Cherie – Chapter 57 – Warm Love

I spent Saturday with Cherie on Saturday. We hadn’t seen each other in a long time, but I was happy we were re-connecting. She came to Philly and we had some intimate conversation and sex.

I figured we were all good. This has happened before. The distance thing, and if it goes too long she gets a little reserved. I figured I had fixed that on Saturday. The sex, the time, the conversations… we’re good.

I’m a man. Women are far more complex than we are. That’s why we need them! To make us better people! We’re a bunch of Jeeps and they are elegant angels that we are blessed to have in our lives. We must treasure them and pay attention at all times, even though most of us suck at that.

I get a text a day later after our orgasmic brunch weekend from my beloved.

“I’m kind of mad at you.”

“Why?”

“Because I’m still upset about how I thought you didn’t love me anymore.”

This is what happens when you don’t see your lady for a long period of time, gents.

“When was this? I never stopped loving you.”

“Well we didn’t see each other for a long time. We stopped talking so much. I was really sad.”

“Me too. But I thought we cleared that up last Saturday.”

“I thought so too, but I thought about it and I’m still mad at you. You’re going to have to earn it back if you expect to get the (Cat Emoji. = Sex)

“I’m going to work to be better to you.”

“You have A LOT of making up to do.”

I didn’t respond. I had to think about it. I love Cherie so much. She is probably the greatest girl I’ve ever met. I can’t throw this away because of where I am in my life and pride.

We open the conversation again a day later. I didn’t know she was still pissed.

“Yo Dawg.”

I send an emoji with a heart.

“Love on the brain.”

“I like that song! How is your day?”

I’m just hoping Cherie has cooled off.

“I wish I could sleep in, Lol. It’s ok. Lot’s of studying. You?”

“Just living the dream at the gym and salon.”

“You have big dreams and I admire them.”

Seems like maybe she’s not so mad at me anymore.

“You too! I just want to stay busy and be with you.”

“I want to be with you and only you. I miss you.”

This is good news. I think Cherie is back.

“I’m off next Saturday. Movie date?”

“I work. I don’t know what time I get done.”

“I am now off every other Saturday and I’d like to spend them with you, if possible. I know I have A LOT to make up for…”

I quoted her to show her I realize that I need to put in some serious time in our relationship so I don’t lose her. Cherie has great value. I can’t squander this wonderful, loyal woman.

“I want to spend time with you too.”

“Let’s try to do that, dear!” (Heart emoji) I don’t want you to be sad or mad at me.”

“I agree. I want us to be happy and in love.”

Cherie is the greatest woman I have ever met.

“I am happy and in love with you. Just need to see you more and do fun stuff with you and more fun stuff together.”

“Yes. I want to see you more too and do fun stuff and just be with you.

 

That’s how our texts end for tonight, but I think I’m working my way back into the heart of my girlfriend. I know everything will be fine. This relationship is a dynamic that works beautifully for me. Cherie gets a little lonely and moody but she’ll be fine. I’ll over do it on Valentine’s Day and since I’m taking more time off from my three businesses now I will make more time for her. We have the sweetest connection.

The Sunday after we were together I ran into a few of my female friends at the salon and at a bar I frequent. The conversation was always the same.

“How was your weekend?”

“Fantastic. I got to spend time with my girlfriend on Saturday. I love her so much.”

“Awww that’s so nice.”

“I absolutely love her. She is an absolutely wonderful woman. I’m blessed to have her in my life.”

“That’s so great Charles!”

I have truly hit the lottery with Cherie. I have been myself and I’ve done things. But like I said before, I compartmentalize my life. I have to at my age. Living in Rittenhouse. Daughter lives with me. Paid out $125,000 in child support. I have to be careful from now on. Cherie is amazing but I must keep my distance but love her unconditionally. She’s so easy to adore, but I’ve been through so much and now I’m wise, but jaded.

I will hold onto her as long as I can and I see a glorious finale to this movie that is my life, but there are so many things that are happening. I will never do anything to hurt Cherie, but this blog is called phicklephilly and it won’t write itself…

I am loyal and my heart belongs to my queen, but things are going to happen in my life and as long as they aren’t toxic, I’m going to let them happen. Out love affair is unconventional, but the best set up that’s ever happened for me so I’m just going to keep sliding down destiny’s rainbow.

