Things Men Say That Make Women Feel Insecure

“Being a happy ornament denies one’s full humanness.”

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You’re probably a pretty secure woman. You know you’re strong and worthwhile, but sometimes your partner may say something that just makes you want to hide. It’s not just you — there are certain things men say that can make even the most confident woman feel bad about herself. I went to the experts to find out what those things are. Guys, listen up: these are the things you’re saying that are making your partner feel insecure.

 

Wow, that girl is so hot

It baffles my mind that some men think it’s okay to ogle other women in front of their partners, and it probably surprises you as well. When a man talks about the attractiveness of other women, it’s a sure way to make you doubt yourself.

One of the most disrespectful things that men say in front of women is commenting about and objectifying other women. It makes women feel small and sets them up for insecurity.

Men should be respectful not only about what they say, but “where their eyes wander.” Practice saying kind things to and about your partner, whether or not she’s there. This will take you out of the habit of objectification and into appreciation.”

 

That’s a dumb idea

Even if you think of yourself as an intelligent woman, it can be a blow if your partner devalues your ideas. And if you doubt your smarts, it’s even more damaging when your partner tells you that your ideas aren’t valid.

A study in Science magazine found that as young as six years old, girls already feel that they are not as smart as boys. When a partner confirms a woman’s fears about not being smart enough, it can be more hurtful than he may be aware.

She suggested that instead of men shooting down the ideas of their partners, to recognize her intelligence and emphasize her strengths.

 

You’ve gained some weight

Unfortunately, many women harbor deep insecurities about their weight. Comments about your weight and body can trigger those insecurities and leave you feeling embarrassed about your appearance.

Women are acculturated to equate self-worth with beauty and desirability. It is a challenge for women to strike a healthy balance with their self concept and vanity in a world that is often more preoccupied with how a woman looks than who she is.When a woman’s spouse or boyfriend makes a comment about weight gain, it can make her feel that she is unappealing.

The best thing for a relationship is for men to “assure [your partner] that you love her and believe she’s beautiful no matter what. Saying anything negative about her appearance, even if well-intentioned, will only create insecurity and a feeling of inadequacy, which is unhealthy for any person or relationship.

 

That biological clock is really ticking

Many women are all too aware of their age, especially if they want to have kids. One of the worst things a man (or really, anyone), can tell a woman is that her biological clock is ticking, especially because it can often be difficult to conceive.

For a lot of women, there is a challenge to balance the pursuit of motherhood with desires for intellectual and career goals. She shared, “When a man tells a woman her biological clock is ticking, it can trigger deep fears of not actualizing the desire to be a mother and create a family or cause a woman who may not be intent on that goal to feel as if she is not measuring up to being the sort of woman she ‘should be’.

Instead, she added advised that men who understand these struggles modern women are facing, and who are sensitive to the way women are being pulled in so many directions, are more able to “engage in a thoughtful dialogue about becoming a parent.”

 

Don’t get hysterical

Do you wear your emotions on your sleeve?  When men make negative comments about how you express your feelings, it can activate your insecurities and make you feel like shutting down.

Women who are assertive often carry the onus of being a hysteric or a shrew. When a man makes this comment, he may be condescendingly implying that a woman is out of control. Hence, a woman may doubt the validity of her own authority and question if in fact she comes across as abrasive and tyrannical.

However, if a man is comfortable with a woman’s power, he’s open and able to debate with one who is also passionate and assertive.

 

Why don’t you smile?

I tend to be pretty serious some of the time, and I’ve often been told I need to smile more. Interestingly, most of the people who have told me this are other women. But it’s also detrimental when your partner expects you to smile or be happy all the time, because it means he’s not valuing your other, equally valid, emotions.

Being a happy ornament denies one’s full humanness. Hence, when a man requests a woman to smile or asks why she isn’t smiling, it implies that other more serious sides to her are unappealing. It suggests that she be one-dimensional to accommodate another.

A man who wants to know all aspects of a woman, not just the “pleasant” parts, really embraces all of her faces.

