10 Signs You’re Compatible with the One You’re Dating

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Just because you get along and like the same things, doesn’t make you compatible. Here’s how to know if you’re dating someone you’re compatible with.

They say that opposites attract. This may be true for many, and while I may agree that two people of different characteristics might find initial attraction towards each other, it is compatibility that would ultimately keep their relationship together. Compatibility and chemistry are two entirely different things, and both are essential in maintaining a healthy relationship.

Have you ever wondered what makes you and your date click? When you are compatible with each other, it means that you are attuned to your partner’s sensibilities. Compatibility in a relationship can help determine whether or not you and your partner are meant to be together for the long haul.

Being truly compatible with each other means so much more than sharing the same beliefs or interests. True compatibility means that your personalities mesh well with each other. While you might find someone who is as free-spirited as you are and enjoys the same things you like, your life goals may be different. You may have completely opposite tastes and personalities, but when the tough times come, your opposite personalities complement each other. Aren’t relationships complicated?

The true test of compatibility is spending time together, and not just those little dates that you both plan out for each other. The true test of compatibility lies in spending an extended amount of time together while getting through different situations together, both the tough ones and the happy ones.

Are you and your partner a good match?

How does one discern true compatibility? Take a look at your relationship, and see if you spot any of these signs of compatibility.

#1 You see each other through the trying times. It’s true that it’s the trying times that would truly test your compatibility, not the easy ones. The trying times would show the true test of one’s character. The trying times would show you how you would be able to handle conflicts and difficulties.

Would both of you be able to handle the arguments and still be able to support each other, despite the situation that you’re both in? This is the reason why many relationships don’t last: the tough times that serve to test the strength the relationship end up breaking it.

#2 You don’t question the love in your relationship. When you are secure in your partner’s love, you know that your relationship can do no wrong. When you feel each other’s love despite the fights and the disagreements, then you know that you have found the one that you are compatible with.

#3 You know each other’s deepest secrets. Honesty is important in a relationship. Sharing secrets can show you how compatible you are with your partner. Trust and honesty just show how invested you both are in your relationship, despite knowing each other’s darker side.

#4 You could spend time in silence without it being awkward. When you spend time with each other, you can do “your own thing” without having to put up with any awkward silence. There is uncomfortable silence where you feel like you have to fill the air with some form of small talk, and then there is comforting silence where there’s no pressure to start babbling about anything to stave off the awkwardness. If you have the latter, you can say you’re compatible.

#5 Your relationship still feels fresh. Being together for a long time can pave the way for monotony and boredom to seep in. However, as time goes by, you can either let your relationship stagnate or let it grow into something more meaningful. The feeling that you’re still learning, growing, and enjoying in your relationship through the years is a sure sign of compatibility.

#6 There is still mutual attraction. You know that you are compatible with each other when you find that, after all the time you have spent together, you can still find your partner attractive. While sex isn’t everything in a relationship, it is important that you and your partner are physically intimate with each other. There should still be a spark that keeps the flame alive!

#7 You can be your true self around your partner. Some relationships fail because people put up a front to ensure that their partner will still like them. Thus, what happens is that their partner becomes compatible with their mask, and not their true selves.

If you’re able to show your partner your silliness, your idiosyncrasies, your weirdness, and your weaknesses without fear that they will no longer love you, and the same is true for your partner, you can then be confident that you and your partner are a great match.

#8 You see a future with each other. You know that you are compatible with your partner when you see a future with each other, settling down, getting married, and having children together. You know that it is true compatibility when you see beyond the fantasy wedding that you will have. You plan a life together with them, despite knowing that it won’t always be smooth sailing. You see yourself growing old with them, and supporting each other in your old age.

#9 You don’t want to change your partner. They say that people don’t change unless they want to. You know you are compatible with your partner when you respect them as an individual. Sure, they might have some quirks which you might find to be immature or annoying, at times. You might find that the way they dress, sleep, or eat is something that you don’t like, but it’s part of the package, and you wouldn’t change them either way.

#10 Your partner makes you want to bring out the best in you. Couples who are really compatible with each other bring out the best in each other. They have that drive to push you forward and bring out the best in you. They support you in good times and in bad times. They cheer you on as you work your way through law school or insist on being a stay-at-home parent. They are your greatest fan, and you know you can always count on them to cheer you on and have your back whenever you are down.

Love is never enough to save a relationship. You might have all the love in the world for each other, but it is never enough to get you through the difficult times. Love can be fickle, and will ultimately fly out the window once there are conflicts and arguments that remain unresolved.