 

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Your Partner May Be Toxic If They Say These 8 Things

In the middle of an argument, it can be easy to say something hurtful that you don’t really mean. But even during a fight, you and your partner should strive to keep the discussion civil and respectful. If your partner says toxic things to you on a regular basis, that’s not acceptable, according to experts.

If your partner says one of these toxic things to you, that isn’t necessarily a sign that the entire relationship is worth abandoning. What’s more important is how they react when you confront them about this, and whether or not they change. “If the partner is open to admitting it’s a problem, they can move forward with working towards change,” Joanne Ketch, LPC, LMFT, a psychotherapist specializing in strengthening relationships, tells Bustle. But if they don’t react so apologetically to what they’ve said to hurt you, that’s another story. “If the partner dismisses, invalidates, gaslights, or repeats a toxic behavior, I suggest that [they] get outside help,” Ketch says. “If that doesn’t work, I suggest leaving the relationship.”

Sometimes, toxicity can verge on abuse, she says. You should never feel like you have to put up with abuse, no matter how much you love your partner. Reach out to trusted friends and family members and speak with a mental health professional if you need support for leaving the relationship.

If your partner says these things, it may be toxic, according to experts.

1. “You’re A Loser”

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If you’re in a heated argument with your partner, it can be easy to say things that you don’t really mean. But name-calling is a bad habit, no matter how angry they are. “People who call their partners names lack the skills necessary for effective communication and conflict resolution,” Virginia Gilbert, MFT, MFC, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in sex and love addiction and high-conflict divorce, and the author of Transcending High-Conflict Divorce, tells Bustle. If this only happens once by accident, tell your partner clearly that it’s not acceptable to call you names and that you won’t continue the conversation until they speak to you with more respect. “If name-calling is habitual, it’s a sign of verbal abuse,” Gilbert says. “If your partner does not demonstrate remorse, or agree to therapy or anger management, you should make plans to leave the relationship.”

2. “You’re Overreacting”

“People who accuse their partners of overreacting or being ‘high drama’ are often unaware that they are doing things to invite a strong, negative reaction,” Gilbert says. “For instance, they may be consistently irresponsible, critical, or, worse, gaslighting to deflect from infidelity or abuse.” If you get even more upset when your partner says that you’re overreacting for having a reasonable response to a difficult situation, that can really be harmful for your relationship and erode your self-esteem, she says.

Once you’ve taken some time to cool down, let your partner know that saying this invalidated your feelings and that, in the future, you’d like them to be more respectful.

3. “Why Can’t You Just Be Happy?”

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Whether you’re severely struggling with a mental health issue or you’re just upset about a situation, a healthy partner is one who will show you empathy and ask how they can support you. But someone who wants you to just “get over it” or “just be happy” is not someone who’s reacting in a positive way. “If your partner personalizes your mood, acts like you’re a buzz-kill, or emotionally abandons you, they are essentially saying you’re not OK as you are, and their love is conditional,” Gilbert says.

Try acknowledging that your partner might feel helpless to support you through the situation, she says. Then, explain that comments like these actually make you feel worse. If they change their behavior, that’s wonderful. But if they keep acting like your negative emotions are a burden, you might want to consider couples therapy or leaving the relationship.

4. “No One Else Would Be With You”

“Abusers use this phrase to control their partners,” Gilbert says. “They erode your self-esteem so that you will stay and continue to tolerate abusive behavior.” If your partner says this to you, they probably have low-esteem and a sense of abandonment themselves, she says. But it’s not OK for them to treat you this way, no matter what the reason.

“If your partner devalues you by telling you no one else will want you, you need to leave the relationship ASAP before the abuse escalates,” Gilbert says. Reach out to trusted friends or family members to help support you, and consider speaking with a mental health professional if you’d like some extra guidance.

5. “You’re So Stupid”

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There may be a context in which your partner saying “You’re so stupid” is fine. For example, if you tell a corny joke, they might laughingly say this as a response. But if your partner is genuinely insulting your intelligence, that’s a sign of a toxic situation.“This is a power technique and toxic to any relationship,” Ketch says.

Confront your partner about how demeaning a statement like this can feel to you. If they sincerely apologize and promise to be more careful with their language in the future, that’s a good sign. But if they consistently belittle you, you might want to consider ending the relationship.

