30 Cute Ways to Make the Woman You Love Smile

Give these fun, creative and cheap ideas a try!

If you want to know how to be romantic and make a woman feel truly happy, it’s probably not as hard as you think. Unfortunately, many men still seem to struggle when it comes to knowing how to please a woman and make her smile.

If you’re attracted to a woman and you’re developing strong feelings for her, you’ve simply got to find way to let her know what’s going on in your mind and heart.

And what better way could there possibly be than coming up with some creative, sweet and fun ideas of things you can say or do for your girlfriend that will make her smile whenever she thinks of you?

We’ve made this list of sweet ideas to help guys figure out how to make a girl smile (which means you now have no excuse, gentlemen).

Here are 30 cute, fun and super cheap things to say or do for your girlfriend that are bound to make her thing you’re the most romantic guy on Earth.

1. Send her a cute goodnight text while she’s sleeping so she wakes up with a smile on her face.

2. Call her beautiful, instead of pretty or cute.

3. Buy her nice things.

4. Make sure she knows that you’re afraid to lose her.

5. Treat her the same around your friends as you would when you’re alone.

6. Be there when she needs you.

7. Have a date planned out so all she has to do is look good and show up.

8. Randomly send her a text saying you’re thinking about her.

9. While out, introduce her to the people that matter to you. Make sure she knows who they are and vice versa.

10. Make her a priority, not an option.

11. Spend the night watching movies and cuddling instead of going out with the guys.

12. During a date, help her with her coat. Pull out her chair. Open the door for her. Let her order her food first. Stay off your phone.

13. Back down in an argument, even though she may be wrong.

14. Ask her if she’s lost weight.

15. Respect her. Respect her family. Respect her friends. Respect her morals.

16. Slow dance with her even if there’s no music.

17. Sneak up behind her, hold her around her waist, kiss her softly on the neck and tell her you love her.

18. Support her ambition and love her flaws.

19. Walk into a room full of temptation and stay faithful.

20. Give her your hoodie when she’s cold.

21. Make her feel like she’s the only woman in the world.

22. Fight for her when she’s ready to give up, and hold her tight when she’s at her weakest.

23. Never let others influence anything when it comes to her. She wants you to be the reasoning for your actions.

24. Hold her tight in public just to show people that you’re proud to have someone like her.

25. Always take the first step. Don’t wait for her to start everything.

26. Bring her roses or flowers for no reason at all, not just when you’re in trouble or on Valentine’s Day.

27. Offer to give her a massage: foot, back, neck, shoulder, the whole body.

28. Avoid responding with “OK” or any short answer that makes it sound like you weren’t listening.

29. Save a photo of her as your phone background. That way she’ll know you’re thinking of her every time you look at your phone.

30. Promise never to let her go, and keep that promise.

 

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Annoying Things Men Do That Women Misinterpret

One from one of my female readers…

One of the beautiful things about having been with and lived with a man for a long time now is that I’ve gotten an insight into the male mind. I haven’t just learned about the way my boyfriend thinks, but I’ve also learned about the way his friends think. Since I’ve been with my guy for so long now, and his friends come over all of the time, his buddies have started to see me as a safe person to open up to. They’ve put their guards down. They know I’m not going to go running to the women they’re dating and reveal their deepest most vulnerable secrets. They know I’m on their side. I’m a confidante. And, through that, I’ve finally come to understand certain male actions and words that, as a single woman, I totally didn’t get. It turns out some of the things some men do aren’t as bad as we think. I said some of the things that some men do—just to be clear. Here are things men do that women often misinterpret.

Cancelling after a bad day

In the early stages of my relationship, after a very bad day, my boyfriend would just cancel our plans to see each other and ask if we could reschedule. It would upset me—I’d think ,“Why won’t he let me be there for him? Is he trying to keep an emotional distance?”

They want to protect you

My boyfriend finally explained that he just tries to protect me from his bad moods. After a crappy day, he’s worried that he won’t be able to contain his angst and may accidentally be short with me or cold towards me. He’d rather just hide away until he can be his best self. He would, of course, love my comfort and company but he also knows it could be selfish, since he may just be a jerk.

Turning down sex

The first time my boyfriend turned down sex, I panicked. Big time. I thought, “This is it. It’s over. This was just a fling. The chemistry is gone and we have nothing else!” (Yes, I was a bit dramatic). But, I thought for sure, “Men always want to have sex so if he says no, he’s just not into me anymore. Period.”

