5 Types of Men Women Find Attractive

Pop culture and online forums have depicted this vision of idealized masculinity that we think we need to become in order to be lucky in love.

If you want the people you ask out to say yes, you need to strive to be the perfect man — handsome, muscular, rich. A real man’s man, essentially. And frankly, If you’re all of those things already, you probably don’t spend too much time reading posts about how to get more people to swipe right on you.

The real truth about dating success is that, because everyone wants something a little bit different, your best bet isn’t to transform yourself into a totally different person. Instead, you must find the best version of yourself and work on becoming that.

Yes, there’s more than one type of dream guy. You might know that already, but it’s genuinely something that lots of guys don’t seem to realize.

Meaning, in a room full of 30 guys all trying to be the same guy, the guy who goes in the opposite direction is going to have a whole lot more success on dating apps. Why, you ask? Well, because all the people who find that confident macho man thing a little over-the-top and are looking for something different will notice him immediately.

If you’ve been wasting time wondering how you’re going to be the type of suave, classically attractive guy who could become the spokesperson for a cool beer company, it’s time to switch up your thinking. Instead of that, you need to figure out what the most date-able version of you is, and work on becoming that guy.

To give you something to shoot for, here are five types of guys who don’t struggle to get dates. Sure, they might screw those dates up or leave a trail of burning wreckage behind them as they screw over one partner after another, but each one of these men possesses desirable traits that make people want to go out with him — and make people willing to overlook his other flaws.

1. Wise Guys

The phrase “wise guys” has a number of different meanings, so it’s important to clarify what’s meant here first. This isn’t mafia-style “wise guys” at all, it’s not the biblical three wise men and it’s not sarcastic guys, like, “Oh, you’re a wise guy, eh?”

What’s sexy are really, genuinely wise guys — guys who have wisdom. That means you understand the world, you’ve seen things and learned from them. It means you know that speaking is less important than listening, and you’re not one to make rash decisions.

Wisdom is often associated with age … and surprise! Lots of people find older guys sexy. Perhaps you’ve heard that the word “daddy” has sexual connotations these days?

But you don’t need to be greying at the temples, or bald and out-of-shape in order to be a wise guy. You just need to be someone who’s thoughtful, knowledgeable and willing to share what he’s learned.

Attempt to be a wise guy if: You’re experienced, knowledgeable, confident

Don’t attempt to be a wise guy if: You’re insecure, young, hot-headed

2. Fun Guys

Lots of dating advice advises guys that the best way to their crush’s heart is to make them laugh. And there’s some truth to that — if you can make someone laugh, there’s a good chance they think you don’t totally suck, which is a step towards attraction.

But the upshot of all that “funny is sexy” talk has been that some guys think flirting should be some kind of joke-based target practice … and that is not sexy. Nobody wants to feel like you’re funny-ing them to death.

What’s really sexy is fun guys. Guys who are fun to be around. And that can take many forms — the guy who’s always planning parties, down for anything, lives and breathes stupid puns, or the guy who’ll immediately befriend half the room at a party before the night’s barely begun.

Attempt to be a fun guy if: You’re friendly, funny, spontaneous

Don’t attempt to be a fun guy if: You’re self-serious, egotistical, stand-offish

3. Successful Guys

That’s not to say that serious can’t be sexy, either. You may have heard that celebrities are attractive, and a big part of that is that, well, success is sexy.

When you can do things that other people can’t do — when you can blow people’s minds, drop people’s jaws or make them stop and stare — you’re going to have a much easier time dating.

That doesn’t mean that being good at anything will do, of course; the world’s most talented male roller-blader isn’t necessarily swimming in first dates.

But a guy who’s good at something and who has translated that talent into tangible success? Who’s won awards, nailed down impressive jobs and made big money? That guy is sexy.

Attempt to be a successful guy if: You’re good at something, you’re driven, you’re ambitious

Don’t attempt to be a successful guy if: You’re easy-going, allergic to stress, unable to commit

4. Generous Guys

It’s clear that rich guys are sexy, right? Or are they? The idea that rich guys are some kind of dream catch comes from a mistaken idea about what, specifically, is desirable in a rich guy.

Money alone isn’t it. Rich guys are often sexy because they’re successful to begin with, and the possibility that they’ll spend those riches on you is tantalizing. But what that means is that it’s better to be a generous guy with not a ton of money than a selfish jerk with wads of cash.