6. “If You Really Loved Me…”

When your partner is trying to convince you to agree to their favorite dinner spot or share your favorite pair of fuzzy socks, they might say “Well, if you really love me” in a silly way. But if they’re seriously trying to manipulate you into doing what they want, that’s not so innocuous. While it might not seem like a bit deal at the time, it might be a sign of a deeper issue in the relationship.

“If your partner threatens you with this line, call it out for the manipulation that it is,” Adina Mahalli, MSW, a certified relationship expert and mental health consultant, tells Bustle. “You do love your partner, and they know it, so whatever they’re about to say is a form of guilt-tripping.,” she says. “You have nothing to prove with this toxic remark.”

7. “You Left Me With No Choice”

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While it’s probably true that your actions influence your partner in some way, the choices that you make do not take away your partner’s ability to make decisions. For example, maybe your partner said this to you after you confronted them about cheating. When your partner blames you for something you did not do by telling you “You left me with no choice,” that’s not a good sign. “If your partner ever tells you this, your first thought should be the knowledge that it’s just not true,” Mahalli says. “Trying to shift accountability and place the blame on you for their own actions isn’t OK and is a sign of toxic behavior,” she says.

8. “You’re Just Like Your Parent”

If your partner and your mom are BFFs or your partner and your dad are inseparable, it’s probably a major compliment for them to tell you “You’re just like your parent.” But if this is something that they say in an attempt to hurt your feelings, that’s a sign of a toxic situation.

Do your best to stay calm, Dr. Doug Weiss, a licensed psychologist and relationship therapist, tells Bustle. Even though your partner said this to you, they might not have thought about their words before they spoke them. Explain clearly that this statement hurt your feelings, and give them the chance to apologize. Make sure you establish boundaries and speak up for yourself, Weiss says.

If your partner says something hurtful during an argument, give them the chance to apologize and resolve not to do it again. But if they consistently say some of these toxic things, you might want to consider leaving the relationship.

Editor’s Note: If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1(800) 799-SAFE (7233) or visit thehotline.org.

 

 

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Tales of Rock – Jim Morrison Recorded One Of His Songs While Getting A What?

When you start googling Jim Morrison, eventually you are going to run into a penis story. Whether it was the time he was arrested after a show in Miami for “lewd and lascivious behavior in public by exposing his private parts and by simulating masturbation and oral copulation” plus two other counts of indecent exposure, or just estimates on the size of his “lizard king.”

But these days the closest you can be to Morrison acting erotically is through his music. And depending on how big of a fan you are, you may have gotten closer than you think. When The Doors were in the studio working on their album Strange Days, they were having problems with the second track, “You’re Lost Little Girl.” The guitarist was able to nail his part by smoking some super-strength black hash and playing in the dark, which is exactly what I do when I get stuck on a particularly tough Sudoku puzzle. But Morrison needed something more to nail the vocals that were higher and softer than he was used to.

The producer came up with a ridiculous idea: Why not hire a hooker to come in and give Jim a blowjob while he sang? Someone must have pointed out that it would be crazy to pay somebody to do what millions of people were willing to do for free, so legend has it that Morrison’s girlfriend Pamela Courson came and lent a … mouth.

Sure, it’s not like hacking with a gun to your head while getting serviced like in Swordfish, but still. Most of you probably can’t ask your employer to make sure you have blowjobs at the ready if you find yourself stuck on some difficult project.

Unfortunately, at least one person claims that the story might not be as cool as advertised. Oh, he’s not claiming Morrison didn’t get a blowjob while laying down a track, but drummer John Densmore says that in the end they went with a different, and probably far-less-distracted, take.

 

 

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Tales of Rock: SPECIAL REPORT: AC/DC REUNITE WITH BRIAN JOHNSON + PHIL RUDD, NEW ALBUM COMING

Two musicians have just confirmed that AC/DC have reunited with Brian Johnson and that a brand new album is on the way.

Behemoth frontman Nergal recently told Loudwire during an exclusive interview, “I know there’s a new AC/DC album in the making with Malcolm Young. It’s coming. It’s going to be an outtake from Rock or Bust. What do I expect? I expect nothing more and nothing less, just give me fucking rhythm and Angus and Malcom’s guitar. Don’t give me anything extra. [Brian Johnson] is back in the band.”

