Wildwood Daze – Betty Ann – Part 8 -The Drive In

Wildwood, New Jersey – July 1984

Even though at 22 I was glad I still had my summer of 1980 and California powers with women, Betty was a lovely compliment to my history. I loved all of our deliciously devilish encounters. She was gorgeous, had a slamming body, and most of all experience. Being a woman of 32 she was different than the girls I’d dated up till then. They kind of didn’t know what to do with or to a man to bring him to a boil. It all came from me. My desire and uncontrollable urges. But Betty was a woman, not a young girl. She knew how to touch and please a man. She had things she could do to enhance and sometimes even slow down the encounter to make it longer and more enjoyable. I realized why her husband had cheated on his first wife to get with Betty. She was a little dynamo in the bedroom. My time in California had changed me from a kid selling cookies in a town full of werewolves, into Lon Chaney himself.

But I loved my new girlfriend and being the gentleman I had come to be, I wanted to take her on some fun dates. I think I loved romance and courtship even better than sex. Sex is an act that celebrates how we feel about each other in a physical union. But romance and courtship take more time and are far more elegant. I know I’m right. Have you ever watched one of those nature shows about the courtship of some birds? The male does a fantastic dance, a show, collects stuff, and makes a shrine to his potential mate. When the female finally gives in and chooses him, it’s over in like a second. I’m like… dude, you did all of that just to get laid? Yes, yes I did, says the bird. Because it’s called romance, son.

Look at this guy!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWfyw51DQfU

I told her about all of my wonderful fun times at the drive-in movie theater in Rio Grande and she wanted to go. She said she’d never been to a drive-in movie and it sounded fun. 

So the following weekend we hopped in her BMW and went to the drive-in. We stopped at the liquor store on RT 47 before we went in and I picked up some beer. Always Miller ponies because they were small and stayed colder longer. (You also consumed them a bit faster because they were so small) We found a good spot and parked. I set up the speaker on the driver’s side window and we were good to go. I ran to the snack bar and got us a big bag of popcorn and we were all set. 

I’ve always loved movies and I especially loved drive-in movies. You’re in the privacy of your own car, you can talk, drink, smoke, and do whatever else you want in the privacy of your vehicle. 

The movies playing that night were Footloose and Indian Jones and the Temple of Doom. a perfect 80s double feature with my best girl.

We were munching our popcorn, sipping cold beer on that warm summer evening and all was right in my world. I liked this part of our relationship. Betty liked to smoke pot so she sparked up a joint. I didn’t smoke back then, because I didn’t like the sudden confusing feeling THC gave me, so I declined. I noticed when Betty was high she’d get a little snippy with me but in an endearing way. She offered some hits to me but I said I was fine with just beer. “You’re always saying no to me, Chaz.” she’d say. I knew that wasn’t true. I was a young buck at my peak of physical prowess but I was sitting next to a woman in her sexual prime.

We enjoyed the movies and acted like a couple of teenagers. Betty said I made her feel like a young girl again. She said she loved the way she felt when she was with me. She missed being a single girl and going out on fun dates.  I knew she’d love this. I could see from my actions this was going from more of an illicit adulterous hook-up to a real romance. 

It was a lovely night and after the movie, we decided to drive around a bit. We drove out to Cape May and I wanted to show her the concrete ship. It was a famous tourist spot not only known for its cape may diamonds, but a sweet make-out spot. 

I remember the road that led out to that place is incredibly straight. I once asked my dad about that, and he told me that a trolley used to run out that way. We were a mile or two away and I asked Betty if she could pull over. We sat in the car and talked for a little bit and then things became a bit more amorous, but then I suddenly pulled away. “Can I drive the rest of the way?”

“Ummm… oh, why not, Chaz.”

We switched seats and I got behind the wheel. I knew the road was deserted at night and straight as an arrow. So when we got to the beginning, I floored it and the BMW responded just like Betty did to my touch.

Betty was giggling and not angry at all. I knew she’d yield to my wishes. It felt great to drive a car with such performance. I’d never had a chance to drive such a car. We reached the coastline in a minute or two and I hit the brakes and parked.

We parked and climbed into the back seat. As she fell into my arms laughing, I realized that I had broken not one, but two of her original rules that evening. I’m sure it never crossed her mind, but it did mine.

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Wildwood Daze – Betty Ann – Part 7 – Burning For You

North Wildwood, New Jersey – June 1984

I was going to the bathroom one day and I felt a burning sensation. I always had two terrible fears about sex. Getting someone pregnant and acquiring a venereal disease. I had been having a lot of incredible mind-bending sex with Betty and now I was worried. I knew she was on birth control so getting her pregnant was a non-issue. But now I was suddenly feeling this discomfort whenever I urinated and I started having real anxiety.

The whole idea of me having an affair with a woman ten years my senior who was incredibly hot was unbelievable enough. But now I was starting to think maybe I wasn’t the only one she could be fooling around with. Could it be possible? Had I fallen victim to a wanton seductress who was out devouring young men? Of course, being only 22 at the time I instantly panicked.

What to do? My dad had lots of experience with all sorts of scary grown-up stuff so I went and talked to him. He knew all about what was happening between me and Betty so I figured I should ask him about what I was experiencing. 

I guess looking back on it now, I can say what I want about my father but when it came to big stuff… serious stuff, he was always there for me. It’s a shame most kids can’t go to their parents with their troubles for fear of repercussions or shame associated with their actions. But I remember my father always saying, anything you’re doing… or even thinking about doing… I’ve probably already done it. Another goal I would eventually achieve and exceed.

So, I went and spoke to him about what I was experiencing. I knew enough about science, biology, and anatomy and clearly, something was wrong. Betty was the only girl I’d been with in a while so I figured anything wrong with my plumbing had to have come from her.

“Okay, son, let’s not jump to conclusions here. You may just be experiencing what many of us call a ‘ hot bod’. But I doubt if it’s syphilis or gonorrhea. She’s a married woman. She’s chosen you, and she’s probably not screwing anyone else.”

“But what about her husband? He cheated on his first wife with her, and now he’s cheating again. That’s why she’s getting revenge on him with me. What if he’s screwing a bunch of women, and he caught something, gave it to her, and she gave it to me.”

“You make a great point there son, but don’t panic. I’m going to call Dr. Galzunis, and you’re going to go see him and get yourself checked out. But whatever this is, we’ll take care of it, okay?”

“Thanks, dad. I will. I hope you’re right.”

I go to Dr. Galzunis’s office to get checked out. I’m embarrassed because he’s the family doctor and I know his hot daughter Chrissy. But, he was good friends with my father, and I’m sure he knew the situation before I got there.

I was sitting in the waiting room and having high anxiety when it was my turn to go in to see him. I had been praying I wouldn’t run into anyone I knew in the office. Wildwood is a small town so you never know who could see you doing whatever.

I get in there and of course, Dr. Galzunis is the consummate professional and has a great bedside manner. But there was no pageantry here, we got right down to business. He checked me for any swelling on different parts of my body then it was time for the main event.

