Tales of Rock – Nick Cannon And Mariah Carey Did It To Her Music

I chose the photo above because that’s when this four octave songbird was a fresh baby back in the 90’s.

At some point in their lives (16-24), most people will make a sex mixtape — a collection of songs to set the mood during lovemaking. Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey had a playlist like that, only theirs was nothing but a loop of Carey’s song about how real heroes never go soft halfway through.

In 2012, during an interview with chain smoking grandmother Howard Stern, Cannon revealed that when the then-couple had lovin’ on their minds, there was nothing that got the bodily fluids pouring like queuing up a couple of her tracks and going to town on each other. Their favorite Carey anthem? Her soft and sweeping “Hero.” Maybe it’s because of encouraging lyrics like And then a hero comes along, with the strength to carry on. Or maybe it’s because Cannon doesn’t have any music of his own worth listening to while you’re trying to bump uglies. Either way, this should come as no surprise to anyone familiar with Mariah Carey, who insisted on giving birth while listening to a recorded live performance of her own song, “Fantasy,” so she could hear her fans clapping for her.

But unlike most of us, Cannon was getting off on his wife’s singing long before they were married. In the same interview, he also told the world that he jerked it to the very same song, which might be the most loyal version of masturbation anyone has ever admitted to. After their divorce, Cannon admitted that sharing those tidbits had gotten him into trouble with Carey. Maybe telling the world that he needed two Mariah Careys to whisper in his ears might have contributed to their split. At least he has her music to keep him company at night.

 

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Tales of Rock – Nick Cannon And Mariah Carey Did It To Her Music

At some point in their lives (16-24), most people will make a sex mixtape — a collection of songs to set the mood during lovemaking. Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey had a playlist like that, only theirs was nothing but a loop of Carey’s song about how real heroes never go soft halfway through.

In 2012, during an interview with chain-smoking grandmother Howard Stern, Cannon revealed that when the then-couple had lovin’ on their minds, there was nothing that got the bodily fluids pouring like queuing up a couple of her tracks and going to town on each other. Their favorite Carey anthem? Her soft and sweeping “Hero.” Maybe it’s because of encouraging lyrics like And then a hero comes along, with the strength to carry on. Or maybe it’s because Cannon doesn’t have any music of his own worth listening to while you’re trying to bump uglies. Either way, this should come as no surprise to anyone familiar with Mariah Carey, who insisted on giving birth while listening to a recorded live performance of her own song, “Fantasy,” so she could hear her fans clapping for her.

But unlike most of us, Cannon was getting off on his wife’s singing long before they were married. In the same interview, he also told the world that he jerked it to the very same song, which might be the most loyal version of masturbation anyone has ever admitted to. After their divorce, Cannon admitted that sharing those tidbits had gotten him into trouble with Carey. Maybe telling the world that he needed two Mariah Careys to whisper in his ears might have contributed to their split. At least he has her music to keep him company at night.

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Signs You Rushed This Relationship

You can try and try to pretend you’re super speedy relationship moved at a super normal pace, but some signs that you rushed this are just unavoidable. The world doesn’t care how much you want it to accept this insta-boyfriend. Life has no concern with the fact that you’d like to just brush the past under the rug and skip ahead into the future. There are just certain practicalities and logistics that will come up, that make it so obvious that you moved too fast in this relationship. People can’t hide the looks on their faces when you tell them you’re living with this new man. The confused comments surrounding your Facebook relationship status scream the truth. You can try to lie to yourself and say, “We didn’t rush!” but you probably won’t believe the lie for long. Here are signs you rushed into this relationship.

You’re manipulating the numbers

You’ve been truly dating for three months, and now you live together. But when people ask how long you’ve been seeing each other, you say it’s been six months since you technically met six months ago. But really, that was one time, then you didn’t run into each other for two more months, or start dating for another month after that.

People are still asking about your breakup

People are still checking in to make sure you’re okay from your previous breakup. Friends are still giving you breakup baskets full of things like vibrators and funny cards about hating men.

You’re still dealing with logistics from your last breakup, too. You’re still splitting up stuff. You’re still getting your name off of his utility bills. You’re still negotiating what you’ll pay the landlord for breaking the lease you shared with your ex.

You’re getting hoards of mail to you and the ex. The postal service has not received the memo. No, sorry; your world has not received the memo. Heck, some of this mail was sent when you were still sort of with the ex, an arrived after you got with this new guy. You now how slow ground delivery can be.

FB memories are embarrassing

Facebook memories are a bit awkward. “This time last year…” you were on a cruise with your ex and his whole family. Oh and he proposed on that cruise. And you said yes! Now a mere 365 days later, you’re living with a new dude.

Distant relatives are behind on the details

You have some friends and relatives you only catch up with every few months. They, naturally, assume you’re still with the dude with whom you were living just a few months ago. So they bought a gift for him. They’re asking all about him. They printed photos for you, of you and him, from their last visit there.