That’s because generous guys are dream dates no matter how much money they have. They’re thoughtful, they’re kind and they care about other people’s experiences and feelings. This is the real dream — someone who’ll get you flowers, who’ll help you move and who’ll pay for dinner.

Attempt to be a generous guy if: You like making people happy, giving gifts, doing things for others

Don’t attempt to be a generous guy if: You’re selfish, ego-centric, hate splurging

5. Healthy Guys

There are lots of ways you can be healthy. Often, guys imagine this category filled with muscle-bound macho men, but the truth is that the oiled-up brolic bro is really only attractive to a very small number of people.

What’s really attractive? Guys who know how to take care of themselves. That could mean muscles, sure, but it could also mean great cardio, a healthy diet and no substance abuse.

It could also mean you know how to take care of yourself in the emotional sense. This is something a lot of guys struggle with. Talking about our emotions and processing our feelings is just not something most guys are taught growing up.

But if you’ve been able to overcome that hurdle — if you’ve been in therapy, if you’re comfortable crying here and there, if you’re not afraid of tough emotional conversations — you’re really quite the catch. It’s the 21st century; cavemen are very passé.

Attempt to be a healthy guy if: You’re well-adjusted, in good shape, love the outdoors

Don’t attempt to be a healthy guy if: You’re dishonest, always angry, over-rely on drugs or alcohol

No matter who you are, there’s a version of you who’s capable of going on lots of dates. You could worry that you’re undesirable in any number of different ways, but there’s more than one way to be sexy — and once you figure out which way works for you, you’ll be well on your way there.


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The 6 Real Reasons Men Usually Leave Women

It’s not what you think.

When partners are in agreement that they both want to move on, those endings are just part of life, and both people are willing to try again with someone else. It’s different when the decision is one-sided. If only one partner wants the relationship to continue, while the other is ready to end it, the person left behind is often left struggling to learn how to deal with a breakup and get over their heartbreak, while the other must bear the guilt of leaving.

Most people who leave a relationship are ready to move on. But some, after time passes, begin to regret their decision.

Once they have put the negative aspects of that past relationship behind, they begin to miss the good times. Haunted by having left someone they perhaps truly loved, they wonder if they should have tried harder to make the relationship work, and begin to search for that lost love.

They may find that their past partners are no longer available, and so they’ve missed their chance. But sometimes they find out that a past love is unattached, and the possibility that they might have another chance awakens a compelling desire to try again. Even if their feelings may no longer be reciprocated, they cannot walk away without finding out.

Partners who want to reconnect with an old love they’ve once left must make certain they understand what went wrong between them. Knowing whether their own characteristic behaviors were the problem can make the difference between succeeding or failing the second time around.

Over the years, I have made note of the most common reasons why he left you and abandoned your relationship prematurely.

1. He has a fear of commitment.

The fear of commitment is one of the most common reasons people cite for leaving relationships. Those partners have difficulty understanding the difference between commitment and entrapment. They often feel pressure to make promises they may not be able to keep, especially on the other end of someone who is ready for a long-term relationship.

If one partner feels that the other wants a commitment and isn’t ready, he or she will sense that desire as a potential trap. Feeling locked into a relationship that might lose its allure feels too scary.

When a relationship no longer has new discoveries to experience, has continual conflict, or loses its attraction, most people pull back their energy and resources. The fear of commitment will logically become a fear of entrapment when relationships stop evolving and regenerating.

People who see commitment as entrapment may not be able to imagine a long-term relationship that doesn’t feel potentially confining or obligated. If they go back to a relationship they once left behind, they must redefine and resolve that fear, or the same behavior will likely recur.

2. He lacks the readiness for a long-term relationship.

Many people feel unable to stay in a permanent relationship because they don’t feel wise or experienced enough to promise a future they cannot foresee. They don’t know themselves deeply enough to predict what they might want someday and are not ready to stop exploring other alternatives that might be better.

This inability and unwillingness to foresee what might happen is natural in young adults, but older people can also feel unable to predict who they might yet become. It is not wrong or necessarily immature to opt for pleasure, to choose a life of continuing adventure, to embrace constant new discoveries, or to enjoy novel situations.

There are quality people who should never be in a long-term relationship. Though those intertwinements offer security, shared memories, and mutual dreams for the future, they require that both partners maintain their devotion and continue to regenerate their love.

When people want that security but cannot give up their freedom, they must ultimately make a choice. They may leave relationships that feel wonderfully satisfying but anticipate they will need to move on someday.

