it, bask in it, and maybe even take a selfie secretly, to remember just how great you looked. But, take those kind words, and remember that he’s not necessarily flirting with you, just because he pays you a compliment and notices you. [Read: 15 sure signs he likes you but isn’t into you]

#5 Nice guys letting you cut in lines. If you’ve ever found yourself standing in a long line at the post office or grocery store, and the guy in front of you kindly offers for you to cut in front of him, it’s a great feeling. It’s a feeling that makes you feel like a winner, and it might also tempt you to do a double-take at the guy who just let you cut.

Although these moments may not happen all the time, when they do, it’s important to remember that there are still men with manners out in the universe. Just because he let you sneak in front of him, does not necessarily mean he wants to get in your pants and likes you.

He’s a stranger! He doesn’t even know you. And even if he does want to know you, he’ll start that off with a conversation while you’re in line. If he just lets you cut in without talking to you afterwards, then he was just being really nice.

#6 Nice guys offering seats up for you. When you find yourself on a crowded subway, train, or bus, and a random guy taps you and gestures that you can take his seat and he’ll stand, it’s very cool of that guy. It doesn’t happen all the time, but when a guy offers his seat up for you to sit down, it’s definitely a sign that he was raised properly and has manners.

Just because a guy decides to let you sit down and take his spot, doesn’t mean he wants to do you. He’d probably do the exact same thing for an elderly woman, if she were to have gotten on at the same time.

#7 Nice guys being touchy-feely talking to you. If you know a guy who always touches you when talking to you, it probably annoys you a little bit and also makes you think he’s in love with you, because why else would he always want to touch you? I don’t mean a creep who gropes you and makes you feel uncomfortable, but I mean the guy who maybe sometimes pinches your shoulder, or touches your arm, or always gives you a hug immediately when he sees you as his way to say hello.

[Read: 15 essential relationship tips for single ladies]

Some people are just very touchy-feely when they talk, just like some people always talk with their hands. This doesn’t mean he loves you and is flirting with you.

I know we live in a world where it’s very easy to be jaded and not believe that there are still good guys out there. And sometimes, we can’t help but think that, if a guy is being nice to you, he obviously is only doing so because he wants something from you.

Newsflash: It might mean he’s just one of the beautiful souls walking around our universe, who are there to remind you that when these random acts of kindness happen to you, you should restore your faith in humanity.

Sure, there are users out there, but that’s life. Some people suck and are only nice to you for certain things. But there are also really awesome people in the world with good manners and good intentions, and it’s important to always remember that.

[Read: 13 charming ways to be more approachable]

As Martin Luther King Jr. said, “The time is always right, to do what is right.” Maybe the guy being nice to you just so happens to know that no truer words were ever spoken.

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Crazy Dating Stories – IBS Gal – Part 3

But then as I lay there staring up at the pop-corn ceiling, I began to think: Why did she do that? Why the meat lovers skillet? Dang it, super hot Louisiana girl, why did you have to eat the whole skillet when you knew you had IBS? What a selfish thing to do. The more I thought, the more it occurred to me how selfish she was. After deeper reflection it seemed she had used me for a free meal. And in that moment, the yellow/greying walls seemed to be more aged. The flaking lead paint seemed to make the air thick and difficult to breathe. And that single, old, 1970’s incandescent light bulb, hanging there like a single bull’s testicle, out-of-place and missing its partner in crime, casting more shadows than light in this ghetto, 1950’s built apartment unit. I contemplated what had gone wrong in my life to be on a date with a smoking hot girl, with a super kind disposition, but who was also batshit-insane and had robbed me of my Friday night with all her stupid IBS crap.

And then, just then, when it all seemed pointless, somehow, I realized how truly filthy and utterly disgusting her room was and how sad the situation really was and I fell in love with her all over again. The anger disassociated in a solution with the powerful buffers of empathy, love, compassion, and righteousness. I knew what I had to do: I had to fix it for her. Had to make it better. Had to give her something positive and beautiful in her mess of a life. Had to be her knight in shining armor. But what? How could I, a mere mortal, show her my pure, unadulterated love and prove myself to her?