They can feel emotionally distant

So, it turns out that men don’t always want to have sex. If they’re going through something difficult, they feel emotionally removed from their partners. When my partner is under a lot of stress, he doesn’t want to have sex because he feels weird/bad about being physically close to me when he knows he’s so mentally far away. He says it feels like a lie. That is actually rather considerate, when you think about it.

Not texting; then calling

It used to drive me crazy that I’d send my partner several texts throughout the day to which he would not respond, and then he’d just call me, saying nothing about my texts. “Is he trying to send me some message that he doesn’t want my texting him?” I wondered.

They’d rather call when they can be present

Men are just not as good at texting as women are. Men don’t like texting as much as women do. My boyfriend does, however, like receiving my texts—they make him smile, he says. But he’s not great at formulating the type of response my text deserves, in the little time he has to text. He’d rather just wait to talk until he can call me at the end of the day and be fully present.

Keeping certain friends away

There are some friends that my boyfriend kept away from me for the first couple years of us dating. I thought this was some way of him keeping a distance from me—a way of keeping our relationship casual. I also wondered if he just totally misbehaves himself with these friends, like they’re bad influences.

They don’t want us to be insulted

I eventually learned that my boyfriend can behave himself around these friends but they are, truth be told, his more, errr, brute-ish friends. They say and do things that might gross me out. He’s known them forever, and finds them endearing, but he also doesn’t want them accidentally insulting me.

Asking to watch TV instead of talk

At the end of the day, sometimes my boyfriend cuts me off when I’m asking lots of questions and says, “Is it okay if we just watch TV?” It was hard for me to not be insulted at first. Is that his way of saying I talk too much?

They’re just burnt out

Sometimes, men—and women—are just too burnt out at the end of the day to carry on a good conversation. They feel bad just pretending to engage in a conversation with someone they love, and would rather just watch television, and re-fuel for another time when they’re excited to talk.

Skipping our friend’s bday

Skipping a friend’s birthday, skipping a bar crawl, or skipping other social occasions with my friends is something my boyfriend does from time to time. I used to think it meant he just didn’t care about my friends.

They need to save money

I eventually learned that, the issue wasn’t necessarily that my boyfriend didn’t like my friends. My man was just trying to save money, and was too proud to tell me that. Whoops.

Not talking about their day at work

To me, exchanging stories about our day is a part of bonding. But sometimes my boyfriend says he would just rather not talk about his day at work. At first, I thought, “Well, that’s a pretty big part of your day. It’s weird you don’t want to share it with me.”

They don’t want our pity

It turns out that my boyfriend just has some things happen at work that he worries would make me sad. He’s had bosses and colleagues that haven’t spoken to him nicely or just generally gone through some rough situations. He didn’t want my pity, so he thought it was better to just not discuss his work.

Doing a 180 on feelings

Almost every one of my guy’s best friends—and my guy did this too—did a total 180 on their feelings for a woman. What I mean is that they were very reserved, cool, and holding back. You wouldn’t think they even liked the woman. And then suddenly, they were all in.

They were gathering information

Men and women develop feelings at very different paces. I feel like women are more comfortable with allowing their feelings to just naturally occur. Men, however, hoard their emotions until they’ve gathered enough information on a woman to feel safe showing all their emotions.

 

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Kita – Chapter 38 – Second Date – Xmas – Part 2

Somehow the subject of sugar babies comes up. I may have been talking about a couple of girls I have spoken to in the salon and they have told me about their exploits. I obviously don’t speak graphically about it. It just sort of came up. She finds the idea of girls doing that revolting and has too much self esteem and virtue. She said she could never do that.

(Isn’t it sort of happening between us?)

We start chatting about how excited she is to go to Florida for the winter break. She loves the warmth of the temperature down there. She misses her dog Sadie and can’t wait to drive around in her Jeep. She tells me she’ll probably just rest, workout, try to eat better, walk her dog, and cruise around in her jeep. She misses driving!

Best part is, she won’t have to do any studying, write any papers, or go to any classes. Just fun in the sun. She will probably be as brown as a penny when she comes back to Philly in a month.

Funny thing is, I don’t hear about anything else. I know she likes tanning and getting dark. I know she likes to eat and digs snacks. She says her mom loves snacks too. Her mother once went looking for snacks in Kita’s room and discovered some condoms. I love the idea of Kita having condoms. (Just suiting up with a condom before plunging into her.)