3. He wishes to go back to an unfinished relationship.

It is totally possible to love more than one person at a time. Many people leave relationships, even though they still have strong feelings for the other person, to recommit to a new partner. They rationalize leaving because there were just too many problems, or they felt unfulfilled.

After time elapses, the partner in a new relationship begins to face a new set of problems. He or she begins to remember the magical moments of their past love.

Negatively comparing the present relationship to the one that’s gone, memories pervade consciousness, and the present relationship dims in importance. The desire to go back to the old love intensifies, and the present relationship becomes a casualty.

4. He doesn’t have faith in successful long-term relationships.

Childhood experiences compounded with sequential adult interactions heavily impact the trust anyone has in whether a long-term, quality relationship is even possible. Many people, for example, have parents who failed to stay together, often through disastrous interactions and painful outcomes.

When people allow their past experiences to determine their future options, they will love the romantic phases of new relationships but become easily discouraged when the lust/discovery/honeymoon period wears off. Instead of energetically embracing that next emerging state of deeper friendship and commitment, they begin to focus on what isn’t going right.

People become what they anticipate and get better at those choices as they practice. If they are looking for problems, they will find them and assume they are unfixable. Their basic, underlying unconscious mind tells them continuously that all relationships are eventually doomed, and they begin to make that a self-fulfilling prophecy.

To make an old relationship work, those naysayers must change their ways of thinking by understanding where their attitudes came from and how those limitations have affected the outcomes of their relationships. Otherwise, going back to lost loves after breakups will not work any better than it did the first time.

5. He prefers to choose easy over challenging.

Long-lasting, successful relationships take work, and the partners within them don’t shirk that commitment. They know that their continuing regeneration is absolutely dependent on continuing to care deeply about each other and the relationship.

When relationship seekers don’t understand that basic principle or aren’t willing to put in the effort, they often pick partners who don’t ask much of them. The relationship doesn’t need much but also doesn’t offer much in the long run.

Boredom is often the result of a too easy, too predictable relationship, which may be why he left you. All human beings seek security, but also need novelty and challenge to be at their best. When relationship seekers opt for easy, they risk becoming involved in a relationship that will cease to hold their attention.

As boredom increases, many partners will seek novelty and excitement outside the relationship. The couple begins to spend less time and energy on the relationship, and the distance between them increases.

6. He lacks the skills to transform romantic feelings to deeper love.

When love is new, it is often spectacularly intense and magically seductive. New lovers are spellbound — enraptured and captured by the experience of each other. Both put their best feet forward, keep their liabilities hidden, and devote themselves selflessly to the needs and desires of their new partners. They willingly put all other involvements on the back burner, offering all of their resources first to each other.

People who have not learned the skills to transform their romantic feelings into deep love and conviction come to a halt when the love/lust part of the relationship naturally wanes. They have had either the unrealistic expectation that those feelings should always be there throughout the length of a relationship, or have never known the wonder of deeper love.

When they are no longer enamored and caught up in the seductive process of new connection, they fear that they will never experience those feelings again.

Before anyone tries to go back to a prior love, they must look deeply into their own reasons for why they chose to leave before.

Do they pick the same kind of partners that will never work, no matter how hard they try? Do they feel that any permanent decision in their lives is doomed to end in entrapment? Are they just not long-term relationship material? Do they always regret their past decisions? Do they have faith that any long-term relationship will work? Do they pick people who don’t challenge them, so they don’t have to think about long-term decisions? Have they never learned the skills to transform new love into mutually committed treasuring?

There are re-connections that do work, and beautifully, but those are the exceptions, not the rule. The chances of success are much greater if people know why they left, have changed their behaviors, have learned the skills to do it better the next time around, and have a willing partner at their side.

When a person is ready to do those things and has a welcoming, accepting partner, I have personally observed the heart-warming sweetness of these rekindled loves.

Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor. Her free relationship advice e-newsletter, Heroic Love, shows you how to avoid the common pitfalls that cause marriage problems, breakups, and divorce.


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How to Have a Great First Date: 15 Things that Impress Every Date

First dates are scary, infuriating, exciting, and full of unknown conversations, events, and more. But here is how to have a great first date.

First dates are scary, I know. I have actually gone on quite a few recently and have learned a lot. So much goes into knowing how to have a great first date. Because there is a lot that can make a first date great and a lot that can make a first date pretty awful.

