15 Ways Women’s Manipulating Dating Tactics Affect Men

Dating in 2018 can be tricky, especially for women. Even though we have more options than ever at our fingertips (technology in the form of Tinder and other dating sites), the dating world can be a frustrating pool to wade around in. A lot of the time, women keep their guards up in order to properly filter through a sea of jerks that are swimming around out there, so much so that one surefire guard happens to be turning into a jerk herself. While, yes, this can keep the creepers at bay, it can mess with the psyche of the men who are actually good and decent.

Okay, yes, I get it – those are few and far in between it seems, but they ARE out there, and when women start using especially toxic dating manipulation tactics, it’s the nice men who can unknowingly become random collateral damage. Sure, we women like to go off about the men in our pasts who have burned us and tell people who THEIR tactics have hardened us. So, when we do it to others, while we’re trying to step back into the dating world again, we can’t see the damage we cause to the men who clearly AREN’T our idiot exes.

Here are 15 ways women’s manipulating dating tactics have an effect on the good guys.

 

15. Dangerous Tactics Can Give Them Low Self-Esteem

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Self esteem

Sometimes, if a woman has been burned before in the past while dating, it can knock her self-esteem down a few notches, and that can be one of the worst feelings in the world. So, sometimes, as a defense mechanism, a good woman will turn around and do the same thing to a different man after the fact. It’s not like she’s INTENTIONALLY attempting to break this new guy, it’s that she’s demonstrating what she’s technically been through herself. Now, this can work when it comes to absolute trash dudes, but if you do it to a good-natured man, it WILL have the same effect that it did on the woman – it will give him low self-esteem that can follow him around for a long while.

 

14. Trust Factors Fly Right Out The Window

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Trust

Trust is the key component in ANY relationship. EVER. If a woman happens to be manipulative in the dating phase of a relationship, she WILL be found out. It’s the same with anyone – man or woman – if you’re a manipulative rube, you will be discovered. And when you’re discovered, the trust is shattered. And we all know how long it takes to build that back up again. And even if a couple is able to, the structure in which the new trust is built upon is shaky at best. If a nice guy finds out that a woman is being manipulative at the start of a relationship, he will most likely forgive her, but it’s never forgotten, and the entire relationship will end up liquefying.

 

13. Cause Them To Have Intimacy Issues… Even Drive Them To Cheat

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Cheating

It’s one thing if a woman is coy and witty when dating – THAT’S a turn on. If she’s emotionally manipulative, that will come back and bite her in the rear. I know some women think it’s a quid-pro-quo thing if a man is that way to her, why can’t she be that way back to him? But if you manipulative the wrong type of man, it’s going to come full circle back. Once found out, this can drive them to have intimacy issues since they can probably never look at you the same way again. So what do they do? The worse case scenario is it drives them into the arms of someone else – someone who ISN’T manipulative and will treat them with respect without playing mind games.

 

12. They Can Shut Him Down Emotionally

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Emotional

Dating can be innocent enough, at least to someone who dates frequently. Sometimes, if one person is more invested than the other person, things can get out of hand pretty quickly. Feelings are overlooked and people start to get hurt. If a woman is playing the puppet master with a nice guy in the salad days of a relationship, eventually, the guy will figure it out. It may not be right at first, but the inevitable will come, and it will have some startling repercussions. Especially emotionally. If a woman is tugging at the heartstrings of a guy she’s only messing with, it will cause decent men to begin to shut down emotionally – first to everyone around them, and then to her. And that stuff will follow him from relationship to relationship.

 

11. Can Cause Him To Start Lying To Himself

Lies

In the beginning of a relationship, if a man is completely consumed by the woman he’s dating, he won’t BELEIVE that she’s manipulating him if she actually is. But there are stages to this: not believing she’s doing anything wrong is first, followed by realization and then not caring that she is. At least, that’s what he’ll tell himself. He’ll start lying to himself – telling himself that he doesn’t care. Pretty soon, he’ll start to believe his own lies and become numb. It’s a sad process, but it happens unfortunately to good guys. He doesn’t want to believe the girl he’s dating is manipulative and pretty soon, he’ll teach himself to not actually see it, which is more dangerous in itself. He thinks if he doesn’t believe it, it won’t be true, even though it’s staring him right in the face.