But I digress…

She works out everyday. I guess what I’m saying here is, Kita is going to do exactly what she does up here as she’ll do down there. I didn’t hear anything about friends or going out or anything.

I think our lovely little Kita may be a bit of a bore. I think I see how a man could tire of her once he’s had sex with her. What do you do with her? She’s very indecisive, needy, sober, etc. Not very fun.

But here’s the thing. I’m attracted to her. I’ve never had her. I want her. She’s adorable and spends time with me. That’s pretty nice for me.

I’ll just keep writing about her until I figure it all out.

 

Near the end of the meal I ask her a question.

“Kita, I like you and enjoy your company. I appreciate you joining me for lunch today. I’d like to meet up with you and see you outside of the salon again. It can be food or we can go to Dave & Busters like we talked about that. I’d like us to do that on a regular basis. Would you like that?”

“Yes. Yes, we can definitely do that. I’d like that.”

That’s all I needed.

The bill comes, and of course I am delighted to pay. She loved her Salmon salad, and polished off the last of the mac and cheese I got for us to split. I liked when she picked up the spoon and dug the last dollop out of the bowl and put it in her sweet mouth.

 

She’s summoning her UBER and it’s rapidly approaching. We get ourselves together and head outside into the winter afternoon sunlight. She has to go write a paper for her finals, and I have to get to the salon.

“Oh it’s here! Gimme kiss!”

I take her lovely visage in my hands and peck her plump lips, and she’s off.

I start walking east on JFK Blvd. and light a cigarette. I reflect on the day and my relationship with Kita.

I buy special snacks and fruit for her. I always have a little something there for her to munch on. I give her free water to fill up her water bottle. I took her out to a posh dinner. I bought her a special bronzing lotion to better tan her. I bought her pepper spray and showed her how to use it to help keep her safe in the city. Now I’ve taken her out to lunch and discussing future dates and activities for us to do together.

 

Oh my God.

 

Kita is my sugarbaby!

 

 

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Are We Just Friends or Is He Interested? 16 Signs to Read His Mind

If you *and everyone else* are asking: are we just friends or is he interested? You need to know, and I am here to help you know the difference.

Are we just friends or is he interested, is probably one of the most popular questions I am asked. Most women are trying to figure out whether or not a guy is interested or just a friend.

What can I tell you? Sometimes, it’s easy to spot the signs. Other guys are tricky and like figuring out a Rubik’s cube. Who has the time for that?

Sure, you have amazing chemistry, and the conversation blows your mind. But you don’t really know what’s going on between you.

How to answer the conundrum: Are we just friends or is he interested?

The best way to figure it out? Ask him. I know it’s not the easiest thing to do, but you’ll have your answer. Maybe not the one you were looking for, but at least it’s an answer.

On the other hand, I know you may not be ready to make that move, and I get it. So, look at the signs instead. It takes longer, but you’ll figure out what’s going on.

It’s time to finally answer the question – are we just friends or is he interested? That way, you’ll know what to do. Let’s quit the game playing and find out the truth.

#1 Just a friend: He’s never jealous. I know I’ve said jealousy is an ugly trait and when it becomes extreme, it is. However, it’s always a way to see whether or not someone is attracted to you. If this guy doesn’t even bat an eye when you’re talking about other guys or when you go on a date, it’s clear he only sees you as a friend.

#2 He’s interested: he asks you out on a date. If he’s interested in you, his main goal is to take the friendship to the next level. He doesn’t want to be your friend, he wants more. So, he’ll ask you out on a date and see your response.

It’s a bold move, but he’s tired of waiting on the sideline. If he asks you out, he’s not looking for friendship.

#3 Just a friend: You’re like his sister. If he’s openly and publicly told people you’re like his sister, well, then it’s safe to say you are just friends.

No guy would say that publicly if they were truly interested in someone. That would let everyone else know they could make a move on you. Think of it like this, it’s the same as calling him your brother.

#4 Just a friend: He tries to hook you up with his friends. If he was interested in you, he would never try to set you up with his friends. It just doesn’t make sense. If he’s into you, he’ll do whatever it takes to avoid you and his friends from hooking up. But if he’s happy and willing to set you up with his friends, then it looks like that’s what you are, a friend.