Twisted Sister’s Dee Snider also confirmed the news, adding that Phil Rudd is also back. Responding to a fan asking if one of the classic AC/DC members was sick, Snider responded, “He died. RIP Malcolm Young. But all four surviving members have reunited WITH tracks recorded by Malcolm while he was still alive. Malcolm’s nephew Stevie Young is replacing him (he’s done this a couple of times before). It’s as close as you can get to the original band. @acdc”

Back in 2018, the members of AC/DC were reportedly spotted together in Vancouver at the studio where they recorded Rock or Bust. Photos were make public and blew up online.

Stay tuned as more news breaks on the reported AC/DC reunion.

 

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Women With These 3 Irresistible Traits Know How to Get — and Keep — the Guy

Are you ‘wife material’?

Men can be confusing. To many women, when you first meet a guy start dating him, he’s so focused on you being hot and sexy that even though he says he wants more, the only thing on on his mind seems to be hooking-up.

Then, after you do, his behavior changes and suddenly it feels like he’ll never see you as “wife material”.

You feel completely blindsided and have no idea how to get a boyfriend who’ll want to talk about marriage when none of the dating or relationship advice you follow seems to work and make a guy fall in love with you.

What do men even want in a wife? Are there certain personality traits or other qualities and characteristics men find attractive in other women that you, apparently, seem to lack?

You want answers, the good news is that I’m here to give you the man’s perspective.

If you want to know how to get a boyfriend who’s excited to talk about marriage with you, work on honing these 3 personality traits men find most attractive in women.

1. Receptivity

When a man is really into you and is starting to take you seriously, he wants to give to you. In fact, good men fall in love when they give.

For example; he’s going to want to take you to dinner. Please don’t offer to split the check.

Being receptive in this context means you simply thank him and tell him how great the food was and what a wonderful choice of a restaurant he picked.

A mature man doesn’t need you to pay half the bill. He’s looking for a woman he can make happy and who will appreciate what he offers.

This may seem old-fashioned, but I’m not in the fashion business. I am in the help you get married and have children business.

A man marries a woman who has a solid self-esteem. Notice I didn’t say self-confidence. Self-confidence is about what you do. Self-esteem is about who you are.

Being receptive means you are comfortable and used to a man caring about how you feel, you like it, and you let him know you appreciate it when he takes care of you.

This may seem counterintuitive, but this is one of the key ways a man measures your self-esteem to sees if you may be the kind of woman he wants as a potential wife.

He wants to make you happy, and he wants to know by your feedback if he can successfully do that.

Being receptive doesn’t mean you’re sold on him. It just means you’re willing to let him try to win you over via the ancient custom of courtship, which involves one person giving to the other.

2. Available

If a guy asks you out and you’re not available for two weeks, he may still call you and follow up in hopes of a possible hook-up. But if you don’t make yourself available to see him within a reasonable amount of time, such as within one week, he’ll will come to one of two conclusions: you’re too busy with your friends and career, or you’re just not into him.

Guys are all about momentum. When they first meet you, they’re super excited and can’t wait to see you again. When you’re available, you give them the green light and let them know you’re super excited, too.

Will he get ahead of himself and ask for too much, like wanting to see you every night or sleep with you right away? Maybe. But that’s not a problem. You want a guy who’s enthusiastic.

Your job is to let him know when you are available, within reason, at a pace that works with your comfort level, and without giving him the impression that it’s never going to happen.

3. Respectful

If you look around, you’ll notice that men often don’t marry the hottest, sexiest girl they ever met. What a mature man wants in the women he’ll marry is something you can’t see with your eyes.

If he’s smart, a man marries a woman who respects him.

This simply means you respect the way he lives his life, you believe his career is on point, you appreciate the way he interacts with his friends and family, and his goals and aspirations in life are things you agree with and feel good about.

The number one thing you can do in order to show a man that you respect is asking him what he thinks about things.

When he has a problem, tell him you support him and that you’re sure he’ll figure it out.

Ask him for his advice and opinions on a topic he’s knowledgeable about.

A relationship-ready man is looking for a life partner. Doing this will make it clear to him that you’re on his team.

Getting what you want and having your way is great when you’re single, but being on a team means seeing things in a different light.

It’s hard to respect a hook-up. There’s not enough skin in the game. However, it’s easy to respect a man who wants to build with you, and that’s what having a woman’s respect does for a man — it makes him want to build with her.

If you want to know to get a boyfriend who’s willing and excited to talk about marriage, recognize that the three personality traits men find most attractive in women are receptivity, availability, and respectfulness.