I was asked to drop my pants and lean over the examination table. He handed me a microscope slide. He told me to hold it at the end of my member. I’m thinking… what the hell is this? He snaps on a glove and lubes up his middle finger. He tells me he’s going to check my prostate. A small amount of semen will discharge out of me and onto the slide. I’m filled with anxiety as he invades me. He’s trying to be gentle and quick about the whole matter and I start hyperventilating. It’s odd, because I had really bad anxiety that normally resulted in nausea, but there was no time for that here. I just started hyperventilating. That had never happened to me before. I looked down and there was the sample he was seeking. I told him it came out and he withdrew. 

I started to calm down as I cleaned up and pulled up my drawers. Man, that was awkward and uncomfortable. He told me that I probably had a urinary infection and that it was quite common. It just appears in men faster because all of our equipment is on the outside of our bodies and women’s stuff was all inside. I was praying he was right because I had read articles about what VD can do to the body if left untreated. 

He said he’d run some tests and give me a call in a day or so. He gave me a prescription for some CIPRO and told me NO SEX for a couple of days until we knew what we were dealing with.

I left the office and called Betty and told her all about the whole scary ordeal. At first, she was a little miffed about me thinking I got an STD from her, but once I gave her my theory about her husband catting around, she understood. She said she’d go and get herself checked out. 

It turns out it was simply a urinary infection, and she had indeed passed it to me during one of our marathon sessions. Once you get a UTI apparently you’re susceptible to getting one again. I think I’ve had maybe one or two more in my entire life and it’s no big deal. But once it starts you know something’s up. All the cranberry juice in the world won’t clear it up, but CIPRO will. You start taking that stuff and you feel better by day two. Medicine works.

So, Betty and I had a good laugh about it, and we kept all of our frisky encounters to a minimum for a week. She even gave me a polaroid of her topless that her husband had taken to hold me over. 

But after that, we were back in the groove again, so to speak.

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Wildwood Daze – Betty Ann – Part 6 – Game of Chance

Wildwood, New Jersey – Spring – 1984

It was great dating, Betty. She was the perfect girlfriend. Smoking hot and not around all the time. We were walking on the boardwalk in Wildwood one night. I just loved strolling with her. Holding her hand. Occasionally glancing over at my gorgeous girlfriend or stealing a sweet kiss.

Betty saw this game of chance that had these beautiful plush stuffed animals all around it that you could win. (Or in the case of most games of chance on the boardwalk, NOT win)

“Oh my god. Look at that big white lion, I bet my little Kelly would love that!”

“Yea, those prizes rock because that game is nearly impossible to win. Look at all those people tossing their dimes onto that board. Now watch how the attendant is literally sweeping piles of dimes off the board. They’re raking in thousands of dollars a night. I’ve won lots of stuff on this boardwalk over the years but that game is nearly impossible. They’re selling hope and crushing disappointment all at the same booth!”

“You’re funny, Chaz. Ready to go back to the motel?”

“That’s a game where we both win, Betty. Let’s go.”

I told my friend Pitchy about her. I’d been friends with him since we were 9 years old. He lived around the corner from me down the shore in the Summer. He has always had an incredibly dry wit. I was explaining to him my current romantic situation. Pitch was never a ladies’ man and liked that I always had something interesting going on. In 1984 he was already married and had a baby on the way.

On the boardwalk, there were many games of chance. Most cost a quarter and you bet on a number on a spinning wheel and if your number came up, you won a prize. I was a pretty lucky guy and won many a T-shirt or record album on the boardwalk. I remember winning Iron Maiden, Killers on a wheel one night out front of Morey’s Pier. I just liked the cover. Turned out to be a magnificent metal record that I loved but most of my friends thought was too fast.

But my buddy Pitchy had an incredible skill. A skill that wasn’t really based on chance. I don’t know when he discovered this ability and I’ve never seen it replicated by anyone else in all of my years on that boardwalk. There was a game called The Dime Pitch. This game had been around for decades. Customers would hand the attendant a dollar or two and would be given the appropriate amount of dimes. Which was cool, because it gave you 10 chances to win for only a buck. The way the game works is this. This huge wooden board is in the middle of the floor of the game booth. People toss their dimes onto the board and try to get their dimes on one of the red dots on the board.

But here’s the thing. There are hundreds of them and a lot of spaces in between. You have to throw your dime and get it to land in the very center of the red dot. Not just on the red dot but there has to be red showing all the way around your dime. You’re throwing dimes at this board from 4 to six feet away. They made a fortune on this game because it looks easy, but is nearly impossible. But here’s the thing, with great risk comes great reward. If by some rare chance you got a dime on the red circle and there was red showing all the way around it, the prizes were massive. Not some small trinket from the lower shelf of junk. I’m talking huge plush stuffed animal that any kid would adore. If you were a guy and won a stuffed animal like that and gave it to your kid, or girlfriend, you would be looked upon as a local legend for the night.

Pitchy was so good at this game, they had to ban him from the game. Not entirely, but they had to limit his time at the board because those giant plush animals were expensive. I kid you not. They would restrict him from the game to maybe once a week. They all knew him up there and understood his power.

They feared him.

He and I were up on the boardwalk one night and we were chatting about his special gift. It had gotten to a point where it was no longer a game of chance for Pitchy. It was a revenue generator. He would go to the first dime pitch game and after about 15 minutes he’d win a giant stuffed animal. He knew which ones were the most popular with the tourists. He’d hand it off to me and I’d start walking up the boardwalk with the great beast under my arm.

Within minutes people would be saying things and complimenting me on my prize. I’d always target guys with women with them. I’d respond with the same statement to everyone. “Wanna buy it?”

“How much?”

“Forty bucks and it’s yours.”

“Seems a little high.”

“You’ll spend twice that trying to win a prize like that for her this vacation.”

In the meantime, Pitchy was already at a different dime pitch game and playing. By the time I sold the stuffed animal he’d be approaching me with another one. We’d sell it too and then he’d give me a cut for doing the sales end of the deal. Then we’d go spend the money on beer and pizza.

This was an ongoing grift we worked all summer. I spoke to him about doing me a favor in regard to his special power. I’m sure you can guess what it was by now.

The next time I went over to Betty’s house to hang out with her. I got out of the car and had a little something under my arm for her to leave in her daughter Kelly’s room.

“Chaz! Oh my god! How did you? Where did you?”

“Don’t worry about it, Betty. I got a guy.”

On a final note to this chapter. One night I was over at Betty’s house and the babysitter had brought her daughter Kelly home. She immediately made a beeline to her room to go see her big white lion. I had to hide in a closet across the hall until the coast was clear!

Crazy times, man.

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California Dreamin’ – Ashley – 3 Strikes – Part 3

Wildwood, NJ – 1984

When I got back to Wildwood, NJ I would write letters and sometimes talk to Ashley on the phone. One night I had been drinking while I was on the phone with her and the conversation turned to sex.