Your compatibility with your partner will help your relationship withstand the test of time. Without it, you will only end up fighting over your differences, until you realize that there’s no way you can stand to stay with each other.

 

 

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How to Impress a Guy in 13 Oh-So-Awesome Ways!

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What makes a girl attractive and irresistible? Use these 13 tips on how to impress a guy and you’ll be on his mind long after you walk away from him.

To a guy, physical attraction may be important.

But it’s not everything.

An attractive face could hold a guy’s attention for a few seconds.

But to actually impress a guy and make him fall for you, you definitely need more than that.

Ever wondered why some girls draw more guys than other girls?

Ever wondered why a girl who’s not that great looking still manages to get every guy to fall for her?

How to impress a guy and make him want you

Great guys love a chase to win a girl, because they love a good competition.

The alpha male wants to be the best, and wants to be surrounded by the best of everything.

It’s an evolutionary trait of the alphas, while the lower men settle with what’s left of the best.

The great guys always want what all others guys desire, be it success, wealth, cars or anything else.

They want to pursue a great girl who gets the attention of other guys, and steal her away from right under their noses.

So if you want to impress a guy, you need to learn to get attention of great guys no matter where you are.

And once you’ve got the attention of the great guys, it’s only a matter of time before every other guy starts to fall for you and desire you.

Impressing a guy and the finer traits you need

If you want to impress a guy and make him addicted to you, the first lesson you need to learn is this. You need to play nice and sweet with him, and yet you need to seem unavailable at the same time.

Reciprocate to a guy’s flirting, but don’t initiate it. Always make it seem like he’s the one who’s doing all the flirting. That’s the key to impressing any guy and making him fall for you.

When you laugh at his joke, or blush at his compliment, it shows him that he’s able to impress you. But at the same time, when you don’t initiate anything to please him, he’d work harder because he knows he hasn’t pleased you enough to win you over completely just yet.

You need to show him the door to your heart, but make him work hard to find his way through the door. By doing that, he’ll respect you more, get more crazy about you and be in awe of you.

How to impress a guy in 13 ways

A great girl who’s desired by great guys is high maintenance, but she’s not cocky or arrogant. She’s pleasant to be with, but she never tries to impress any guy.

Want to be that girl and impress a guy you like? Keep these 13 traits in mind, and you’ll be awed and desired by the guy you like.

#1 Don’t be judgmental. But at the same time, don’t be a pushover. If you don’t like something, say it but don’t make a big deal about it. The guy you like may be passionate about a few things that you don’t appreciate, but that doesn’t mean you should insult him for it. Show an interest in what he has to say, share your truthful opinions about it but don’t get rude or judgmental.

#2 Punish him when he’s cocky. Are you the girl who forgives a guy if he keeps her waiting for over half an hour before he turns up? Change that attitude. Don’t ever let a guy take you for granted or take it easy around you.

At the start of a relationship, or when you just get to know the guy, it’s very important to ensure that he takes you seriously. Ignore him or walk away if he throws his weight around you, speak curtly to him when he gives more attention to someone else, and don’t think twice about scolding him if he mistreats you.

If you do this right at the beginning of the relationship, he’ll respect you more. But at the same time, this should be used only when he takes you for granted. The rest of the time, be the sweetest girl in the world around him!

#3 Smile and laugh a lot around him. Guys are mesmerized by a girl’s laughter. Laugh at his jokes if you find him funny, and give him all your attention when you’re with him. You don’t need to initiate too many conversations, just sit back and let him know that you’re enjoying his company. He’ll do the rest, and get impressed by you too.

#4 Debate with him. And win it. Men are awed by a woman’s emotional intelligence. Never let any guy behave like he’s more intelligent than you. Be aware of what’s going on in your world, and talk about it with him. A dumb bimbette could seem attractive for a few hours, but she’ll be the butt of his jokes after that.

When a guy thinks you’re unintelligent, he’ll think of you only as his arm candy, not as his partner for life.

#5 Be naughty. A naughty side is a huge turn on to every guy. Sit really close to him and watch him feel awkward around you. Brush his body, but make it seem like an accident. Behave like a coy girl, but tempt him innocently.

#6 Don’t give in too easily. Remember this if you want him to go crazy for you. Even if you like a guy a lot, don’t give in too easily and try to please him from the very beginning. When you try to please a guy too soon, he’ll start taking it easy because he’d know that he’s already won you over. And if he’s a regular guy, he’ll stop trying to woo you or impress you.