Friends forget to invite him

Friends keep forgetting to invite him to things like dinner parties and birthday parties. In their minds, you’re a single woman. You have to ask, “Can I bring my boyfriend?” and they do a double take before saying, “Your boy—what?—oh, right, of course!”

People still try to set you up

Some people still try to set you up on blind dates. It’s never crossed their mind that since seeing you, two months ago, when you were devastated from a heartbreak, that you’d now be living with somebody new.

You’re justifying red flags

You’re justifying red flags left and right. You’ve had to be very good at coming up with excuses for the most troubling discoveries. You could practically be a criminal defense attorney at this point.

You’re waking up with anxiety

You wake up with anxiety, and you don’t know why. It’s not work. It’s not something with your best friend or family. Hmmm…what could that be…

How people respond to your moving in

When you announced you were moving in with this new dude, people said things like, “You know, if you need a place to crash until finding your own new apartment, you know you can stay with me.” They said that instead of, “Congratulations!”

The rescue is hesitant to give you a dog

You and this dude want to adopt a dog. When the rescue asks you to fill out a questionnaire, and reads your answer to, “How long have you lived at your current home?” they look worried. They fear your relationship isn’t yet solid enough to bring in a pet.

He’s not your wedding plus one

You got an invitation to a very close friend’s wedding and…you don’t get a plus one. Or, you do, but it’s just open-ended. It’s just a plus one. It’s not an invitation to you and this guy, specifically.

Some people never registered your breakup

You moved on so quickly from the last guy to this guy that some people were never even aware of you being single for any period of time.

You know his passwords but not his friends

You have his Netflix and Amazon Prime password, but you haven’t met his best friend. You bought a couch together, but you haven’t even had your first real fight yet.

Facebook and Instagram: The Silent Relationship Killers

As Generation Y-ers, you all use social media. It’s a way of life. Where would we be if we didn’t constantly know what everyone in our lives was doing? Social media is an excellent way to stay connected with our peers, but sometimes the use of social media sites, such as Facebook and Instagram, can lead to trouble.

Particularly, when it comes to relationships. When someone has easy access to their significant other’s photos, conversations, etc, it can lead to a bit of an obsession. Constantly checking in on your partner is never a good thing, and new studies are starting to prove that.

New research from the University of Missouri School of Journalism has confirmed that too much social media can screw up your relationships, to the point that excessive use makes relationship conflict more likely, which can then lead to cheating and breakups.

Um, no thank you:

“Previous research has shown that the more a person in a romantic relationship uses Facebook, the more likely they are to monitor their partner’s Facebook activity more stringently, which can lead to feelings of jealousy. Facebook-induced jealousy may lead to arguments concerning past partners,” says doctoral student Russell Clayton, who led the study. “Excessive Facebook users are more likely to connect or reconnect with other Facebook users, including previous partners, which may lead to emotional and physical cheating.”

This doesn’t just apply to Facebook and IG, of course. Chronic social media stalking of any kind is detrimental to a relationship. Learn how to trust, and learn how to put away your iPhone for a while. If you’re looking for something, I guarantee that you’ll create a problem.

 

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How To Date A Girl Out Of Your League

The following advice is important and has always worked for me. Good luck, gents!

In the romantic gamble of dating, you must have come across this idiomatic phrase – ‘way out of your league’. The phrase in the simplest of dating terms means that the girl whom you badly want to date or had Cupid’s luck to make your girlfriend is someone who is more accomplished, a stronger individual, more loved and adored by people, than you. Is your hope of dating a girl out of your league futile?

Every time you see her, walk with her and talk with her, you feel the world’s gaze on you. It’s as if you can almost hear them throwing dirty and incredulous looks at you that very clearly read – “How can he date someone who is way out of his league?” So, you end up with this unsettling feeling in the pit of your stomach –’ she’s way too good for me’ or ‘I am simply not good enough for her’. And you are convinced that your love interest is way out of your league and nothing will work between the two of you.

But before you start doubting yourself, let us let you in a secret – the most accomplished, beautiful, and gorgeous women often fall for men who like them for all the right reasons. These women know they have the power to make guys worship them, but they are looking for someone who looks beyond the gorgeousness. Now, if you are genuinely interested in dating a girl out of your league, we are here to help. If you are looking for answers on how do you get a girl who is out of your league, we tell you how.

How to tell if a girl is way out of your league

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She is someone whom every guy has set his heart on. They’d go to any lengths to date her and are willing to impress her with charming looks, money, and extravagant gifts. And you are losing your heart because you are just an average-looking guy. STOP! Don’t lose heart, not just yet, because you too have a shot at dating her.

Before you actually go after the girl of your dreams, you might want to decide if she is really way out of your league or simply pretending to be. Is she just an attention seeker who toys with many hearts at once?

Finding out if a girl is way out of your league actually varies from person to person depending on what skill sets, ideas, expectations, and behavior she outranks you in.