Ashley became enraged, that I was gone from her life and all I wanted to do was talk about how great our sex had been. She yelled at me and told me she never wanted to speak to me again. She was peevish, ex-lover spurned with jealousy and rage.

I was fine with that. I was already seeing someone else by then.

Philadelphia, PA – 2008

25 years later, I’m living in Rittenhouse with my girlfriend, Michelle. One day I go on Facebook, and I have a friend request from Ashley! I was happily surprised to hear from her after so long. Facebook was still pretty new back then and people were reconnecting with all of their old friends from the past. Whether that’s a good idea or not, I don’t know. I’m going to say it’s a good thing. I’ve been able to chat with many of my old friends and it’s nice to see some of them after all of these years.

But after about a week or so, Ashley writes me a message that I’m not being a good Facebook friend and she’s cutting me off. I didn’t understand what that meant. I guess I was supposed to be more attentive on this social media platform. It seemed weird to me at the time, but after all that time I didn’t care. She just seemed crazy. Mental illness is an insidious thing. I’ve met enough crazy people here in Philly, and I just don’t care anymore.

Philadelphia, PA – 2020

Here we go again. We’re all in lockdown due to the global pandemic. Out of the blue, I get a message on Facebook from Ashley. Now it’s been 37 years since I laid eyes on her.

She and I would message each other on Facebook. It was nice to chat with her again after all of these years. We had a shared history from a long time ago when we were young and free in L.A. in the early 80s.

She had been to school and became a chef, married for over 30 years, had no children and had been living in Italy for many years. It was fun to catch up.

But after a short period, I started to notice a very angry tone in her messages. She seemed bitter and preachy about certain subjects. I’ve been around for a long time and have a wealth of life experience. I can pretty much read people through the written word as if I’m listening to them in person. It sounded like when she’d get mean in her messages, she was drunk.

I think she searched my blog looking for some heartfelt story about her and there just wasn’t any. I wrote about a bunch of wild things that happened to me and the boys when we got to LA but never got around to writing about her.

She gave me a really hard time about some of my posts. I felt violated and insulted by how corrosive her words were about my blog. So many cruel, words. It hurt, but I’m accustomed to trolls by now. I’m sure it was just her drunken bitterness coming forth from a life not lived. Just silly, juvenile, embarrassing behavior from a middle-aged woman.

It’s a shame when you find out a person has lived over half a century and hasn’t ever evolved as a person.

I have a low tolerance for drunk people even though I have a high tolerance for alcohol. (Not anymore, thank you) But she seemed drunk and rambled on in some of her messages. It felt uncomfortable and I felt bad for her. When I looked on her Instagram it was just a bunch of pictures of locations where she lived. She seems lonely. That’s the vibe I got. No kids, married for 30 years and has almost no info or photos of her husband.

I suppose what happened to her is that she’d sadly lived a life that’s been unfulfilled. She speaks and acts as though she hasn’t grown as a person or matured as an adult. She was still pissed about me leaving her back in 1983!

We spoke on the phone one morning and it was lovely. But she wanted to chat so much on Facebook messenger that it started to feel like too much. She said, “Promise me we can do this every week.”

Who says that? Promise me? I’m not making any promises to some 60-year-old woman who lives on the other side of the planet. I haven’t seen her in 37 years! Anything we ever were was finished a long time ago.

I also noticed how she would message me on Facebook, and if I didn’t respond, she would delete them all which seemed juvenile and weird. Sadly, Ashley’s never matured as a person and hasn’t evolved through the years. I can’t relate to any of that nonsense.

I think poor Ashley’s bored in her life and where she’s ended up, and has turned to alcohol for solace. But that never works. That’s just a band-aid covering up your real issues.

I spoke to my daughter about it and she said it all seemed kind of weird after all of this time.

I would have been happy to chat with her ocassionally on messenger. That would have been nice. But I don’t want to be in constant touch with someone and have them sending me clips of a bunch of music and songs I have zero interest in. It all seemed juvenile. I guess if you marry too young and don’t live a full life, you kind of get stuck behaving a certain way. I don’t know how her husband has put up with all of this childish behavior for so many years. I’d have divorced this woman/child years ago. But that’s his life, not mine. I don’t know the man.

So, at one point she sends me a message about how it’s been great talking to me and hopes I have a nice life. I saw it and didn’t respond. I could tell it was just an attempt to get my attention. But I simply don’t care. I feel nothing for this person.

There were a few more drunken messages that were later deleted. I’m assuming she writes a bunch of wild things when she’s half in the bag, and then the next morning when she’s sober, takes them down.

I figured she’d wait until the end of December of last year. If she hadn’t heard from me, she’d cut me off for the third time.

Had she just reached out to chat and behaved like an adult, we could have remained friends, but she hasn’t the ability to do that. I’m thinking possible bipolar and alcoholism at this point. But I’m not spending any time thinking about it at all. I’m too busy.

I was promoting some of my stuff on Facebook the other day, and I noticed the message chain from her was gone. I thought, “This is it.”

I searched for her on Facebook. She didn’t cut me off or block me, but she had unfriended me. So silly.

So, 3 strikes and it looks like I’m out.

But… like I always say. No matter what happens, good or bad… at least I got a story out of it…

 

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California Dreamin’ – Ashley – 3 Strikes – Part 1

Santa Monica, CA – 1982

When I first got to Los Angeles in 1982, I got a job as a busboy at a local restaurant in Santa Monica called Cafe Casino. It was located in the Wilshire Pallisades building down by the beachfront. Someone had come up with the idea of serving French cuisine in a cafeteria model. People would enter the restaurant, grab a tray and get in line for their meal. They would point to the things they wanted, and there were a couple of girls that would serve them. It was like an expensive high school lunchroom experience. We had a fun crew of people working there and we had a good time.

I had become friends with one of the girls who worked there named Kellie Lawson. She was from Kenosha, Wisconsin. She was one of a million people who had migrated to Los Angeles to become an actor. Most people that you met out there back then all wanted the same thing. Every person in the service industry was waiting for the big break that would never come. Every waitress was either an actress, singer, model, or dancer. Most of the men you met were actors, musicians, or screenwriters. None of them working in the industry, but waiting…

Kelly had got on a greyhound bus to escape the grinding boredom of her hometown in an attempt to make it big in Hollywood. A classic scenario seen a thousand times out there. We had started dating and would frequently fool around at her apartment. We sort of grew out of touch after I left that job to work at Merlin McFly’s down near Venice.

One afternoon, we’re at the restaurant and the guys and I were hanging outside the dining room by the doors. The lunch rush was over and the two glass doors swung open. Who comes rolling in with his squad but Heisman Trophy champion, O.J. Simpson!

I knew him more from the Hertz commercials, but the other guys all cheered when the athlete entered the restaurant. He was a good-looking guy and said hello to us all. When I shook the hand of this man, who could realize that 10 years later he’d be famous for something else.

One of the girls who worked there that I befriended was a charming beauty named Joelle. She was a part-time model and her boyfriend worked at Disney studios.

