5 Signs You’ll Have Good Emotional Chemistry, Based On The First Few Dates

Most dates have the potential to be pretty bad. So why do we keep dating? Why do we keep signing up for an experience that often winds up being a letdown? Well, the answer is actually pretty obvious — when a date is good, it can be really good. There are usually signs you’ll have good emotional chemistry pretty quickly in the first few dates, but learning to interpret them properly takes practice.

That’s why even bad dates are a good thing, because according to relationship expert Susan Winter, “Reading the situation properly depends upon your level of experience with human nature, and dating.” She adds, “The more you date and the more you learn about people, the better your skills of discernment.”

But what exactly makes for good emotional chemistry? According to Sasha Aurund, social psychologist and founder of Psych N Sex, “Chemistry is the emotional connection when we feel ‘drawn to’ someone else. Our subtle behaviors and dispositions that positively connect with another individual keep a positive empathic loop going.” In other words, your date is picking up the energy you’re putting out and sending it right back your way.

While good emotional chemistry is more about a vibe you share than any actual biological function, there are some behaviors and specific feelings you get when it’s happening. Here’s how to know for sure if the chemistry is there right from the beginning.

1. You Feel At Ease With Them Almost Immediately

Meeting new people, even ones you’ve talked to online or on the phone, is always a little nerve-wracking, especially on a date. But the thing about good chemistry is that it can make those jitters melt away. When you’re on this kind of a date, you immediately feel comfortable. “Your new date’s energy and attitude puts you at ease,” Winters says. “There’s a palpable difference with this person, and it feels easy and natural to be in his or her presence.”

2. You Are Comfortable Just Being Yourself Around Each Other

One way to know you’re clicking is that the date doesn’t require too much effort. You can simply be yourself with someone you share good emotional chemistry with. “Your new date has the kind of vibe that allows you to be yourself,” Winters says. “You automatically since that you don’t need to edit yourself, your statements, or your attitude. You can simply ‘be.'”

3. You Have The Same Level Of Openness To New Experiences

One of the ways that you can tell that the good chemistry is something that will extend beyond the first few dates, according to Aurund, is a shared level of intellectual curiosity. In other words, are you both on the same page about being open to new experiences? She explains that “good emotional chemistry isn’t the same as having the same interests, but rather having a similar level of intellectual curiosity and wanting to try new thing – specifically with this person.” Aurund says that this is a big factor in your compatibility, because, if you have similar levels of openness, “you’re more likely to be open to trying new things, that you both will enjoy,” down the road. So it creates instant chemistry and bodes well for your future connection.

4. You Don’t Feel Pressure To “Sell” Yourself To Them

Sometimes dates can feel like a job interview. Your dating app profile was the résumé that got you the interview and now it’s time to show this would-be “love employer” why you should get the job.But here’s the thing — if you have good emotional chemistry, there is none of that nonsense. “You don’t need to ‘sell’ yourself,” says Winter. “In the past, you’d often feel the need to impress your new date. Somehow, in the presence of this person, you can simply relax and feel OK about yourself.” So, if you find yourself feeling the pressure to prove you’re worth on a date, get the check and G.T.F.O. — this person isn’t the one.

5. They “Get” Your Sense Of Humor

The most obvious sign of good chemistry is if they get your sense of humor and vice versa. “Whether you’re prone to sarcasm, wit, or just plain being goofy, a date [with a good emotional chemistry] understands your sense of humor and likes it,” explains Winter. Because what’s the point of spending time together if they don’t make you laugh or don’t get why you are hilarious in your own way?

How To Be Sure What You’re Feeling Is Real

Finding the holy grail of a good date is the best feeling there is. And, for the most part, you will know it when it happens. You can trust your gut. However, there is one thing to watch out for, according to Winter, and that is fooling yourself into seeing what you want to see. “We imbue our new partner with heightened qualities of intellect and interest. We color in the fantasy of our perfect partner as we create the design of what we imagine them to be. This is an aspect of the ‘new love haze’ that can occur, to a greater or lesser degree, for all of us,” she says.

If you feel like there is chemistry, but you want to be sure that it’s not just “love haze,” Aurund says the best policy is to just ask your date if they are feeling it too. “Usually, with chemistry, you know what you’re feeling and think you can safely assume that the other person is feeling it too,” she explains. “But the only sure way to confirm this, and save yourself a heartache, is to ask. You don’t need to ask in a way that sounds too pushy or direct if you don’t feel comfortable doing that. You can use subtle cues and smaller indirect questions.”

