8 Beautiful Ways to Tell Someone You Love Them — Without Words

Telling someone you love them is easy but showing them is harder.

Sure, it’s easy to say “I love you” to someone you love. But, have you ever considered ways to tell someone you love them without using words?

Are you falling in love? Isn’t it wonderful? Every day you share with your person is a new and wonderful day. You hope that you feel like this forever.

When you love someone, it’s important to tell them. But, it’s also important to put actions behind your words so that your person not only hears that you love them but they also feel it!

You can learn how to tell someone you love them without saying the words “I love you” (but you still should, every now and then).

With that said, here are 8 beautiful ways to say “I love you” without saying a word.

1. Love them as they want to be loved

One of the best tools in a successful relationship is Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. He has devoted his website and his book to his theory that there are 5 languages of love — 5 ways people can express and receive love: Quality Time, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, and Giving of Gifts.

For each person, one of those things is the thing that makes them feel the most loved when they are done unto them. When a partner tries to love them using a different love language, they don’t feel loved.

My love language is Quality Time — I feel loved when someone is truly present with me, listening to me, focusing on me. My ex-husbands’ love language was Physical Touch — he felt love when I was holding his hand, hugging him or, yep, that too.

Unfortunately, the language that we spoke best with each other was Acts of Service. We did things for each other, like changing the oil in the car or going to the grocery store. Stuff got done but neither of us felt loved.

If you’re curious about your love language, you’ll find a short quiz on the website that you and your partner can both take so you can start loving each other in a way that will work.

2. Take care of them but let them return the favor

Everyone enjoys taking care of someone but many of us are really bad at letting people take care of us.

One of the best answers to the question of how to tell someone that you love them without words is to let them take care of you.

Think about how good it feels when you do something nice for someone. How it connects you to that person and makes you feel good about yourself.

Imagine how good it would feel for your partner to do something for you. So, let him! Even if you can do it for yourself, let him do it. Let him feel good about helping you. It is an excellent way to show someone you love them — to let them show you the same.

3. Hear them

For women, an important part of being loved is feeling connected. Men often don’t understand what that means, to be connected, for a woman.

I have a client who wants his girlfriend to know that he loves her. He thinks that the best way to do that is by making sure they have good memories. So, he arranges trips and dinners and other expensive things, hoping to create wonderful memories.

His girlfriend has expressed her dismay that he is spending so much money on her and he brushed it off, telling her that she was worth it. She wasn’t happy.

I suggested that he tell her that he recognizes and respects her concerns and that he has arranged some free things that they can do together to build memories. She was happy.

For women, being seen, heard, understood, and acknowledged is an important part of feeling loved.

4. Share their passions

I have a client whose boyfriend loves working on cars. Loves it. He worked on cars with his father and he does so now with his son and he would rather work on cars than just about anything.

This love was driving my client crazy because he wanted to spend time with her but also wanted to work on his car. So, I suggested a compromise.

I suggested that she try to get interested in some aspects of his car work and learn from him so that she could spend time with him. In exchange, he would be willing to spend some time with her, doing things other than car work.

By supporting your partner’s passions you are letting them know that you respect and love who they are as a person. And sulking in a corner because you don’t like what he is doing isn’t going to buy you any love at all.

5. Support them always

Sometimes, our partner comes up with some pie-in-the-sky idea that is the new driving force in their lives. It’s exciting and new and all they want to talk about.

And you’ve probably thought your partner’s new idea is crazy.

I remember in college my soccer-playing, skiing, manly-man of a boyfriend turned to me after a dance performance and announced that he wanted to be a dancer. I actually laughed in his face. This was 30 years ago and I still remember the hurt look in his eyes. He never became a dancer.

To this day, I wish I had supported him. That’s what people who love each other do for each other. He might never have become a dancer but having the person who loved him believe in him would have been such a gift. Even better would have not being on the receiving end of my derision.

So, support them. No matter what.