#5 He’s interested: He’s touchy. Naturally, every guy is different, but usually, when a guy is interested in someone, they become more touchy. He may touch your shoulder or your lower back when you’re walking through a doorway. These are small and subtle moves, yet, they’re clues into how he feels about you.

#6 He’s interested: He’s always around. When we like someone, we want to spend as much time with them as possible. With him, it seems as if he’s always around. Whether a weekday or weekend, he pops by your place to hang out before work or meet up with you when you’re shopping at the mall. His main goal is to spend as much time with you as possible. 

#7 Just a friend: There’s no flirting. And no, you sneezing and him getting you a tissue isn’t flirting. If you feel more like brother and sister than anything else, it’s safe to say there’s not much going on in the romance department. If you’ve flirted with him and he’s clearly uncomfortable, he’s not into you.

#8 Just a friend: He’s awkward when people think you’re a couple. The minute someone asks you if you are a couple, you can feel him getting weird. He’ll step away from you and make this face. I know, really mature. If he did like you, he would make some joke and seem really happy as he weighs your reaction.

#9 He’s interested: He texts you a lot. He doesn’t text you once in a while, he texts you all the time. Whether it’s a meme or YouTube clip, he’s always texting you, making sure you stay connected. You may notice he uses winky and kissy emojis as well. Guys don’t really use emojis, so it’s a pretty good sign he likes you. 

#10  He’s interested: He wants to hang out one-on-one. Maybe he doesn’t like to hang out in large groups, but let’s get real. If he’s pushing to hang out one-on-one, it’s probably because he wants to spend alone time with you. If you’re into him, then keep these hangouts going, eventually, they’ll progress into more.

#11 Just a friend: He mentions people he’s into. Yeah, this isn’t a great sign. Usually, if a guy is into you, they never bring up other people. But if he’s just a friend, he’ll bring up other people he’s interested in without hesitation. Why would he hide it from you? It’s not like he’s interested in you. I know, it stings, but it’s the truth.

#12 He’s interested: He’s all over your social media. Every post, photo or video, you put on Instagram or Facebook, he likes or comments on it. He’s literally the most active person on your social media. Now, why would that be? Oh! I know this one! It’s probably because he’s into you. If not, he wouldn’t make the effort to comment or even like your posts. 

#13 He’s interested: He values your opinion. Whether it’s buying a jacket or discussing a job interview, he always asks for your opinion. If he wants your opinion, it’s because he wants you to be included in making decisions. He trusts you and holds your opinion highly. Now, that only happens when a guy likes someone.

#14 Just a friend: He never made a move. He’s known you for years, literally years, and he’s never made a move on you. And you have been in situations where things could have gone further, but nothing happened. If a guy has an opportunity to make a move, he’ll make it. He won’t let it slip away.

#15 He’s interested: It’s all about eye contact. When he’s around you, his eyes are locked on you. Eye contact is an amazing way to figure out whether or not he’s into you. If a guy is just a friend, he won’t be making too much eye contact with you. However, if he’s interested, his eyes will be all over you.

#16 Just a friend: He’s not that into your life. Sure, he asks how you are and what you’re doing, but he’s not that into what’s going on in your life. He forgets the details, he doesn’t really ask many questions – these aren’t signs of interest. If he was interested in you, he would try to know everything about you.

 

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Tales of Rock: Insane Stories From Aerosmith’s Drug-Fueled Rise To The Top – Part 2

Tyler Remembers Being Embarrassed After Getting Too High To Perform

Steven Tyler has had several stints in rehab, but his most rampant drug use occurred throughout the ’70s and ’80s. Tyler remembers getting so high while he was performing that he frequently passed out on stage. Tyler told NME:

I can remember one time I fell down and my foot kept going like this [shakes foot wildly] and this guy carried me off and I went “I just drank too much.” I was embarrassed. I literally couldn’t finish the show.

He added, “We just got caught up in it. We were too rich, too young, too dumb. That’s all. I just got caught up in it, I loved it. I went too far with it.”

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Steven Tyler Kept His Drugs In A Drum On Stage

Steven Tyler and the gang already had a roadie whose sole job was to give them continuous bumps of cocaine, but that wasn’t enough for Tyler, who kept his stash in a drum on stage.

“I kept my medicine cabinet on stage, in a 14-inch drum head, the bottom of which contained… one Dixie cup with a straw and blow in it and the other with Coca-Cola and Jack Daniels in it,” he wrote in Does the Noise in My Head Bother You?