Dating can be hard, but when you find someone you really click with, wow is it totally worth all the work — so hang in there!

 

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5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care — Just by Being Mindful

Mindfulness is a practice that has been used for thousands of years to reduce stress and increase brainpower. But you can even use mindfulness to improve your relationships.

Just think, if you were to call your spouse right now and ask them, “On a scale of 1-10, how loved do you feel by me today?”Would they say 10? Probably not. But that’s no reason to worry. There are many different ways that you can show your partner how much you care without spending a lot of money or disrupting your work schedule.

Mindfulness is a simple technique shown in countless clinical trials as an effective way to boost overall health and drop stress levels. It has even been shown to change your brain! So, how can mindfulness help your relationship?

5 Ways to Use Mindfulness to Show Your Partner You Care

  1. Take a Breath. If you and your partner are like most couples, you disagree at times. You argue and sometimes (ok, most of the time) you hurt each other’s feelings. That is completely expected. However, over time, it can lead to resentment, hostility and even stonewalling. Practice mindfulness as a way to show your partner you care any time you feel frustrated with them. In that moment, just before you express your annoyance STOP. Take a deep breath in through the nose for 5 seconds, (1-2-3-4-5). Then, release the breath for 5 seconds out of your mouth (1-2-3-4-5) and as you do, change your reaction. Opt instead to just listen to your partner and let the argument pass if you are able to. That’s how you can mindfully avoid conflict and show them you care.
  2. Give a Compliment. When you get the chance, it is ideal to compliment your partner in order to support their healthy self-esteem. However, if you are not aware of the opportunities you may not take advantage of them. Practice mindfulness by focusing your attention on your mate, and when you can compliment them. Look for chances to tell them about their great work, good looks, loving heart and any other positive attribute. The rest of the world will do its job of focusing on your partner’s flaws — so, show them you love them by doing just the opposite.
  3. Silence Their Critic. One of the hardest parts about being human is the critic inside our own minds. That inner voice may say things like, “You’re not attractive,” “You don’t make enough money,” or “You’re fat.” But as a spouse or romantic partner, you can use your mindfulness to help silence that critical voice inside their head. Become more aware of moments when your mate may be paying attention to that “critic” with a loving touch during a stressful moment or a supportive comment when you know they are struggling. That’s all it takes to show them you see them and that you care.
  4. Avoid Triggers. In any relationship there are times when your personality simply clashes with the other person. This is common in romantic relationships just as much as any other. However, the special bond between romantic partners is one that should be honored with peaceful communication. Show your partner that you care by being mindful of their personal triggers. This may include some for anger, sadness, irritation, self-consciousness and other painful emotions. So, use your mindfulness to AVOID those triggers — at all costs! It may just save your relationship.
  5. Invite Them. Mindfulness can happen any time during your day or night and your partner doesn’t need to know you’re practicing a technique. But you can also ask them to join in with you during a mindfulness practice by trying something more engaging like the mind/body mindful practice of yoga, or even a simple breathing exercise. Inviting your partner into your mindfulness practice is a great way to show them you care and that you want them to also be more present in your relationship. This can help you to also cultivate a greater sense of peace between you.

Talking to a Relationship Counselor about Your Spouse

Your relationship might be one of the most important things in your life. And if you truly value it, you will put the relationship with your spouse at the top of your priority list. Consider talking to a relationship counselor about your struggles or how to approach communicating better by applying mindfulness to your relationship. In clinical studies, practicing mindfulness within romantic relationships was shown to not only help with satisfaction, but also reduce emotional stress, resolve conflicts and encourage a positive perception of the relationship. So, start with these 5 tips to be more mindful with your spouse. Then, also consider talking to your partner about including a counselor in your relationship to further develop your connection together.

 

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Find Out How Often You Should Communicate to your Partner while Dating

How frequent should communication be with one’s significant other?

Find out how often you should communicate to your partner while dating

How frequent should communication be with one’s significant other? Should you speak with them everyday? Would it be better if it was done more than once in a day or is there a more relaxed rule in deciding what is ideal in situations as this?

To speak of communication, or any other thing in a relationship, it is important to remember yet again that what works for one does not work for all, and that every different relationship is special and distinct in its working.

Take for example a long distance relationship; communication in such would logically need to be daily, and in as many intimate manners as possible because of the distance barrier and the need to stay linked in spite of distance. So one would expect a couple in this instance to be on phone calls, video calls, voice notes and every other type.