Even though you like him already, don’t express your mushy thoughts to him for several weeks. Date him or spend hours talking to him, but make sure he’s completely in love with you before you tell him that you’re crazy about him. Understanding how to make a guy chase you the right way is very important if you want to have a serious relationship with the guy you like.

#7 Tempt him with your appearance. Dress well and look good all the time when he’s around. You may assume that people who like you won’t judge you, but that’s not always the truth. If you were dating the guy and he dresses shabbily while going out with you, wouldn’t you feel a small twinge of disappointment when you’re walking down the street with him?

Look your best, awe everyone around you, and the guy you like will feel lucky to have a conversation with you.

#8 Smell great. Let your fragrance linger when you hug him goodbye or walk past him. Guys are suckers for good perfume, especially when the girl they’re interested in leaves behind a waft of perfume in the air. Try several perfumes and pick the ones that best suit your personality.

Spray the perfume on your wrists, behind your ears and around your neck or just under the collarbone. And a spray in your hair will ensure that you leave your fragrance behind whenever you walk past a guy. Just remember not to rub your perfume with your hands through because that just kills the fragrance.

#9 Be kind to everyone. Guys are instinctively drawn towards kinder girls who seem pleasant and approachable. Be warm when you speak to guys, even if you aren’t interested in dating them. Don’t insult a guy who tries to talk to you just because he’s not a great conversationalist. But at the same time, don’t put up with guys that treat you disrespectfully.

#10 Be spontaneous and alive. Don’t be a bore who doesn’t like talking much. Even when you’re with friends, play an active part and be involved with them. Guys may love a shy girl, but no one appreciates someone who’s just a part of the furniture.

Participate in activities, have fun, and even when you’re with the guy you like, don’t be too predictable. Cut him in the middle of the conversation, and ask him to accompany you somewhere because you feel like it. When you’re spontaneous and unpredictable, the guy would try harder to please you because he just can’t understand your likes and dislikes.

#11 Show the guy the competition. Don’t ignore all other guys when one guy gives you the attention. When you let a guy know that you’re only interested in talking to him, he’ll assume he’s already won you over. Talk sweetly to other cute guys, flirt casually and have fun even if the guy you like is around.

Remember, you’re not dating him yet, so let him see that he has a lot of competition to deal with if he wants to date exclusively with you. The more the competition, the more respectful he’ll be towards you and the harder he’ll try to woo you.

#12 Don’t use him. Just because he’s sweet enough to offer his help doesn’t mean you need to use him all the time to run your errands. Ask his help so he feels like a chivalrous gentleman when he’s around you. But do it the right way.

#13 Leave in a memorable manner. The best way to impress a guy is by leaving him with exciting and memorable memories of you. Flirt with the guy you like now and then without making it obvious that you’re outrageously flirting with him or trying to impress him. When you subtly flirt with him in a not-so-obvious manner, he can’t help but constantly remember you and wonder if you actually flirted with him or it was just his imagination.

This stage where you impress a guy is not the same as the dating stage. When both of you are dating, it’s about helping each other understand the other person better.

These 13 tips should be used to impress a guy you aren’t dating yet. If you want to impress a guy you’re dating already, use these.

But when you’re still trying to impress him or evaluating him as a dating potential, use these 13 tips on how to impress a guy. It’ll make him take you more seriously, fall harder for you, and respect you a lot more!

 

 

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10 Signs You’re Compatible with the One You’re Dating

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Just because you get along and like the same things, doesn’t make you compatible. Here’s how to know if you’re dating someone you’re compatible with.

They say that opposites attract. This may be true for many, and while I may agree that two people of different characteristics might find initial attraction towards each other, it is compatibility that would ultimately keep their relationship together. Compatibility and chemistry are two entirely different things, and both are essential in maintaining a healthy relationship.

Have you ever wondered what makes you and your date click? When you are compatible with each other, it means that you are attuned to your partner’s sensibilities. Compatibility in a relationship can help determine whether or not you and your partner are meant to be together for the long haul.

Being truly compatible with each other means so much more than sharing the same beliefs or interests. True compatibility means that your personalities mesh well with each other. While you might find someone who is as free-spirited as you are and enjoys the same things you like, your life goals may be different. You may have completely opposite tastes and personalities, but when the tough times come, your opposite personalities complement each other. Aren’t relationships complicated?