 

10. They Begin To Project

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Projecting

Now, we all know that men tend to project when THEY’RE doing something wrong. Say, if they’re cheating, or thinking about cheating, they’ll be the one to accuse THEIR partner of cheating because if they’re doing it (or thinking about it) their partner has to be doing the same thing. However, if they were once a decent guy who got caught up in a woman’s manipulative dating rouse, they’ll begin to project not only big things that they’re considering (oh, like cheating) but other things as well. You see, they’re actually the victim in this dangerous little game, but they won’t want to see themselves as such, so they start projecting HER as the victim, which, if a woman is cunning enough, will play right into.

 

9. He Can Begin Manipulating Himself

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Ah yes, the classic case of the student becoming the teacher. Yes, this can happen, and when it does, it’s usually at the hands of some karmic force coming back to bite us in the rear. Sometimes, a nice guy is just done being that – a nice guy (and no, I’m not talking about those dudes who claim that “all women like the bad boys why can’t they go after the nice guys like me” but are, in fact, whiners) if they discover they’re being manipulated by the woman he’s dating. So what do they do? Well, if they’re smart, they’ll start doing it right back. Now, I know that may seem like a match made in heaven, but if he truly is a nice guy, manipulating himself will leave a sour taste in his mouth and he’ll bail on the relationship.

 

8. Cause Them To Be Submissive (Or Weak)

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Weak

I have never been fond of submissive men – while I despise aggressive men, usually falling someone where in the middle of the spectrum is usually the best place to be. However, it takes one manipulative individual to break down a man emotionally, and leave him a shell of a man. And it takes a special sort of witch to do this in the beginning of a relationship and is able to break a man so quickly and effortlessly – even if she doesn’t mean to do so. Depending on the type of manipulation tactics performed (and yes, there is a great deal of them depending on the woman), a man’s head can be left spinning and strip him of any sort of willpower he has over himself. He’ll become submissive and at her beck and call.

 

7. They Can Allow Men To Act In Ways In Which They Normally Wouldn’t (You Know – Like A Moron)

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Moron

No one wants this. And why? Because there are enough male morons in the world today. Just look at Hollywood – Tinsel Town is in the middle of spring cleaning all their male morons out of the industry, and women are slowly starting to take over (yessssss, more of that please). Now, while those men acted on their own accord, stupidity, and masculinity, there are some impressionable men who, when in a relationship with a confusing and devious woman, he can start changing the way he acts… meaning, he starts to act like an idiot. Now, what type of idiot he starts to act like is entirely dependant on his personality ahead of time, but know this – no moron is a good moron. Be sure to keep that in mind, ladies.

 

6. Switch Their Taste In Women Altogether

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Taste

So when you first got with your guy, he was attracted to strong-willed, brilliant women? Oh, but what’s that? After the relationship faltered, he’s starting to date the bimbo type? The ones who giggle at everything and need to be rescued every five minutes whenever they get stuck inside a revolving door? There may be a reason for that. If a nice guy, who has always been drawn to intelligent women, gets burned by a smarty in some sort of manipulative fashion, it could possibly change his taste in women altogether. He’ll be drawn to the less complex because he believes they wouldn’t hurt him in the same, devastating way. The less complex, the less the chance the woman will be able to hurt him in a manipulative fashion.

 

5. They Can Start To Release Their Anger Randomly

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Anger

In a good relationship, two people start to reflect and project each other’s best qualities in one another. However, this usually comes after the dating phase of the relationship when the two know each other on a deeper level. However, if one party is manipulative, it will wear on the other person, and things can get pretty out of hand. If a guy dating someone who is even a little bit manipulative in her tactics, he won’t want to release his anger on her, so he’ll start taking it out on those around him, especially if he’s blinded by her. He’ll take it out on his friends and family, but not her – at least not yet. Frustration sets in and when it does, anger follows suit.

 

4. They Can Make Them Take Out Their Aggression On The Next Girl

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Aggression

So you managed to manipulate a guy at the beginning of your relationship (you know, the dating phase), but it just so happened he was a nice guy… or at least he started out as one, and now he’s starting to change a little bit for the worse. If a manipulation tactic you took with the nice guy you’re seeing happens to be the whole “be mentally aggressive” tactic, chances are, if you’re just looking for a fling to be flung, he’s going to attempt to do so with the next girl. And if it ended badly with you, he’s going to take out all his aggression on her. Nice guys can be impressionable at times and if he’s hurt to a point, he’s going to assume that EVERYONE is out to hurt him (like we women tend to at times) and his aggressive walls will go up.