 

You don’t dress sexy

In the beginning of a relationship, it’s natural to pull out all the stops when you’re picking what to wear. But when you’ve been with your partner for awhile, and especially if you live with him, you may wear sweatpants and t-shirts more often than not. If your partner comments on your dress, it can make you feel like you’re less desirable because you’ve allowed yourself to relax and wear what makes you feel comfortable.

When a man makes this comment, a woman can take it as a rejection of her style, her need for modesty or an implied demand to be more provocative so as to be interesting and desirable.

That said, this doesn’t mean a man can never mention the way his woman dresses. If a man playfully requests that his partner dress in a way that evokes his passion, while complimenting her intrinsic appeal and beauty, this wish for her to dress sexy becomes contextual not absolutist.

 

Are you on the rag?

How do you feel when someone asks you if you have your period? It’s a rude way of saying that you’re acting irrational or overly emotional, and it probably either makes you feel annoyed or insecure. Menstruation is already bad enough without all of your anger being attributed to your raging hormones instead of valid emotions. When a man arbitrarily throws out this comment whenever a woman is moody or annoyed, it sends the message that only a biochemical imbalance could explain her irrationality. It shuts down any opportunity to dialogue about what may be ailing his girlfriend or spouse and creates a wall of resentment.

 

Bringing up past insecurities

While there are some universal statements that will make a woman insecure, one of the worst things your partner can do is intentionally bring up things that he knows make you feel insecure, especially as a weapon during an argument.

For example, if a woman had terrible acne as a teen and she felt ashamed at the time, if a man calls her pizza face, he is intentionally evoking those childhood memories and bringing up those feelings all over again.

 

Thanks. I hope this was helpful. I’d like to hear your thoughts on this piece.

 

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If He Says Any Of These 15 Things, You Can’t Trust Him

These phrases will tell you everything you need to know about what kind of guy you’re dealing with.

You’ve heard the saying, “actions speak louder than words.” That’s generally true, but there are also some phrases that reveal important information about the person who speaks them.

Sometimes, the words that come out of an individual’s mouth demonstrate attitudes and beliefs that should cause you to tread carefully. Reading into these words will give you the signs you can trust someone — or not.

1. “I won’t ever talk about it.”

Do you feel barred from certain aspects of this person’s life? If so, you have to wonder what lies behind those walled-off areas. (Annabelle used to pull that shit on me. Dysfunctional idiot.)

2. “Let’s get married!” (if said too soon).

Under the right circumstances, these are amazing words. But some people hurry the process, perhaps out of insecurity, desperation, or unrealistic expectations about what is needed create an enduring and satisfying union.

3. “Why should I have to explain everything to you?”

If your date is defensive or sensitive when you ask simple questions, he or she may be hiding something.

4. “C’mon, it was just a little white lie.”

A person’s willingness to lie should serve as a big red alert about his/her character and emotional health.

5. “I’m bored.”

Some people need constant action and busyness to feel satisfied. They easily become restless, making it hard to relax in their presence. Another danger: This person may quickly get bored with your relationship.

6. “Can I borrow some money?”

Loaning money to a romantic partner is fraught with danger. A request for a loan, at the very least, shows that the person is not conscientious about money management. Be especially wary of anyone asking to borrow money you are chatting with online.

7. “No duh!”

Insert your own sarcastic phrase here. Sarcasm stings, even when the other person insists it’s “just a joke.” Biting humor is a sign of insensitivity and superiority.

8. “You can trust me—really!”

Trustworthy people usually don’t need to proclaim their ability to be trusted. Instead, they demonstrate their reliability through actions, day in and day out.

9. “I’m right, you’re wrong.”

A healthy relationship is impossible with someone who insists on always being right and reacts strongly to any suggestion otherwise.

10. “Our relationship is fine the way it is. Why do we need a commitment?”

Some people want the best of both worlds—the security of your dating relationship and the freedom to date others.

11. “Well, that was stupid.”

If someone puts you down or tries to make you feel inferior, consider this a warning sign of more trouble ahead.

12. “Just do it the way I told you to.”

Beware of those who feel the need to take control of every situation and be in charge. In the name of being “helpful,” some people want to micromanage your life.

13. “How could you say that to me? That’s so mean.”