The true test of compatibility is spending time together, and not just those little dates that you both plan out for each other. The true test of compatibility lies in spending an extended amount of time together while getting through different situations together, both the tough ones and the happy ones.

Are you and your partner a good match?

How does one discern true compatibility? Take a look at your relationship, and see if you spot any of these signs of compatibility.

#1 You see each other through the trying times. It’s true that it’s the trying times that would truly test your compatibility, not the easy ones. The trying times would show the true test of one’s character. The trying times would show you how you would be able to handle conflicts and difficulties.

Would both of you be able to handle the arguments and still be able to support each other, despite the situation that you’re both in? This is the reason why many relationships don’t last: the tough times that serve to test the strength the relationship end up breaking it.

#2 You don’t question the love in your relationship. When you are secure in your partner’s love, you know that your relationship can do no wrong. When you feel each other’s love despite the fights and the disagreements, then you know that you have found the one that you are compatible with.

#3 You know each other’s deepest secrets. Honesty is important in a relationship. Sharing secrets can show you how compatible you are with your partner. Trust and honesty just show how invested you both are in your relationship, despite knowing each other’s darker side.

#4 You could spend time in silence without it being awkward. When you spend time with each other, you can do “your own thing” without having to put up with any awkward silence. There is uncomfortable silence where you feel like you have to fill the air with some form of small talk, and then there is comforting silence where there’s no pressure to start babbling about anything to stave off the awkwardness. If you have the latter, you can say you’re compatible. [Read: 8 ways to avoid the awkward silences during a date]

#5 Your relationship still feels fresh. Being together for a long time can pave the way for monotony and boredom to seep in. However, as time goes by, you can either let your relationship stagnate or let it grow into something more meaningful. The feeling that you’re still learning, growing, and enjoying in your relationship through the years is a sure sign of compatibility. [Read: 10 steps to ignite the lost spark in a relationship]

#6 There is still mutual attraction. You know that you are compatible with each other when you find that, after all the time you have spent together, you can still find your partner attractive. While sex isn’t everything in a relationship, it is important that you and your partner are physically intimate with each other. There should still be a spark that keeps the flame alive! [Read: Why is physical attraction important in a relationship?]

#7 You can be your true self around your partner. Some relationships fail because people put up a front to ensure that their partner will still like them. Thus, what happens is that their partner becomes compatible with their mask, and not their true selves.

If you’re able to show your partner your silliness, your idiosyncrasies, your weirdness, and your weaknesses without fear that they will no longer love you, and the same is true for your partner, you can then be confident that you and your partner are a great match.

#8 You see a future with each other. You know that you are compatible with your partner when you see a future with each other, settling down, getting married, and having children together. You know that it is true compatibility when you see beyond the fantasy wedding that you will have. You plan a life together with them, despite knowing that it won’t always be smooth sailing. You see yourself growing old with them, and supporting each other in your old age.

#9 You don’t want to change your partner. They say that people don’t change unless they want to. You know you are compatible with your partner when you respect them as an individual. Sure, they might have some quirks which you might find to be immature or annoying, at times. You might find that the way they dress, sleep, or eat is something that you don’t like, but it’s part of the package, and you wouldn’t change them either way.

#10 Your partner makes you want to bring out the best in you. Couples who are really compatible with each other bring out the best in each other. They have that drive to push you forward and bring out the best in you. They support you in good times and in bad times. They cheer you on as you work your way through law school or insist on being a stay-at-home parent. They are your greatest fan, and you know you can always count on them to cheer you on and have your back whenever you are down. [Read: 9 ways you and your partner bring out each other’s best]

Love is never enough to save a relationship. You might have all the love in the world for each other, but it is never enough to get you through the difficult times. Love can be fickle, and will ultimately fly out the window once there are conflicts and arguments that remain unresolved.

Your compatibility with your partner will help your relationship withstand the test of time. Without it, you will only end up fighting over your differences, until you realize that there’s no way you can stand to stay with each other.

 

 

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5 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Respect You

Respect is so often thought of as the key ingredient to a great relationship, but it’s a concept that’s hard to define. When it comes to respect, most of us know when we’ve been disrespected.

What we expect when we ask others to give us respect is harder to define. Respect may mean different things for different people. There’s the Golden Rule: Treat others the way you want to be treated. And then there’s the Platinum Rule. Basically, the Platinum Rule is the ultimate definition of respect: Treat others the way they want to be treated.

In order for someone to treat you the way you want to be treated, you must be very clear about how you want to be treated, or they have to be a mind reader. If you feel disrespected by your partner, be very clear in your communication with them.

