9 Things That Scream, “I’m Not a Good Person”

Recently there was an interesting discussion on Reddit about the horrible qualities that make you stay away from a person. Users shared their life experience and recognize the “narcissist” in their friends or relatives. And it looks like some of them are very fed up with the rude behavior of others.

We at phicklephilly decided to dig deeper into some of the threads and find the psychological explanation of a “bad” person.

1. Avoiding responsibilities

“Avoiding your responsibilities and sticking someone else with the bill” was called out as one of the bad qualities on Reddit. Fear of taking any kind of responsibility can cause a psychological disorder.

A person, for example, can have a panic attack whenever they unconsciously realize that there is an obligation. It may happen for different reasons:

1. Low tolerance to negative emotions

2. Lack of courage

3. Low self-esteem

4. Fear of making mistakes and fear of failure

2. Inability to accept criticism

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Ouch. No one wants to be criticized. It hurts, but sometimes people can’t even swallow the simple truths about themselves. But being open to new information means an ability to change for the better. “Taking any kind of criticism or conflicting opinion as a personal attack” is not cool, according to Reddit users.

And if we can take criticism, we can grow. But there is still the question of why some of people can be so closed-minded:

1. They don’t rationalize.

2. They don’t want to make excuses.

3. They don’t minimize the problem.

4. They don’t want to share the blame.

3. Making fun of other people’s appearances

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People often insult each other intentionally, and the emotional scars from this linger for quite a while. People have a need to feel unique from others, but humiliation is not the right way to go about this.

Mocking another person for his or her appearance or views can cause a huge problem for both parties. It is difficult to manage your anger when you hear someone making fun of you or bullying you. In any case it’s better to:

1. Make eye contact and pause instantly.

2. Walk away and don’t react.

3. Minimize your contact with the aggressor.

4. Inability to apologize

If I did it, it wasn’t that bad. And if you are hurt, you deserve it. Words like this can finish off a man. Instead of an apology, you get aggression. Public opinion confirms: “I hate when someone just gives a vague “sorry.”

The reason why they do this can vary:

1. They’re afraid of taking responsibilities.

2. They don’t want to feel a shame that can be really unbearable for them. So each time they will try to make the situation even worse, than ruin a perfect image about themselves.

5. Being disrespectful to people and their work

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Being disrespectful to other people and to their work doesn’t help anyone. You just watch with an open mouth and you can’t believe that a person is serious. People who often behave disrespectfully to others may have:

1. A form of self-protection against feelings of inadequacy, or

2. A different style of communication that easily triggers misunderstandings.

6. Being 2-faced

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You meet someone who might talk to you nicely and even invite you for coffee, but then you find out that they say you are a freak behind your back. Betrayal!

“Back-stabbing people appear to be nice and helpful to your face, but sing a completely different tune behind your back.” These people may not like the other person, but they don’t have anyone else at the moment or they are afraid of confrontation and aggression.

It is better to:

1. Confirm your suspicions and not be in a rush to blame.

2. Get distant from this person.

3. Avoid revenge.

4. Have a frank and tough discussion with this person.

7. Applying certain rules to specific people, but not to themselves

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Hypocrisy is not a result of having double standards, but pretending you have one standard when you don’t have any. Saying one thing and doing another is not that rare.

1. The best way to get a reputation for fairness is to be fair. But since this is easier said than done, we more often choose appearance over reality.

2. Self-deception. Benjamin Franklin confirmed that humans exert very little effort to get real evidence when making decisions. Moreover, humans tend to think highly of themselves, and overlook weakness and failures.

3. Self-ignorance. Psychological researchers found that humans are accurate in their perceptions of others, but generally inaccurate in their perceptions of themselves.

8. Never tipping, even when you can afford it

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One research study showed that the extroverted qualities that people from certain cultures have are directly related to how much they tip — the more extroverted, the larger the tip. We have several different motivations for tipping:

1. Encouraging better service on the next visit

2. Rewarding a server

3. Gaining social approval

9. Being envious, even for a small win

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People get envious sometimes when they see you succeed. This could even include your best friend. But anyone can get envious and it’s a different story when you spoil someone’s moment who shared a victory with you.

Darwin’s theory of evolution says that humans behave in this way to enhance their individual survival. It drives a person. There are different styles of dealing with this, for example:

1. Always keeping your good qualities in mind.

2. Staying focused on something different, rather than being self-focused.

How do you normally react when a person is rude? Do you know of any qualities that can make anyone a dreadful human being to be around? Please, share your comments with us below!

 

 

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The Law of Attraction. What Are You Attracting Into Your Life?

The Law of Attraction tells us like attracts like. What we put out into the universe is what we get back from the universe.

So if you believe this to be true how are your actions affecting your life? Maybe you need to look deeper at the things you say and believe about yourself and look at the actions you make because on an energetic level, this is what the universe picks up on.