Being receptive means you’re willing to follow his lead. You want to find out how he handles reality. Where does he want to take you for dinner? What does he want to do for fun? Sit back and observe so you can learn what he has to offer, if he makes your life better and if you even want him to be your boyfriend, let alone your husband.

Men are all about momentum. He’s going to come on strong and he’s going to want to do a lot of things right away in order to see if you’re available to him. As much as you can, within reason, be available. Know that yes, you’re going to have to slow him down, and you should. Just don’t kill his enthusiasm.

You’re going to want a man you respect. A lifetime is too long to spend married to a man you’re not inspired by.

At the end of the day, it really comes down to character.

Looks fade, however, a man marries a woman who respects him and is on his team, because, in the end, lasting love is a team player game.

 

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10 Traits that Always Catch A Woman’s Attention

Gather round boys, let me tell you the big secret …. “There are NO shortcuts to a woman’s heart.” However, there are certain traits that can help you to skip ahead of the queue. Women notice these traits the most in a man.

So, if you can manage to have a combination of these traits, you can possibly WOO your woman. It is not easy, but it is possible. Let’s have a look at these open secrets. What a woman sees in a man.

A Well-Groomed Face

Who is the prettiest of them all? No matter how hard you try to deny it, your face is often the mirror to your heart. So, keeping it well-groomed should be your priority.

This doesn’t mean that you must have a sharp jawline and dashing eyes, or any of that. However, you should be cautious enough to take good care of your face. It should look fresh and enticing. Do not let your face look like that of a homeless man.

The Right Attire for the Right Occasion

The perfect attire can say everything about your personality. Do you remember the Cinderella transformations of the main characters? Well, they are never done without some top-notch dresses.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be very gorgeous and pretty. But, it has to showcase your sense of style. We project ourselves with the clothes that we wear. So, it is always preferable to slay with your sense of style.

Manner of Presenting and Communicating

The way you present yourself in a different situation is very important. How you communicate with the people around you says a lot about you. Women are usually very cautious about these traits.

You must be careful to present yourself properly in all circumstances. Your communication skills indicate your confidence as well. So, your self-presenting skills matter, too.

The Level of Personal Hygiene

Contrary to popular belief (I wonder who came up with these beliefs in the first place), women do not prefer dirty men. Personal hygiene is often a deal-breaker for most women.

You should keep your nails trimmed and your hair cut properly. Take care of your breath and use mints if necessary. But, most importantly, smell good. A man who stinks all the time will only make a woman flee. According to faveable.com, the good perfume will always be your best friend. Ask your female friend for advice on a good perfume for men.

The Tone of Voice and Selection of Words

Your voice control is a major deal-breaker in terms of impressing your woman. You should find the right balance between being smooth and being rough. Try to keep your voice firm so that it exudes confidence.

But, at the same time, word selection is also very important. Your grip over the language and the right word at the right time can help you on your way. So, be careful about what you say in front of your lady.

The Balance of Humor and Humbleness

If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything” – these are the famous words of Marilyn Monroe. It clearly indicates how important humor is. It is often one of the first things that a woman notices in a man. If used correctly, humor can be a perfect tool.

And yet, you must be very humble at the same time. Do not go overboard with the humor. No one likes a person who is full of himself.

Physical Structure of the Body

Well, it’s the bitter truth and you guys have to accept it. Women dig a nice body. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be ripped to impress a woman. However, you should be in enough shape to keep a woman.

Being physically fit means that you love yourself. This tells your woman your level of dedication to yourself and can be a key factor. Some women even notice the physical structure before the face.

Your Control Over Surrounding Elements

A woman likes men who have control over their surroundings. If you act like a fish out of the water, you have a very slim chance of making it with your lady. Your control over your surroundings shows how well you can manage things.

It doesn’t mean that you have to be dominant in every case. It can also be about how you get out of tricky situations with a smile. A woman loves a man who is in control of himself and his surroundings.

The Ability to Be a Good Listener and to Respond

During your conversation, the first thing that a woman notices is how well you are listening to her. There are some who act like they are listening, but end up missing the actual point. You can be more in harmony with someone when you are a good listener.

Unfortunately, sitting there like a wall is the last thing you want to do. They want someone who can take the conversation further. So, your ability to respond well also matters.

Level of Energy and Confidence

Last but not least, you must have an aura of confidence around you. But, it can be quite tricky as well, because we often forget to distinguish confidence from arrogance. So, you must find the right balance and showcase your confidence.