Here’s her modeling photo card. Beautiful!

A lovely girl. She was not only beautiful but full of sass. She’d laugh at all my jokes and seemed to find me amusing. I liked working with her and having her as a friend back then.

One day, I came to work and she was standing there with another girl. She was 19 years old, cute, and Joelle told me she was her cousin from Philadelphia. I chatted with her and thought she was cool. Since I was originally from Philly we had a small connection.

She was new to California, and I told her we should hang out. She gave me her number and we made plans to do something together.

Eventually, we started dating and things became romantic. I had already been out there for over a year and was pretty jaded. But Ashley was new and was a fun, sweet girl to spend time with. Sometimes we’d just drive around LA in my van and end up down by the beach. We’d make out in the VW minibus and it was a romantic hot time.

We went on several dates. We went to see, ET: The Extraterrestrial, (I cried like a baby) The Dark Crystal, (A bunch of muppets with David Bowie), and Flashdance. (Chick-flick, but the great soundtrack.)

Sometimes we’d just hang out at my apartment, but many times I’d finish work and come visit her at her cousin’s house out in Culver City. It was fun to hang out in her room and watch TV and make out. We were just a couple of teenagers enjoying life and our youth together. We were a couple of kids on the loose in LA. She loved Richard Gere and I loved Farrah Fawcett.

One night I stayed over there late. We stayed up all night as young people do. When I came out to get in my van to go home, I saw that the driver’s side door was standing wide open.

My minibus had been broken into, and the thieves had stolen my entire stereo system. This was heartbreaking to me because I loved my van and listening to my tunes. They even took the boom box that I used to listen to on the beach back in Wildwood, NJ. I felt so violated by that incident, I was reluctant to go back to her neighborhood again. It was a planned professional job. They had hit several cars on the street that night.

The more Ashley and I spent time together the closer we became. She would stay over at my apartment in Mar Vista on the weekends. That eventually turned into our first intimate encounters. I don’t think I realized at the time that I was Ashley’s first.

But after that, it was really fun to be together, and fooling around became part of our relationship. It was a natural progression back then. You can only make out in my van for so long before the bigger things start happening.

One night while we were in my apartment fooling around someone broke into the apartment next door and robbed the place. My neighbor was in Greece at the time with her boyfriend so nobody was home. The thieves ransacked the place and I suppose stole anything valuable.  I later heard from one of my neighbord that they saw some guys listening next to my window to see if anybody was home. But I guess hearing our laughter they moved on to next door and ripped off my neighbor’s place instead of robbing us. Crazy!

My neighbor moved out shortly after that and I moved into her apartment. It was bigger and installed a waterbed I had gotten from a chef I worked with at McFlys who had back problems. That waterbed only cost me $120 and was awesome! It was so cool having a waterbed. I remember one night the thermostat in the unit went off and the whole side of my body was cold when I woke up. I thought I was half dead! I had a lot of wild times on that waterbed.

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How to Hook Up with a Girl Who Has a Boyfriend

Sometimes it seems like all the good ones are taken. Now, you’ve found a girl that you feel a strong connection with and attraction to, but she has a boyfriend. Here are some ideas for how to win her over, ranging from being straightforward to being stealthy. It’s up to you to decide: is all fair in love and war?

Telling Her Your Feelings

1. 

   Evaluate your relationship with her. It’s important to consider whether telling her your feelings is appropriate based on the strength of your relationship.

   • Imagine you tell her. Is your relationship strong enough to handle it if she doesn’t feel the same way, or if she does but decides to stay with her current boyfriend? If yes, it might be worth the risk. If no, weigh your options carefully.
   • If you haven’t known this girl very long, this probably isn’t a good option. She could see your professed feelings as very abrupt or forward.
   • Make a pro/con list to weigh the risks and benefits of telling her your feelings. Also, consider the risks and benefits of not telling her. Is it worth the risk?
2. 
   Plan out what you want to say. Frame this conversation carefully, so she knows you are not making demands of her. Ask a friend to talk out the scenario with you to work out any kinks. Your friend can give you a perspective on your choices of words.
3. 

    

   Build up your courage. Of course, you’re nervous to tell her your feelings. Not only could this admission change your relationship with this girl, but it could affect your relationship with her boyfriend or other mutual friends if you have them. Fear signals that the outcome is important to you. Once you’ve decided you want to go ahead with expressing yourself, use your fear to motivate you, rather than deter you.
4. 

   Tell her. Once you’ve built up your courage, go for it.

   • When you’re alone with her, say something along the lines of: “Caitlin, I know that you’re dating Sam, and I don’t want to mess anything up for you, but I’ve started to have feelings for you. I want you to know.” If you think she reciprocates the feelings, you can add, “I’ve sensed that the attraction might be mutual, and I want to clear the air.”
   • If she has been giving you vibes that she’s interested in, it’s important that she knows so that she doesn’t keep giving you mixed signals.

5. Respect her response. You’ve weighed the risks and benefits of your decision, and you knew that she might not respond favorably. It is important, especially if you want to remain friends, to accept and respect her response.

   • She may tell you that she does not feel the same way. Rejection is painful, but it is one of the ways that we reduce our ego and grow.
   • She may tell you that she does have feelings for you, but that she wants to stay with her boyfriend because they have a strong relationship and she also has feelings for him. This is harder to accept because it feels like there is a glimmer of hope, but once she tells you her decision to stay with her boyfriend, you need to move on.
   • Don’t torture yourself. Waiting around and hoping that she’ll change your mind will only be a waste of your time. If you accept her response, you will be better able to move forward and search for a romantic connection elsewhere.
     

Seducing Her Stealthily

1. 

   Establish yourself as a constant in her life. If she only sees you around every once in a while, you won’t be on her mind that often. If you want a shot with her, you need to see her regularly

   • Join her friend group. Ingratiate yourself to her best friends. If her friends hold you in high regard, chances are she will, too. Being part of her friend group ensures that you will be invited to events that she will be attending.
   • Get her phone number. Wait for a natural opportunity to ask for her number. You were having a conversation and it was cut off? Ask for her number so you can continue talking. You’re planning a get-together for your friend group? Perfect reason to make sure you have her number.
2. 
   Highlight your good qualities. Make sure she sees that you’re a positive person to have in her life. Do you have a great sense of humor? Are you empathetic and open to talking about your feelings?  Are you particularly creative? Slip these traits into your conversation with her or her friends. She’ll start to see what she’s missing out on.
3. 

   Find the weak points in her current relationship. No relationship is perfect, and there are likely things she’d change about her boyfriend if she could.

   • Casually ask her about her relationship. As she grows to trust you, she’ll share more information with you. If she tells you that her boyfriend never takes the time to hear about her day, don’t tell her that you’d always make time to listen to her if you were in his shoes. Store this information. Another day, make sure you ask her how her day is going and actively listen.
   • If you are hanging out with her friends while she’s not around, pay attention if they are gossiping. They may say something about her relationship that you can use to play up your strengths in contrast to her boyfriend’s weaknesses.
4. 
   Make your move. You’ve set the stage so that she sees you in good light. You can decide if your move will be verbal or physical. Will you tell her you’re attracted to her or just lean in for the kiss? Wait for a time when the two of you are alone and the mood is light.
5. 