This is a red-alert phrase if you have gently and sensitively offered feedback or made a suggestion. People who are hypersensitive to criticism may be insecure or narcissistic.

14. “How can you believe that?”

You will feel stifled if your date does not respect your opinions and beliefs.

15. “Don’t you feel lucky to be with me?”

Some people exude arrogance and aloofness, sending the signal that you’re fortunate to be in their presence. A relationship can thrive only when BOTH partners feel grateful and blessed to be together.

 

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The Four Types of Love Addiction

“Romantic love is heavily associated with the same regions of the brain as drug addiction.”

I feel like this is one of my most personal and powerful reveals. I’ve done extensive research on this subject over the past three years and here’s what I’ve discovered.

Romantic love is heavily associated with the same regions of the brain as drug addiction. Those who have it experience the same intensely pleasurable feelings, while those who are deprived of it experience the same crashing emotional lows and cravings. Consequently, it’s fair to say that love is an addiction. Whether it is positive or negative, though, depends on whether the love is reciprocated, appropriate and nontoxic.

Still, because everyone’s different, there are different types of negative love addiction. Humans can be loosely categorized into four major types, based on their overall patterns of thoughts and behaviors. Each of the four types tends to experience negative love addiction in a different way.

Romance Junkies

Romance junkies fall into the category of explorers, ruled largely by the dopamine system of the brain. Explorers are adrenaline junkies, hooked on thrills, adventures, and above all, novelty. In romance, this translates into an ongoing search for the dopamine rush affiliated with new relationships. When the infatuation phase gives way to the inevitable crash and burn, romance junkies are likely to go elsewhere seeking a new infatuation. (Totally me.)

Attachment Junkies

Builders, who are largely ruled by serotonin, are cautious, conventional, rigid rule-followers. They like to stick to plans and schedules, and take responsibility very seriously. Consequently, they tend to revere attachment above all other elements of a serious relationship. Their love addiction keeps them holding on long after a relationship has run its course.

Violence Junkies

People who fall into the directors category are largely ruled by testosterone. Although many directors never escalate into physical violence, they tend to be less empathetic and less socially skilled than their peers. Consequently, they tend to be action-oriented, using their physicality to express their emotions. They are likely to become violence junkies, addicted to chaos and turmoil in their relationships. When they are rejected, violence junkies may turn to stalking, physical attacks, or even impulsive suicide or homicide.

Despair Junkies

Negotiators are ruled primarily by estrogen and oxytocin. They tend to be agreeable, trusting, nurturing, and introspective, the caretakers in their relationships. Their addiction runs toward self-sacrifice, giving more than they should to heavily damaged partners. When they are rejected, despair junkies fall into rumination, obsessive thinking, and clinical depression. They tend to talk endlessly about the trauma, blame themselves, and try fruitlessly to figure out what they did wrong. Despair junkies are at higher risk for suicide in the wake of rejection.

Love addiction is complicated and highly personal, and every situation is different. Most people, regardless of type, manage to successfully navigate the pain associated with a breakup. Still, it is wise to be aware of your own type and those of your closest friends, and to watch out for each other in the weeks and months following a rejection. Taking proactive steps to ease the trauma can help to ensure that you do not fall into a dangerous pattern.

Which one are you? I’d love to hear some feedback from you.

 

 

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10 Ways To Compliment A Woman On A First Date (Without Sounding Like A Total Creep)

You are about to have your first date with the girl of your dreams. It took you months to woo her and she finally said yes. So here’s the big question: Should you or should you not give her first date compliments to women? The answer is absolutely.

Women like and anticipate compliments from their dates. However, too many compliments make you sound needy. Not enough compliments make you selfish and thoughtless. So what is appropriate?

10 Ways To Compliment A Woman On A First Date (Without Sounding Like A Total Creep)....

Here’s how to compliment a woman on a first date, without overdoing it.

1. Make your compliments authentic and real.

If you don’t mean it, don’t say it. Women are very perceptive and intuitive. They’ll know if your compliment is not coming from the right place.

2. Compliment effort, not a physical attribute.

Notice something unusual or something she put her effort into and compliment that. For example, if she has an unusual ring, or if her hair is done in a unique way. Women appreciate you noticing little things that many men don’t.