Why are first dates so weird? Well, you are stuck with a person that you probably barely know, and there are always expectations. We all know what we want out of a first date and when the date doesn’t meet that expectation, things can go downhill pretty fast.

What is a great first date?

Before we get into the nitty-gritty of learning how to have a great first date, let’s talk about what a great first date is to you. Not everyone’s idea of a great first date is created equal.

Some people like a low-key chat while sipping coffee. Others prefer doing something adventurous or spontaneous. So, it is up to you whether you would rather be comfortable or risky.

Before even going into a first date, plan a date you’ll enjoy. Do you think a great first date is laughing all night? Does it include dancing or making out? Are you looking for a fun night out or a long term commitment?

Although what we think we want is not always what we actually want, going in with some idea of what you’re looking for will help prevent a bad date. And that is a good start to a great first date. 

How to have a great first date

Now that you know what you want out of a first date, know that there is a small chance that your dream first date will become a reality. I do not want you to go in with a negative mindset, but remember that first dates are completely unknown.

Before even getting to your meeting spot, be aware that things may not go as planned. That is okay. Some of the best first dates are the ones that started out bad.

But, if you follow these tips, they can certainly help you have a great first date.

#1 Be yourself. I know this is what everyone says, but people keep saying it because for some reason none of us actually do it. Yes, we all put our best foot forward on a first date, just like we do in a job interview. Remember this is not a tryout.

This is a chance to get to know someone and have them get to know you. Whether you are hoping for something more long term or are just casually dating, I guarantee both you and your date will have a much better time if you are comfortable in your own skin. 

#2 Balance talking and listening. As someone who has consistently been told I talk too much, this is one that is important to pay attention to. You do not necessarily realize that you are talking too much until you have already done it.

Have some questions on hand to show your interest in your date. And remember not to blurt out the first thing you think in response. Let your date stir the conversation for a while. 

#3 Be honest. We all want to impress our date, especially the first time you are meeting. This is why we wear our best outfit and double check our hair and our teeth beforehand. But, you do not want to lie to make yourself seem more interesting, successful, or cool.

If you tell your date you can play guitar, but you can’t, if things move further they will find out you lied. We all have parts of ourselves we may wish were more impressive, but sharing the good, bad, and ugly is what lets you know if this person is really interested in you, not this front you are putting up.

#4 Have a buffer. A buffer for a first date can come in many forms. After a few bad dates, having one just in case will make you a lot calmer going into the night. There is a small chance you will actually need to use it, and most likely you won’t even think about it once you walk through the door.

A buffer is essentially a security blanket for a first date. It can be having a friend call you a half hour into the date with a fake emergency. It can be a go-to story to change the subject or any excuse to get out. The date itself can be a buffer. If you go get drinks, you can go in saying you can only stay for one drink because you have a pile of work at home. 

#5 Remember it is just one night. If you are anything like me, you cannot help but overthink everything. You analyze all your conversations and think about the future way too prematurely. If I agreed to a date with someone, I tend to consider what a relationship would look like with them, but why?

This way of thinking made me get so worked up for a first date. I would be so nervous and expect so much. Instead, remind yourself this is one date. you may be desperately trying to figure out how to have a great first date, but if it doesn’t go well, so what? And if it does, great. No matter the outcome it is not the end of your dating life. A couple of hours on one evening will not make or break you.

#6 Be aware of red flags. Some of us are too picky. Others overlook things we probably shouldn’t. If your date calls their ex crazy, do not just let that pass. They may have a hard time taking responsibility for anything they do wrong.

If they make a sexist joke you feel uncomfortable about, don’t think it wasn’t that bad. If this person lets these small red flags show on a first date, it is almost a sure thing they will get bigger and bigger as time goes on. As much as you should relax and have fun, do stay aware. 

#7 Do not drink too much. It is easy to drink too much on a first date. A drink helps reduce your nerves and you feel more comfortable and calm. But once you get to that third or fourth drink and you have yet to eat anything, things could go south quickly.

Not only could you make a fool of yourself, but when you are inebriated with a stranger, a lot of things can go wrong. As I said, you want to have fun, but you also need to stay in a clear mindset.

#8 Avoid negative topics. I am a firm believer in sharing who you are on a first date. There is no need to beat around the bush. If dating someone with the same political views as you is important, bring it up. But, try to keep the topic positive.