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The Band Wouldn’t Sleep With Groupies For 10 Days Before Going Home To Their Wives

For Aerosmith, cheating on their wives and girlfriends wasn’t so much a moral dilemma. The only real issue was getting caught. To prevent this, the band had a rule that no one would have sex for 10 days before the end of a tour. This allegedly gave them enough time to refuel their “reserves.”

 

“You didn’t have sex for 10 days at the end of tour, but that was so you’d be sure to go home with a full cup of chowder. If you didn’t, you were definitely suspect,” Tyler told Elle.

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Steven Tyler Fell Off Stage And Had To Be Airlifted To A Hospital

In 2009, a 61-year-old Steven Tyler found himself within inches of death when he fell off a stage during a performance in Rapid City, South Dakota. The singer had been snorting the sleep aid Lunesta when he took a tumble. Tyler was airlifted to a local hospital where he got 20 stitches in the back of his head and discovered that his shoulder was shattered.

 

“I was doing the Tyler shuffle and then I zigged when I should have zagged…AND I slipped, and as I live on the edge… I fell off the edge,” Tyler said in a statement.

 

The singer managed to finish the song like a pro, but the band had to cancel their tour. Tyler, who has a titanium knee from a previous stage accident, was “grateful” that he didn’t break his neck and later admittedto being high during the accident.

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Joe Perry Played Guitar On An Unsettling Song By Serge Gainsbourg
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Aerosmith aren’t strangers to singing about attraction to family members, but “Janie’s Got a Gun” doesn’t hold a candle to French pop singer Serge Gainsbourg’s song “Lemon Incest,” a duet about interbreeding sung with his young daughter in far-too-intimate tones. When translated into English, the lyrics read “Exquisite outline, delicious child, my flesh and blood/Oh my baby, my soul/incest lemon, lemon incest.” The video featured a shirtless Gainsbourg lying in bed with his daughter. Joe Perry lent his guitar skills to the track.

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Joe Perry Claims Steven Tyler Tried To Get Involved In One Of His Relationships

When Joe Perry was 21 years old, he had an affair with actress Judy Carne, who was 11 years his senior. Judy opened his eyes to a new world of sex, drugs, and rock and roll. She had a doctor’s bag that was filled with cocaine, pill bottles, powders and syringes. Most of her drugs were totally legal, prescribed to her by a doctor. She even managed to get a prescription of cocaine.

 

This was all very attractive to Steven Tyler, especially because Carne was generous when it came to sharing her drugs. According to Perry, Tyler not only wanted to get into her stash, but he wanted to have a threesome and repeatedly called Perry hoping to be invited over. During this time, Carne was bed-ridden because of an injury, and Perry wasn’t having it.

 

“I now sensed that Steven wanted to get into her doctor’s bag — and maybe get into something else. I never invited him over,” Perry recalled in his memoir Rocks: My Life In and Out of Aerosmith. “Forced to stay off her fee, Judy was naked most of the time and didn’t want company. I had no interest in a threesome and neither did she. We just wanted to be alone.”

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Steven Tyler Never Told His Band He Was Joining ‘American Idol,’ And They Were Furious

Steven Tyler wasn’t in a good place with his bandmates when he started thinking about being a judge on American Idol. The Aerosmith singer had recently undergone surgery after falling from a stage and being taken to a hospital. None of his bandmates visited him during his recovery, which definitely soured the singer. His bandmates weren’t too thrilled either when they found out Tyler had taken the job behind their backs. Joe Perry reported to the Boston Herald that he discovered Tyler’s new gig through the internet “like the rest of the world.”

 

Tyler’s bandmates were furious that the singer became an American Idol judge without telling them, and they consistently threatened to replace the singer in their project of 40 years.

 

“It’s his business, but I don’t want Aerosmith’s name involved with [American Idol]. We have nothing to do with it,” Perry said in an interview. “[Idol] is a reality show designed to get people to watch that station and sell advertising… it’s one step above Ninja Turtles… [You’ve got] four guys that are great together, and if you find the right singer, there’s no reason you can’t go and entertain people,” he added.

 

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What Does A Man Mean When He Says He Wants To Take Things Slowly?

Guest writer….

Today’s “Dear David” comes from a lady named Sara who has run into a common, but confusing situation for women. Let’s see if we can help her out, shall we?