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6 ways to find out if a girl you plan on dating is out of your league
  1. Consider her looks: It’s a common dating behavior observed among people. They tend to pick dating partners who can match their own attraction levels. So, if you think you are less good-looking than her or are simply average-looking, then there is a chance she may consider herself out of your league. As shallow as the reason can be, that’s the brutal way the dating world works
  2. Consider her socio-economic class: This is the most common method taken by guys to figure out their leagues. If she is a rich girl walking around in expensive cars and designer clothes, she may consider ‘money’ as a deciding factor in dating. Keep track of her past relationships if any, and see what kind of guys she has dated in the past, and do a quick background check of their economies. However, that doesn’t mean that poor guys don’t date rich girls. You simply have to see if your rich girl dates poor guys or not
  3. Check her education level: For some girls, brains matter equally along with beauty. If she is far more educated than you, she will rule herself out of your league and date someone with similar educational background
  4. Try to know her lifestyle choices: In order to be compatible, you need to know if you share the same lifestyle choices and outlook towards life. If she is a fitness freak and you’re not, if she’s religious and you’re not, if she believes in the goodness of humanity and you do not, chances are slim that she will prefer dating you
  5. She never introduces you to people in her life: She agreed to be your girlfriend, yet somehow she has successfully dodged the occasion of introducing you to anyone from her social circle. That is your cue to know that maybe she likes dating you, but not that enough to introduce you to her friends and family. Chances are that she considers herself out of your league and you are not good enough for her
  6. She’s noticed more than you: It’s not as if you didn’t know, but the universe never stops reminding you. Whenever you walk out, she’s the one who easily blends with the crowd or strikes a conversation with total strangers. She is smiled at all the time and is often complimented more. She has a huge friends circle. Every time, she is the one overshadowing you and you are simply a dull spot in the backdrop

That’s how you slowly get to know that maybe she is out of your league. You weigh her, and then you weigh yourself on many parameters. Yet, the attraction remains and a part of you wants to date her, get to know her better, and even fall in love with her, even as your close friends keep telling you she is a girl out of your league.

So, what to do next? Do you simply let her go, or do you win your way into her league?

Definitely, gird your loins and try to win your girl. So here are 8 tips to impress the girl who is out of your league.

8 tips to date a girl who is out of your league

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We have seen many couples walking down the street or at a family dinner where the one question would always tug at our minds –” How did he manage to get someone out of his league?” So if you feel your chances of dating a hot, glamorous girl out of your league are grim, try out the below tried and tested tips while trying to woo a girl out of your league.

1. Get past her looks

A lot of guys want to date a good-looking woman only for the sheer fun of it – she is pretty and she can be arm candy. If you are really interested in her, ask yourself why would you want to date her? Is it because she’s hot or because you like the way she is? Of is it just to boost your social status, win a bet or make an ex jealous. That would be really cheap on your part, and you will not be successful.

But if you wish to date her to know her, and enjoy things that both of you like, then go ahead. Picture her in your head with a double chin and a few extra pounds – does she still appeal to you? If she does, you would always be sincere with her and that can make you win her, forever.

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2. Change your negative dating beliefs

Do not always limit yourself to the belief that girls date rich and handsome guys only. Ask any hot girl and she will tell you how shallow this all seems and how desperately she is looking for someone who’d like her beyond her looks! Someone who comes with just a rose but a heart full of love and eyes that gleam of affection. Someone who yearns to spend time with her, not the friends to show her off!

You must know someone who could prove this belief wrong and show that not all girls are the same. You simply have to rise above these negative beliefs and find yourself a dating partner, even if she is way hotter than you.

3. Get over the fear of rejection

Negative dating beliefs combined with the fear of hearing a ‘no’ push many guys out of the game of love. Step over that fear and pretend that she is ‘not’ out of your league. Some girls are haughty and rude, but not all girls are the same.

And you would have done your research on her before you’d actually made up your mind to woo her. Approach her with that make-believe courage and you’ll be surprised to hear a sweet ‘yes’.

4. Make the most of your friend zone

Sharing great friendships with women can actually give you more insight into what women really want. Your friends (who are girls) can actually help you drop your inhibitions around women and that way you move closer to her league. You will be surprised when you know that they are looking for simpler things in their life- not expensive cars and extravagant gifts!

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5. Treat her as someone special

The fastest way to win a girl is by making sure she is appreciated and is treated like a queen. Don’t just compliment her. Try to know the little things about her. What does she love doing when alone? How does she take her coffee? What does she fear the most? When you try to reach the real her and make her see how beautiful and special she is, there’s no way she will seem ‘out of your league’. She will seem like a really simple person beyond her clothes and reputation.

6. Be the real you

Don’t try to buy yourself into her heart by showering gifts, making extravagant promises, and making up stories about your life to impress her. Rather, be honest with your feelings. Talk about the genuine episodes of your life, ask her about her life. Share something real. Work on your sense of humor- which will stay with you even when other physical charms fade away. That will make her drop her league for you in the long run.