So you might ask; why do bad things happen to me, I didn’t ask for them to happen?

On a conscious level none of us ask for bad things to happen to us, but on a deeper, subconscious, soul level there may be a part of you that wants to sabotage yourself.

To give you an example… If someone is doing good in the world and helping many people and not getting good come back to them, i.e. money is not flowing back to them, something inside of ourselves will be blocking this.

Maybe it is a subconscious belief that you are not worthy, you are not good enough, or you are not deserving. Maybe you have a belief that money is bad.

Whatever it is, it is your subconscious mind and your beliefs that is stopping the flow coming towards you.

So the next question is; Can you change this?

The answer is YES and we need to find out the beliefs that are stopping the good things from flowing to you and change them.

You need to be fully active in your desires of what you are attracting. What I mean by this is your conscious, subconscious mind and the universe have to be congruent. You need to want, believe and know you deserve the good things and then TAKE action to get the good things.

When the book ‘The Secret’ came out it taught us the law of attraction and it lead us to believe that all you had to do was say positive words and tell the universe what you wanted and you will have the life you dream of.

Unfortunately this is only half of the story. I would like to give you an example;

If I sat in a room and meditated every day for a week and asked the universe if I could win the lottery on Saturday, do you think it would be possible? I would sit 18 hours a day for 7 days. How likely it is that I would win? The answer is ZERO. Just sitting meditating on its own will put me in a better vibration to be able to attract the money BUT did I take action? Did I actually go to the shop and BUY the ticket? Did I really show the universe what I truly wanted? What was my mind telling me? Was it saying I am wasting my money? Was it telling me that I never win anything? Was it saying that I am so unlucky?

So knowing this is how the universe works, what would I need to change?

I would still have to get into the right vibration, I would have to buy a ticket to have a chance to win, I would have to believe that I deserved the money, that I was worthy, that money is good etc. I would have to FEEL with EVERY cell in my body that it is going to happen. I would have NO self sabotage going on and then maybe this will be my time. You see the universe is not ruled by time like we are.

We think that if we do some good today, we will get good come straight back to us today. This is not how the universe works. This is why doing as mentioned above does not guarantee you a lottery ticket. What it does guarantee you of is, if you practice this daily, abundance HAS to come into your life.

It means you have worked through your abundance blocks and at some point you will get an abundance of money coming to you.

This works in all areas of your life. Money, Love, Relationships, Career, Friendship, Family etc. Good things can happen to ALL of us if we work towards getting rid of the blocks that are holding us back.

Do you want to release your blocks? I would LOVE to help you. If you need to get some clarity about what your beliefs are saying about you, and what you are attracting into your life, I will be happy to work with you and we can uncover them together.

 

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Tales of Rock – Edgewater Hotel Incidents

The Edgewater is a hotel in Seattle, Washington that is located on a pier over Elliott Bay. It is currently the only hotel in Seattle that sits over-water. In the 1960s the Edgewater became a popular destination for famous rock stars. Some of the bands to visit the hotel include the Beatles in 1964, the Rolling Stones, Frank Zappa, and Led Zeppelin. The Edgewater is unique because in the past it allowed customers to fish from their rooms on the north elevation.

On July 27, 1969, Led Zeppelin performed at the Seattle Pop Festival and stayed at the Edgewater. The band was known to have wild parties and was often joined by groupies. According to Zeppelin’s road manager Richard Cole, during one incident, things between a fish and a sexy red head got a bit intimate. On the day in question, Cole was in his room fishing with drummer John Bonham when they were joined by some women. Cole and Bonham had caught a large collection of sharks, at least two dozen, stuck coat hangers through the gills and then left them in the closet. The hotel room was also scattered with various types of smaller fish.

As parties go, one thing led to another and people began to lose their clothing. One particular woman in the crowd with red hair found herself with Cole. She made a unique request, so he decided to reach for a fish and the shark episode was born. Cole was later quoted: “Let’s see how your red snapper likes this red snapper.” It was the nose of the fish and the girl liked it. There was nothing malicious or harmful and Mark Stein of Vanilla Fudge filmed the whole thing. After the story was published by the media a large collection of rumors began to circulate, but many were exaggerated. The band received bad press so they stopped talking about the event.

In 1973, Led Zeppelin returned to the Edgewater and the band was officially banned from the hotel after it was discovered that they had caught some 30 mudsharks and left them under beds, in closets, elevators, hallways, bathtubs, and all over their rooms. They threw stuff out the windows into Elliott Bay, including beds, TVs, mattresses, lamps, drapes, and glassware. Since that time Robert Plant has been welcomed back to the Edgewater. The mudshark incident remains one of the most popular rock stories from the 1960s.

Here’s a version of this song I’ve never heard before. It’s a rough mix. Interesting imagery by Brandy and Coke.

 

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