I am not saying you can’t talk about deep or heavy topics, but this is a first date, so try to focus on the positive. If you are talking about politics, instead of complaining, talk about the good your party is doing or the growth that you have seen. If you need to talk about your ex, focus on what you learned from that relationship instead of your ex’s faults.

#9 Lose most of your expectations. You will notice I said to lose most of your expectations, not all of them. Why? Because it is nearly impossible to do so. We all have expectations when we go into a first date. We want to get along. We want a second date. We want to have a good time.

Those expectations are perfectly fine, but when you are expecting them to pay, to agree with your way of thinking, to be your perfect match, or to be a dud, your ideals get in the way of the actual date. Hold onto what you want and need from a date, but let go of the unrealistic and specific expectations you may have created. 

#10 Have self-respect. This has nothing to do with kissing or sleeping with someone on a first date. If that is your choice and they consent, go for it and have some safe fun. But if this person is criticizing your job, your success, your looks, or anything that makes you feel less than, leave.

Remember you do not owe this person anything. Sure, we should respect everyone, but if they aren’t showing it to you, do not sit through a stranger attacking your personality, religion, or any other choice. You deserve to be respected. If they don’t respect you, respect yourself and do what is right for you by leaving.

#11 Stay open. We all have a list of things we want in a partner. Even if you say you don’t, you do. Somewhere deep down you do. You want someone tall and funny and successful and close with their family, etc. But try not to write someone off just because they don’t check that box.

You never know what has led to this person’s decisions or place in life. Just because they may not be close with their family, like you, it does not mean you wouldn’t be wonderful together. Keep an open mind.

#12 Have fun. It is easy to get sucked into all there is to worry about on a first date. Is your outfit right? Do they share your ethics? Are they polite to the waiter? There are a lot of things you may automatically focus on, but let the first be fun. Whether you are a match or not, you can still have a good time.

#13 Talk about your passions. Whether there is dead air on the date or not, talking about your passions and asking about theirs can really get a conversation going. You can learn what is truly important to them and they you.

There is something about hearing someone talk about what they are passionate about that really lets you know who they are.

#14 Offer to pay. I know, we all have our stance on this. Some go 50/50, others think the guy should pay, blah blah. Whether you are old-fashioned, modern, or just do not really care, offer.

Make the reach. You do not need to make this the norm if you continue dating. But for the first date, just offer. It is the polite thing to do, regardless of gender. 

#15 End the night with the truth. Do not leave the night telling them you will call if you won’t. Do not say you want to see them again if you don’t. And if you aren’t sure, leave it open and reach out later.

There is no need to lead anyone on. It was a first date, likely neither of you are that attached, so speak the truth. Tell them you had a great time or that it was nice to meet them and leave it at that.

There are numerous ways to learn how to have a great first date. Ultimately, it boils down to you and your date. As long as you are both game to have a good time, things should go just fine.


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California Dreamin’ – 1982 to 1984 – Trash Talkin’ Tina

Tina and I had been together for a few weeks, and had planned a weekend camping trip to the mountains. We packed and headed off. By noon on the first day, we were up in the mountains, miles away from anyone, anything, and decent cell phone service.

We had been having a nice time, and then it was time for lunch. At a site, we opened our packs and pulled out food, including a couple of cans of vegetables.

“You have the can opener?” Tina asked me.

I had said that I’d bring it, and I thought that I had. However, upon searching through my packs, I found that I didn’t.

“I’m getting hungry, here,” Tina said, becoming agitated. I was also hungry, and I searched high and low for the can opener that simply wasn’t there.

“I can’t find it,” I admitted, “But I can probably use my knife to pry the lids open.”

“You forgot a can opener?” she asked.

“Yes, but I can use my–”

“Holy fuck. You forgot a can opener? Are you fucking retarded? I’m starving!”

I repeated, “I think I can do it with my knife.” She picked up her pack, shouldered it, and stormed away. “Where are you going?” I called after her. She yelled back, “To find a man who has a can opener!”

I yelled back, “I can open them with my knife!” She kept going, and I wasn’t about to chase her. Less than five minutes later, I had two cans open, thanks to my knife. I ate my lunch and decided to wait for her to return.

One hour turned into two, and two turned into three. It was mid-afternoon, and I was worried. I called for her over and over, but there was no response. The only thing I could think of was that she had circled back to the van.

I returned to it and found her sitting, leaning against it. When she saw me, she sprang up at once. I said, “I had the cans opened in minutes. Want some?”