 

3. Change Their Taste In… Movies And TV? Okay

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Nope

OH YES, THIS IS VERY POSSIBLE. Women are very interesting creatures who have powers beyond people’s (especially men’s) comprehension. And one of these powers happens to be… we can change the taste of movies/tv/music etc in a person we find desirable and who happen to find us desirable. It’s called being in a relationship. Though, if WE happen to be the ones who use our powers for evil instead of good, and happen to screw up a perfectly decent human being, we can end up changing a lot about them – including changing their taste in entertainment. If a manipulative woman is figured out by a nice guy, and the guy was burned, he won’t want to watch or do anything that reminds him of her. His tastes will start to change. Maybe that’s for the better if he was a Nickleback fan.

 

2. Change Their Train Of Thought (And Not Always For The Better)

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Thought

This happens more so with the more impressionable men: manipulative women have a power over men, especially when dating. It’s like they’re messing with their brains, which can have a lasting effect on them. If a woman who is skilled in the art of getting men to do her bidding gets her hands on an impressionable nice guy, she can change his way of thinking – and it’s never for the better. She can harden him into a brutal and all too real stone-like figure. This once nice guy who had a positive outlook on life has been tainted, and a shadow has fallen over his realm of thought – especially when it comes to other women. If you think this is a good thing, ladies – you’re out of your mind.

 

1. The Tactics Can Stop Men From Believing In Love Altogether

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Love

Being in a horrible relationship can have a lasting effect on a person and even ruin them for life. It literally changes everything – from how they see and act around other people, to how they see and act in the world itself. When our hearts and souls are messed with, it can rip us apart from the inside out. When we find out that we’re the victim of scheming while in the dating phase of a relationship, it hurts. Some men are just as vulnerable as women are whether we ladies want to believe it or not. If we happen to come out of a manipulative relationship and are the same way with the next guy, it can ruin him just as much as it ruined you. It can make them stop believing in love altogether. And yes, this happens more than one thinks.

 

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12 Things Mature Men Don’t Do

The thing is, few young people – and too few older people as well, I’m sad to say – don’t really know what it means to be a mature man. A truly mature man is a strong and confident individual, a diligent provider, passionate and caring lover, brave protector, problem solver, careful listener, a safe port in a storm and a friend you can depend on.

Being a confident individual who knows a thing or two about life, understands that others depend on him and has his priorities straight, a mature man will never exhibit behaviors associated with inexperienced, immature and weak people. Here are the things that mature men don’t do.

1. They don’t let fear keep them from achieving happiness and success

Fear – whether it be fear of failure, fear of being reprimanded or fear of being rejected – is something that keeps most men back. Living in fear means being docile and never seizing big opportunities, which can negatively impact your career, love life, interpersonal relationships and mental well-being. A mature man knows that fear is always present, but he knows who to deal with it.

He doesn’t hesitate to put himself out there and take some risks, particularly when the only consequence to taking an action will be a slightly bruised ego or a bit of discomfort. Mature men live on the very edge of their comfort zone and take frequent trips into the wilderness that lies beyond that edge.

2. They don’t go do things just to please others

You often see young guys who start working out to impress girls, men who read up on wine tasting or art just so others perceive them as classy, and you also have those who go out of their way to come across as smart, so that their boss and coworkers will respect them more. Mature men are not motivated by what others think – their actions are motivated by a sincere desire to improve, learn and develop in a direction that they themselves have chosen.

They train to be healthier and stronger, they read books and take classes to expand their knowledge and develop skills in areas that they find useful or interesting. In other words, they know who they are and what they want, and although they respect others’ opinions, they are only governed by what they believe is the best choice.

3. They don’t create an idealized image of a woman in their mind

Many relationships fall apart when immature men realize that the image of the ideal woman that they have put on a pedestal and have been admiring all this time doesn’t really sync up with reality. Many guys go from zealous admiration to misguided misogyny when their deluded expectations aren’t met by real women. Women are just like men – they have their strengths and weaknesses, admirable traits and forgivable faults, desires and fears. A mature man knows this and feels much more at ease with women, seeing them as his equal, and can thus develop sincere and healthy relationships.

4. They don’t get baffled by a woman’s words or actions

Even though mature men treat women as equals, they are aware of the simple fact that men and women are fairly different on a number of levels – e.g. from a biochemical, psychological and social standpoint. We are brought up differently and our brains are wired differently, and a mature man understands that women communicate, argue and are emotionally affected by things differently than men are.

This is why such a man is not easily baffled or angered by a woman’s words or actions, and is more than capable of seeing things from a different perspective and picking up on subtle cues – it’s not about mind reading, just about developing a deeper understanding of the female psyche and body language cues.

