What is ‘Morning Wood,’ and Why Does it Happen?

Nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT) is not a result of sexual arousal or having a dream relating to sex. Instead, it is a normal function of the male reproductive system.

In fact, regular episodes of NPT are a sign that the nerves and blood supply to the penis are healthy.

If a male does not have NPT regularly, it can indicate a health issue, such as erectile dysfunction (ED), which involves having trouble getting or keeping an erection. Not having regular NPT can also suggest other problems with the nerves or the blood supply to the male reproductive organs.

A hormonal imbalance, such as a decrease in testosterone, can also affect how often a person experiences NPT. A lack of regular NPT can sometimes result from not getting quality sleep.

As a person gets older, they can expect to experience NPT less often. This change should happen gradually, as hormone levels shift. Anyone who notices a sudden drop in the number of their NPT episodes should speak with a doctor to rule out any potential health issues.


“Morning wood” is a common occurrence for most men.

NPT is not a typical erection because it is not related to sexual thoughts, dreams, or stimulation. It is simply a result of sleep cycles, combined with healthy nerves and blood flow in the body.

NPT tends to happen when a person is in a rapid eye movement (REM) phase of sleep. REM sleep can occur several times during an 8-hour sleep cycle. The erection may go away on its own as a person enters deeper sleep. Thus, a person may have erections several times during the night but may not be aware of them.

Often, a person wakes up at the end of a REM sleep cycle, which explains why NPT seems to happen in the morning. In addition, testosterone levels tend to be elevated in the morning. Males have high levels of this hormone, which contributes to sexual function.

An erection caused by NPT may be physically different from one caused by arousal. One study found that some men experienced pain when they had NPT, but not when they had typical erections.

How often should morning wood occur?

Males of various ages, from children to older adults, experience NPT. Usually, younger adults, who have the highest levels of testosterone, will experience nocturnal erections more frequently than children or older people. Young adult males may have NPT every morning and a few times during the night.

The peak of sexual maturity generally happens when males are in their late teens to late 30s, and this may correspond with higher testosterone levels. It is normal for people in this age range to experience frequent episodes of NPT.

As a person approaches their 40s and 50s, they may notice fewer episodes of NPT. This often occurs because testosterone levels are naturally declining. However, the episodes should decline gradually, not suddenly. A gradual decline in NPT with age is customary.

A hormonal imbalance, especially one that affects the penis and testes, can result in few or no episodes of NPT. This is one reason why having regular erections in the morning is an important indicator of healthy male sexual organs.

One study found that men with hypogonadism, which prevents the sexual organs from fully functioning, experienced an increase in NPT after they had received testosterone therapy.

Some research says that a person’s quality of sleep can affect the frequency of NPT. If a person is not getting good sleep and entering the REM cycle, they may not experience nocturnal erections.

A study of 61 men with obstructive sleep apnea and ED found that getting better quality sleep resulted in more frequent NPT. The participants who used continuous positive airway pressure devices had more frequent nocturnal erections than those who did not.

Other studies have used NPT as an indicator of hormonal or sexual health, especially when treating ED.

For instance, if a person has NPT but cannot get or maintain an erection during sexual activity, doctors can rule out issues such as insufficient blood flow or nerve responses in the penis. If this is the case, ED may be a psychological issue, and a health professional can treat it accordingly.

However, if a person has no nocturnal erections and has trouble getting or keeping erections related to sex, doctors may determine that there is a physical cause of ED.

When to see a doctor

A person should speak to a doctor if they notice changes in how frequently NPT occurs.

Because NPT is an indicator of quality sleep and the health of sexual organs, it is helpful to pay attention to how often NPT happens.

If NPT suddenly stops or is happening much less frequently, speak with a doctor. They may wish to discuss possible health conditions, such as sleep disorders, hormonal imbalances, anxiety, and ED.

It is important to see a doctor about a lack of NPT, as it can be a symptom of ED. This condition can indicate serious health issues, such as heart disease, high blood pressure, or diabetes, especially in younger males. A health professional can help treat these conditions, including ED.