She replied, “Why did it take you so long to come looking for me?”

I said, “Why should I have had to look for you in the first place? You stomped off on your own. Now, do you want something to eat?”

“I’m not hungry.”

“You said you were starving before.”

She said, “I want to go home.”

It wasn’t a big deal. I could always return to hike on my own or with another friend. My main goal was to slide this whiny psycho out of my life as quickly as possible.

I shrugged, said, “Okay,” and opened the van. I put my bag inside and reached for hers.

“No,” she said, “I’m not riding with you. You’ve treated me like shit all day. I’m walking.”

She turned and started on her long journey. “It’s a 20-mile walk to anywhere,” I called after her, “Let me drive you.”

She said, “I’d rather die out here,” and kept going.

I wasn’t about to play games. I had given her plenty of chances to be nice. I jumped into my van and drove away.

Three hours later, I was almost back home when I received a text from her: “Some fucking strangers had to drive me to the closest gas station. You come and pick me up right the fuck now.”

I wonder how she ever made it home.


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Romantic Thanksgiving date ideas

A lot of people believe that Thanksgiving isn’t Thanksgiving unless you spend it stuffing yourself silly with food, surrounded by annoying uncles and aunts. But for couples without children or whose families are far away, Thanksgiving can be a wonderful opportunity to spend some romantic time together without distractions. So skip all of the stress this Thanksgiving and plan a special day for just the two of you with one of the ideas below.

Cook a meal together for two

While playing hostess to your in-laws and simultaneously cooking a Thanksgiving meal for 10 may seem like a recipe for panic attack, cooking a turkey together with your best guy is filled with sexy opportunities. Envision sipping wine together as you stir the cranberry sauce and let your imagination run wild!

Have someone cook a meal for you

For those of you who think cooking is a chore rather than a delight, there’s nothing like enjoying a Thanksgiving dinner out on the town. Simply make a reservation, show-up and voila! While other women are spending the day slaving over a stove, you and your man can enjoy all of the pleasures of eating a five-course, candle-lit meal with none of the work.

Stay at a B&B

Holidays are so few and far between, why not extend your Thanksgiving into a Thanks-weekend and spend four days being thankful you’re not at home?

Go somewhere warm

Or even better, chuck the idea of a traditionally chilly Thanksgiving and relax the weekend away, basking in the sun at a tropical resort. The trees may not change color in Florida or the Bahamas, but there is still a lot of holiday cheer to be found there.

Watch a parade

You don’t even need to go anywhere to enjoy a romantic Thanksgiving. Sipping hot chocolate and holding hands together while watching a local parade can be just as lovely.

Or snuggle on the couch

Don’t even get dressed! Thanksgiving is one holiday that’s made for sleeping in, so don’t hesitate to ignore that alarm for once. You can always TiVo the parade and watch it later.

Volunteer at a soup kitchen

For couples in pursuit of the true meaning of Thanksgiving, soup kitchens and charity organizations are always in need of volunteers on the holiday when attendance is even higher than usual.

Go see a movie

One of my favorite Thanksgiving traditions is going out to the movies with my boyfriend, just the two of us.


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24 Instagram Captions For Thanksgiving Photos With Your Significant Other

Although you and your boo are obviously already the cutest couple around, nailing the perfect Instagram captions for Thanksgiving photos with your significant other can give your cute couples pics an extra sprinkle of (pumpkin) spice this holiday season. From a sweet selfie to a candid, in-the-kitchen snap (that was completely staged by your little sister), holiday photos can be the perfect way to remember and share special memories. Whether you’ve just started seeing someone new or you’ve been smooching your honey for a while, posting a Turkey Day picture can be a great way to spread your cheer with all of your friends and family.

Without the extra stress of the winter holidays and a far cry from the FOMO the New Year’s Eve, Thanksgiving is a time to hang out with your family and friends, eat a ton of good food, and reflect on everything that brings you joy. Maybe you and your partner get matching turkey sweaters from the Goodwill down the street, or perhaps you both prepare for your feast by wearing your favorite earth tone sweatpants.

Whatever the case, these 24 cute and quippy captions for your Thanksgiving couples pics will really give you something to be grateful for.