That kind of relationship necessitates such regular communication, right?

Not exactly.

We’re talking about relationships here: logic does not always apply.

And in the instance where both partners are cool and in their logic, then it’s all fine and good!

So as for communication or any other relationship thing for that matter, whatever works for you and your partner is what you should stick to.

As a general rule though, consensus seems to sort of stipulates that you reach out to your partner daily, no matter how brief it may be. This is based on the belief that speaking with each other helps preserve the bond between you. That line of thought is actually has merits,

That being said, it’s also OK fine to be unconventional and to do your thing how you like and how you deem fit. You don’t have to contact your partner everyday if you both do not subscribe to that life.

The caveat here, and a very humongous one it is, being that you should look for someone who has no qualms with this.

If you are both cool with this and it won’t cause rifts, you are in a good place. It is you and her after all, and outside rules do not apply except you decide to adopt them.

To the question of how frequently you should communicate with your partner, consensus says daily but if you and your partner say some more relaxed routine is what suits you and paves way to the happiness you’ve always sought, then you’d be doing just as great, too.

 

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6 Differences Between A Man Who Loves You And A Man Who Is Poisoning Your Life

6 Differences Between A Man Who Loves You And A Man Who Is Poisoning Your Life

Real love is very hard to find. It is even harder to know whether or not it is real when you deal with mixed feelings. But, deep down we all have that voice in the back of our head that will not shut up. Have you ever asked yourself whether or not the man you are with is there for the right reasons? In this article, we will give you the six differences between a man who loves you and one who is poisoning your relationship and wasting your time.

Serious vs. Interested

A man who is interested in you will talk to you when the times are convenient for him. This should be expected, if the relationship is new. But, if you two have been official for a while and he still only seems to talk when it is good for him, then it is obvious that he is not in love. You will know that he is the right man, when you take a step back and analyze your relationship, your interactions and your overall level of happiness.

Respectful vs. Tolerant

The real man, the man who loves you, will respect you and appreciate you for your strong opinions. But, on the other hand, there are men who will tell you that you are wrong or agree to let you think what you want, but without believing that your opinion is important as theirs.

Encouraging vs. Controlling

A man who loves a woman will encourage her to follow new opportunities and experiences. The real man may introduce her to a lot of new things, but the most important is that he will never force her into something she is not comfortable with.

Honest vs. Cruel

Men who love women will tell them what they need to hear. For example, if you ask him how you look in a pair of jeans and he tells you that you should change, that does not mean he is evil. He is just honest. But, if a man who tells you to lose weight, he insults the things you like, or your style. You should know that he does it because he does not respect you and knows that if he is talking to you like that, he can get away

Affectionate vs. Clingy

Do you want a man who will text, call and want to be with you 24/7? Some women think that this sounds great, but they should think better of this, because constantly checking up on you and needing the reassurance of their place in your life, indicates that he is in this more for himself than for you. A man who loves you will certainly let it show both emotionally and physically. A clingy man has emotional problems and wants to talk to you so he feels validated, not so you feel good

Protective vs. Possessive

It is natural to protect something you care about. In a case he keeps you in close sight and his arm around your shoulders while you two are out at the club, that is great. But, if he does not let you go anywhere alone or starts fights with men who try to talk to you, then he is possessive.

 

 

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Could You Be In An Abusive Relationship and Not Know It?

The following article was shared with me and I think it’s important for you to consider if you’re in an abusive situation, even emotionally. The article is written as the woman being the one abused but men can be the abused one (or you’re abusing each other), so don’t let gender stop you from seeking help. Read on for the definitions of abuse and what to do about it:

“The MEND Project is a nonprofit organization focused on creating awareness and ending “Double Abuse,” a form of abuse victims of physical, sexual or emotional abuse experience when they seek help among their support system (family, friends, spiritual leaders, counselors, doctors, teachers, etc.) and, rather than receive empathy and support, the victim is not believed, minimized, blamed and/or ostracized. The MEND Project was created to effect a movement to help victims of abuse, as well as those who are marginalized, so they can move from merely surviving to thriving.