My mother. My sweet mother was the answer. My mother gracefully came to my mind in the form of a sweet memory. Yep, that was the answer and the only answer: When I was a kid, and got a bad grade on a test, or was bullied, and didn’t feel like living life and let my room go my sweet mother would quietly clean it for me. She would swear like a sailor and throw hard plastic objects at me and beat me for other things but in these situations she would also clean my room lovingly. And I knew I had to do the same thing for my date, for this girl that I had known for less than two weeks, and had spent a total of maybe 6 hours with- I would sanitize and organize and make her happy by cleaning.

All of a sudden, this possible government housing apartment, this worse-than-south-central LA-projects apartment seemed to naturally brighten up. I sprang from the bed and started cleaning. Started with the trash. And threw it in the bin. Then organized things into piles. Then pushed her bookcase back to parallel to the wall (it was perpendicular and just sticking out in the middle of the room when I entered.) I organized her books, and made all the knick knacks organized and a safe distance from the edge of their shelves where they had previously been dangling. I remade the bed, taking great care with the corners and eliminating wrinkles.

Then…there was the laundry. There were two piles: One obviously dirty, and one possibly clean. I put the dirty in a pile in the corner of her room (there was no laundry basket, no hamper). Then I had to make sure the clean pile was actually clean, and I had to make sure there were no “unmentionables” as Hank Hill called them. So I got down on my hands and knees and looked really closely for any stains. I started sniffing the air, motioning my hand in a circular motion towards my nose to see if her clothes would rile up my olfactory system at all. So far so good, but I had to be sure. So I gingerly teased out a pair of jeans from web/pile, and held them close to my nose. Good gosh: Southern sunshine, laundry detergent, and womanly goodness was all that smelled. I needed a greater sample size, so I went for an innocuous white tank top. Same great clean smell. I fist pumped the air, so happy. Then I separated out the pile, cautiously looking for bras and panties all good. I then started folding like a madman, as time was running down. I finished and gently laid her folded, clean clothes at the foot of her mattress.

I sat on the floor again. And waited. 10…5…1…0…-25…-45…-1 hour. I was tired and knocked on the bathroom door. “Hey are you ok? Do you want me to go to the store and get you some IBS medicine? Can I do anything for you?” She responded, “No no, that’s ok, I’m done.” All of a sudden the toilet flushed and she hopped up and opened the door even though she hadn’t even finished buttoning up her daisy dukes.

As she was finishing fiddling with her jean shorts, she looked beyond me, peering into the bedroom and started SCREAMING: “WHAT THE HELL MAN? WHAT ARE YOU DOING? MY ROOM IS CLEAN NOW!!??” She was pissed. I once again was incredulous and said, “Dude, you can barely function. You just quit/got fired from your Discovery card job, your apartment is a mess, unsanitary and unfit to live in really, you are in massive pain from IBS, can’t afford to see a doctor and don’t have health insurance. So the one way I thought I could brighten your day was to clean your room, a loving act, nothing more, nothing less.” She looked at me quizzically, as if I were some quixotic idiot trying to administer leafs of stimulating BS. She then said, “WELL YEA THEY’RE CLEAN CLOTHES BUT WHAT IF I HAD UNDERWEAR IN THERE, HUH??!!”. I said, “Yea exactly, I thought of that already, and that’s why I checked to make sure they were clean and that there wasn’t any underwear in there.” She was confused and said “You checked? What do you mean you checked?” I logically answered “I inspected the pile, I looked closely and then sniffed it, and just kind of peeked around to make sure I didn’t see any before I started folding. if I would have seen any I would have stopped and left the pile on the ground.” She then just kind of grunted and yelled “You shouldn’t clean my room and touch my stuff.” Fair enough I conceded.

I said I was done then, and that she needed to think about the night, her behavior and listed everything that she had done that was inconsiderate and understand that everything I did was with a pure heart and nothing but her best interest and trying to actively show her love. I apologized and walked out. We then went on a second date.

Actually we did! We talked on the phone, she apologized for the first date. We kept talking for a week and she invited me to her place.