7. Build your self-confidence

Whether you make money, change your appearance, build six-pack abs, nothing is going to get you your girl until you work on your self-confidence. Get to the root of your insecurities and weed them out. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on grooming your own talents. Maybe she is better looking, but you are the better guitarist. So why not try to work on your guitar skills to impress her? She may be out of your league, but once you decide to run that extra mile and work upon yourself, you will be in her league.

8. Show her you’re good enough

Most guys put a lot of effort into getting the attention of the girl without having any plans to sustain it. Once you have the girl’s attention, make sure she gets to see who you really are. Always be a gentleman, treating everyone with respect and honor. Never show off and don’t be a jerk whom she doesn’t even want to see. Take your time in knowing her and always be cordial and warm towards her. Do not act desperate for attention. Do not stalk her or make her feel unsafe – just be around her when she is in trouble. Be someone she can rely on; not someone who cracks cheap jokes at the expense of others. She will definitely start noticing you if you make sincere attempts on getting her attention.

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Girls who are approached the most are usually not treated with much respect or are asked for sexual favours. Show her that you’re not like the rest and are not looking for a short term sexual fling.

Keep in mind the above tips and work on them if you are serious about dating. Who knows, the next time you walk down the street with your girlfriend, everyone has a tough time answering – “how did he find someone way out of his league?” But you sure know the nuances of attracting and dating a woman.

And, you just smile your way on.

Oh, and one final note that’s always worked for me. No one is out of your league if you’ve got good game and are confident in yourself.

If you’ve already succeeded and have met a lovely girl, I say well done, sir. You earned her!

 

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New Book Coming Soon: BELOW THE WHEEL

After publishing Angel with a Broken Wing last Summer, my next thought was… what do I do now? Go to the beach?

After much rumination, I decided to write another book. I wanted to create a thriller/detective novel that took place near Philly. Should I try to make the story inspired by real events?

Maybe.

I also wanted to make it about a couple of guys that were friends and decided to go into business together.

Alex Hunter and Scott Appel are two ex-investment brokers turned private investigators. Burned out from the competitive sales environment of buying and selling stock, they open the Watchman Detective Agency in Camden, New Jersey.

During an unbearable heatwave, the guys are caught up in a bizarre case. The Camden Strangler, as the media call him, has been murdering prostitutes in the area.

It’s a hard-boiled police procedural, using the classic Hitchcockian premise of the common man getting caught up in extraordinary circumstances. I wanted to explore some of the darker elements of life but seen through the eyes of lighthearted unique characters. I also wanted something with a shorter, timeframe than my previous book.

Below the Wheel takes place over two weeks in the lives of the characters.

I hope to finish it in the next few months.

Planned Release Date: June 22, 2021

 

 

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Does Ignoring Someone You Like Make Them Want You More? Experts Say It Can Backfire

One of the most fun parts about dating or talking to someone new is the “texting” phase. Every time you hear your phone’s message notification, it feels like a little electric shock runs through your stomach. But should you reply right away, or is it better to play it a little “cool”? There is definitely something to say about the idea of wanting what you can’t have, but does ignoring someone you like make them want you more? According to Connell Barrett, Dating Transformation founder and executive dating coach, straight-up ignoring someone you’re crushing on not only doesn’t look good, but it may even come back to bite you in the end.

“I would never endorse ignoring someone,” says Barrett, calling the behavior potentially “manipulative.” However, he adds that it is sometimes a good idea to give someone you’re interested in some distance to feel your absence. “It’s OK to give someone the gift of missing you — to give them space and let them think about you a little bit.”

This is especially true when you are first getting to know one another, says Barrett, when it may actually be the most tempting to just leave them on read or ignore them completely. “If you’re in the early stages of dating, you want to avoid being overly eager, because that can come across as needy,” he explains. But Barrett adds that this doesn’t mean you should be rude or play mind games. “Rather than ignoring someone, you want to cultivate a full, rich, busy life, and people who lead busy lives will give the person they’re dating space because they’re not always texting and calling,” he says.

The issue, Barrett explains, is that purposefully ignoring someone is a mind game, and it’s inauthentic, which can easily backfire. So, his advice is to stay busy instead of just pretending to be busy. “Instead of ignoring someone, which creates the appearance of a full life, cultivate an actual fun, rich life, and then you won’t have to use tactics like ‘ignoring.’ You’ll just be busy, which does make you more attractive,” he says.

Barrett stresses that when you are interested in someone, it’s all about finding a balance between letting them know that you’re open to dating without coming off as “too eager”. “Dating is a dance, and part of that dance is not to be or appear needy or over-eager,” he explains. “Actively ignoring someone might work in the short term, but it usually backfires, because if there are mutual interest and chemistry, it will just come across as ‘game-playing’ and manipulation.”

What Barrett is ultimately getting at is that, if you want a real connection, you might want to just be authentic with the object of your affection. Sure, ignoring them may work in the short term, but you’re actually short-changing yourself by simply creating the artifice of a full life instead of striving to actually have one. It’s also easy to get caught up in a lie. So, maybe just give the mind games a pass and go ahead and reply to their texts instead.