  1. Here’s to surviving another holiday not talking about politics with either of our families.
  2. Glad our family members are “day-drinking at home people” and not “5K in the morning” people.
  3. Not pictured: The matching stretch-pants we’re about to put on.
  4. I Googled, “Cute Couple Holiday Poses,” then made *partner’s name* recreate them with me.
  5. I’m so grateful for *partner’s name,* so I’m posting the one where they look cuter.
  6. I’m so grateful my family likes you more than they like me.
  7. Thankful for you every day, but today you get an Instagram post.
  8. I can’t wait to eat too much and then complain about it.
  9. Thanks (for) giving me so much to be thankful for.
  10. I love you almost as much as I love gravy.
  11. I love you from your head to your po-ta-toes.
  12. I can’t wait to rock your gravy boat later.
  13. I’d take a second helping of you.
  14. You’re the whipped cream to my pumpkin pie.
  15. Thanks for adding a little (pumpkin) spice to my life.
  16. You didn’t make me watch the game this year, and for that, we can both be thankful.
  17. I like you even though you like pecan pie more than pumpkin!
  18. Thank you for letting my mom take this (and 50 other) pictures of us.
  19. Thank you for making me take this picture when I was hangry. I am now full of food and gratitude.
  20. Thank you for giving me so much to be thankful for every day.
  21. Grateful.
  22. It takes two to tango — and two to really mess up an apple pie.
  23. Been fallin’ for you for a while.
  24. I love you, even though you burned my pie in the oven this morning.


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18 Thanksgiving Instagram Captions To Use If You’re Single & Cranberry Saucy

Happy Thanksgiving!

Don’t be fooled by the monsoon of incoming couples pictures — the holidays are a great time to celebrate your own darn self. Whether you just called it off with a long-term boo or you’ve been playing the field for a while, these Thanksgiving Instagram captions if you’re single will make you feel saucier than the cranberries, guaranteed.

No matter your romantic status, social media an be a sweet way to connect with friends and family all over the globe. From sharing a candid snap of your dad dancing in the kitchen to posting a cute selfie of you and your baby sisters, Thanksgiving is a time to think about everything you’re grateful for and share your feelings with the world around you. Maybe you pretend to be into the “big game” to feel closer to your cousin Brian, or perhaps you help your grandmother peel the carrots for the roast. You can even take some time to think about all the reasons you’re a stellar superstar, and how lucky your friends and family are to have you in their lives. Just saying.

Whatever the case, if you’re a party of one this Turkey Day, here are 18 Instagram captions to use on Thanksgiving.

The young woman cuts vegetables in the kitchen with a knife and laptop on the table. Vegetable Salad. Diet. Dieting Concept. Healthy Lifestyle. Cooking At Home. Prepare Food. With place for text


  1. Thankful for myself.
  2. Partner? Do you mean, parsnips?
  3. I’m eating for two. Not pregnant or taken — just eating enough food for two people.
  4. My romantic status is: Dodging intrusive questions from my aunt.
  5. Single like a Pringle, and ready to eat.
  6. Sharing this Thanksgiving with Ina Garten’s pumpkin pie because I have high standards for desserts and romantic partners.
  7. I’m thankful for my sweatpants and my sweatpants only.
  8. The only thing I’m putting in my mouth this Thanksgiving is garlic mashed potatoes, and honestly, I’m better for it.
  9. *Holding food* My partner!
  10. Grateful for you. *Holding pie*
  11. Pro tip: When your family asks you why they’re single, ask them if they know someone that deserves to be with you.
  12. In the market for a new crush, so HMU if you can make yams.
  13. Feeling single and (cranberry) saucy — won’t delete later.
  14. Being single means you get two slices of pie, right?
  15. I’m not single, I’m “self-partnered” and thankful for it.
  16. Amazing lighting at the dinner table, you’re welcome.
  17. I love not dating anyone because I never have to pretend I care about football.
  18. Single and not stressing about dealing with someone else’s family. Still stressing about dealing with my own, thought.


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Another Life – Chapter 47



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4 Unspoken Traits Every Man Looks For In A Partner

There are certain qualities all men are looking for in a partner, but may be afraid to admit they want.

Every guy has certain unspoken traits that he unconsciously looks for in a partner.

Love is an experience every guy desires and seeks to make a reality in his life.

Each of us has a burning need to share our life with someone who gets us and loves us. We know how much better life would be to wake up every day next to a person who completes us and gives us feelings we didn’t know we were capable of experiencing.

A lot of relationships start out hot. We are exploring our partner mentally, physically, and emotionally. We are experiencing moments of absolute pleasure as we have fun during the honeymoon phase of our relationship. But at some point, the realities of making a relationship last start to kick in.