5. They don’t hold grudges

Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. – Buddha

Arguments will happen between family members, friends, lovers and coworkers, it is inevitable if you spend a lot of time with someone. However, a clear sign of maturity is the ability to cool off after an argument and let go of all the negative feelings. You will hear the phrases “I’m sorry,” “forgive me, I was wrong to do that,” “oh, just forget about it, it’s nothing, really,” and “water under the bridge” spoken by mature men, as they give and receive apologies and move on with their lives. Harboring resentment will poison your relationships and lead to unhappiness.

6. They don’t feel insecure about their appearance and style

Another big issue many men have is that they feel insecure about the way they look, dress and act. Insecurities lead to fear, anxiety and anger, which will negatively affect your life in many different ways. Insecure men are afraid to experiment with fashion as they don’t want to be considered feminine, and they don’t feel comfortable in their own shoes.

The world has evolved, and fashion sensibilities have drastically changed. There are a number of fashion accessories that can be worn by both sexes, and you don’t even have to sacrifice utility for style. A mature man is confident in his appearance and unique fashion sense, and doesn’t care about a few people disapproving or making negative comments.

7. They don’t distance themselves from their family

As the years go by and we mature, keeping strong family ties becomes more apparent. There are some instances where it is not possible for a family to stay close, but most of us can afford to spend a bit more time with our parents, relatives, wife, and kids. Quality family time strengthens bonds and a mature man sees himself as being part of a larger codependent group.

8. They don’t allow people to bully them

There is a difference between being confrontational and being assertive, and it is not something that immature guys really understand. Mature men have the self-respect, self-control and confidence to set and enforce boundaries – if others try to push too far and bully them, these men will stand their ground and project a strong dominant energy. They cannot be coerced into doing something that they don’t want to do, nor will they sit by and let someone walk all over them. There is no need for them to resort to violence or shouting in most cases, as they can solve problems by standing tall and speaking up for themselves in a strong stern voice.

9. They don’t moan and despair when faced with challenges

Defeatism and moaning are things that a mature man sees no need for, and has no time for. When faced with challenges this type of man will remain collected, even helping calm others and keeping their spirits up, and work on finding the right solution. Often sacrifices have to be made and plenty of hard work put into solving big problems, but this is not something that men should shy away from. It is a simple rule that these men abide by – either put forth a constructive solution or stay quiet until you can find one. This makes the people around them feel safe and stay positive.

10. They don’t see their job as something boring that they have to put up with

While some people just view their jobs as something they need to push through mindlessly, so that they can go home and do what they want, the mature way of going about it is to give your best at your job and look for opportunities to improve and take your career to the next level. Mature men realize that others depend on them, so their career is a very big priority. Constantly improving and striving to earn more so that you can provide for your loved ones and still be able to afford some luxuries that will make you happy – this is the goal that these men set for themselves.

11. They aren’t afraid to take action and make difficult decisions

There will be times in everyone’s life where hard decisions need to be made, and to overcome adversity you often need quick thinking and the ability to take action at the right moment. A mature man will make reservations in advance when he wants to take his date out, talk to his boss about a promotion opportunity, sit his friends down and talk them out of doing something stupid even if it means that they will get mad at him, put himself in danger to protect his loved ones or sacrifice his comfort to ensure their happiness. This doesn’t mean that mature men always know exactly what to do or have the ability to handle any situation, but they will try to the best of their ability to ensure a favorable outcome.

12. They don’t set unrealistic goals

Some people will often get disappointed and quit because they have set unrealistic goals for themselves, right from the start and are then unable to achieve them. An important aspect of maturity is being able to correctly gauge your capabilities and be honest with yourself, which allows mature men to set more realistic goals. They are patient enough to dedicate themselves to slowly making progress in the long run and understand that the ultimate goal isn’t attaining quick results, but sustainable results.

 

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Smell Me Again: The 5 Best Men’s Colognes That Make Women Go Wild

Love the old natural manly smell? Well, as much as a lot of women are turned on by a sweaty well-built guy, there’s nothing worse than smelling like you have been working in a barn all day during an important meeting or a date.

 

NUMBER 5 BY HUGO BOSS

While the Boss brand might be an old timer in the fragrance business, it still stands out as the ultimate gentleman’s fragrance, and this brand gives out their unique, young and vibrant edge. Boss NO.6 is sweet, with a masculine scent. Perfect for dinner dates and nights out, it’s tame and not all overpowering. If you get close enough to a woman, then you’ll probably understand why Hugo Boss made this fragrance. If you are looking to be associated with class or sparking some midnight romance, then you need to consider this fragrance. This perfume can be purchased at Amazon for $35.