Certain medications, such as antidepressants, can make it more difficult for a person to get or maintain an erection. They may also cause a decrease or sudden stop in NPT. Some of these medications include:

  • high blood pressure medications
  • muscle relaxers
  • hormonal medications
  • seizure medications
  • antidepressants
  • histamine H2 agonists (which can help treat some types of ulcers)
  • chemotherapy drugs
  • medications to treat heart arrhythmias
  • diuretics

If a person has recently started a new medication and notices changes in the frequency of NPT, they may wish to speak with their doctor. Sometimes, the doctor can prescribe a different medication to help address this side effect.

See a doctor if NPT or erections in general are painful.

Seek emergency medical help for an erection that does not go away after 4 hours. If this occurs, it can cause tissue damage in the penis and problems with sexual function.


Morning wood is a healthy function of the male body.

A person should talk with their doctor if they notice a sudden change in the frequency of nighttime erections. This can ensure that a person receives prompt treatment for any underlying health conditions.


10 Things That Make Men Catch Major Feelings For You

These tricks can make guys catch feelings really quick.

If there’s one thing that’s hard for most girls to figure out, it’s how to get a guy to like you and legitimately care about you.

The truth is that it can take a bit of effort to make a guy want you as more than just a quick lay, especially if they’re a bit obtuse.

That being said, getting a guy to care about you — and maybe even fall in love with you — might be possible if you know what to do.

Here are 10 of the easiest ways to make him chase you in a loving, caring way.

1. Talk to him about intimate details of your life, and ask him about his.

Tell him funny stories from your childhood. Ask him about how he got that one scar.

Show that you are interested in him as a person and things will go far.

2. Show him your vulnerable side.

The key thing here is to make him want to protect you, not make him want to call a therapist.

A little vulnerability (not insecurity) is good. Too much will make you look like a clingy, desperate mess.

3. Hold eye contact.

Studies show that prolonged eye contact makes men more likely to fall in love with you.

4. Make a nice meal for him.

You know how older women always tell girls that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach?

Well, they’re not lying.

Showing off your domestic goddess side will make most men think about you in a different way.

5. Back off if you think he’s taking you for granted.

The easiest way to make someone realize what they’ve lost is to remove it from their lives, even if it’s temporary.

When you make yourself scarce, he ends up realizing that people like you don’t come around every day.

That makes him care more than hounding him for attention.

6. Use a Pavlovian training method.

Pavlov was a smart man. He trained dogs to drool by associating a reward with a sound.

You can take a cue from his training by trying to get guys to associate good feelings or feelings of empowerment with you.

By giving them compliments and showing your desire for them, they start to want to be around you more and more.

7. Have sex regularly and frequently.

Ever notice how people who have sex frequently tend to end up in a relationship?

If the sex is good, chances are that his hormones might kick into “caring” gear rather than just “gratification” gear.

8. Act like a friend, too.

The last thing that guys want to have around them is a girl who acts like she’s more interested in a relationship than she is in the guy she’s talking to.

If you want him to care about you, treat him like a friend that you’re also sexually interested in.

9. Hold his hand.

This simple gesture actually releases hormones that spark love in men.

10. Communicate your desire.

The one thing men want more than anything else is to be wanted.

Showing him that you want him will likely make him care for you.


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The 6 Biggest Mistakes Men Make When Contacting Women Online For The Very First Time

Do you desire success with online dating? Online dating can be easy and fun if you avoid these six mistakes that men most often make when dating online. Here are the six biggest mistakes men make online when contacting a woman for the very first time.

1.Not Reading A Woman’s Profile: Of all the mistakes guys make, this is one of the biggest. Guys will not read a woman’s profile, then proceed to email her anyway — even if they are not in her age range and don’t like any of the same things she likes. It’s amazing how many men will just look at a picture of a woman and send her an email, when that woman would be 100% not interested based on what she said she’s looking for in her profile. When you do that, you’re just wasting somebody’s time.

2.Being A Winker: If you actually read women’s profiles online, you would see that a lot of women request not receive winks or say flat out that they don’t respond to winks. Since a lot of men online are very lazy, though, they will go online and send out a hundred winks in a night hoping that one woman will respond. When you do that, do you know what that tells a woman right from the get-go? It tells her first that you didn’t read her profile, and second that you’re pretty desperate. Winkers are desperate. They don’t care who responds; they just want someone to respond.