Maintaining a relationship can be even harder than getting into the right one.

As the relationship progresses, there are certain things every guy looks for as they build their life with someone they love. These are things you won’t hear us talking about, but trust me when I say; they are on our minds as men.

1. A Partner Who Has Their Own Identity

One thing that happens in a relationship is partners get comfortable with each other. This is good for many reasons, but there is one negative aspect to getting comfortable: losing your identity as an individual. You can end up identifying yourself and what you want out of life through the relationship and not as a person.The goals, dreams, and ambitions you once had get lost in you wanting to do what you feel will better the relationship.

A strong relationship requires sacrifice but never losing who you are and what you want. Guys want a partner who never loses sight of themselves as an individual.

They want a partner who is committed to the relationship, but also committed to being the best version of them self. There is nothing sexier than a strong and confident person.


2. A Partner Who’s Self-Motivated

When you see problems arise in a relationship, it’s often because one partner lets himself or herself go. This can related to weight, habits, work, ambitions, or a variety of other areas in a relationship. They’ve lost their self-motivation and rely on their partner for their strength.

At first, this is cute and flattering. After a while, it’s exhausting to constantly have to be someone else’s inspiration and strength. Life is hard enough on its own, so adding the weight of motivating your partner can lead to resentment.

To be the best version of yourself, you can only rely on YOU. Yes, there will be things you do as a couple—like workouts or healthy eating habits together—but your main source of strength has to transcend the relationship. 


3. A Partner Who Shares Your Goals and Dreams

When you start out in a relationship, you’re agreeable to the things your partner tells you they want out of life. At some point, you reach that level of comfort where you can tell them what’s on your mind. What’s on your mind may crush your partner’s dreams and goals.

Every man wants a partner who will be real from the beginning so that we don’t waste our time.

We want a partner who will support and dream with us. We want a partner who won’t settle for living a good enough life. This, of course, is assuming the goals and dreams are somewhat realistic.


4. A Partner Who’s Committed to Doing the Hard Work

Relationships are hard work to maintain in the long run. They require our time, energy, and digging deeper. To grow, we have to choose to love instead of how we feel at times. Guys want a partner who gets that and is willing to put in the hard work with us.

We want someone who tries to understand us. Someone who attempts to get a feel for our moods and tries to understand what we’re going through. I’m not saying we want someone who will put us on a pedestal because we understand relationships are a two-way street. But, we want to know if you’re willing to put in the work–we are.


Love is one of life’s greatest feelings and experiences.

Every man and woman should experience a love so strong that you know it can only end very well or turn into a train wreck. That kind of love helps you grow as a person either way.

When you find that person you love with everything in you, commit to doing the hard work, but never lose who you are. Stay motivated and don’t get comfortable to the point of letting yourself go. And, this applies to guys as well.

Never stop pursuing your love, in the same way, you had done before you were together. Keep it spicy.


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Sun Stories: Delaney – Chapter 4 – She’s Writing Checks She Can’t Cash

Delaney was supposed to come in on Saturday, but again was a no show. This is becoming more of a trend than an anomaly.

She totally blew it last weekend because she got drunk and was too hungover to function. Friday night she was in here making all sorts of promises for Saturday to see me and nothing happened.

I get it. She’s 22 years old. They like to get smashed on the weekends. I was the same way back in the day. Get drunk with your friends, or go hang out with some old guy at a salon. The choice is easy.

I even text her on Friday night to show her she was in the blog. She loved that she was the new girl in own and how Kita was no longer my number one. Girls love destroying each other. She liked using up the end of Kita’s lotion and throwing it in the trash. I know it felt good. I loved it. Knowing another girl took something away from Kita and discarded it like Kita did to me for the month of January. (See: Kita – You’re No Longer My Number One)

I even texted her on Saturday that Kita had miraculously came in on my shift. Crickets. No response.

Most of these girls that get addicted to tanning can’t go for more than two or three days without a session. They start to think that they’re color is fading. It’s a vicious cycle that they bring on themselves.

It’s money for us, but they’re faces look like shoe leather in their thirties.

It’s been three days since she’s come to the salon, so I’m thinking she may make an appearance tonight.

Update: She was a no show. So, based on what she said Friday night and her absence in general, this was over before it ever got started.

As Simon Cowell would say: “Sorry Delaney, but it going to be a no for me.”


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