6. Don’t be critical

You know how you feel when you go to visit your in-laws and your mother-in-law makes some passive aggressive, disparaging comment about something you did. You know how awful that makes you feel. And you don’t even really like your mother-in-law.

Imagine what your partner, who loves you, must feel like when you are critical of them.

I have a client whose wife gives him the once over every time they are headed out the door. She tells him if his hair is out of place or if his shirt is right or if he is carrying the right bag for the task ahead. And while she is quick to say, “Your pants have a hole in them”, she never says, “You are perfect today, honey. Thank you.”

My client at first tried to anticipate what his wife might want but as time went on, he only felt resentment towards her criticism. He actually started not only making choices that he knew would antagonize her but he ignored whatever she mentioned at the door.

So, be careful not to be critical. If you have something to say, say it with love. And if it doesn’t need to be said, don’t say it. Life will go on if his hair isn’t just right.

7. Don’t take things personally

There is nothing more insidious in a relationship than not forgiving someone for a wrong. And, for some reason, couples who love each other are really, really good at not forgiving each other. If someone does something wrong nothing they can do will make up for that wrong. And that wrong will be played out verbally, over and over, forever.

People are only human. We do things that hurt people. Rarely do we do things to hurt someone on purpose. And yet, in relationships, we often take the thing that someone does to us so personally that we refuse to believe that they didn’t set out to hurt us. And that is unforgivable.

I have a client whose partner was so late getting home one night that he missed a date they had planned. He was delayed at work and then got stuck in traffic and it was a disaster. She took it personally.

“If you loved me”, she said. “You would have gotten home on time.” And she truly believed what she said.

The reality is that he does love her. He just didn’t allow enough time. And he blew it, but he does love her. And it’s important for her to understand that. And it makes it easier to forgive. He was late. He didn’t plan well. He blew it. And he does love her.

Of course, another piece of forgiveness is that the wrong-doer must apologize for the hurt caused, because therein lies the issue that will carry forth forever — the hurt. Not so much the actions but the resulting feelings.

So, don’t take things personally. And apologize for the hurt. Forgive and move on.

8. Never show contempt

If there is one thing that kills love, it’s contempt. Do anything that you can to keep it out of your relationship.

Contempt seems to rear its ugly head when wrongs fester, when people don’t forgive, and when being critical is the norm and respect is lost. Contempt manifests itself with derisive comments about your partner, comments about who they are as a person.

My ex-husband had a really hard time getting things done around the house. I told him, over and over, that if he was my employee I would fire him. And I wouldn’t say it in a loving way. I would say it dismissively, almost with a wave of my hand. I can only imagine how it must have felt to be on the receiving end of my contempt.

Therapists say that when they see contempt in a relationship they know that it’s close to over. So, if you find yourself acting contemptuously STOP, assess and figure out what needs to be done.

Don’t let contempt kill love. Because it will.

Now that you know how to say “I love you” with actions rather than words, you can start showing your partner exactly how you feel about them.

Hug them and kiss them and have sex with them and tell them that they are wonderful and hang out with their friends and visit their mother. All of those things are an excellent way to show someone you love them.

But they will have a hard time accepting your love if you aren’t willing to forgive them, if you can’t support them, and are constantly critical of them. Back up your kisses with words and actions and they will know that you are the one for them.

 

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Kita – Chapter 36 – Baby’s Back! – Part 2

Anyway… Kita finishes her tanning session after 10 minutes and comes out. She’s still hung up on Steve and wants to talk about him and why he doesn’t text her enough. Kita is a foolish young girl and I’m really trying to help this naïve child navigate the dating world.

But she’ll make enough mistakes until she finally learns. I think she really has no clue when it comes to dating. She’ll ask me the same questions over and over. She’ll make excuses for these clowns too. Oh, maybe I should text him. Maybe he’s just busy. Should I text him? So don’t text Steve right?

And the list goes on and on. There’s even a woman seated in the waiting area and she can hear all of this conversation I’m having with Kita. She chimes in with some solid advice. Then her husband comes out and even he agrees with me. At one point the woman says: “See? Here’s a woman and two men agreeing on the same subject. Let this guy pursue you.” she says as they’re leaving.