When most women think about “intimate partner abuse” typically bruises or broken bones come to mind, but abuse is not always that black and white. In fact, the gray area of abuse can go undetected for months, sometimes even years or decades. It’s called “covert emotional abuse.” Prolonged abuse of this nature can result in very serious psychological harm, which can, in turn, manifest into serious physical illness. It is considered one of the most destructive forms of abuse, second only to life-threatening battery because it significantly impacts one’s perceptions, memories, thinking, and ultimately, sanity. Intended to exert control of another, covert abuse is difficult to identify and confront because it causes prolonged states of stressful confusion or is mistaken as unkindness.

Unkindness can be easy to sweep under the rug for a time by making excuses for your partner. You might overlook unkindness because your partner has a stressful job or is dealing with some other life problem. Or maybe they have tricked you into thinking it’s your problem and everything that goes wrong is your fault. Maybe your partner makes jokes at your expense or minimizes experiences or feelings that are meaningful to you. But you are not quite sure how to pinpoint the problem. In the back of your mind you know something is not right, but you’re confused and cannot conceive that your loved one might be intentionally manipulating you.

If this sounds familiar, you may be in an abusive relationship. The first step to healing is learning to identify and name the abusive behavior. If you can identify what is happening in your relationship, you become empowered and can then take the necessary steps get the help you need. Below is a list of the most typical forms of covert emotional abuse to help you identify exactly what is happening in your relationship.

1) Blaming & Reverse Blaming: Defensiveness or denial or phrases like “This is your fault” is common. Issues are mostly one-sided. If there is a persistent pattern of blaming, domestic violence is likely present. In reverse blaming, the perpetrator may convert the concerns or corrections of the victim into being her problem: “If you’d stop doing… then I wouldn’t ….”, or claims that you are too critical or sensitive.

2) Broken Promises: Making promises to do certain things or to change, then denying ever making them. Justifying not keeping promises or forgetting promises that have been made.

3) Cover-ups: Doing a molehill of good to cover up a mountain of bad. The abuser may volunteer at the local church or charity to make up for the abusive behavior at home.

4) Crazy Making Behaviors: Intentionally distorting reality for the purpose of making the victim feel confused or “crazy.” Typically, a mix of passive aggressive behaviors that are meant to deflect and avoid responsibility.

5) Creating a Cloud of Confusion: Telling false and grandiose stories to third parties in order to undermine objectively and manipulate the end result or outcome.

6) Deflection: Your partner refuses to authentically communicate. Instead they establish what can be discussed, withhold information, change the topic, or invent a false argument. All of these deflection tactics scapegoat the victim and stonewall resolution.

7) Denial: Your partner refuses to accept responsibility by living in a false reality. While denial can be a dissociative defense, when covert abuse is involved, he/she uses manipulation to dismiss that the abuse is happening.

8) Disavowal: Your partner belittles and devalues the importance of his/her abusive behavior, as well as of what you think or feel, both for the purpose of avoiding responsibility.

9) Entitlement: Your partner places unrealistic demands on you based on the belief that he/she deserves privileges, special treatment, or double standards at your expense. He/she does not value you while his/her own value is inflated.

10) Faux Confusion/Abusive Forgetting: A form of manipulation that allows your partner to not remember any solutions to problems or promises made.

11) False Accusations: A negative lie told to or about you. These are usually unexpected attacks based on fictional conversations, problems, or arguments. The accusations may have a thread of truth, but are completely distorted. They seem to come out of the blue for the purpose of shifting responsibility from your partner’s behavior to you to make your partner appear innocent.

12) Gas Lighting: Your partner alters or denies a shared reality to confuse you or make you feel crazy or doubt yourself. He/she may tell you that your reality is imaginary or inaccurate, and that no one will believe you or give any credence to your story.

13) Withholding: One of the most toxic and habitual forms of abuse. Your partner refuses to listen to you, denies you your experience, and refuses to share himself or his good fortune with you, putting himself first in all circumstances. He is stingy with affection, respect, and energy, disregarding your feelings, views, individuality, and personhood.

If one or more of these covert behaviors are present in your relationship you are being emotionally abused. Do not take this lightly. Do not make excuses for your partner. Even one single covert behavior in a repeated pattern is enough to be destructive to you and your relationship. Multiple patterns are exponentially harmful. Because of the subtleties of covert abuse, it can cause confusion and self-doubt. Your partner is likely working very hard to make you feel responsible for any abuse or negativity.

Steps To Take If You Are Experiencing Covert Abuse

1) Get Clarity: You are one step closer by just reading the descriptions of covert abuse above. Continue your research so you fully understand what is happening to you. Go to http://www.themendproject.com and read about the different scenarios of covert abuse.