 

4.JEAN PAUL GAULTIER

 

Love a unique scent? Well, nothing gets more unique than Jean Paul Gaultier. This cologne has been designed with aromas that contrast, and the end result is a unique fragrance that will definitely get you some action on the first date (it depends on how ready you are). But on a serious note, you might never get luckier than this with a fragrance. This fragrance was designed for the boy who is bold enough to stand out in front of men, and according to Men’s Fitness, this scent is guaranteed to make women go crazy. Its contrasting flavors of mint, warm vibes, and bittersweet aromas will make even the average man standout.

 

3.ISSEY MIYAKE

Want to have a casual date? Looking for a hookup, or just an outing to impress? Well, you better be wearing Issey Miyake. This fragrance’s first impression is a clear mix of citrus scents, with a subtle woodsy undertone in the background, making it the perfect blend for a manly scent. It’s clean and refreshing, something that will definitely appeal to the lucky lady. It’s often hard to get something that you could wear at work and still try out in a nightclub, however this isn’t the case with Issey Miyake. Its alluring scent and rich woodsy undertones make it a silent killer. This is the sort of cologne that will get you compliments wherever you go as its versatility is on another level. Its costs just about $40 on Amazon.

 

2.CREED AVENTUS

 

On 2016’s colognes to buy list, this fragrance was #3, and it’s for a good reason. First of all, it lasts long and has a memorable scent. This is one scent you won’t regret losing a penny over. This is the kind of cologne that get you noticed once you step into the room, and it’s all thanks to its unique fruity fragrance.

While most fragrances will have you using a gallon a day to get noticed, it’s not the case with Creed Aventus. If you are looking to get noticed, or build a signature scent around work, then you definitely need to get this product. It’s going to be hard for that lucky girl to forget you with this fragrance on.

 

1.LORIS AZZARO MEN’S CHROME

 

If you are eyeing a girl at work, then this is the fragrance to go buy. It was designed for the office setting. This fragrance smells expensive, and no offense to the ladies, but you know how they like expensive things. If you are looking to fetch a few compliments at work, then you need to get this cologne. It’s really bad if you are the guy at the office that everyone avoids because of the farm animal smell you give off, but with Loris Azzaro Men’s Chrome, everyone will be fighting for a seat next to you, and by everyone I mean the ladies. With its tangy woodsy blend, it offers the right aroma to lure any women you might be chasing.

 

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5 Things Men Do That Women Just Don’t Understand (And Why)

“There are some major differences between him and you.”

We often hear about how difficult it is for men to understand women — usually leading to jokes about men wishing didn’t have to learn to read minds in order to understand women better. But there are just as many masculine behaviors that women struggle to understand, too.

The truth is, the masculine energy traits and perspective are drastically different to the feminine. Most men possess a strong, masculine essence deep within them. They can’t help it, they were bathed in masculine hormones during their entire gestational period.

Of course, that doesn’t make it wrong for men to be feminine or women to be masculine. We all have our own internal “center of gravity” when it comes to our own sexual essence. So we shouldn’t feel pressured to become more feminine if we’re women, but we don’t necessarily resonate with femininity.

The point here is for us all to understand the massive difference between these energies and therefore, have more compassion for those around us.

1. The masculine is always looking for the point.

The masculine energy is always looking for the point because the quicker he is able to get to the point, the quicker he is able to get the end result, the goal, or the touchdown. Ultimately it’s in the masculine energy to reach the goal efficiently so that he could have internal peace of mind. And that means he won’t always have a lot to tell you at the end of the day, he won’t always have a whole collection of fancy gossip.

The masculine just wants to get the job done, because it may just keep him up at night knowing that he hasn’t completed his mission.

2. The masculine looks to make big things small.

In order to score the touchdown, to complete the mission, to change the world — the masculine has to take gigantic missions and turn them into bite-size pieces so that he doesn’t feel overwhelmed. By making things small, they become simple to accomplish.

That’s why, sometimes, the masculine doesn’t like to make big deal out of things. They just get on with their lives. Whereas women living in their feminine tend to do the opposite. They make small things big, so they can fully feel their emotions.

Feminine energy lives in the flow of emotions because to the feminine, emotion is life. The better you can be attuned to your emotions, the better you can nurture life.

 

3. Feelings and emotions slow down the masculine in his mission.

Why doesn’t he have any feelings about this? Why does he look so blank?