3.Sending A Generic or “Cut ‘N Paste” Emails: Sending just a generic or “cut ‘n paste” email when you haven’t read a woman’s profile is one of the biggest turnoffs to women online. Guys will send an email to a hundred woman saying something like, “Hey, you and I are really a match. Read my profile and check it out, and let me know what you think. Looking forward to hearing from you.” When a woman reads this, she knows you have put no effort whatsoever into it. She knows it is a generic email, and she is not going to respond to it.

4.No Follow-Up: Lack of follow up is another huge mistake men make online. A man will send an email to a woman, she will send one back to him, and then he will wait and not respond to her email right away. He doesn’t follow up until three weeks later when he’ll email her and give some kind of excuse about being really busy at work. Do you know what a woman thinks when this happens? She thinks, “Well he obviously emailed ten people, and I was number four on his list. He was talking to three others, they blew him off, so no he’s decided he wants to go out with me.” You don’t make her feel important that way. If you email a woman, you had better follow through with it — both in terms of returning her emails and asking her out on a date. Women want men that act like men, have a plan and follow through it.

5.Commenting On Her Picture: Commenting on a woman’s picture shows her that you didn’t read her profile. If you write, “Boy, you look really great in that dress” or “Wow, you look hot in that bathing suit” it shows a woman that you are solely a visual guy. Doing it is too overtly sexual right from the get-go. It turns women off. Women want you to not only read their profile, but to comment on something she says in it. It shows them that something in their profile connects with you emotionally in some way.

6.Talking About Yourself In Your First Email: Talking about yourself in your first email (and first contact) with a woman and before you even ask her a question is a big mistake. It looks to a woman like you just cut and paste part of your profile into an email and sent it to her. What you are doing when you do this is being a “lister” — what I call men who have to list all their good qualities to sell themselves to a woman. What you should be doing in that first email is to flirt and get to know her better.

Online dating is a lot of fun, but you need to look at it differently. You need to look at your first contact with a woman as if you were meeting her live and in person.

If you look at it this way, you would never send a woman a list of all your good qualities or make a comment about how hot she looks in her swimsuit on the first conversation.

Think that way, and you may have greater success online and not turn any women off.



Exactly What Men Want To Hear From Women (But Would Never Admit)

“It is the differences between men and women, not the sameness, that creates the tension and the delight.” – Edward Abbey

Men and women are, undeniably, different. While these differences are something to be celebrated, it can make communication a challenge. It takes empathy and a desire for connection to break through these barriers.

You can’t routinely expect a man to want to hear the same things as you do. What makes you feel happy and loved is not always going to be what does the equivalent for him.

If you’re feeling a little lost about what your man wants to hear, here’s a list of suggestions to get started.

1. Compliments

It’s a well-understood fact that women appreciate compliments. After all, it’s more common for a man to tell a woman she looks beautiful than for a woman to tell a man he looks handsome. But while men often present a tougher exterior, they feel the same desire to be complimented.

Don’t think you’re going to embarrass your man by recognizing his qualities. If he gets a new haircut, tell him you think it looks super flattering. Comment on how sexy he looks in those jeans. You can even just take a moment on an average day and say, “Wow, you look great today.”

Men need this self-esteem boost just as much as women, but it’s less socially acceptable for them to admit it. Make your guy’s day by complimenting him genuinely.

2. That you appreciate him

“Women need to feel loved, and men need to feel needed.” – Rita Mae Brown

Men are hardwired to want to feel useful to you. This can be in something as simple as helping you with an odd job around the house, but it can be deeper than that, too. If you look relieved or immediately pleased when he walks in the door, he’ll feel like you truly crave his presence.

Always thank him for the little efforts he makes to assist you, but go further than that. Let him know that you appreciate his mere existence, who he is as a person. Give him a big hug or kiss as soon as you see him. At the end of the day, straight-up saying, “I appreciate you” can have a profound effect.


3. What you like

You’re reading this article because you’re aware of the differences between how men and women communicate. Just like you weren’t born instinctively knowing what a man needs to hear, a man needs help understanding what a woman wants.

Women tend to pick up on the subtler cues in facial responses or conversations faster than men. For this reason, you may need to be more direct than you would with a woman when expressing yourself. Don’t drop a sly hint about what you want for your birthday and expect him to decipher your meaning. If you say “I’m fine” in a tense tone, he’s probably just going to take your words at face value.