When you feel disrespected, say ‘I need you to ____’ and state the new behavior that you would prefer to see instead. For example, you might say ‘I need you to speak to me with less anger in your tone.’

Little research has been done on respect, because until recently, it had not yet been defined as something that could be measured.

Researchers attempting to study respect in relationships created a definition that included the following psychological traits:

* loving

* caring

* understanding

* honesty

* loyalty

* listening openly

* not abusive or judgmental

* considerate

In another study on respect, the same researchers found that respect was so highly correlated with relationship satisfaction that it seemed to resemble the same concept for research participants who were surveyed.

 

1. Your partner tells you what is wrong with you

No one is perfect and you certainly don’t need your partner to keep reminding you of that. It’s hard enough for you to accept your own faults without a reminder.

If you hear this from your partner, it’s a sign that they don’t respect you. Tell them that there’s nothing wrong with you, and although you may make a mistake from time to time, you would prefer to hear about all the positive things that your partner likes about you.

 

2. Your partner doesn’t listen to you

Listening is a basic sign of respect, and both of you should have a chance to listen and speak your minds. When one partner interrupts, talks over, or shows disdain for the other person when they are speaking, communication begins to break down.

Responding to your partner when they speak is essential to a respectful relationship. In a study of mindfulness and relationship conflict, researchers found that being fully present in the moment could help couples to feel more respect for their partner after an argument.

The mindfulness study showed that ‘mindfulness may play an influential role in romantic relationship well-being.’ Try some deep breathing, tighten your abdominal muscles and focus on maintaining emotional control while you work through your problem.

5 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Respect You

3. Your partner always gets to have things their way

A successful partnership has to be a two-way street. One of you shouldn’t be always getting things their way. Compromise, especially on things that are not your top priorities, is key to a respectful relationship.

When your partner tries to control the relationship and insists on having things their way, it is a sign that they do not respect your needs. Try asserting yourself, especially when it is important to you. If your partner still will not allow you to have things your way, tell them that their behavior is unacceptable to you.

 

4. Your partner disrespects your friends or family

Your partner doesn’t have to love your friends or family like you do, but they do need to treat them respectfully. As a couple, you will be spending time together in the future, and part of your lives together will include family time.

It is important to a healthy, respectful relationship for you and your partner to have a good relationship with each other’s friends and family. Even if you are only civil to each other, respect for your partner’s loved ones is important.

 

5. Your partner is frequently unkind

Respect begins by not causing anyone harm. This includes not hurting feelings intentionally. Everyone is responsible for his or her own words and actions. Intentional name-calling, belittling, angry words, threatening language, or even a judgmental or accusing tone are all ways that your partner might show their disrespect.

 

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15 Reasons Why You Should Absolutely Tell Him How You Feel

Have feelings for a guy and you’re not sure whether or not to tell him? Here are fifteen reasons why you absolutely should tell him how you feel!

1. He Probably Can’t Tell

Frankly, guys don’t always see things even when they’re right in front of them. Whether he’s a friend or someone you’ve only seen from afar, chances are he can’t tell you like him unless you tell him straight up how you feel. Don’t walk away from the possibility of a relationship by not telling the guy you like that you’re into him. There’s no way for him to make a move if he doesn’t know that you like him, so you’ve got to tell him!

2. It’ll Make Him Like You More

A guy will totally like you more if you tell him how you feel. Guys are more likely to walk away if they don’t know you feel the same about them as they do about you.

By telling him you like him, you’re confirming your feelings for him, and that will make him like you even more than he already did. Guys like girls who take the initiative, so it’ll be a total turn on for him if you tell him you like him.

He’ll like you so much more knowing you’re not afraid to admit your feelings for him. It shows that you’re the kind of girl who knows what she wants and goes for it!

3. So You Can Date

Whether he’s a friend or a guy you don’t know too well, there’s no way you’re going to start dating if you don’t both tell each other how you feel. If you want to turn the friendship into something more, you have to tell him how you feel.

He probably doesn’t already know, so you won’t be able to date him without breaking the ice and letting him know you have feelings for him. You should take the initiative and tell him – in person – so he knows that you’re interested and he can properly ask you out!

4. It’s Better Than Waiting For Him To Make The Move

Guys aren’t good at telling you how they feel. Even worse, sometimes a guy will take forever to make a move and finally ask you out. He’ll drag his feet and put it off for a long time before he finally makes his move and tells you how he feels.