 

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The Weirdest, Creepiest and Most Annoying Songs of the 70’s – Part 4

If you were like me in the 1970’s you listened to top 40 radio most of the time. You heard a lot of great songs and instant classics. But among them were many unforgettable songs that were just weird or strange. I’ve tried from memory to remember the ones that stand out in my mind.

For weird reasons they became hits. They either made no sense or having any musical merit. Just a bizarre era of story songs.

Of course, this stuff is all pretty subjective but I did have a few criteria for what should be here. I decided to include a song if it:

    • made me sick without even listening to it again
    • made me want to break my radio
    • made my stomach turn
    • brought out violent thoughts of hatred, revenge, etc.
    • reminded me how lame the radio and record companies are
    • could make me want to break my stereo
    • would make me leave a bar or club if they started playing it
    • would make me boo a band who started playing it
    • suspended my belief in a divine force that governs the universe
I’m not saying that there weren’t ANY good songs during the 70s but there was just a truck-load of waste back then. If anybody’s stupid enough to think that ALL disco sucks, remember that it’s just a bastard son of rhythm & blues just like rock’n’roll is- so they’re related, see? Also, the 1970s definitely didn’t have a monopoly on shitty music- there was tons of crap unleashed on us in the decade before and after and now also (there’s a future article there somewhere). Clothes-pin anyone?

The 70’s was an interesting time for music. There was a lot of experimentation and creativity from that decade, but there was also plenty of crap as well. Here is my list of the worst and most irritating songs of the 70’s.

 

Tony Orlando & Dawn -Tie A Yellow Ribbon Round the Ole Oak Tree – 1973

In the history of ubiquitous music, none are more annoying than Tony Orlando and Dawn’s peppy, 1920s-retro brain worm of a song. In May of 1973, the record sold 3 million copies in three weeks, and the song received three million airplays in 1973. Lounge singers immediately added it to their repertoires, and washed-up crooners like Jim Nabors, Connie Francis, and Bobby Goldsboro recorded their own versions. By the following summer, CBS gave Tony Orlando and Dawn their own TV variety show, replacing The Sonny and Cher Comedy Hour.

My Ding a Ling – Chuck Berry – 1972

My Ding-a-Ling” is a novelty song written and recorded by Dave Bartholomew. It was covered by Chuck Berry in 1972 and became his only number-one Billboard Hot 100 single in the United States. Later that year, in a longer unedited form, it was included on the album The London Chuck Berry Sessions. Guitarist Onnie McIntyre and drummer Robbie McIntosh who later that year went on to form the Average White Band, played on the single along with Nic Potter of Van der Graaf Generator on bass.

I remember sitting in my friend RJ McMeans’s living room listening to records when somebody put this song on. Chuck Berry is a legendary guitarist and rock ‘n roller and he’s a brilliant artist. But when I heard this song, I was like… what the hell is this? Oh, it’s supposed to be funny. But it’s not. It’s juvenile.

We get it, Chuck. You’re singing a song about your dick.

No.

Half Breed – Cher – 1973

Half-Breed” is a 1973 song recorded by American singer-actress Cher with instrumental backing by L.A. sessions musicians from the Wrecking Crew. Recorded on May 21, 1973, at Larrabee Sound in Los Angeles. Lyrically, the song describes the life of a biracial girl from a white father and indigenous mother and it contains themes of racism and double standards. The song reached number one on the Billboard Hot 100, becoming Cher’s second solo number 1 hit in the US. The single was certified Gold in the US for the sales of over 1 million copies.

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Cher… you’ve made the list again. We get it. You’re hot, but you’re Armenian, not Native American. Just because your then-husband Sonny Bono used to refer to you as Pocahontas on your TV show, this all seems inappropriate. But as always… we love you and your outfits.

Alone Again (Naturally) – Gilbert O’Sullivan – 1972

“Alone Again (Naturally)” is an introspective ballad, starting with the singer contemplating suicide after being left at the altar after his bride deserted him, and then telling about the death of his parents. O’Sullivan has said that the song is not autobiographical, as he did not know his father (who died when O’Sullivan was 11) very well, and that his father had mistreated his mother. Also, his mother was still alive when the song was written. O’Sullivan later commented “Neil Diamond covered “Alone Again (Naturally)” and said he couldn’t believe a 21-year-old wrote it, but for me, it was just one song I had written”. Neil Sedaka was similarly effusive in his praise for the song, stating as he covered the song in 2020 that he wished that he himself had written the song because its complexity was more typical of a man much older than 21. The song is included on O’Sullivan’s The Berry Vest of Gilbert O’Sullivan album (2004) on the EMI record label. Big Jim Sullivan plays the guitar break in the original recorded version of the song.

I remember hearing this song non-stop everywhere I went in 1972-1973. It was a sad song that eventually got on everyone’s nerves. But, I will say this. It’s a very sad, and melancholy song about depression and loss. I’ve suffered from anxiety and depression most of my life and I always had a place in my heart for this song. Something about the sound of his voice brings forth the story in a compelling way. It belongs on this list not because it’s weird or annoying, but because it’s a very unique work by this artist.