But you know what? The great thing is, I’m just happy to see Kita. I’m happy to help her in any way I can. I’m glad to be near her. To look at her pretty face with those lovely almond eyes. I don’t mind any of her nonsense. Beauty has always been very forgivable for me.

But alas she’s still going crazy that loser Steve isn’t getting back to her. She just can’t get it through her pretty little head that the world doesn’t think like she does. But I’m beginning to realize that when she gets stressed out about these other little twerps some thing changes in her and she comes to me. Because that’s what she does. It’s like a trigger.

“Is anybody in the salon?” (she sighs)

I look at the board. “Just you and me.”

Kita walks out into the hallway to see if anyone’s coming up the steps. She walks back towards the counter… her eyes with that familiar twinkle.

“Do you wanna kiss me, Charles?”

“Since the moment I saw you today, Kita.”

I take her sweet face in my hands and kiss her gently on the lips. They’re so soft and full. I love this strange transformation. I’ve never experienced anything like this with anyone else before that was sober.

She reaches up and puts her hands behind my neck and locks her fingers. I can see what’s she’s doing, as I raise her feet off the floor. Her tan thighs wrap around my waist and she’s hanging on me like a little monkey. I start to walk towards the back of the salon with her on me swirling her busy little tongue around mine. Her mouth more delicious that that apple I devoured earlier. I imagine what it would be like to fuck her in this position. I’m sure it would feel glorious. I take her in the back room and sit her on the sink. We continue to make out and I’m running my hands up and down her soft, supple legs.

Kita’s moaning as I kiss her neck. This feels like a rerun from our last brief encounter. She takes my face in her hands.

“Okay… okay, (she says, beathless) I have to stop. I’m sorry. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, Charles. This keeps happening.”

“Don’t be sorry, Kita. I don’t mind. (I love it!) Maybe it’s a form of OCD that’s triggered by stress.”

“Do you think?”

“I don’t know. But I suppose we should get back up to the counter.”

“Yea.”

 

(Check it out)

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/11/obsessive-thoughts-a-darker-side-of-ocd/281260/

 

I lift all 96 pounds of this little doll off the sink and gently set her back down. As I do, she slides down and the tips of my thumbs graze the bottoms of her firm breasts.

She giggles and takes my hand as we walk back up to the front of the salon.

I try to regain my composure and regulate my breathing. Kita does the same as she steals glances at me like the precocious little girl she is.

“I know you’re leaving for Florida for a month over the break. Is there a day next week where I can see you outside the salon for a lunch or a dinner?”

“Open your calendar.”

(That was easy)

“Hmm… Wednesday. I could do a late lunch next Wednesday. Like 2:00pm. Is that okay?”

“Sure!” (Smiling)

“Oh, and send me a calendar invite like you did last time.”

“Will do, Miss!”

“Okay, I have to go write a paper.” She reaches out and rubs the back of my hand and gives it a couple of reassuring squeezes. “I’ll be back in to see you before our lunch! See ya, Charles.”

And she was gone.

 

Something is definitely going on. Her behavior certainly is odd. Am I a release, revenge, or simply the benefactor of a compulsion?

Well, you can’t rape the willing and I really enjoy her company, beauty, and delicious kisses.

I also like that despite her inexperience she’s organized and punctual. She’ll keep our date.

I better get that calendar invite right out to her!

 

 

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100 Get-To-Know-You Questions to Ask Your Partner When You’re Craving Intimacy

Sometimes, you need some new subjects to explore.

If you want to deepen intimacy and improve communication skills in your relationship, asking some get-to-know-you questions can be a great idea.

At the beginning of a relationship, you’re not usually lacking for things to talk about.

You don’t need a list conversation topics to talk about with your boyfriend, but as time passes, it seems like you’ve learned all there is to know about one another.

Periods of silence can be difficult so your communication skills end up dwindling.