The way to counter this is by telling him before he has the chance to tell you. If you wait for him to make a move, you’ll be waiting a really long time. Tell him how you feel, and you’ll end the waiting game for both of you. Once he knows how you feel, he’ll be able to make his move, and neither of you will have to wait a million years to be together!

5. Games Are Lame

If you play games with a guy, he’ll definitely walk away, and you’ll stay his friend rather than moving up to being his girlfriend.

Games are lame, and no one likes playing games when it comes to relationships. You wouldn’t want him to mess with your feelings, so you shouldn’t do it to him.

Instead of beating around the bush and playing games, be direct. Otherwise, he won’t be able to tell if you have feelings for him or if you’re just trying to mess with his head.

Taking the initiative and telling him how you feel will show him you’re going to play games with him, and that you care enough about him to tell him you like him.

6. He Should Know

Your guy should know how you feel. He deserves to know that you like him, and keeping it from him isn’t fair for either of you. You should tell him because he should know you have feelings for him. You would want him to tell you if he had feelings for you, so you should tell him. You can walk away feeling good because he deserved to know you have feelings for him and you’ll feel better for telling him.

7. It’ll Help You Move On

Just because you like him doesn’t mean he likes you back, unfortunately. You may tell him how you feel and find out that he doesn’t feel the same. That’s okay!

Not knowing whether or not you stand a chance at a relationship with him would drive you crazy. It’s better that you know that he’s not interested in being more than your friend because it can help you move on. You would’ve been hung up on him if you didn’t tell him how you felt. Once you tell him, you’ll be able to move on.

8. Why Not Tell Him?

There’s really no reason not to tell the guy you like that you have feelings for him. The worst that can happen is that he’ll say no, and then you can get on with your life.

Keeping your feelings to yourself won’t help anyone, so you should just go on and let him know you’re interested in him as more than a friend. Don’t be afraid of rejection or what might happen if he feels the same way about you. Just tell him how you feel!

9. You’ll Feel Better

Keeping a secret like this can take a toll on you and your relationships, especially if you’re hiding your feelings from someone who is a friend. By telling the guy you like him, you’ll be getting that huge secret off your chest which will make you feel so much better.

You can’t hide your feelings forever. You’ll have to be extra careful to make sure that you never let it slip that you feel more than friendship for him. Letting him know that you like him prevents all the pain and heartache you go through every time you pretend you don’t like him. Tell him, and you’ll feel so much better!

10. It’ll Explain Things To Him

If you’re hiding your feelings from him, you’re probably acting kind of weird around him. You may laugh at things that aren’t funny or hang around him when no one else is. Your behavior will probably be concerning to him, and he’ll wonder what’s wrong with you.

Telling him how you feel will clear up your behavior and explain why you’ve been acting so strange. It’ll also explain other things, like the fact that you don’t seem to be interested in other guys or that you get jealous when he’s with other girls. Tell him that you have feelings for him; it’ll explain things to him, so he understands!

11. You Might Miss Your Chance

There are a million things that could happen that would prevent you from ever telling your crush you like him. He could move away or start dating someone new. You could move away. Something terrible could happen to one of you, and you’d never get the chance to share your feelings with him.

If you don’t want to risk missing your chance, you have to tell him how you feel. The only way to prevent losing out on the opportunity to be with your crush is to tell him you like him.

12. It Could Make You Both Happy

You probably want to be happy, and you definitely want the guy you like to be happy, too. You may be able to make both those things happen if you walk right up to him and tell him how you feel.

He may have the same feelings for you, and you won’t know it if you don’t tell that you like him. Once you do, you’ll both be extra happy because you get to start a relationship that you’ve both been secretly wanting. Telling him how you feel is a great way to make sure you’re both happy!

13. You’ve Been Waiting Forever To Tell Him

Just like with a guy who drags his feet and doesn’t get around to telling you how he feels, you’ve probably been waiting a long time to tell him that you’re interested. Whether it’s out of fear or because there hasn’t been the opportunity, it’s been too long.

Tell him how you feel and stop waiting around to do it! You shouldn’t wait forever because of all the reasons on this list. All you have to do is tell him how you feel and the long wait will be over!

14. You’ll Gain A Ton Of Respect

Respect can go a long way. You’ll respect yourself for taking the initiative and telling your guy how you feel about him. Nothing feels better than being the one to take a huge step and tell the guy you like him.