3. Avoid complimenting beauty in beautiful women.

If a woman is exceptionally stunning, she knows it. She has heard it all and she is accustomed to men falling at her feet in awe. So, don’t. Instead, complement her knowledge of world history or ability to ride a horse. Anything other than her born attributes. Complements should be earned.

4. Only say each compliment once.

Don’t keep carrying on about her smile. You may compliment her on her beautiful smile once, but then let it go. If you dwell on any one feature, you’ll start to seem fixated.

5. Compliment non-physical traits.

For example, you may compliment her on the way she drives a car through midtown traffic or delicately cuts her food or recites poetry. Pay attention to these little things and give her first date compliments. It will make you look interested and considerate.

6. Relate to the compliment.

If you love traveling, compliment her on how well traveled she is. If you’re into politics, compliment her knowledge of local government affairs. This way you are not only handing out compliments but are highlighting characteristics and interests you have in common.

7. Compliment beauty in a woman who is less than perfect.

After all, there is a reason you are physically attracted to her, right? Make sure it is spontaneous and sincere, however. Otherwise, it will seem too forced and too staged.

8. Do NOT compliment body parts.

Unless you’re talking about her eyes, leave specific parts out of the conversation. Saying things like, “Your breasts look great in that tight blouse” will sound sleazy and are an instant turnoff. Don’t say, “These heels make your legs look long.” Instead, opt for “You look beautiful in this dress! or “Great footwear.”

9. Don’t exaggerate.

Is she really the most beautiful woman you’ve ever seen? Probably not. So don’t say it. Few women will believe it to be sincere, and it will make you sound more desperate than genuine.

10. Don’t overdo it.

If you dish out one compliment after another, not only will you make the woman uncomfortable, you will sound less sincere and more desperate.

Now get out there and start dating!

 

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5 Things A Woman Will NEVER Let A Guy Do In A Relationship

5. HE DOESN’T GIVE YOU AFFECTION. DOESN’T TAKE YOU OUT FOR DATES OR DOESN’T BUY YOU ANYTHING

No affection, no dates and no presents are things a woman needs in a relationship in order for it to work. You don’t necessarily have to have sex.  What about the little things? Does he hold your hand? Does he touch the back of your neck and shoulders when you are walking? Do you spontaneously make out just for the sake that it’s fun? This makes a woman feel good. Being in a relationship where a woman is constantly giving gifts where she receives nothing isn’t a fair relationship to be in. Couples should always go out and do something together because it builds a bond. Having serious emotional encounters is another area of affection women need. If a relationship is devoid of simple affection, find out why before you decide to end it. Losing a sense of affection for a short period of time is really no big deal, but if the desire is gone, it’s time to end things.

4. YOU FIGHT ALL THE TIME WITH HIM

Fighting all the time with your partner is a sign that there is frustration and regrettably, your relationship is coming to a close. Getting things off your chest once in a while by yelling at each other in a fight can be healthy. This shows that both care about what’s going on. On the other hand, when couples fight and you can’t resolve the issues, this is the time where a woman should seriously think about ending the relationship. Both have to have a desire to work things out. Not coming to a resolution means there’s no relationship there. There are certain things that couples can do to stop the abuse in fighting. Stop using foul language. It can be okay to yell but using profanity in your argument makes something that might be nothing worse. Ask yourself if you’re doing something that’s not right over and over again. There might be a bad habit that doesn’t sit right with your partner that you have to address. Things like this happen, the relationship can be fixed. But starting fights for no reason at all means it’s time to move on.

3. HE DOESN’T SUPPORT YOUR INTERESTS, PASSIONS, AND AMBITIONS

5 Things A Woman Will NEVER Let A Guy Do In A Relationship

All women need support, especially when it relates to your interests, passions and ambitions. Men should go over well and beyond over what a normal person would do. Lack of support and belief in a woman and not motivating her means it’s time that the relationship should come to an end. Wise women take stock of men who can take the relationship to the next level. Supporting interests, passions and ambitions and stating that she can do anything she puts her mind to is something all women need. Confident women sometimes fall and it’s up to the man to support her and pick her up. Taking an interest in the things that a woman likes is important to most women. A man doesn’t necessarily have to like everything that a woman is passionate about, men just need to understand and support a woman with her dreams. This woman has high expectations and standards and she doesn’t budge. She knows what she wants in a man and doesn’t settle for anything but the best.