Learning about one another builds intimacy between you, especially early on when it makes you feel like you’re clicking — you feel the chemistry — when you ask questions and find common ground. (“You’re a Patriots fan too? I love that you’re into pro football!”)

Of course, as time goes by and you both get to know each other, you might feel like you’ve run out of things to learn.

You might even feel as if your relationship is losing momentum because you can’t have those great, “Oh my gosh, me too!” kinds of conversations anymore.

Guess what? You can still have those conversations!

There is a list of things you can talk about with your boyfriend — good and interesting conversation topics.

As long as you continue to work on maintaining good and effective communication skills with each other, you will never run out of things to talk about.

Some things on this list are for a couple who just met while others are for couples who have known each other for a long time.

But, before you dive in, there are a few cautions you need to be aware of.

First of all, this isn’t a list you print and run through over dinner.

This is a list of conversation suggestions for when you’re together and it seems like a good time to dig a little deeper.

Secondly, some of these questions will bring up areas of his past that can make you jealous.

So, if you’re easily jealous, don’t! He did indeed have a life before you met, he had other girlfriends, and maybe he was even married. That is his past.

You also have a past but now, you’re together. If you ask a question about his past, accept his response without jealousy, envy, or anger, please!

Lastly, if you ask him these questions, be prepared to answer them yourself!

Now, organized into categories, here are 100 get-to-know-you questions and conversation topics to talk about with your partner that will improve communication skills, deepen intimacy, and help deepen your relationship.

Fun things to talk about with your partner

  • What names have been ruined for you because you knew someone you didn’t like who had that name?
  • What boggles your mind whenever you think about it?
  • What’s the spiciest thing you’ve ever eaten and regretted?
  • Toilet paper — over or under?
  • If someone challenged you to a dance competition, what song would guarantee your victory?
  • What’s your favorite lame joke?
  • If you had no financial restrictions, what would be one thing you would want to try?
  • What’s the chore you put off the longest?
  • If I waved a magic wand that gave you the ability to fly, where would you go first?
  • If you were an action figure, what would your superpower be and what special tools would be on your belt?
  • Where do you wish you could create a shortcut?
  • If someone offered you whatever car you wanted, what car would you get?
  • Of all the products out there, which one do you think needs to be made better?
  • What event from your past do you wish you could see in a video?
  • If you were crazy rich, what types of crazy or obnoxious things would you do?
  • If you won the lottery, what’s the first thing you would buy?
  • If your diet could only contain five things, what would yours be?
  • Where is the number one place you want to visit?
  • If you found a genie and a lamp, what three wishes would you make?
  • Cats or dogs or both?

Personal things to ask your partner

  • What’s it like to be you?
  • Tell me one brutally honest truth about yourself.
  • When do you feel the most like your true self?
  • If you wrote your story, what would this chapter be called?
  • What makes you more emotional than you’re comfortable with?
  • If I wanted the fast-track to making you angry, what would it be?
  • Tell me what’s on your bucket list.
  • What do you do that makes you the happiest?
  • What do you want people to remember you for when you’re gone?
  • What would your life be like if you lived up to your full potential?
  • What is the one thing in life that just fascinates the heck out of you?
  • Who makes you the most uncomfortable when they’re around?
  • Give me one word that describes you the best.
  • What do you want to get out of life?
  • When you catch yourself procrastinating, what do you do to get past it?
  • Share with me one secret from your past that most people don’t know.
  • If you had one week to live, what would you do with that time?
  • If you could spend one day with someone, living or dead, who would you choose?
  • Do you love or hate animals? Which animal would you want as a pet?
  • How do you react when you don’t get what you want?