You’ll also gain respect from your friends. They’ll see you as the strong girl who stood up and admitted her feelings. You’ll probably encourage them to share their feelings with their friends, too.

The guy and his friends will respect you even more, too. He’ll respect that you went for what you wanted and his friends will see that you’re serious about their guy and that they can trust you not to hurt him. Telling him how you feel will gain you respect from all around!

15. You Just Can’t Keep It In Any Longer

Keeping it a secret is probably driving you crazy. Every time you see him, you’re desperate to tell him that you have feelings for him just to see if he feels the same way about you.

One day, you’ll see him, and you just won’t be able to keep it in any longer. That’s a great reason to spill the beans.

You don’t have to keep it a secret, and you’ll feel so much relief by sharing your feelings with him and everyone around you. Once you realize that the secret feelings you have for him are too much to keep inside, tell him how you feel!

Tell Him How You Feel!

Being the one to tell a guy how you feel can be really hard, but it’ll be totally worth it once you do. These are just fifteen of the many reasons that you should tell him how you feel. Take the initiative and let him know that you’re into him! You won’t regret it.

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Check out 5 reasons why it’s important to put your spouse before your parents

Keeping your spouse at the top of your list, above your parents, is vital to the success of your marriage. That does not mean you don’t love and honor your parents. It just means your spouse comes first.

Devotion to your spouse is vital to the success of any marriage. In the Bible the apostle Paul was teaching the people about marriage and the duties of husbands and wives when he said, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh… . Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband (Ephesians 5:31-33).”

In order for marriage to flourish both husband and wife need to leave their parents and start a new home together. From that moment they need to be number one in each other’s life. That doesn’t mean they don’t love and care about their parents. It simply means that the top priority has now changed from parents to spouse.

Here are a few reasons why this is so important

1. It shows honor and respect for your spouse

When your husband or wife knows he or she comes before your parents, it creates a deeper marital bond. If a wife continually runs to her parents for counsel instead of first talking with her husband, it can create a feeling of distrust. The same with a husband. When you talk together as a couple about your problems and seek answers in a united way, it strengthens your marriage. Parents can be consulted, but it’s best done with both of you present, not going behind each other’s back. That doesn’t mean there won’t be times when one-on-one time with a parent is needed. It just means that running to a parent is not your first or usual response.

2. It shows your spouse and your parents that your marriage is solid

If one or the other keeps running home to Mom or Dad, complaining about his or her spouse, it can be damaging to your marriage. A mother of a young married daughter told about how her daughter was continually telling them bad things about her husband – nothing big, just annoying things like he doesn’t pick up his clothes, he watches too much TV, or a myriad of other nit-picky traits. When this happens the parents can’t help but feel like you married a loser, even though there are wonderful things about him that you love. If they have a skewed view of your mate due to your continual barrage of negatives, they may not give you proper counsel, even may encourage you to leave him. Unless there’s abuse, that would be disastrous. When you put your spouse first, your parents and your spouse will recognize how important your marriage is to you.

3. It creates a stronger intimacy with your spouse

When your focus is on your mate then each other’s needs can be met. There is a bond of devotion where deep sharing of thoughts and experiences kindle a love that can be experienced no other way. This kind of intimacy opens the door to a more romantic relationship. If you don’t feel like you’re number one, genuine intimacy is hard to achieve. Allowing your parents to have that number one spot can put a damper on your relationship. A woman told us about how her mother-in-law called her son every night at bedtime. She said, “Just when we finally have some alone time after the kids are in bed the phone rings, and it’s her. The other night we were snuggling on the couch enjoying each other when it rang. We knew who it was. My husband always feels obligated to take the call. It’s taking a toll on the intimate side of our marriage.” This couple solved the problem by the husband telling his mother this was not a good time to call. They then set a time that worked better for all concerned. Most parents want their kids to have a happy marriage and will respond to such requests. Taking this action helped his wife realize how important she was to him. Setting boundaries with parents in a kind and loving way is important. Keeping close to parents matters, and it can be done without jeopardizing your marriage.

4. When things get tough you can count on each other

When you’ve kept each other at the top of the list, there will be no question about loyalty to and from your spouse. A couple told of a time the husband lost his business. He said, “My wife was by my side the whole time, cheering me on, right up to the bitter end when the business collapsed. I knew that even if my parents or others criticized me for taking this risk, she would stick up for me.” No one chooses to fail, but if it happens it is comforting to know your spouse is right there to buoy you up. That goes for other kinds of challenges, as well. When you have kept each other as a priority, you’ll be there for each other through the hard times. Your spouse is your greatest support system. Parental love and support is nice to have, but in the end it is your spouse who is by your side daily.