You can do that by being energetic around her. A woman loves men who are more energetic. It makes them feel more alive as well.

Conclusion

This is a general guideline of the traits that a woman usually notices. We understand that every person is different and that their heart works differently.

But, if you have these traits by your side, you are more likely to be noticed by a woman. Let us know how it goes with your lady. Until then,see you next time.

 

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Does My Guy Friend Like Me? 14 Signs He’s Totally Into You as More Than a Friend

There comes a time in almost every straight girl-guy friendship when something just a little bit flirty happens, and you think, “Wait…does my guy friend like me?” And it can be incredibly hard to answer that question.

When you’re super-close with a guy, it’s difficult to tell if his actions are just him being a good friend, or a sign he’s trying to tell you that he likes you and wants to date you. And straight-up asking him how he feels often seems out of the question—you don’t want to make things awkward and potentially jeopardize the friendship you have.

That being said, if he’s doing any of the following, you may have more than a friendship on your hands.

1. He starts inviting you to hang more than usual.

Maybe you and your guy friend have always hung out regularly, but recently, he’s started inviting you to more parties than usual. That’s a sign your guy friend might like you as more than a friend, says Dr. Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., professor at Oakland University in Michigan and author of Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.

2. He’s making long-term plans with you.

If he’s making distant plans with you (whether it’s a group setting or one-on-one) for romantic weekend trips that are months away, it means he wants you in his life, and sees you being involved in those big moments, no matter how far out they are. “It’s a sign that he likes you when he starts talking about the future with you,” says Dr. Orbuch.

3. He’s started touching you more when you’re together.

Things used to feel platonic between you both, but now he’s grabbing your arm when you’re both laughing at a joke, putting his arm around your shoulders when you’re sitting at a restaurant booth, or putting his hand on your back as you walk into a room together. “This is definitely telling behavior,” says Orbuch.

4. You feel sexual tension every time you touch.

His touch might feel different to you too, like there’s a flirty, sexy tension that comes with it, unlike when you and other friends and family touch. He’s trying to show that he wants to be more than friends by taking the intimacy up a notch.

Sometimes body language can tell you everything you need to know about a relationship:

5. He’s been introducing you to more and more people in his life.

Your guy friend might like you if he’s invited you to meet his other friends, colleagues, or family. “It’s a sign he wants to show you off to others and wants the important people in his life to meet and spend time with you,” says Orbuch.

6. He wants to meet your family, too.

Same goes for asking about meeting your people. “He wants to be integrated into your life,” she says.

Wait, This Is When J.Lo And A-Rod Actually Met?!

7. He asks to see you…a lot.

If he’s trying to hang out more often, it could be a sign that he’s looking for more from your relationship. “You’ll notice that he’s increasingly demanding of your time, attention and emotions,” says Orbuch.

8. He wants to hang—just the two of you.

“It’s an especially big sign if he wants your hang outs to be one-on-one,” says Orbuch.

“He’ll likely ask more questions about you, how you’re feeling and what you’re doing.”

9. He talks about your friendship.

Look for times when your guy friend talks about your relationship with him. Does he like to remind you how unique it is? How close you are? How good you both are at being there for each other? How much fun you have together? It’s an indication that he really values what you two have, and isn’t afraid to share with you how special it is to him, says Orbuch.

10. He’s been texting/calling you more often.

If digital communication has picked up, that could be a sign your guy friend is into you. (Here’s how to respond if you feel like things are getting flirty and you want to reciprocate.)

11. He’s asking you more questions.

See if you notice a change in the types of conversations you have too—“He’ll likely ask more questions about you, how you’re feeling and what you’re doing,” says Orbuch.

12. Talking about your romantic lives feels kind of uncomfortable.

Does it seem like your guy friend doesn’t want to hear about your dating life? Or does he clam up when you ask about his romantic relationships? This may be a sign he likes you and wants you to see each other (and only each other) as romantic options.

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13. He roasts the guys you date.

Another sign? “He tends to be critical of the people you date,” says Orbuch. If your partners never seem good enough to him, it’s because he’s interested in you and protective of your feelings.

14. You share inside jokes.

If you and your guy friend basically have a secret language, share a ton of jokes that no one else gets, or reminisce about funny moments from the past, he might have more than friendly feelings for you, says Orbuch. Sharing jokes that have a “You just had to be there” vibe for everyone else is a way to create emotional intimacy between the two of you and bring you closer.

 

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