 

She says…

“Dear David, I’ve just started seeing this guy. We’ve both been single for a few years, and it’s so nice having that warm, excited feeling my tummy when I’m with someone. I’m confused though. Last night he told me that he really likes me, and wants to take things further, BUT that he wants to take things slowly. What does that mean?”

 

David Says…

What does a man mean when he says he wants to take things slowly?

If I tell you I want to take it slow, it might only mean I want to see you one or two days a week. It doesn’t mean I don’t want to be intimate with you. It doesn’t mean I’m going to start seeing other women. It just means I’d like to see where it goes, spend some time to get to know you, and take the time to communicate with you and keep moving forward gradually.

Another guy could say he wants to take it slow, and mean he just wants to see you at the weekend. Another guy could say it and mean he wants to date you, but he doesn’t want to sleep with you yet. Other guys might mean they just don’t want to jump into anything serious like moving in together too quickly.

There’s no one size fits all definition for what “taking it slow” really means.

So if a man says he wants to take it slow, you have every right to ask him what that means to him. Ask him up front. Tell him you’d like to know what it means to him. Let him know you respect him, and that you want to make him feel comfortable so you need to know what he personally expects.

You see, you build relationships on communication. Don’t be afraid to ask men to clarify what they mean. If you don’t you’ll end up speculating about what he wants. You’ll ask your friends about it, or you’ll email me. Taking it slow can mean so many different things you need to ask the source.

We’re so afraid to communicate and ask each other what we mean, and to me, clarification is the key to building any kind of trust in a relationship.

When you ask a man to clarify what he means, you’re setting the foundation for good communication in the relationship. You’re allowing open communication between two people. You’re also allowing two people to get comfortable together, so they feel they can talk about anything. You’re also showing him you’re happy to go at his pace.

I want you to read this again, and I want you to read it slowly. That way the next time a guy says he wants to take it slow, you won’t panic, and you won’t try to guess what he means, you’ll simply ask him. It’s always better to ask directly than try to guess how he’s feeling. Of course, if you want an in-depth understanding of how men think and feel, you should pick up my popular program, “What Men Desire.” 

Why does dating seem so hard? How are you supposed to meet and flirt with men? Watch my FREE video, “How to Speak Man” to STOP speculating and START winning his heart!

 

 

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Women are happier without children or a spouse, says happiness expert

We may have suspected it already, but now the science backs it up: unmarried and childless women are the happiest sub-group in the population. And they are more likely to live longer than their married and child-rearing peers, according to a leading expert in happiness.

Speaking at the Hay festival on Saturday, Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioral science at the London School of Economics, said the latest evidence showed that the traditional markers used to measure success did not correlate with happiness – particularly marriage and raising children.

“Married people are happier than other population sub-groups but only when their spouse is in the room when they’re asked how happy they are. When the spouse is not present: fucking miserable,” he said.

“We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.”

Men benefited from marriage because they “calmed down”, he said. “You take less risks, you earn more money at work and you live a little longer. She, on the other hand, has to put up with that and dies sooner than if she never married. The healthiest and happiest population sub-group are women who never married or had children,” he said.

Dolan’s latest book, Happy Ever After, cites evidence from the American Time Use Survey (ATUS), which compared levels of pleasure and misery in unmarried, married, divorced, separated and widowed individuals. The study found that levels of happiness reported by those who were married was higher than the unmarried, but only when their spouse was in the room; unmarried individuals reported lower levels of misery than married individuals who were asked when their spouse was not present.

Other studies have measured some financial and health benefits in being married for both men and women on average, which Dolan said could be attributed to higher incomes and emotional support, allowing married people to take risks and seek medical help.

However, Dolan said men showed more health benefits from tying the knot, as they took less risks. Women’s health was mostly unaffected by marriage, with middle-aged married women even being at higher risk of physical and mental conditions than their single counterparts.

Despite the benefits of a single, childless lifestyle for women, Dolan said that the existing narrative that marriage and children were signs of success meant that the stigma could lead some single women to feel unhappy.

“You see a single woman of 40, who has never had children – ‘bless, that’s a shame isn’t it, maybe one day you’ll meet the right guy and that’ll change’. No, maybe she’ll meet the wrong guy and that’ll change. Maybe she’ll meet a guy who makes her less happy and healthy, and die sooner.”

 

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