This kind of miscommunication builds wildly unnecessary resentment between the two of you. Save yourself some grief by telling him bluntly what you want and how you feel. Maybe you think he should just “know,” but he doesn’t, so don’t set him up to fail.

4. Transparency

A man feels safe with a woman who is honest. This builds trust. If you play mind games or try to manipulate him, he’s going to feel on guard around you. That kind of relationship is not one that will last.

A man wants to come home to someone who is reliably on his side. If he has to jump through hoops to figure you out, being around you will be a chore instead of a reprieve. Be his beautiful confidante by being truthful and trustworthy at all times.

Occasionally it’s hard to be honest with the person you love, but if they are important to you then you have to find a way to do it.

5. That you accept him

Every human craves acceptance. Conditional love that comes with strings is not real love.

If you constantly criticize him, he’ll never be able to relax. He may try and change for you, but he’ll feel terrible about himself. There’s always going to be resentment lingering under the surface. If you always feel the need to change him, you’re probably not with the right person.

A real, loving relationship will not include one person trying to change or “fix” the other. There’s nothing wrong with having the ambition to become a better version of yourself, but the right person will make you want to do that without saying a single word.


6. That everything’s cool

You have to learn to choose your battles. If something isn’t that big of a deal, don’t make it one. If you’re constantly on the verge of hysterics, he’ll feel like he’s walking on eggshells. That’s no way to thrive in a relationship.

Try to be easy going. This doesn’t mean you should be a pushover if something upsets you. It just means that you shouldn’t sweat the small stuff. If you can laugh about something instead of getting wound up, that’s always the best option. This isn’t just to put him at ease – it will make you a more content person as well.

Like I said earlier, men move toward what feels good. If he senses drama in the vicinity, he won’t want any part of it. I know it’s fun to be dramatic, but men don’t bond over drama the way a lot of women do. Men bond when everything is cool and there are no problems.

7. Be real

You can try to fake parts of your personality, and it may work for a while, but it’s never going to pan out long-term. People have an innate ability to sniff out insincerity. Something about you will seem “off.” It’s going to be exhausting for you, too. The superior approach is to just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may.

Speaking honestly and authentically is key to a healthy relationship. Passive aggressive or snarky comments will get you nowhere. Before you begin a conversation, think about what your goal is. Speak with that target in mind. This will help you avoid pointless conversation circles that succeed only in draining both of you.

8.That you respect him

Having legitimate respect for a man doesn’t mean you are being submissive to him. Respect is a crucial part of any real relationship, including non-romantic ones. It has to be mutual, and it has to be sincere.

This means that whatever his ambitions, opinions, or needs are – you treat them with dignity. Regarding his thoughts with patience and kindness doesn’t mean you have to agree with them. It does mean that you never mock or belittle him for them. Be careful of doing this even in jest, because it would be easy to accidentally wound his ego if you went even a little too far.

9. How he’s different

This is another area where people are quick to recognize a woman’s need, but are dismissive of a man’s. If you don’t point out how he is valued and different in comparison to other men, he’ll feel like he could be replaced.

Have fun making him feel irresistible. Fuss him even if he acts like he doesn’t need to hear it. Observe his specific quirks and delight in them. Even if he doesn’t outright confirm it, this will make him feel special.

Men want to feel chosen because of how great and amazing and special they are, not because you were lonely and he’s a dude with a pulse. So let him know what he’s the man that captured your heart and stood out from all the rest.


10.That you admire him

Nothing is more motivating to a man than hearing: “I admire the man you are.” Compliments and admissions of love are great, but being admired ranks at the top. It means you are proud of him.

Showing him your admiration in private is one thing, but it’s even better to also show it publicly. You can do this by praising him in front of your friends. If you’re at a family dinner, brag about his recent accomplishments. He might shake his head or roll his eyes, but inside he will be thrilled that you are so proud of him.

11.That he enhances your life

Any time you observe a way your man adds to your life, tell him. He might be doing it absent-mindedly, or he may not even realize you noticed. Giving him credit for the way he enriches your life will be beneficial to both of you.

Making a habit of expressing yourself in this way will also encourage him to do the same. Two people who feel free to openly describe their adoration for each other are two people in a very satisfying relationship.