As a feminine soul, it’s easy to be affected by emotions, as they come and go like the waves in the ocean. The masculine sees emotions as a burden — a hurdle to completing his mission. You can’t be in the middle of a buffalo hunt whilst feeling sad, angry, or even joyous.

That, of course, doesn’t mean men don’t have emotions. Au contraire, men in their masculine tend to block out emotions for the sake of their mission. But often times, when they are out of that masculine mode, they need emotional stimulation more than women in order to feel alive.

Remember, just like women, men also have both masculine and feminine parts of their soul. The only difference is our center of gravity per se.

 

4. The masculine essence doesn’t naturally feel at home in a relationship.

Wait…that doesn’t mean men don’t want relationships! It means that when men are in their masculine (imagine them hunting wild boars), they are in no condition to be aware of the relationships around them.

That’s why men pull away, disappear, or go into their man caves; all these behaviors are an indication of his masculine instincts kicking in. That’s what is intuitive for the masculine energy.

It is often the feminine energy that draws masculine men into the realm of an intimate loving relationship. As I always say, intimate relationship is a feminine domain.

 

5. Sex doesn’t mean love for the masculine.

For the masculine, sex and love are completely different worlds, and they take up completely different parts of the brain. That doesn’t mean they can’t overlap. In fact, when a man falls in love, sex and love do come together.

By default, most men intuitively understand that sex is just sex. Love is love. He could have sex with women for years and not feel an ounce of love.

However, when a man is in love, then he is living in both masculine and feminine, so he has easier access to both energies. Otherwise, if he was only in his masculine, he could and would never connect with a woman in her feminine.

If you are a woman reading this, then my hope is for you to really start to understand the masculine perspective, because the more understanding and awareness you have, the more value you can bring to the table in every single interaction with men.

 

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Cherie – Chapter 21 – Shark Week – Part II – Blood in the Water

“It’s okay, I can always tell how you feel by your eyes.”

I’m standing in Suburban Station, and my lady steps from the train. We embrace. I’m happy to see her. It’s cold out, so we stay underground as long as possible. I ask her if she’s hungry. She had mentioned in a text that she liked salmon, and if baby wants salmon, then salmon it is.

But she says she’s fine. She says she’d just like to lie down and rest after her busy week.

We make the painfully cold walk back to my house. I feel like I should have held her longer. Kissed her when I saw her. But I did nothing. Just a hug like and old friend. I’ll think about this.

“I’ve thought about this and I’ve also spoken to Cherie about it. I apologized to her for not being a little more intimate when I greeted her at Suburban Station.

She said, “It’s okay, I can always tell how you feel by your eyes.”

Ok. Let’s hold it right there. That’s a landmark statement. She’s already learned to read me. That’s really perceptive. I like that she sees me on that level.

We make it back to the bat cave. We go through the triple lock doors, the vestibule and into the hallway. There is a curving stairway up to the apartment. I penetrate the lock and we’re in. Lorelei’s stuff is usually everywhere a little bit. But every time I have brought Cherie, she never notices anything about the apartment. She never says anything about the place at all. Nothing. No decor, or how old it is or anything. I bring her in. The apartment is always dark. I hit the flashlight on my phone. and I tell her to follow me.

Watch your step. You’re in Rittenhouse. The building is one hundred and thirty years old. She never says anything. I take her hand and tell her to follow me. I flick on the bathroom light as I approach my bedroom.

I hit the switch and my bedroom and it is bathed in warm yellow light. I walk to the windows. I draw the blue drapes. I have these new drapes in my bedroom. It’s weird. It’s like Sinatra is coming to play at Caesars, so we need to redecorate the place because the chairman of the board is coming home.

Once I started dating sweet Cherie, I went to town. New sheets. (Dude. You have to) Curtains. (I know they are useless but they look cool) cleaned the whole cave, top to bottom, candy, candles, blankets so baby is happy and doesn’t get cold.

Cherie smiles, and gives me that little glance that tells me so much.

I take her coat and she drops her bag. She sits on the bed. “It’s so nice to be here.” She lays back. I begin removing her boots. Then her jeans. Her beautiful brown legs are slowly revealed to me.

We get under the covers and slowly during kisses and “I love yous” the rest of our garments are removed.

Cherie had made it clear to me days ago that there would be no swimming in the water during shark week. I told her I’m okay with all of those things, but she was adamant. I don’t have a problem with that. I respect her wishes and her body. I’m just happy to be holding her and kissing her full ripe lips at this moment.

But I know how Cherie feels about me, and how much she loves sex. Being the most sexually charged woman I’ve ever met, I think it’s going to be harder for her to hold up her end of the deal than me. But I will do whatever she wants. I actually was looking forward to taking it easy with her this weekend.