2) Journal Abusive Behavior: Start noticing. Keep a diary or journal (that is safe from prying eyes) and begin documenting all the interactions that feel abusive to you in their varied forms. While you may need this data for future legal reasons, the main purpose is to see clearly what is happening, as moment-by-moment as possible. This document will help you get out of the swirl of stressful confusion and give you important feedback. Check these behaviors using The MEND Project website’s glossary of terms. You will also begin to notice the patterns that are occurring as you see how the abuse is repeated and the cycles within it.

3) Choose Wisely Whom to Confide. Be mindful of the potential for Double Abuse, which can occur when your support system that you confide in does not offer you empathy and support, does not believe you, and minimizes, blames or ostracizes you. Confide in a truly trustworthy family member or friend, who will listen without judgment or easy solutions, and offer validation and support.

4) Find Your Voice. As you become more and more aware of what is happening, you will become empowered to speak about your experience to others who can offer you help.

5) Identify Appropriate Intervention.

Work with an experienced therapist or social worker who is seasoned at conducting interventions that deal with abuse. DO NOT attempt an intervention on your own, with your children (even adult children), with your partner’s friends or family, or small group in which he is a participant. If those you approach to help you are unable to listen, validate, and support you, thank them for their time, and do not turn to them again. This is the time when your voice and your words need to help you hold onto the truth you have learned.

6) Couples Therapy or Not? Active abuse cannot be healed in conjoint therapy. Most therapists are not professionally trained to identify covert emotionally abusive behaviors. Abuse is not a mutual marital issue. Abuse is always a choice. It is never a mistake, and it is never the victim’s fault. Collaborative therapy can help support and empower the victim, as well as confront the perpetrator, provide accountability and support efforts to change.

7) Be Prepared to Enter Into a ‘Controlled Separation’ During Time of Healing. Separating serves two purposes. The first, establishes a firm boundary showing that the victim will not compromise or accept further maltreatment. The second, is to step away to gain clarity on what is happening in your relationship. It is harder to identify patterns when the perpetrator consistently adds new chaos into the relationship. Be prepared to experience retaliation. A controlled separation may help to thwart over reactions. You can learn more about controlled separations at http://www.liveabout.com/what-is-a-controlled-separation-1103153.

8) Extricate. If you are in a critical situation that you must extricate yourself from as soon as possible, follow these four steps for immediate help:

· Call the national hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) or find a local shelter

· Create an exit plan

· Have a separate, private cell phone

· Have cash and a bag packed

9) Batterer’s Prevention Training. If the perpetrator is willing to change, prolonged participation in a domestic violence batterers prevention program can be very helpful to take responsibility, deal with and change abusive attitudes, faulty belief systems, and patterns of harmful behavior. Batterers prevention programs do not only serve physical batterers. Emotional abuse is battery of the mind.

10) Couples Therapy After Intervention: If your partner completes a domestic violence training program, or is many months into a program and you can see significant changes, and you are not experiencing severe trauma symptoms, this may be a time to decide to work on the relationship while remaining separated. Couple’s therapy with an experienced therapist can be invaluable at this stage. Whether or not a victim can consider reentering therapy should be determined partially on the severity of their trauma symptoms. The risk of exacerbated trauma is important to not underestimate. Often the marriage union is incorrectly placed as the highest priority when the emotional and physical health of the individuals within the marriage are marginalized. Only 3% of all domestic abuse perpetrators are able to change their behavior.”

 

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3 Red Flags You Don’t Love Your Partner As Deeply As They Love You

Not every romantic endeavor has to be about connecting on a deep, soulful level. If you recognize these red flags you don’t love your partner, don’t think that means the relationship has gone to waste. We have to encounter all different kinds of people as we go through life, and each one of them teaches us important lessons about who we are and what we want. If this relationship wasn’t for you long term, that doesn’t mean that it wasn’t meaningful.

But if you know, deep down, that you are dating someone you won’t ever love deeply, it’s important to check in with yourself about your motivations for staying in the relationship. Are you afraid of what it would mean to be single or “alone”? Are you undervaluing yourself and what you have to bring to a relationship, thereby cutting yourself off from a relationship you might actually want?

If the answer to any of these questions is “yes,” then ask yourself what this person is giving you that you aren’t willing to provide yourself. You might find that you had everything within you all along.

Here are the signs that you are dating someone you won’t ever love deeply, and it’s time to reevaluate the relationship.