A man doesn’t always know that just his presence makes you happy, so tell him!

12.That you feel safe with him

It might sound cliché, but a man craves feeling like your protector. This can manifest itself in multiple ways. For example, it’ll feel good if you have faith in him defending you against physical dangers.

But it’s also meaningful when you indicate that you feel emotionally safe with him. If you seem on edge and guarded, he’ll feel like he is coming up incomplete. He’ll probably feel like he still hasn’t proved himself to you. When you demonstrate your comfort and security in him, he will be able to relax as well.

13.That you believe in him

There’s just about nothing worse than feeling like someone who you care about doesn’t believe in you. When this kind of attack comes from a stranger, you can use it as fuel to prove them wrong. But you never want that kind of skepticism to come from the woman you love.

Assuring your man that you have full confidence in him will change the way he carries himself. He’ll wear that loyalty like a badge of honor. Knowing that you support him no matter what will make him feel equipped to reach his full potential in life.

I hope this article helped you better understand what men want to hear and what really activates him and reaches him deeply. But there is more you need to know. There is one defining moment in every relationship that determines if it will last, or if you will be left heartbroken. At some point, he will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit myself to? The answer will determine whether the relationship deepens or ends. Do you know how a man decides a woman is girlfriend or wife material?

Here is another big problem most will face: He seems to be losing interest, withdrawing, or going cold. Do you know what to do? If not, read this next: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…
In summary…

What Men Want to Hear:

  1. Compliments
  2. That you appreciate him
  3. What you like
  4. Transparency
  5. That you accept him
  6. That everything’s cool
  7. Be real
  8. That you respect him
  9. How he’s different
  10. That you admire him
  11. That he enhances your life
  12. That you feel safe with him
  13. That you believe in him

what men want to hear from women


Cringe-Inducing ‘Nice Guy’ Moments Straight From The Gutter

If we took the internet seriously, we’d all believe that women are out to get all the “nice guys” of the world. We’re happy to be smarter than that. What these guys really need to do is get a grip.


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If You Exhibit More Than A Few Of These Personality Traits, People Probably Think You’re A Prick

It should go without saying that having the character traits that make one likable is one of the most valuable tools any person could ever possess.

Likable people earn more money, get more ass, and generally have better social lives than their counterparts.

And it makes perfect sense when you stop and think about it.

Let’s face it, no one likes an asshole, and more importantly not a single person – not an employer, not a client, not the guy sitting at the bar – wants to be anywhere near someone they can’t stand.

Just think about the last time you were around a person who, for one reason or another, just rubbed you the wrong way.

Perhaps your gut reaction was to just get the fuck out of dodge and away from that person as quickly as possible, or maybe you even wanted to unleash a violent haymaker against the side of his head to shut him the fuck up.

We typically know right away who we like and who we don’t.

Although without even knowing it, you too may fall into the ranks of an unlikeable person.

Hey, we realize that might be hard to believe – how could anyone not like you? – but it is possible you’re not the crowd-pleaser that you think you are.

What’s encouraging, however, is that even if a person falls into this category, he can rise above it by making some minor tweaks to his behavior. But he must first learn more about what makes him unappealing in the first place before a change is possible.

These attributes are a sure-fire sign that there is room for improvement.


It is essential to be confident and feel like you are the very best at what you do – whatever that may be.

But no one likes a braggart.

Most people are privy to this, even people needing so desperately to brag, so they boast about themselves in a way that almost sounds like they are their worst critic.

These people might do this as a way to fish for compliments or to point out their supposed awesomeness to a crowd.

The guy casually playing guitar at a party might talk about how it would be easier for him to get gigs in his hometown if he didn’t write such obscure tunes.

But what he is trying to say is: Hey, I’m writing music unlike anybody in this area, and I’m smarter, more talented, and more original because of it.

The same goes for the guy who makes fun of himself for being a gym rat when all he is doing is drawing attention to the fact that he works out extensively.

He might as well rip off his shirt and make everyone feel his pecs. That’s what he really wants to do.

People who exhibit this behavior believe that it makes them less of a blowhard, but according to Forbes columnist Travis Bradberry, no one is fooled.