2. HE FORCES YOU TO QUIT YOUR JOB

5 Things A Woman Will NEVER Let A Guy Do In A Relationship

Jobs versus a relationship should never have to be chosen. Women work hard and accomplish many things in their career and they’re not going to put it all aside because a man can’t take a woman working in a relationship. Sometimes, it’s the hours that a woman might put into her career that a man has a problem with. Time will be made to spend with the man who is important to a woman. There are just some things that a woman has to do and a job, no matter how long she has to work is something that a man should understand. If a man is trying to get a woman to change or quit her job altogether, it might turn into an abusive relationship. Confident women will keep their job because it’s a form of security if a relationship goes bad. She won’t have to depend on anybody else to take care of her, because she can take care of herself.

1.  EMOTIONAL OR PHYSICAL ABUSE

5 Things A Woman Will NEVER Let A Guy Do In A Relationship

Becoming a strong and independent woman means putting your foot down and saying no to abuse. It’s easy to say, but when a woman is in an abusive relationship, more often than not she stays. Why? The men threaten some women that they date. Others don’t have jobs. So, a break means going to some homeless shelter or moving back in with your parents. Some women develop the need to stay in an abusive relationship. This is because their parents were abusive. Abusive relationships seem normal. To get to the point of being strong and independent means being able to support yourself without relying on anybody else for aid. Saving money for a rainy day is necessary because you never know what’s going to happen. When emotional or physical abuse occurs, the strong and independent woman can pick up, leave and start a new life. Being independent means also having your own form of transportation. Women who are smart are always prepared for the worst.

 

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Tales of Rock – Nikki Sixx Had A Lethal Overdose

“Motley Crue: the band responsible for literally every stereotype about hair metal that you know.”

Judging by the above, the most dangerous profession in the 1980s — aside from pulling double shifts at Chernobyl — was being a rock star. After all, there’s Guns N’ Roses, Van Halen, Aerosmith, and, last but not least, Motley Crue: the band responsible for literally every stereotype about hair metal that you know.

In 1987, while touring with Guns N’ Roses, Motley Crue bassist Nikki Sixx teamed up with Slash to unwind by shooting some heroin, presumably because Game Gear hadn’t been invented yet. Unfortunately, because opiate fans aren’t renowned for their measuring skills, Nikki ended up overdosing and dying in Slash’s shower. All things considered, this is the closest thing to a hero’s death that Nikki Sixx could hope for.

Except, as the world would come to learn, Nikki Sixx cannot be destroyed by heroin. He was revived after two minutes of clinical death by two shots of adrenaline stabbed directly into his fucking heart. Ordinarily, this would be followed by a long period of bed rest and some self-reflection. For Nikki Sixx, this meant escaping his ambulance, hitchhiking back home, and shooting up more heroin. The incident resulted in Motley Crue’s Grammy-nominated song “Kickstart My Heart” so … win-win, we guess?

 

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Andrea – 2014 – S&M Girl

“Hi Lorelei. Daddy’s just going to take this fat, drunk bitch back to his room and tie her up. Then you’re going to hear a lot of slapping and squishing sounds. You’re also going to hear Daddy say a bunch of really foul sexually degrading things to this woman, so you better put your ear buds in and crank that shit up.”

One night a couple of years ago, I was out with a friend of mine. We were having drinks outside at Misconduct at 15th & Locust. He was telling me a story about this girl he met on Tinder. Pure hookup. She comes over to his apartment. Sadly, she doesn’t look like her Tinder pics. Which is not good. That’s like seeing a photo of a car you want to buy in the Auto Trader and when you get to the lot to check out the car, it’s an older model and a little banged up and maybe even a bit more car than you saw in the photos.

But he was drunk and up for the foul deed. He said she was a thick girl but he went to town on her anyway. Like my tinder profile says: “If you don’t look like your photos, you’re going to buy me drinks until you do.” So he said it was good sex except for one thing. He didn’t like that she wanted him to spit on her and hit her. There’s nothing wrong with what two consenting adults do with each other behind closed doors. Especially if everyone’s on board with what’s happening. But he didn’t like it. Just not his thing.