1. You Aren’t Speaking The Same Language

Communication is the cornerstone of any serious relationship. If the two of you aren’t on the same page about what you want moving forward — or if you haven’t even broached it at all — than both of you might have some avoidance about addressing where you are actually going.

Or, both of you might be doing a lot of talking that doesn’t actually get to what you both want. You might struggle to feel heard in the relationship, or you might be unable to hear your partner out when they want to talk about “where this is headed.” Serious conversations shouldn’t daunt you in a deeply loving relationship.

“The most important part of a relationship is communication,” said Three Day Rule’s date coach and matchmaker, Nora Dekeyser, to Elite Daily. “If you do not have this, you are not respecting each other and clearly don’t feel for the other as you do for yourself.”

2. You Fantasize About Breaking Up With Them

Every relationship has some ups and downs now and again, but if every down makes you fantasize about ending things once and for all, then that’s a major sign that you aren’t fully invested in the relationship. You’re imagining a way out for yourself because, subconsciously, you know that things would be better off for both of you if you called it quits.

According to relationship expert and bestselling author Susan Winter, frequently imagining leaving your partner is an indication that there is a “palpable emptiness in the relationship.”

There’s no reason to hang on to a relationship that isn’t feeding and nurturing you in the way that you need, either for you or for your partner. Both of you deserve to find people who can support you in the ways you want to be supported. Don’t put off finding what you really want in favor of complacency or comfort. Bitterness will soon follow.

3. You Feel Alone In The Relationship

I’m often baffled by stories of couples who are treating each other worse than their friends would treat them — and tolerating it. What is a relationship if not a deep, loving friendship between two souls?

“Love eventually turns into a true partnership between best friends that are also attracted to each other,” Dekeyser explained to Elite Daily. If your love has not transformed into such a stable relationship, then it might not have had a stable source from the start.

You don’t owe it to anyone to stay in a relationship where you aren’t happy — least of all to yourself. If these red flags ring true for your relationship, really take some time to ask yourself what you’re getting out of this partnership and whether it’s worth staying in it any longer or if there’s truly hope that things will work out.

 

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Sign inSign up 10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

According to Steve Harvey, the author of the popular novel Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, “A man’s love is expressed in three forms: he declares his rights for you in public, protects, and takes care of you.” However, a part of this saying can be doubted because, in our time, not all women need to be provided for or protected by men. What they definitely need is love. Unfortunately, sometimes women tend to see love when it’s not really there.

Sometimes a woman can feel that something is wrong without having to hear it from her partner. We gathered a list of 10 signs that a man’s strong feelings of love and adoration have faded. We hope that you won’t see these signs from your man, but it is important to know what to look out for.

Criticism of appearance

10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

Omar Khayyam said, “A person will like everything, even the flaws, of their beloved, but will be annoyed at the perfection of those whom he does not love.” For a truly loving man, you are always beautiful, even with messy hair and even in your oversized nightgown. He will not notice that you have gained a couple of extra pounds after the winter holidays if you do not say it yourself. But if your man constantly tells you to go to the gym or hints that you need plastic surgery, do not rush to indulge him. It is most likely that it’s not your appearance that doesn’t suit him but you yourself. And even if you lose weight, he will find other faults in you.

Discussing your shortcomings with friends

10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

Women tend to discuss problems in relationships or their partner’s shortcomings with their friends, while men try to keep everything unspoken. No one is perfect but truly loving people focus on the advantages of the partner instead of focusing on the flaws.

If your partner allows himself to publicly humiliate you and laughs at your failures, do not expect anything good from such a relationship. Such a partner doesn’t respect you, and a strong and reliable union is impossible without respect. By criticizing you with other people, he unconsciously tries to prove to others (and himself) that it’s your fault that he stopped loving you.

His attitude toward your habits

10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

Women like to complain about men’s socks scattered around the house but they also sometimes have annoying or strange habits. We like to occupy the bathroom for 2 hours and chat with our girlfriends as much as possible, fill the wardrobe with unnecessary stuff, eat from our boyfriend’s plate, or keep singing the same song all day long. Loving men, as a rule, endure all this and remain silent or react with humor. If your man is constantly scrutinizing every little thing you do and making negative comments about your behavior, it means that the only feeling he has left is irritation instead of love.