   Be prepared for her reaction. Though you’ve been contemplating this for a while, it could be totally out of the blue for her.

   • If she tells you she’s attracted to you, too, give her some time to decide if she wants to act on that. Don’t pressure her. That will make her withdraw from your friendship and undo the work that you’ve done to show yourself off.
   • If you physically hook up with her, recognize that there will be consequences. In all likeliness, she’ll feel guilty, and might even be angry with you for disrespecting her relationship status. You will seriously damage any relationship you have with her boyfriend, and likely with mutual friends.
     • If you make this move and she tells her boyfriend, you will probably be cut out of her life unless they decide to break up.
6. 
   Ask her for a decision. Regardless of whether you expressed your feelings emotionally or physically, give her time to process her feelings. She may decide that she wants to give a relationship with you a shot. She may decide that she wants to stay with her boyfriend. Once she makes that decision, that’s it. Trying to convince her to change her mind will only make her put up walls. 

Waiting Patiently

1. 

   Decide if she is someone worth waiting for. You could be waiting around for a long time for this relationship to end if it ever does. Even then, you might have to watch her go through a string of relationships if she moves quickly from one relationship to the next.

   • Consider her current relationship. If she’s in a strong relationship, she is not likely to leave it, even if she likes you, too.
   • Though it’s not romantic, scientifically there’s no such thing as “the one.” Do you want to spend your life waiting around for a girl who is interested in another person? There are plenty of other girls looking for someone like you.
2. 

   Foster a strong friendship with her. If you care enough to wait for her, disregard Method 2. Don’t manipulate her feelings. Be present in her life and let her know that you are someone she can trust. She may drift in and out of relationships, but she will keep you around.

   • If you genuinely care about her, nurturing a friendship with her will come naturally. Make small gestures. Remember her birthday and how she likes her coffee. If you notice she’s having a rough day, ask her if she wants to talk about it.
3. 

   Wait until her current relationship ends. She will know you care for her well-being if you respect her relationship. Don’t try to break it up.

   • If she is happy in her relationship, she will not thank you for critiquing her boyfriend or finding ways to get their relationship on rocky ground. Even if she is unhappy in the relationship if she realizes your motive she will see it as manipulative.
   • If you truly care for her, you will want her to be happy, even if it’s not with you.
4. 
   Express your feelings to her in a timely but respectful time frame. Once she and her boyfriend break up, give her time to grieve that relationship and heal from the hurt. Don’t wait too long, though, or she may move on to another relationship before you get your chance.

Tips

• Don’t be too clingy or she will try to distance herself from you.
• Make absolutely certain that this girl is worth it. So often we want the impossible relationship because we are too afraid to find a relationship that might actually happen.
• If you step on her boyfriend’s toes, it will be all over. He will be more protective of their relationship, and you might even be cut out.
• If you realize you’re stuck in the friend zone, move on. There are other great girls who don’t have boyfriends.

Warnings

• If she breaks up with her boyfriend for you, someday she may break up with you for someone else.
• You can seriously damage relationships by trying to break a couple up. Not only might you ruin your relationship with her and her boyfriend, but you also may hurt relationships with mutual friends, classmates, or coworkers.
• If you succeed in hooking up with her and she finds out about your plot, you could jeopardize your relationship.
• In Method 2, you will be manipulating your own crush for your own selfish wants. If you are willing to do this, you may not care about her as much as you claim to.

The Absolute Dater – Making Online Dating Easy Again

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25 Signs You’re Not Actually Dating

Remember when you were in high school and college and dating really just meant “hanging out”? Once you reach a certain age—ahem, 21, when you can legally go out to a restaurant and order a bottle of wine—the definition of dating becomes much, much simpler. In order to be dating someone, you need to be going out on dates, among other things.

After the jump, 25 signs you’re not actually dating.

1. You’ve never hung out before 10 p.m.
2. All of your plans arise out of spontaneous run-ins.
3. He’s married or has a girlfriend.
4. You’ve been out more than five times, but have never had a meal together—it’s been all liquid.
5. You don’t know his last name—let alone his middle!—or where he lives.
6. You’ve gone out more than five times and haven’t so much as held hands or kissed. (You’re just friends, homie. Or he’s Amish.)
7. You’ve only hung out in a group in public; the only alone time you have is in bed.
8. You have to make all attempts at contact—except those late-night booty calls.
9. You’re sleeping together, but he’s never slept over.
10. You haven’t had brunch the next day.
11. You’ve been “hanging out” for a month but have never done so in the light of day.
12. If you meet his friends, they have no reaction to hearing your name.
13. You meet up places—he never officially makes plans, like, “Are you free Saturday to see ‘Hot Tub Time Machine’?”
14. It’s been less than a week since you began seeing him.
15. It’s been more than a week since you’ve heard from him.
16. When he sleeps over, he always sneaks out in the morning without saying goodbye.
17. You only communicate through text messages and email.
18. In fact, you met online and all of your “dates” have been via Skype!
19. He leaves a $100 bill on your nightstand before he takes off.
20. Your friends refer to him as a nickname instead of his real name.
21. When you ask him to hang, he says he can’t because he’s got a date.
22. His concern over you having the flu only extends to his inability to get laid, not to your physical well-being.
23. When you go out for drinks, you always go dutch. Literally, you don’t even switch off buying rounds.
24. It’s been a month and he doesn’t know how you like your coffee.
25. He is having dinner, buying drinks, sleeping over, and making plans with someone—it’s just not you. If he’s “dating” someone else in a way that’s above and beyond the way he’s dating you, you’re not actually dating, sister.

 

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20 Things All Men Want Their Girlfriends To Stop Doing

When you get into a relationship, you start noticing your boyfriend’s habits, both good and bad and massive and small. The fact that he always forgets to turn the dishwasher on or he keeps buying more sparkling water when there’s a ton in the fridge? Those are two pretty small things and not a big deal at all. But there are other aspects of his behavior that are a lot more important, like how he feels about committing to you.

Just like you want your BF to be nice and have positive habits, he wants the same for you. The truth is that men have a list of relationship grievances that they would really prefer not to see on a regular basis.

Here are 20 things that all men want their girlfriends to stop doing.

20. Texting Your Friends While Hanging With Him

When you’re hanging out with your boyfriend, he really doesn’t want you to be on your phone… and he really, really doesn’t want you texting your friends. This is one of those things that literally everyone seems to do since it doesn’t seem rude.

But it is pretty rude, right? It’s no wonder that guys aren’t big on this.

19. Complaining All The Time

Does anyone like a complainer? No, definitely not, but guys especially don’t enjoy having girlfriends who complain all the time.

You could feel that you have totally legit reasons to be negative, like that one friend who never shows up for dinner plans on time. But to your BF, this is frustrating, and he doesn’t want to hear such negativity.