“While many people think that self-deprecation masks their bragging, everyone sees right through it,” Bradberry wrote. “This makes the bragging all the more frustrating because it isn’t just bragging; it’s also an attempt to deceive.”

Always So Serious

There are those people who are so desperate to be revered as passionate that they always try to give off the impression as someone who is absorbed in their work.

At social functions, these people might not laugh at jokes, make jokes of their own, or engage in any of the conversations.


They are too busy trying to be seen as intense and focused geniuses to care about having fun.

This is a huge turn-off.

Likable people can be serious about their chosen profession and still cut loose when it is appropriate.

More importantly, they are friendly to others and do not act above them.

“They focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers, remembering what people said to them yesterday or last week, which shows people that they are just as important to them as their work is,” Bradberry wrote.


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5 Ways To Make Men Insanely Attracted To You

These techniques may seem weird at first, but they work.

Learning how to get a guy to like you and make a guy want you bad can be quite easy if you follow these simple, sexy tips.

You may notice that you already do some of the flirting techniques and tactics naturally, but using just one or two is not enough.

If you really want to make him want, desire and need you, you need to get good at doing all five. Here’s how.

Here are 5 sexy tips for women on how to get a guy to like you that will make him want you bad.

1. Have your own life.

Probably the most misunderstood and counterintuitive advice that I can give you is that you need to have your own life, but what does that even mean?

Having your own life means that you need to have your own interests independent of your man. These are things like hobbies, activities, and even friends that you are super-into, but that your man isn’t necessarily as interested in.

Having your own life like this so important for a number of reasons, including:

  1. You need to show your man that you really enjoy his company and presence, but at the same time you need to let him know that you don’t need him. Showing your man that you don’t need him will make him respect you more. If you desperately need him and drop your life for him, he will quickly realize that he doesn’t have to work for your love and respect anymore. When this happens, he will ultimately lose respect for you.
  2. Women who have their own lives are infinitely more attractive to a guy. Men are actually a lot like cats: when they can easily have you, they will just as easily get bored with you (much like a cat and a dangling piece of twine). But when they have to work hard to win you over, they will be a lot more attracted to you.

So when you have your own life, you will naturally be harder to hang out with and less available — perfect for making him want you a whole lot more.

2. Love yourself first.

I definitely don’t want to get all “woo woo” or spiritual with you, but you really do have to ask yourself this: “Do I love myself?”

When you think about it, how can a guy love and want you if you don’t even love and want yourself?

If you are not yet totally in love with yourself, don’t fret. There are plenty of ways to remedy it, including these:

  • If you feel like you aren’t in shape, you can always join a gym and start working out more.
  • If you aren’t feeling that confident with your fashion sense, get in touch with a friend who keeps up with trends and ask them for advice or to go shopping with you.
  • The same goes for your confidence with talking to guys. The only way to get more confident is to practice more and more with male friends and co-workers.

3. Make yourself fun to be around.

One of the key things to figure out when learning how to make a guy want you is being fun. I’m not going to lie and say that looks don’t matter; they do, but they only help to get your foot in the door.

You see, once you are talking to a guy, if you are boring, he will very quickly lose interest. However, if you are fun, he is definitely going to want to keep chatting and hanging out with you.

So the next time you are seeing a guy you want, ask yourself, “Am I fun to be around?”

4. Flirt, tease and play with him.

Being fun is good, but being flirty is even better. Much better. Flirting, teasing, and messing with a guy is a fantastic way to spike emotions and make him see you as more than just a friend.

The easiest way to flirt with your man is to think of how you might tease a little brother. You might joke that he was adopted, tease him over a way he says something, or even tell him that his favorite sports team sucks. You don’t really mean what you are saying; you’re just saying it to get a reaction.

Doing this with a guy is perfect for charging any conversation you’re having with him. Just make sure not to go overboard with it; otherwise, he might start to get frustrated that he can’t just have a normal conversation with you. Knowing how much to flirt comes with experience.

5. Be exceptionally good in bed.

The last piece of advice on how to make a guy want you is that you need to have great skills in bed to keep him lusting after you and to prevent the idea of being with other girls from ever entering his head.

Sure, you can learn literally hundreds of different sex positions to use, as well as how to talk dirty, but if you are really serious about keeping your guy wanting you, then you should start learning how to talk dirty to build sexual tension and turn him on.


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