Don’t Give Up On Us – David Soul – 1977

Soul is the “actor” from the hit TV show, “Starsky and Hutch” This is when anybody that was on TV thought they could sing and capitalized on their stardom thinking they could sell records. This clown can’t sing and he allegedly hit women. ‘Nuff said.

Da Do Ron Ron – Shaun Cassidy – 1977

Ahh… I loved his half-brother David in the early 70s. I watched the Partridge Family every Friday night after the Brady Bunch. David was hot and had amazing hair and was a heartthrob for years.

The song is the first collaboration in songwriting by Jeff Barry, Ellie Greenwich, and Phil Spector. The song was composed over two days in Spector’s office in New York. The title “Da Doo Ron Ron” was initially just nonsense syllables used as dummy lines to separate each stanza and chorus until proper lyrics could be written, but Spector liked it so much that he kept it. Phil Spector did not want lyrics that were too cerebral that would interfere with a simple boy-meets-girl storyline.  The rhymes of the opening lines, “I met him on a Monday and my heart stood still … Somebody told me that his name was Bill” was inspired by Bill Walsh, a friend of Spector who happened to visit Spector while the three were writing the song.

If you’ve ever wondered what in the hell “da doo ron ron” means, stop worrying: it means nothing. The phrase was apparently just a filler phrase that songwriters Jeff Barry and Ellie Greenwich put in the lyrics until they could come up with something better, and Phil Spector told them it was perfect as it was. Really, dude?

This clown comes along and decides he wants to be a star, and we have this mess. It’s awful. Somebody realizes David Cassidy has a cute little brother. Let’s make money off of him. He comes running out onto the stage in this clip in what looks like silky pajamas. He has zero stage presence and keeps flipping his hair. Just awful!

I remember my sister met some guy named Chuck who so wanted to be this guy. He even wore a white silk jacket with no shirt. A ridiculous fool that my sister hated. I remember that idiot came sniffing around my house looking for my sister and talking to me. He seemed like a jerk as he gyrated his hips in his dumb jacket thinking he looked like Shaun Cassidy. Please go play in the rip-tide, Chuck.

Oh, one final thing. Listen to how the English guy announces the name of the song at the beginning of the video.

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Let Her In – John Travolta – 1976

This is the 1976 debut single by John Travolta, the first release from his second album. It spent five months on the U.S. Billboard Hot 100, peaking at number 10. It also reached number 16 on the Adult Contemporary chart. On the Cash Box chart, the song peaked at number five. In Canada, “Let Her In” reached number seven.

“Let Her In” was released at the end of the first year of the four-year run of Welcome Back, Kotter, in which Travolta starred.

This song was his first and only top-ten hit as a solo artist in the United States, and the biggest hit of his in any country not to be tied to the movie Grease. It was included in his 1978 double-album compilation, Travolta Fever.

Vinnie Barbarino, one of the sweat hogs on Welcome Back, Kotter makes good. John solidified his stardom with that show, Grease and Saturday Night Fever. Travolta was a huge star for a minute back then. He later dissolved into a bunch of forgettable roles, but his career was later resurrected by Quentin Tarantino in 1994.

God… this song is terrible.

 

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Here Are Five Things You Do That Make People Dislike You

It’s not hard to make someone dislike you, whether you’re interacting online or in real life and there’s something you can do to not be that annoying person.

1. Humblebragging. That’s where you pretend to be self-deprecating, but you’re really saying something positive about yourself. People see through it, and it’s a turn-off.

2. Including a smiling emoji in work emails. Smiling in person makes people like you. But emojis can make you seem less competent. Especially in a professional setting.

3. Using an extreme close-up as your profile pic. According to research, four-and-a-half feet is the best distance between you and the camera lens. Pictures taken from a foot or two away make you seem less trustworthy.

4. Sharing too many photos of the same people. According to research, friends don’t like seeing too much of your family. And your family doesn’t like seeing too many friend photos. So you might want to consider a more balanced approach.

5. Never talking about yourself. Asking questions is a common tip we hear because most people like talking about themselves. But you CAN ask too many. And when you never talk about yourself, it’s harder for people to feel close to you.

 

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10 Most Notorious Hell-Raiser Rock Bands

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Rock ‘n’ roll, as a rule, is not built for the faint of heart. You can be a sensitive soul with a message to get across in your emotionally wrought lyrics, sure, but if you’re looking to live that life, you’ve got to be prepared for a little rough and tumble.

The travel, the expectations, the screaming fans – it can become pretty gruelling. And in such circumstances, it’s no surprise that some – most – rockers decide to kick back and party.

There’s indulging in a little carefree leisure time, though – and then there’s the extremes to which some of rock’s most legendary hell-raisers take things. The music industry is filled with tales of excess and wild behaviour, some of them funny, some of them impressive, some of them downright sinister.

The age of the degenerate, uncontrollable, pure id rockstar seems to be fading away – which may be for the best, given some of the legacies left behind – but with a century of hard hitting, fast living cowboys behind us, there’ll always be the stories to revel in, to be wowed by, and often appalled by.