 

18. Taking Two Hours To Put On Makeup And Do Your Hair

Of course, it’s fun to put on makeup and attempt a new hairstyle (or the same hairstyle and lipstick that you always go for). Is it fun for your boyfriend to have to wait two hours for this beauty magic to happen?

Not so much… which is why this is something else that all men want their girlfriends to stop doing.

17. Bugging Him To Propose Already

It can feel frustrating to watch the months and years tick by and realize that you still don’t have an engagement ring on your finger. However, bugging a guy to propose isn’t going to work.

Men also want their girlfriends to stop asking when they’re going to pop the question and generally bringing this up in an awkward way.

16. Two Words: Couple Selfies

To you, couple selfies are the most adorable thing that you could post. You want to see the positive comments and show that you have such a cute boyfriend.

To your boyfriend, these are annoying. And not something that he wants to be a part of. All men want their girlfriends to stop taking and posting couple photos. They would really love for these selfies to disappear.

15. Two More Words: ‘It’s Fine’

All men definitely want their girlfriends to stop saying “I’m fine.” This is a cliche statement that doesn’t really work.

While it’s tempting to say this in the middle of an argument, it’s not going to deliver the results that you want. Instead of convincing your BF that everything’s cool, he’s just going to be mad that you’re not being honest with him.

 

14. Spilling Secrets (And Anything Else) To Your BFFs

It’s awesome to have a close group of friends, and of course, your BFFs are the people who you want to share so many things with. The problem is that while you have no problem spilling your boyfriend’s secrets (and anything else about your relationship), he’s not that comfy with this. All men want their girlfriends to keep these things to themselves.

13. Calling Him Bae Or Other Annoying Slang

Relationship slang like “bae” has gotten super popular over the past few years, so much so that you honestly think nothing of using these terms.

While you love them and think that they’re adorable, your boyfriend isn’t quite on the same page. When it comes to what men would love for their girlfriends to stop doing, using slang is on the list as well.

 

12. Social Media Oversharing

Your social media followers don’t really need to know every detail of the relationship that you’re in. And yet some people honestly don’t even think twice about oversharing on these platforms.

It’s safe to say that guys aren’t into these kinds of posts and really wish that their girlfriends would refrain from doing this.

11. Inviting Him Out With Your Friends

In super rare cases, a guy will be happy to go out with his girlfriend and her group of friends. It’s much more likely that he doesn’t want to do this at all.

It’s just like how you don’t want to head out with him and his friends. You just don’t get along or you don’t have enough in common, and everyone feels awkward or left out.

 

10. Saying His Mom Doesn’t Like You

Men don’t want their girlfriends to say that their mom dislikes them. It might be the truth. She could be so rude to you. But you should honestly never bring this up.

It’s important to have a good relationship with his family if you’re going to be with him forever, and yet you can’t really convince him that his mom isn’t the nicest person unless he tells you that himself.

9. Getting Angry That He’s Not A Mind Reader

All men would love for their girlfriends to stop expecting them to be mind readers. This happens a lot during fights or when you want him to understand what he did to make you so upset.

Many couples would love being able to read each other’s minds. It would definitely make things a lot easier. Unfortunately, that’s just not a thing. Sure, you don’t want to spell things out for him, but in this case, you totally should.

 

8. Buying Clothes For Him

You could find the nicest hoodie ever, buy it, bring it home, and your boyfriend could still shake his head and say that you shouldn’t have gotten it for him.

A lot of guys don’t want their girlfriends to buy clothing for them since it makes them feel like they’re incapable of doing that themselves. No guy wants their girlfriend to be their personal shopper.

7. Being In A Bad Mood For No Reason

It’s true that sometimes, you’re just not in a good mood. You can’t shake it, you can’t explain it… but you can stop moping around the house and annoying your BF.

The truth is that when you spend all day long being super unhappy, it changes the energy around you and it doesn’t make your boyfriend very happy, either. He would love for you to stop being in a bad mood for no reason at all. It just confuses him.

 

6. Nagging Him And Wishing You Could Change Him

Men don’t want to be changed by the women who they are dating. What’s something that they dislike even more? When their girlfriends nag them to change.

Sure, it could be true that he should dress better or stop using his phone so much. But he doesn’t want to hear these things from the person who loves him. It’s just all kinds of awkward and makes him feel bad.

5. Saying That You’re Bored

Sure, everyone gets bored. But everyone also finds it totally annoying when someone tells them that they’re bored.

Guys want their girlfriends to stop saying that they’re bored, and if you’re in the habit of this, it would definitely be good to stop (and find something interesting to do instead of repeating this over and over again).

 

4. Wanting Him To Stop Seeing Certain Friends

You have a right to dislike some of your boyfriend’s friends. Do you have a right to tell him to stop hanging out with them? Not really.

You wouldn’t love if he told you the same thing about your own social circle, so it’s probably best to steer clear of this type of conversation. Just don’t hang out with them and everything should be fine.

3. Texting Him Too Much When He’s At The Office

There’s a time and place for texting. It can be great to text your boyfriend so you can keep in contact with each other during the day (and maybe say some super cute things to each other, too).

But guys don’t enjoy their girlfriends texting them when they’re busy at the office and have a ton of deadlines and tasks on their plate.

 

2. The Silent Treatment

If men want their girlfriends to stop saying “I’m fine” then they definitely want to stop getting the silent treatment.

What seems like a smart and effective thing to do during an argument is actually super immature and even kind of silly. It doesn’t accomplish anything. Guys would be happy if their girlfriends would stop doing this, that’s for sure.

1. Moving Too Fast

Men also want their girlfriends to stop moving too fast. It’s hard not to want to do this when you like someone so much and if you’re a hopeless romantic.

But guys know that sometimes, moving fast can mean not seeing what’s actually going on or not getting to know each other enough. If girlfriends could stop doing these 20 things, relationships would be a lot smoother (but, of course, you could say that there are things that boyfriends do that aren’t the best).

 

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Tales of Rock: Every Woman Nikki Sixx Has Dated

This list features information on Nikki Sixx’s dating history. He’s the legendary bassist of Motley Crue, so there’s certainly been a lot of Nikki Sixx relationships. Most of the Nikki Sixx girlfriends have been actresses or models, but some of his romantic interests have also been musicians.

Who has Nikki Sixx dated? Nikki Sixx married his wife Courtney in 2014. In January of 2019, the couple announced that they were expecting their first child together. Sixx has four other children from previous relationships. Baywatch babe Donna D’Errico and Playboy Playmate Brandi Brandt are just two of the many Nikki Sixx exes. Marion Raven was also rumored to be a former Nikki Sixx girlfriend.

Nikki Sixx and Denise Richards dated briefly in late-2010 to early-2011. Other famous women Nikki Sixx dated include Kat Von D, Jenna Jameson, and Vanity.

Did you know that Nikki Sixx had such an impressive dating history? Take a look at this list to learn more about the Nikki Sixx dating history.