Attentiveness to your stories

10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

Scientists have proved that a man is able to listen to a woman attentively for only 6 minutes. That’s why, ladies, the next time you plan to have a conversation with your beloved, keep it short. The topics on which it is very difficult for a man to concentrate are unfamiliar people, celebrities, shopping, fashion, and diets. If possible, it’s best to discuss these types of things with your friends.

And yet, if a man sees that something is very important to you, he will make an effort to listen to you attentively, even if this topic is completely uninteresting to him. When he loves you, he won’t leave you without attention. But if he keeps changing the topic or runs away using different excuses whenever you try to talk, most likely, your worries do not bother him. Accordingly, he is not going to participate in the resolution of any issues that may come up during the relationship.

His attitude toward your emotions

10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

Men absolutely cannot stand women’s tears. And recently, a scientific explanation has been found: it turns out that female tears contain special volatile substances that lower the level of testosterone in the blood of men which leads to a decrease in sexual desire. So do not use crying as a means of influencing your beloved often.

In fact, when you cry, the only thing a man wants to do is run away and not see it. But if he loves you, he will pull himself together and do everything he can to try to comfort you even if the reason you’re crying seems trivial to him. He will calm down only when you start smiling again. However, if he doesn’t love you, then your tears will be just one more reason to get angry at you.

Flirtatiousness

10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

Flirting is very good for relationships. This is a great tool to revive feelings and overcome routine when you have been together for a long time. Text messages, intriguing hints, playful photos — all this helps rekindle mutual interest, as in the first days of the relationship. Of course, it is very important that both partners actively respond to each other’s advances.

However, if you have already sent 10 erotic selfies in different poses to your partner and have been coming up with new lines, but the reaction from your man is zero, stop doing it. Or consider what could be causing your partner to ignore your advances.

His reaction to requests

10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

For a loving man, the requests and wishes of his beloved (not friends or distant relatives) will always take first place. In fact, men like to help women — this gives them the opportunity to demonstrate how cool, strong, and responsible they are. Of course, there are situations when a man cannot help, for example, he does not know how to repair a faucet, but he certainly should not leave you alone to deal with this problem — he will call the plumber, instead. However, if the most innocent request, like asking for help changing a lightbulb, is perceived with annoyance and as just “yet another unbearable task,” the relationship is worth reconsidering. Is it possible that your man is helping some other woman and with greater enthusiasm?

Jealousy

10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

It turns out that even monkeys are able to feel jealous of their partners around other males. Jealousy arose in the course of evolution as a way to maintain the integrity of the couple. A man is wired so that subconsciously he wants to declare his rights to a woman and to be the only “owner” of her beauty. Therefore, it is quite natural that your man starts to get nervous when someone pays attention to you. But people, of course, are not monkeys, and bouts of excessive jealousy will only harm the relationship.

But when a man is absolutely indifferent to the signs of attention that other men show his lady, this is an alarming sign. He no longer wants to fight for her and doesn’t want to try to become better to stay the best for her.

Protection from danger

10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

The need to protect their loved ones is also the basis for men while the need to be protected is the basis for women. And although modern men no longer have to protect the weaker sex from predators and wild tribes, there are still dangers in our troubled world. Therefore, it is pretty natural that a loving man becomes worried when his second half comes back from work late or is alone in an unfamiliar place. If he cannot be around, then he’ll at least call her and make sure she’s fine. By protecting a woman from threats, whether real or imaginary ones, a man feels like a superhero.

Therefore, if you do not get protection and support from a man in difficult situations, such as having to walk home alone at night, getting lost in an unfamiliar city, or getting yelled at by your boss, this is a very bad sign. Your chosen one is either a coward or simply doesn’t like you. Why do you need him then?

Gentle words and expressing feelings

10 True Signs That Your Man Has Stopped Loving You

The language of love consists of tender words, touches, hugs, and kisses. When we call a partner things like “sweetheart,” “darling,” or “dear,” we create a special intimate atmosphere. The choice of affectionate names occurs unconsciously and shows how one partner relates to the other, who dominates the relationship, and how well they are balanced.

By the way, men need all this lovey-dovey stuff just as much as women do. Researchers from the US interviewed 1,000 married couples and found that those husbands who often kiss and hug with their wives feel 3 times happier in a marriage than those who don’t.

So if your man frowns every time you try to hug him and call “sweetheart,” the reason is not his natural male rigor. As sad as it may sound, his feelings have probably faded away.

What type of behavior do you think is the most upsetting? Tell us in the comments!

 

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