He told me that he wasn’t comfortable with that situation. He said at that point no matter what he was into or what he would do, he couldn’t do that again.  It just wasn’t him. (He didn’t spit on her or hit her at all) At that time, back in the beginning of 2014, I had just come off a break up and told him to send Andrea pics of me. Because I was up for whatever she wanted dished out. The key here is when it comes to dominance, be firm…not mean. There’s a big difference. I would discipline and correct her if necessary. And remember, the submissive party is ALWAYS in control. They have the safe word and hold the power to cancel the fantasy at anytime. That’s the rules of S&M play.

Well, nothing came of it. Until earlier this year when she connected to me on LinkedIn. LinkedIn of all places! Can you imagine with all of the dating websites out there, LinkedIn brings me the crazy S&M chick? So we chatted and did some texting. She wanted me to text her all of the things I was going to do to her, so I did. I have a pretty good imagination. She said she was getting really turned on and that we should meet.

I set it up that we should meet at the Ranstead Room. It’s just a good spot normally to hideout with somebody. I get there and I’m just chilling with a drink. She arrives shortly thereafter. My friend was right about her. In her Tinder pics she looks really hot, but in real life she is a lot bigger, and what was with that low tranny voice? Not good. I just wasn’t feeling it. I would have to drink a LOT of cocktails for Andrea to start to resemble her profile pics on Tinder. So I figured what the hell, I was already here and the drinks were flowing. She wasn’t that hot but at least I was someplace where nobody knew me.

Then the manager from the restaurant where my daughter works suddenly comes through the door and walks right up to me and says hello using my name.

Now I’m made. He can see who I’m with and now everybody there knows my name.

Andrea starts telling me about her life. She hates her job and wants to leave Philly. (Probably a good idea for us all.) She was seeing some crazy drug dealer loser guy. He’s suicidal, and does tons of coke. It’s bad, and she’s not much better.  I always thought if you did a bunch of cocaine you were skinny. Certainly not the case here.

After awhile we’re getting pretty tipsy. We went outside for a cigarette. She was on me like a northern pike hitting the bait. So I’m making out with her and people are walking by on Ranstead and she just pulls her boobs out. She’s losing her shit. She wants to take me back behind the building and give me a blowjob.

Yea. Great. I’ll just go stand behind my daughter’s manager’s Mercedes-Benz and you can give me oral. What if he walks outside and sees that shit? That’s not going to be good for me or anybody. Now, if this was Los Angeles and it was 1982, yea I’d be down for that, but not now. That’s gross. Sure, I’m flattered that she’s turned on enough from my words and the alcohol to want to blow me in a filthy alley, but no. Just no. I don’t roll like that.

She’s drunk. We go back inside and we’re in the vestibule and all sorts of things are happening with lips and fingers. If somebody comes through either door, we’re going to jail. So after that brief encounter, we go back inside. I kind of want to go home. In the right environment, some S&M play could be fun with her, but I’m just not getting a good vibe from her in this moment. She’s calling me daddy and all that shit. She says she loves older men, etc. I tell her I have an early sales meeting in the morning that I have to travel to so we should wrap it up. (A bold-faced lie)

She wants to go back to my place and have sex. Great idea. I can see it now. Me walking through the door to my apartment with Andrea and my daughter sitting on the sofa.

“Hi Lorelei. Daddy’s just going to take this fat, drunk bitch back to his room and tie her up. Then you’re going to hear a lot of slapping and squishing sounds. You’re also going to hear Daddy say a bunch of really foul sexually degrading things to this woman, so you better put your ear buds in and crank that shit up.”

No. Not happening. We pay the bill, and we walk over to 18th Street. I hail her a taxi and send her on her way. I was actually relieved when she was gone.

If somebody I met and was in a relationship wanted to experiment with some things, I’d be down with that, but Andrea just isn’t that person.

Update! She appeared at the salon tonight for a tan before she goes to L.A!

She’s leaving Philly for good!

 

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