5. When your parents reach the end of their lives, having your spouse by your side will be very comforting.

Keeping the relationship strong with your mate can make all heartaches a little more bearable, particularly this one. If you have been respectful and loving to your parents, all the while keeping your mate as your priority, your memories will be sweeter and your marriage will be stronger.

A caution

In all of this, don’t push your parents away. Include them in ways that work for you and your spouse. A loving relationship with parents can be very helpful in keeping your family strong. You and your spouse can build that relationship while keeping each other as your main priority.

Thanks. I hope this was helpful. I’d like to hear your thoughts on this piece.

 

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7 Playful Daily Habits That Keep Your Partner Drawn To You

At the beginning of a relationship, attraction, fun, and even romance can all feel second-nature. Every time you’re with that person is fun, everything they do is sweet, and it doesn’t feel like you have to do anything in particular to keep them close. Once you’ve been together for a while, however, you might start to find that daily life has a habit of getting in the way and it just takes a bit more effort to keep things feeling as playful and fun as they did in the beginning. Playful daily habits that keep your partner close can help you both feel drawn to one another, while also feeling like there’s some fun injected into your daily life together.

Of course, not every part of life will always be fun and playful, but incorporating playful habits into your daily life can help your relationship remain strong, happy, and healthy, even when life doesn’t always go the way that you’d planned. These habits are relatively simple and most don’t even involve that much effort — and some might be things you already do — but they can make a real difference in how the two of you feel. From complimenting your partner to making them laugh, there are lots of little things that you can do each day to keep them drawn to you.

1. Compliment Them

People like compliments, even if it’s hard for some people to gracefully accept them (myself included). Giving your partner a genuine compliment, not just one that feels forced or that you didn’t really mean, can totally keep your partner drawn to you. Online dating expert, CEO of Cyber Dating Expert, and the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating Julie Spira told Reader’s Digest that “compliments are the quickest way to put a smile on your partner’s face.” They make you feel good about yourself and who doesn’t like that?

2. Celebrate The Little Things

Who says you’re only supposed to (or allowed to) celebrate the big, momentous occasions in each other’s lives like birthdays, big promotions, and anniversaries? “It’s less about extravagant outings and more about the little, everyday things they did together,” Dr. Sheri Meyers, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love, and Affair-Proof Your Relationship, told SheKnows. Celebrating those little, seemingly insignificant events in your lives can be something fun between just the two of you and can make you feel closer as a couple.

3. Make Actual Plans

n an interview with Bustle, Esther Boykin, a marriage and family therapist, said that for couples who’ve been together for a long time, doing something romantic and fun can take some planning and effort. Making plans with your partner, even if that just means that you’re going to make dinner and intentionally spend some time together, can keep the two of you close.

4. Show Them You’re Happy To See Them

More often than not, you’re happy to see your partner when they walk through the door, right? So why not show them that? Tonya Lester, L.C.S.W., a couples therapist, told Women’s Health that many couples get worn out over the course of the day and immediately put all of that on their partner when they see them. Instead, Lester suggested that you make an effort to be obviously happy to see them. She said that you might find that it’ll change some things in your relationship. Plus, it might have the added benefit of actually making you feel better about your day, rather than focusing on what made it feel long and exhausting.

5. Make Them Laugh

Daily life with your partner can sometimes get serious and mundane, with talk of bills, chores, and the like, but making each other laugh — and laughing together — is still important. “When couples get out of the habit of laughing together, their relationship is at risk of losing its joy and spirit,” Dr. Samantha Rodman, a clinical psychologist, told HuffPost. That’s not good. Share funny stories or inside jokes with your partner every day — it’ll keep the two of you close.

6. Have Fun Together

Feel free to give in to the playful moments with your partner that might crop up each day. As Meyers told SheKnows in the previously-mentioned article, adults need play just like kids need play and having fun and being playful with your partner can help you relax and strengthen your relationship. No need to be so serious all of the time.

7. Send Them A Text

Getting in the habit of sending your partner texts each day is another thing that you can do that can keep your partner drawn to you. In an interview with Psych Central, Ashley Davis Bush, L.C.S.W., a psychotherapist, said that staying connected throughout the day can keep you close emotionally. Funny texts, flirtatious texts, and more all fit the bill. They let your partner know that you’re thinking about them, even when you’re not together in person.

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