It’s pretty simple.
Do you know what women want in a man? How do you become the man she constantly thinks about?
To be attractive in her eyes, you have to learn how to connect with women on another level that most men don’t know how to do.
So many women think, “If he only knew!” Well, by the following the right dating advice, you’ll know how to get a girl to like you!
We, women, desire to be wanted by a man just like a man desires to be wanted from a woman. But the ultimate connection happens when you understand how a woman thinks. We are completely different from men in the way we process things and in terms of what makes us fall in love.
So, what do women find attractive? It all starts with an emotional connection. This does not mean that you get overly emotional and attached, but it does mean you voice your desires early on. This means showing her that you are the kind of guy that she wants.
The time that you spend with her is very important in the attraction phase. Make sure you remain calm, cool and collected while you are attracting her. You do fun things and make things pretty light-hearted early on. Do not put pressure on her. She has to want to desire you. This is how you make your presence known.
So, once you start going out on dates and you want her to think about you non-stop, the goal is to remain in control of the situation. Do not tell her you to want to be with her on the first, second, or third date. Also, do not get mad at petty things and throw a line like, “What kind of girl are you? Are you looking for something serious?” This is too aggressive.
Many men go in head first too soon. Listen, things come up in life so try not to respond with an ego if something happens. Let things progress naturally and do not try to force anything.
So, when in the process of figuring out how to get girls to like you, this attraction phase is vital. This is when the woman is still trying to figure out if she desires you, if she desires you sexually, and if she desires to be with you long term. And many men mess up in this sensitive area.
Keep in mind that a girl does not know you when you are in the beginning stages and they find this mysterious and attractive.
A surefire way to spark her interest is to pace yourself and get to know her. You’ll have her attention when she sees that you are holding yourself of value.
Men are visual creatures and when you see a perfect girl, you tend to go all in too soon because you’ve already decided this is what you wanted. But she hasn’t decided this yet.
So, in turn, you start to get too intense, too early on. You may start assuming the worst of things if things do not go exactly how you want. Then, you jump to conclusions and she could end up seeing you as someone who might not be secure with themselves or who might be too clingy in the future.
This is what kills attraction and it happens often.
So, in order to get a girl to like you and always think about you, here are 4 ways to get her attention.
1. Do not be predictable
This is the most important thing of all. You want to show balance so she knows that she has to still attract you and that she still has to do some work to get you.
For example, if you text her “Good morning” or “Good night” all the time, let her do it instead. Do not be the only one doing this as she has to show up in her ways too. Also, do not respond to her text too early on so she can get excited to see you on her phone. Let the anticipation build up before she sees you again.
2. Be mysterious
Let her wonder what you are doing. Do not post every single second on social media about what you’re doing, what you’re eating, or what you’re thinking. Post less if you are active on social media.
Also, mysterious means disappearing. You don’t want to disappear for too long but you want to disappear just enough so she wonders what you are up to.
If she texts you in the morning, say something like this later on that night: “I’ve had such a busy day! I hope your day was great as well. I’m going to head to bed as I have a long day tomorrow. I’ll talk to you soon and goodnight.”
Then text her again in the morning so she sees you are present but still have a life of your own. This shows her that she is not yet your priority and ultimately women love this. It shows her that you have a sense of stability in your life and that you are fulfilled with the way you live it.
3. Pop in and out
There are some coaches that will tell you to go off the radar for days but let’s be honest, she is not going to be turned on by this because she could think it’s shady. Instead, pop in and out on your terms. You are the busy one!
Keep this up for about three days. When you start to engage in normal conversation again she is going to be thinking, “What is he up to?” or “What is he doing that he is so invested in that he is not giving me all the time in his day?”
This stands out from a lot of other men and what they are doing right now. Remember you want to be less predictable which enhances the attraction phase. Most of the time, this girl might even say, “When am I going to see you again?”
This is what you want!
4. Don’t be too available
You want to pop in here and there, but be less attentive during the next 3 or 4 days. Do not reply to her texts all the time and don’t be too available. When you start chatting with her again, focus the conversations back on her and what she has been up to.
Tell her you’ve been busy and that work has been crazy. You don’t want to fully answer exactly what you have been doing so you can spark the mystery.
Once you do this, schedule something with her, eventually. Why? The time that passes will get her excited to see you again. That time that passes will get her looking forward to a date with you.
Say something like this when planning a date: “Hey, I’m busy the next two days but have some time Friday night. Would you like a grab a drink around 7 pm?”
Make sure your texts are simple and to the point. You never want to become her text buddy.
The ultimate way to get a girl to want you or to think about you more is by living a life that you truly love.
Never forget about your goals and aspirations, and do something daily that gets you closer to them. This is the ultimate source of attraction. Women love this!
A man who is comfortable in his own skin and that has taken the time to work on himself and his own insecurities really play a part in a woman’s life. Not only because he is putting himself first, but because he sees himself as a desirable man. At the end of the day, if you see it, then the chances of her seeing it will increase.
The man who always holds himself with pride and dignity is the man who will win. If a woman is not reciprocating, then you walk away with your head up because you continue to put yourself first, just like you would want your woman to do the same.
Apollonia Ponti is an internationally certified relationship coach who works with men to attract the woman they desire, build confidence, master their attraction skills and rebuild relationships. Find more of her expert advice by visiting her YouTube Channel, reading her Attract a Woman e-book, or booking a coaching session.
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