Instead of the usual, “It feels like I’m training for the sex olympics every other weekend” But I did make a bet with my buddy Church the other day. He said intercourse would happen during shark week. I told him I wasn’t going to push the issue, but I would offer an option.

So Cherie and I are in bed, and wonderful things are happening. I can tell that once we begin any physical contact with each other, sparks begin to fly. I tell her I have a dark brown towel. I can put it under her on the bed. We can turn the lights down, or off if she likes. I will not look down at any time. When the act is complete, I will cover up, and go to the bathroom to clean up. She in turn can pick up the towel and hold it against herself and go to the bathroom right after me.

She agrees. The sex as always, is glorious. We both keep to the agreement. It works out really well. My lady’s dignity has been retained. Nobody has to think a murder was committed in the bathroom.

During our time that evening, she does follow through with what she said she would do. There were times she was very active with me and I just laid back and enjoyed it. You never want your woman to give you the best oral you’ve ever had, because that would mean she has had a LOT of practice. But Cherie does it not like it’s a job that has to be done to please her man. She performs it like she truly loves doing it.

It is exquisite.

We’re all normally pretty good at things we like to do, and Cherie must really like doing that to me.

Instead of the crazy marathon sex every two or three hours this time, we actually have some fun and then get some sleep. I’m very pleased by this evening.

It’s just nice to sleep next to my beloved.

The next morning, Cherie gets the towel from the bathroom, and folds it a different way so we can go again. We do and it’s fire. I love morning sex. Just good raw energy. Snow is falling outside as the temperature rises in my bedroom.

After a bit we decide to get up because there are things to do. First order of business is to take this girl out to breakfast. I’m always ravenous for breakfast after a night with my Nubian queen.

While Cherie is in the shower, I get dressed and make the bed. For two years, my bed has been nothing but a place of sleep for me. Now, it’s once again a gateway to the love and magic we make.

 

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6 Things Women Don’t Understand About The Male Body

“Ladies, you need to print out this list and tape it to your headboard.”

Ladies, you need to print out this list and tape it to your headboard.

1. Our ears are ultra-sensitive to the touch.

Whether you breathe, moan, nibble, or lick our ears, you are tapping into a pleasure zone that you didn’t even know existed until I just told you. Fog up his ear with your hot, sultry breath, and he will have no choice but to immediately propose marriage to you.

2. So are our armpits.

Hopefully your man is into some serious manscaping, because otherwise his armpit area may resemble a dank, musty Panamanian jungle. But if it’s well-groomed and relatively clean, running your tongue along the crease in his armpit or even on the ‘pit itself will send him into such throes of ecstasy that he will do your laundry for a year.

3. And our nipples.

The man-nip is the only part of the male body that serves no other purpose except erotic pleasure. Bite, tug and pinch them—but do it wisely, without causing him undue pain and embarrassment—and you will own his heart.

4. And our balls.

Assuming he shaves and washes them and they don’t hang as low as a bloodhound’s jowls, here is another area where tender licking and perhaps a gentle massage will hypnotize him for the rest of his life, whereupon he will do your bidding and watch your favorite Netflix movies with you even though he doesn’t want to.

5. Right behind the knee is also highly sensitive.

This is the biggest Secret Love Area of this entire list. For whatever reason, God made the soft area in the back of his knee where his leg bends very sensitive to the touch. Therefore, touch it with a tender, understanding sort of finesse, and you will never have to tell him to pick up his socks—he’ll do it without being asked.

6. So is our ass, but we don’t like to talk about it.

The male “G-spot” is the prostate gland, which is hidden cruelly a couple of inches inside his anus. A sharply curved finger massaging this hidden Almond of Joy during a blow job will have him signing his life’s savings over to you if you merely promise to do it to him one more time in the unforeseen future.

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11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

“Number 1 is my favorite! Astounding!”

Here are many facts about men that statistics don’t tell us. On average, women live longer than men all over the world, men spend about a year of their lives looking at women, and they lie twice as often as women. In this post I figured out what is true and what is false.

 

11. Men see nightmares as disasters.

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

Death, health issues, and personal threats are common topics of nightmares for everyone. But scientists from the University of Montreal conducted a study of more than 10,000 dreams and established that there are some differences between what men and women most often see in their nightmares.

Men wake up from nightmares in which they see large-scale disasters, floods, earthquakes, and wars with a feeling of horror. Interpersonal conflicts in nightmares occur in women’s dreams twice as often as in men’s.