We went for a walk, and she was super flirty and fun to be with, and then went up to her apartment. We were up there and she sat down on her infamous couch, and slinked her legs over my lap, laydown, pulled my head in and started kissing me. As we were kissing, her phone started buzzing. She checked her phone, said her friend was at the hospital and that she had to go. She sounded way different from she had the entire night, and seemed really nervous. I asked her questions about her friend and the text which she evaded. We hugged and said goodbye, and then stopped talking after that.

Four years later I went to my friend’s house and was walking up the stairs when Miss Louisiana popped out of a room. We both were surprised to see each other. A guy came shortly to their home and picked her up. We talked before he got there. She said she “contracted fibromyalgia” and that she was sick. She looked depressed. She was engaged to the guy. They left for that night for a date, and I never heard from her again. She got married 3 weeks later, they had been engaged for 3 months. All I could think when meeting that guy was, “you poor, poor man. I feel so sorry you’re marrying her.” I know that might sound cold but she really had some difficult issues and basically seemed to be just as much a mess as 4 years before.

 

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Dating and Relationship Advice – 5 Things Every Wife Does Just To Get Her Husband’s Attention

5. LOSING WEIGHT

Women believe that as they gain weight, their husbands start ignoring them. Usually women gain weight after giving birth to kids, and of course, they hardly get time for physical exercises that can keep them fit. In some families, husbands avoid taking their wife to parties because they feel embarrassed to stand next to a fat woman. Looking at such living examples, women develop a thought that their husband is not paying attention to them because they are not attractive anymore. So, to get the beautiful curves they hit the gym and also stick themselves to a strict diet. No doubt, it’s good for their health, but it would be better if your wife realizes the truth that she is always gorgeous in your eyes.

4. BEING TOO ROMANTIC

5 Things Every Wife Does Just To Get Her Husband’s Attention

Now she is reminding you of those good old days, the early days of your love life! Texting each other, speaking on the phone for hours without a reason, walking under a single umbrella, these sweet memories will never go away. But now she is rewinding them to make you remember. While you are busy in your work she sends “I love you” messages and she hugs you very often. Did you notice her lingerie collection? She has bought some hot lingerie just to impress you. These days she is also joining you for the morning walk. Why she is giving so much importance to such small things? Just to grab your attention! She wants you fall in love with her again, and perhaps you will start enjoying her company again.

3. NOT BEING THERE

5 Things Every Wife Does Just To Get Her Husband’s Attention

“A wife is essential to great longevity; she is the receptacle of half a man’s cares, and two-thirds of his ill-humor,” said a writer called Charles Reade. This quote is applicable to every married man. If you are leading a happy family life, your wife is the one who must be credited for it. Women know the fact that their husband may not be able to live peacefully in their absence, so sometimes, they purposefully go to their mom’s place just to make their husband realize their importance. Just imagine, one fine day you will come home and there is no one to welcome you! You are left with no option than relying on your cooking skills and taking care of your stubborn toddler. You will start missing her presence, and just like all other husbands start begging her to come home as early as possible.

2. SHE IS IN LOVE WITH HER MAKEUP COLLECTION

5 Things Every Wife Does Just To Get Her Husband’s Attention

Women go crazy when it comes to their physical appearance. They never mind spending so many hours in front of the mirror to have that desired look. However, after getting married, their focus gets diverted. They start giving preference to their husband and kids over their personal needs. However, at some point of time, they embrace a thought that good looks are essential to win their husband’s attention. Are you working with hot colleagues? You are adding salt to the wound. Your wife is living in a wrong assumption that you are attracted to other women even when she is not so ugly!

  1. SUDDENLY A SUPER SWEET LADY
5 Things Every Wife Does Just To Get Her Husband’s Attention

Your wife is not always a sweet angel, but sometimes she surprises you with a pleasant attitude. When you reach home, you will find her opening the door with a cute smile on her face, don’t be surprised if there is candle light dinner waiting for you. She may not demand anything and also help you in every possible manner. Dear friend, she is trying to impress you and steal your attention with her cool attitude. Please don’t expect her to be the same forever, you will be highly disappointed! She is a woman who is comfortable in her own skin.

 

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