Lynn Pierre – 1981

 

Photo: photo_grafitti/flickr/CC-BY-NC-ND 2.0

Courtney Sixx

Nikki Sixx and his wife Courtney have been married since 2014.

In January of 2019, the couple announced that they were expecting their first child together. Sixx has four other children from previous relationships.

Age: 30

Birthplace: Santa Monica, California

Photo: Metaweb (FB)/GNU Free Documentation License

Denise Richards

Nikki Sixx and Denise Richards dated briefly in late-2010 to early-2011.

Denise Lee Richards (born February 17, 1971) is an American actress and former fashion model. She has appeared in numerous films, including Starship Troopers (1997), Wild Things (1998), The World Is Not Enough (1999) as Bond girl Christmas Jones, Valentine (2001), and Undercover Brother (2002). From 2008 to 2009, she starred on the E! reality show Denise Richards: It’s Complicated. In 2010 and 2011, she was a series regular on the comedy Blue Mountain State. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 48

Birthplace: Downers Grove, Illinois, United States of America

Photo: Paul Archuleta / FilmMagic/Getty Images

Kat Von D

Nikki Sixx shared images from his relationship with Kat Von D in his book This Is Gonna Hurt: Music, Photography and Life Through The Distorted Lens of Nikki Sixx.

“I felt that being nice and kind to the relationship was important, and I know all things come to an end eventually, and when it did, I didn’t feel that it was my job to point fingers,” Sixx said in a 2011 interview with Us Magazine.

Katherine von Drachenberg, best known as Kat Von D, is a Mexican-born American tattoo artist, model, musician and television personality. She is best known for her work as a tattoo artist on the TLC reality television show LA Ink, which premiered August 7, 2007, in the United States and ran for four seasons. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 36

Birthplace: Montemorelos, Nuevo León, Mexico

Photo: Michael Bezjian / WireImage/Getty Images

Melissa London

In 2010, Nikki Sixx was photographed on a date with Melissa London.

Melissa London is an actor and a film score composer. …more on Wikipedia

Photo: Patrick McMullan/Getty Images

Marion Raven

Marion Raven was rumored to be dating Nikki Sixx after they collaborated on her solo debut.

“We ended up writing two songs together that will be on the album,” she said in 2004.

Marion Elise Ravn, known as Marion Raven, is a Norwegian singer-songwriter. She was one-half of the now-defunct pop duo M2M, along with Marit Larsen. Raven was later signed as a solo artist by Atlantic Records with the release of her solo debut album, Here I Am in 2005. In 2006, Raven was signed to the indie record label, Eleven Seven, and re-released her debut album with a few new songs, Set Me Free, in 2007. In 2012, Raven began production of her second album titled Songs from a Blackbird, which was released in her home country, Norway on 8 April 2013. Raven has also written tracks for other artists such as Pixie Lott. She has also lent her voice for the Norwegian version of Tangled. In 20… …more on Wikipedia

Age: 34

Birthplace: Lørenskog, Norway

Photo: Thomas Hawk/flickr/CC-BY-NC 2.0

Jenna Jameson

Jenna Jameson is often listed among the names of Nikki Sixx’s rumored past girlfriends.

Jenna Jameson is an American entrepreneur, webcam model and former adult movie actress, who has been called the world’s most famous adult-entertainment performer. She started acting in adult videos in 1993 after having worked as a stripper and glamor model. By 1996, she had won the “top newcomer” award from each of the three major adult-movie organizations. She has since won more than 35 adult-video awards, and has been inducted into the X-Rated Critics Organization and Adult Video News Halls of Fame. Jameson founded the adult-entertainment company ClubJenna in 2000 with Jay Grdina, whom she later married and divorced. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 44

Birthplace: Las Vegas, Nevada, United States of America

Photo: via Wikimedia Commons

Samantha Maloney

Nikki Sixx was rumored to have cheated on his wife Donna D’Errico with Samantha Maloney, who drummed with Motley Crue during their New Tattoo Tour.

Samantha Maloney is an American musician best known for playing in the bands Hole, Mötley Crüe, Eagles of Death Metal and in Peaches’ live band “The Herms”. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 43

Birthplace: New York City, USA, New York

Photo: SGranitz / WireImage/Getty Images

Donna D’Errico

In 2006, Donna D’Errico filed for divorce from Nikki Sixx after nine years of marriage.

Age: 51

Birthplace: Dothan, Alabama

Photo: Jeff Kravitz / FilmMagic, Inc/Getty Images

Brandi Brandt

Brandi Brandt and Nikki Sixx were married from 1989 until 1996. They have three children together.

Brandi Brandt is an American model and actress, who was Playboy’s Playmate of the Month for October 1987. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 50

Birthplace: Santa Clara, California, United States of America

Photo: ABC Television/Wikimedia Commons/Public Domain

Lisa Hartman Black

Nikki Sixx reportedly went on a date with Lisa Hartman Black back in 1988.

Lisa Hartman Black is an American actress and singer. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 62

Birthplace: Houston, Texas, United States of America

 

Brie Howard

Nikki Sixx reportedly “rolled around with” Brie Howard when she was a back-up singer. He later married Howard’s daughter Brandi Brandt.

Brie Howard is an American musician and actress. She has also appeared or been credited under the names Brie Brandt, Brie Berry, Brie Darling, and Brie Howard Darling. Howard played in the pioneering all-woman rock band Fanny, the first all-woman rock band to release an album on a major label. She played drums for the high school band the Svelts, which included future Fanny members June Millington and Jean Millington, and played drums in Fanny itself toward the end of their run, around the time of their final album. She has also been a singer and percussionist with the American Girls, and the lead singer of the Boxing Gandhis. Howard starred opposite Klaus Kinski in Aaron Lipstadt’s sci-fi f… …more on Wikipedia

Age: 69

Cindy Rome

Nikki Sixx reportedly took Cindy Rome with him to Vince Neil’s wedding in 1988.

Age: 60

 

Dee Holland

Dee Holland has spoken about dating Nikki Sixx during the recording of the Girls, Girls, Girls album.

Age: 54

Photo: Metaweb (FB)/GNU Free Documentation License

Vanity

“Our relationship was one of the strangest, most self-destructive ones I’ve ever had,” wrote Nikki Sixx of Vanity, in his book Motley Crue: The Dirt.

Denise Katrina Matthews, formerly known as Vanity and sometimes credited as Denise Matthews-Smith or D.D. Winters, is a Canadian former singer, songwriter, dancer, actress, and model who has turned away from performing to concentrate on evangelism. Vanity’s career lasted from the 1980s until the early mid-’90s. She was the lead singer of the female trio Vanity 6 from 1981 until it disbanded in 1983. The group was well known for their 1982 R&B/funk hit “Nasty Girl”. Vanity’s music career, also included two solo albums on Motown Records; Wild Animal and Skin on Skin, as well as the hit singles, “Pretty Mess”, “Mechanical Emotion”, and “Under the Influence”. She also had a successful acting car… …more on Wikipedia

Age: 60

Birthplace: Niagara Falls, Canada

Jane Dickinson

Nikki Sixx claims that he didn’t know that Jane Dickinson was married to Iron Maiden musician Bruce Dickinson when they briefly linked up.