10. Happy Mondays

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Few bands have caused so much chaos with such good nature as the Happy Mondays. As part of the Madchester scene of the ‘80s and ‘90s, hedonism was naturally on the cards, and the band embraced the chemicals as much as any raver. And then, they took things that little bit further.

The Mondays’ drug habit was such that they would burn through their record label’s money at an astonishing pace, a lifestyle which has led to several members of the band declaring bankruptcy post-heyday. The uber-mellow ecstasy scene of the band’s early period led to some great psychedelic throwback records.

Things got sinister when the hard stuff set in during the early ‘90s. In an attempt to wean the band off heroin, 1992 album Yes Please was recorded in Barbados, where Shaun Ryder successfully kicked his habit by transitioning onto crack. The sheer excess of this excursion led to the ruination of Factory Records.

Hearteningly, the majority of the Mondays seem to have come out the other side, and while one might argue that the modern mannerisms of Ryder and Bez show remnants of former drug use, the fact that they’re still in one piece, and still intermittently performing, is impressive indeed.

9. Guns N’ Roses

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In a heartwarming postscript to the band’s ‘80s heyday, Guns N’ Roses guitarist Slash now seems like one of the soundest musicians in rock. Always good for a quip and still clearly in love with what he does, he has, it seems, escaped a grubby scene unscathed.

Things seemed like they could go the other way for a long while. In the 1980s, as well as a brief stint as the biggest band in the world, few acts could have been consuming more booze and gear than Axl and the boys.

Slash took things the furthest when he briefly died in the early ‘90s after overdosing on speedballs. Resuscitated after eight minutes, it was the wake up call he needed – a scant 15 years later, he got himself clean. Bassist Duff McKagan, meanwhile, managed to drink enough that his pancreas was swollen to the size of a football by age 30.

Most worrying, though, was the behaviour of frontman Axl Rose. While less famous for his substance abuse, the man was a ticking time bomb for much of his career, challenging the entirety of Nirvana to a fight, ruining gigs with his time keeping and temper, and hiring and firing band members at will.

8. Led Zeppelin

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The band that wrote the rule book for rule breaking rock bands, Led Zeppelin had seen it all and done it all before most notable bands had picked up a guitar or a needle. Some of their exploits are classic tales of wild rockers; others are downright sinister and indecent. One thing’s for sure, though: few if any have cleared the bar that Zeppelin set over 50 years ago.

There are particularly famous anecdotes (the mud shark incident, which doesn’t bear repeating, for one), but the band was just excess personified full stop. The hotel room trashing, hard partying, fast living group was given its template by the success of Zeppelin, who only got more successful the faster they lived.

They all had their own vices – John Bonham, booze and fast cars; Robert Plant, ladies and eventually heroin; Jimmy Page, black magick and questionable romantic pursuits (to say the least). They flaunted their chaotic lives while putting out eight good to great albums in 10 years, which isn’t bad going.

They’ll forever be one of the most influential bands ever, but it’s debatable which part of their legacy is more important: the sound, or the decadence.

7. The Beach Boys

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The clean-cut California surf enthusiasts may not strike you as the hardest partying outfit, but between the precise harmonies and musical innovation was a shockingly dark side, particularly in its most talented and most charismatic members, Brian and Dennis Wilson.

Brian, the epitome of tortured genius, raised hell primarily in his own mind. With the weight of the group on his shoulders and feeling in direct competition with the Beatles, he pushed himself into increasingly ambitious works through unconventional means, turning his mansion into a recording studio and filling it with sand.

His drug usage made him a hermit for a while, but that streak of self destruction was more explosive in younger brother Dennis, who embraced the fast living sixties more than most. A major star before his 20s, there was no way he wasn’t going to embrace the lifestyle afforded to him by his group’s success.

So free spirited was Dennis that he allowed the Manson family, pre-murders, to crash with him for a long while, an association he regretted to his premature death. It doesn’t get much more literally hell raising than that.

6. Butthole Surfers

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The legendary Texas band thrived on pure chaos. Their records are brash and irreverent, at times impenetrable, others brilliant. Their live shows were known and loved for their visceral, unpredictable nature (which later became pretty predictable, with audiences showing up specifically to become embroiled in the chaos).

The band built their own mythology, telling anyone who would listen of their daily routine – LSD-laced cornflakes, whisky and gin being the regular diet for a six month long European tour – but they were no idle talkers. For those caught up in their drift, they were a frightening proposition, with concerts turning into orgies, brawls, or both.

The band’s music has been influential for heavy hitters like Kurt Cobain, but few since have been able to capture the sheer weirdness of the Surfers, who have burned enough bridges to sabotage a dozen careers, but always seem to come bouncing back,

Now well into middle age, the band’s core members have barely changed at all, still more than willing to catch a ban from various prestige festivals through sheer belligerence. Somehow, though, they always seem to bounce back.