 

10. Men bend over to pick up an object.

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

Have you ever noticed that men pick up a fallen object by bending over it while women squat? Of course, not everyone does it this way, but this behavior is typical for most people.

Perhaps this is because women often wear uncomfortable clothes (short or tight), which means they have to squat. Men are less likely to be restrained by clothing, so they can easily bend over.

 

9. Men like women with a healthy weight.

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

Blanca Ortega-Roldán Oliva from the University of Granada proved in her research that men prefer slim women who look healthy. We don’t mean those who don’t cough or have a fever but those whose weight looks healthy.

This means that men are attracted not by some mythical ideal of beauty or girls of exclusively model appearance who weigh the same as a feather but by women whose weight and growth are correlated normally.

 

8. Men are trying to attract the attention of a girl if they keep their thumbs on their belt.

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

When a man wants to show a woman that he is interested in her, he involuntarily takes a pose that demonstrates that he is courageous and strong. Usually, a man holds his thumbs hooked to the belt of his pants.

A similar ritual appeared in ancient times when there were no belts or pants in existence. Males trying to win a female pointedly gestured to their crotch. Nowadays, such a gesture would be indecent, but we still have its echoes: when a guy holds his hands on the belt, his hands still point to his crotch.

 

7. Men prefer compliments from other men.

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

There is an opinion that men accept compliments from the opposite sex with pleasure. But, in fact, they are more pleased with compliments from men. And sexual orientation does not matter here.

Robert Herbert from Binghamton University proved that people accept compliments “smoothly” and give thanks for them only in 30% of the time. And in the case of a man receiving a compliment from another man, it will likely be perceived as something pleasant and increase his self-esteem.

 

6. Men are friends through their interests.

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

Ronald E Riggio, PhD, wrote an article that analyzed the research on friendship among women and men. As a result, he came to the conclusion that friendship between men is mainly based on common interests. They prefer to play football, golf, tennis, or poker or watch the matches of their favorite team together with their friends.

Female friendship is mostly based on emotions and support. Women choose friends who are “emotionally united” with them.

 

5. Men eat twice as much when they are with women.

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

It might seem strange but it is a fact: men eat more when they have lunch or dinner with a woman. For example, they eat 93% more pizza and 86% more salad than they would eat in the company of men.

Kevin Kniffin, PhD, of Cornell University, came to this conclusion during his research. In his opinion, men do it in order to impress women. It might seem silly, but these are, once again, instincts.

 

4. Men prefer loose clothes with age.

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

The clothes we wear affect the way we feel. Moreover, clothes affect the way surrounding people perceive us. That’s why a man in a suit feels more confident at a business meeting.

However, preferences in clothes change with age. For example, many young guys wear tight pants or shorts, although, perhaps, it is not so comfortable. With age, the desire to be fashionable is replaced by the desire to wear comfortable things. Therefore, men often switch to a looser cut of pants or shorts.

 

3. The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ.

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

A group of scientists from the Karolinska Institute in Stockholm showed in their study that the IQ level of a man often influences his way of life. In particular, whether he abuses alcohol or not. For this purpose, specialists studied the data of almost 50,000 Swedes born between 1949 and 1951.

According to the researchers, men with a lower IQ often drink too much. But it is outlined that this fact can be caused not only by IQ as men who abuse alcohol also often had emotional problems.

Nevertheless, scientists believe that a higher level of intelligence leads to a healthier lifestyle.

 

2. Men lie twice as often as women

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

The average man lies to his colleagues, boss, or partner 6 times a day while women only do it about 3 times a day. A survey carried out by 20th Century Fox Home Entertainment in 2009 before the release of the TV series Lie to Me helped to discover this fact.

It turned out that men lie twice as often as women, and the most common lying phrase is “It’s OK. I’m fine.”

 

1. Men stare at women for almost a year of their life.

11 True Facts About Men That They Hide From Others

A man spends about 43 minutes a day looking at 10 different women. This amounts to 259 hours (or almost 11 days) each year. As a result, between the ages of 18 and 50, men spend 11 months and 11 days admiring girls.

Women in their turn look at men only for 20 minutes a day. Between the ages of 18 and 50, they spend only 6 months on this activity.

Such figures were received by employees of Kodak Lens Vision Centers, which held a survey among 3,000 people.They also found out that the most suitable places to gaze at strangers of the opposite sex are supermarkets, pubs, and nightclubs.

 

Which facts about men would you add to this list based on your experience? Please tell us about them in the comments!

 

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