Rita Rae Roxx

Rita Rae Roxx wrote about her encounters with Nikki Sixx – and other rockers – in her book Once Upon a Rock Star.

Photo: Ethan Miller/Getty Images

Lita Ford

Lita Ford wrote about her encounter with Nikki Sixx in her memoir Living Like a Runaway.

 

Lita Rossana Ford is a British-American rock guitarist, vocalist and songwriter, who was the lead guitarist for The Runaways in the late 1970s before embarking on a solo career in the 1980s. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 60

Birthplace: Europe, Eurasia, United Kingdom, London, England, + more

Lynn Pierre

Nikki Sixx and Lynn Pierre dated in the 1980s.

Laurie Bell

The Orchids drummer Laurie Bell was rumored to have dated Nikki Sixx.

Angie Saxon

NIkki Sixx’s ex-girlfriend Angie Saxon actually helped him come up with his stage name.

“I used to date this girl, Angie Saxon. I was going through her scrapbook and I saw a guy that she used to date named Niki Syxx in a band called Jon & the Nightriders. So I stole his name. I just liked it,” he said in a 2007 interview.

Sarah Hopper

Nikki Sixx dated Sarah Hopper when he was in high school. In his book The Dirt, her refers to her as “a fat, freckled girl with glasses, no cutoff shorts, and legs that looked more like pasty semicircles than golden arches.”

Photo: Metaweb (FB)/GNU Free Documentation License

Dinah Cancer

Rumor has it, 45 Grave musician Dinah Cancer dated Nikki Sixx.

Dinah Cancer is the stage name of Mary Ann Sims, a vocalist, best known for her band 45 Grave, which helped found the musical genre known as “deathrock”. …more on Wikipedia

Age: 58

Birthplace: California

 

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How to Avoid the Friend Zone and Make Her Desire You

The friend zone is a tricky place to fall in.

You may be trying hard to get close to a girl, close enough to tell her that you like her, but one fine day she turns around and tells you that you’re such a great friend, or worse, you’re just like a brother to her.

Ever been there?

I hope you haven’t.

Guys find themselves falling into the friend zone almost all the time.

It’s frustrating and demeaning, and at times, inevitable.

You may get really close to a girl with all the hopes of getting into her pants, but somewhere along the way, you may have taken a few detours that led you right into the friend zone.

What is a friend zone?

A friend zone is a happy place for a girl. It’s a place where she and a guy can sit together and talk about anything and get real friendly with each other.

For a guy, a friend zone is the worst place to be in, especially when he likes the girl who behaves like a friend.

In a friend zone, the two involved friends of the opposite sex are just friends and nothing more. They project no sexual interest towards each other and behave in a completely platonic manner.

But can any guy ever be friends with a girl he finds sexually attractive? Or course not. He can try to be a friend with the hope of getting an occasional cuddle or a warm boob pressing hug now and then, but he’s always going to be just be a friend while she dates every other guy in the yearbook.

How do guys end up falling into the friend zone?

A guy falls into a friend zone for very obvious reasons. He behaves like a friend. And he never lets the girl know that he has more than friendly intentions on his mind.

And soon enough, the girl loses all realization of the fact that this guy has a package down there. And he just becomes another sexless thing she hangs out with all the time as a platonic friend.

So why do some guys end up as friends instead of boyfriends or sex buddies? Here’s why.

#1 They get too close. Getting too close to a girl on platonic grounds will never help you. You may assume that it’s the easiest way to get a girl to know you better. She’ll definitely get to know you better, but only as a friend.

#2 No sexual chemistry. If a guy likes a girl, he has to make it subtly obvious that he’s sexually interested in her. If a guy behaves like a pushover and a doormat, no girl will feel even a tingle of sexual chemistry.

#3 The girl’s not attracted to the guy. This sucks, but this is the most common scenario. The guy’s probably creepy, annoying or just not good enough to be her boyfriend.

#4 The guy thinks she’s too good for him. At times, a guy may genuinely believe that the girl he likes is way too good for him. And instead of hitting on her, he secretly lusts for her, but gives up on pursuing her. Could you ever live with yourself by just being the friend of a sexy girl who dates every other guy but you?

#5 He plays the true friend card. It works in the movies all the time. The girl has a best friend who’s always there for her. She goes ahead and dates every single guy in the world, and finally, at the end of the movie she sees her true love in the form of her best friend. How touching! And that’s why they call it the movies. In real life, you can’t become a girl’s boyfriend just by behaving like a best friend.

How to avoid getting into the friend zone

It’s really easy to avoid the friend zone. All you need to do is drop a few hints now and then to let her know that you’re really into her. Use these easy tips to get the message across and get her to desire you while you’re at it.

#1 Be a friend without behaving like her other friends. Don’t talk nonsense for hours or spend time talking about her problems in life. Talk about places she visits, movies she’s watched, and her plans for the weekend. Talk date talk and she’ll sense the chemistry in the air.

#2 Try to talk to her when she’s alone. If her other friends are around, talk to her if you must or just avoid her. You can’t really hit on a girl when she’s surrounded by a bevy of friends.

But when you find her alone, make sure you turn on your charm and impress her. See her alone? Chat her up. And if one of her friends come by, grumble audibly in a funny manner and say something like “just when I thought I was going to get some alone time with you, this guy pops up out of nowhere!” and just laugh. She’ll be confused and wonder if you’re being serious or just joking.

But she’ll get the hint that you like spending time with her alone. Make it obvious that you like spending time with her in whatever way possible, but don’t ask her out or tell her you like her just yet.

#3 Compliment her when she deserves it. Flatter her pants off. If she looks good, tell her she looks hot. If you see a hint of cleavage and she catches you staring, just laugh, apologize and tell it you couldn’t resist it. Add a few funny sexual remarks and you’ll never get into the friend zone.

#4 Touch her and treat her like your girlfriend. But do it respectfully though. Clasp her hand while crossing the street and open doors for her when it’s just the both of you. Make her feel like a queen, and she’ll love the attention. But when her friends are around, don’t give her any preferential treatment. Let her realize that you’re special to her only when it’s just the two of you.

#5 Make her feel special and exclusive. Gift her something small and personal, but tell her to keep it a secret. When you create secrets, you build sexual chemistry and suspense which leads to romance.

#6 Ask her out and change the topic. When you’re talking to her for a while, ask her out for lunch or coffee. See how she responds. But within a second, change the topic. Don’t wait for her to answer. It’ll seem like a joke, but it’ll still make her wonder if you really do want to date her. Don’t make things awkward by waiting a while before saying something else. Keep it simple, keep it funny and yet reveal all the dirty thoughts in your mind, and change the topic immediately.

Wondering how to avoid the friend zone? Just understand these pointers and use these tips. You’ll never fall into the friend zone with any girl ever again.

 

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