5. Aerosmith

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You don’t get a nickname like “The Toxic Twins” without putting in some serious mileage. From the late ‘70s to the tail end of the ‘80s, Aerosmith’s Joe Perry and Stephen Tyler were unstoppably indulgent. Given their status in the scene at the time, they’ve partied to extremes few could afford to top.

Perry, for example, hired a roadie whose sole responsibility was to sort him out with a bump of powder during a performance. Aerosmith had no time for admin – they had the money to ensure that they were fully topped up at all times; they had only to enjoy the spoils of war.

Burnout was inevitable, of course, and the rampant self destruction led to infighting and a downturn in quality. Gigs were ended prematurely by Tyler, too blasted to notice they’d only just started playing. In due course, the band decided they had too good a thing going to let substances get in the way – they entered rehab, and came out an entirely different proposition.

Aerosmith are now the power ballad band, rather than a group of raucous rockers. And while their bank balance and their health have taken a step in the right direction, the danger and the riffs are long gone.

4. The Sex Pistols

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It’s no secret that the Sex Pistols, far from the new voice of gritty British discontent, were essentially a manufactured act. While they may have been the image-centric brainchild of Malcom McClaren, though, they used their status as the country’s most dangerous group to live faster and harder than any other boyband you’d care to mention.

The Pistols were pure combat, and codified much of what we now associate with punk: the antagonism, the spitting. Their gigs could turn into brawls, especially when they took the act to the USA, where crowds could be riled into launching glasses at the group, who lapped up the hatred like milk.

Chief among the miscreants was bassist Sid Vicious, hired for his look and attitude rather than his musical skills. While he didn’t contribute much musically, the band’s mythology resolved majorly around him. He attacked journalists, leapt with both feet into the heroin scene, and overdosed not long after (allegedly) murdering his girlfriend – a charming character all round.

They took on the monarchy and won (sort of), and brought unpalatable music and lifestyles to the mainstream. They may have been performatively outrageous (see: the Bill Grundy show), but few acts have made as much of a scene with so little time.

3. Robert Johnson

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Among the most mysterious figures in the history of rock, the famous Robert Johnson story purports that he sold his soul to the Devil in exchange for his legendary guitar prowess. One of the masters of the Delta Blues, Johnson’s relatively small back catalogue means it is his wild and mysterious life which is now better remembered than the music itself.

Johnson spent much of his brief time wandering the earth (or, more specifically, America), peddling his blues and enjoying the fringe benefits afforded to a musician of his calibre. He would form relationships in every town, staying with various women who knew nothing of one another’s existence.

Johnson’s (possibly apocryphal) demise only serves to add to his legend: it is said that the notorious womaniser was poisoned – by a jilted lover, a jealous husband, or a rival, no one can be sure. Historians suggest he may have died of boring old syphilis – which, given his lifestyle, seems believable.

Whether or not he bartered with Satan, Johnson was one of 20th century music’s first great wildmen, in a time when you could simply split town once you’d pushed your luck too far.

2. Mötley Crüe

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Quite bad Mötley Crüe film The Dirt shows the group being out-extremed by Ozzy Osbourne, who cheerfully laps up urine and snorts a line of ants to wow the Californian rockers. While that anecdote sees Ozzy come out on top, though, there can be few acts for whom partying took such precedence as the Crüe,

The lifestyle suited the quartet, who embraced every faucet of rock stardom from the off. More groupies, more drugs, more booze. The band’s increased status directly correlated with the scale of their partying. They behaved like monsters for a good decade, and got away with it because they were so popular.

Perhaps the most metal moment of their careers came when Nikki Sixx wrote the song “Kickstart My Heart” based on an overdose which led to his heart genuinely being restarted with adrenaline, allowing the Crüe bassist to join Slash in the “has been dead for a bit” club.

In one of the easiest gigs in journalism, author Neil Strauss got a book published simply by writing down all the grotty stuff Mötley Crüe got up to in the ‘80s, and it remains a classic of the genre – basically the Bible for bands whose ambition is to live the rock star cliche.

1. GG Allin & The Murder Junkies

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You know you’ve sealed your credentials as a hell-raiser when you’re far, far more famous for being an undeniably disgusting human being than you are a musician. You know you’re not in for a gentle night of cheery tunes when you go see a band called “The Murder Junkies”, but audiences had never seen anything like GG Allin.

Allin would appear on stage, undress, and swiftly soil himself – and that was for starters. Fights with audience members were routine, and if a Murder Junkies gig ended without the frontman filthy, bloodied, and in the bad books of the venue owner, then you’d caught him on an off night.

The music was secondary to the performance, but in his lyrics Allin was ever incendiary, cheerfully throwing in racism and misogyny, ostensibly to provoke controversy and debate, rather than out of any real hatred. Naturally, you’ll find few backers for his discography these days.

Allin died predictably young, and he went out as he would have wanted – with his unpreserved, bloated corpse taking pride of place at a funeral-cum-party, during which his friends got loaded and posed with the carcass. There’ll never be another GG Allin, and that’s probably for the best.

 

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