Questions about the past to ask your partner

  • What is the most difficult or painful text you’ve ever sent someone?
  • What’s the worst thing you’ve done and hidden from your parents?
  • Tell me about a really awkward moment you had in high school.
  • If you could have a re-do on one decision from your life, what decision would that be and how would you change?
  • Tell me about a time when you just threw caution to the wind and went for it, regardless of the consequences.
  • If you had a recording about your whole life, which hour would you want to go back and watch?
  • What is the most memorable phone call of your life?
  • Tell me about something in your life that changed you for the better.
  • Tell me about something in your life that changed you for the worse.
  • Have you ever purposefully cut someone out of your life? Why?
  • What is your most beautiful memory so far?
  • How different are you from five years ago?
  • Tell me about the riskiest thing you’ve ever done.
  • What is the most memorable vacation you’ve ever taken?
  • What is the story about you that people just love to share?
  • What was your favorite TV show when you were a kid?
  • Who did you idolize when you were a kid?
  • What is the most humiliating moment in your life?
  • When have you felt the most proud of yourself?
  • Who was your favorite band growing up?

Relationship questions to ask your partner

  • What is the best way you can think of to spend a day with a loved one?
  • What would you say is the best and worst thing about having you as a partner?
  • How do you view the role of a wife or a husband?
  • Tell me one thing a person can do to become more attractive (excluding change their appearance).
  • What did you learn about relationships from your parents?
  • Tell me about the couple you know who has the healthiest relationship.
  • Are you willing to go to couples therapy if things derail in a serious relationship?
  • What do you like and dislike most about being in a long-term relationship?
  • Excluding cheating, what is an absolute relationship-ending incident for you?
  • Where have your ideas of the ideal relationship come from?
  • What have you learned from past relationships?
  • How do you think couples should manage when sharing household chores?
  • What things do you think cause most couples to grow apart and split up?
  • How would your exes describe you today if asked?
  • How would you react if you found out we accidentally got pregnant?
  • Are you willing to change diapers? Allllll diapers?
  • City or country?
  • What’s your favorite body part on the opposite sex?
  • What is the craziest thing you’ve done during sex?
  • If we argue and you’re truly in the wrong, will you be able to admit it?

Question to ask your partner about your relationship

  • At what point did you realize you were in love with me?
  • What was it about me that first attracted you to me?
  • The first time you saw me, what did you think?
  • Of all of our dates so far, what’s your favorite?
  • How can I make you feel loved in our relationship?
  • What do I do that drives you crazy, but still makes you smile inside?
  • What is one sexual fantasy you would like to live out?
  • What three things do you see between us that make us such a great couple?
  • Is there something in our sex life that I don’t do but you wish I would?
  • Is there anything I can change to make me a more perfect partner for you?

Questions about your partner’s worldview

  • Who in your life holds onto a belief or theory that has been proven to be wrong? What is that belief and how do they rationalize holding on to it?
  • How do you view money?
  • Is there ever a time to act first and ask for forgiveness later?
  • Who do you find impossible to take seriously?
  • What do you wish someone had taught you so you didn’t have to learn it the hard way?
  • If you could dictate one mandatory class for all school-age kids, what would it be?
  • What do you think has been considered normal by society, but it shouldn’t be?
  • Who do you wish you could be more like?
  • What is your favorite period of history?
  • What do you wish you could stop doing?

Some of these questions will be very revealing and might contain answers that are red flags so beware!

For example, if everything bad that has happened in his life is someone else’s fault, he has a problem accepting responsibility. If he thinks treating people disrespectfully is funny, he’s probably pretty childish and lacks confidence.

If your guy reveals something particularly disturbing about his past, you might want to consider your next move. Your values should be in alignment.

In summary, these 100 get-to-know-you questions are meant to get you thinking about some more topics to explore with your significant other — have fun with them!

 

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Kita – Chapter 35 – Baby’s Back! – Part 1

It was the Sunday after Thanksgiving. I was working at the salon as usual. I had just opened the doors for business.

I was coming up the hallway from the back. Morning sunlight is pouring through the huge windows in the front of the salon where the gym is located.

I see a petite silhouette standing at the front counter. I’m not wearing my glasses so I can’t see clearly the identity of this person. But as I get closer…

“Kita! You’re back! (Hugs) I didn’t think you’d be back until Monday!”

“Yea. My train was at 7am this morning!”

“Well I’m happy you’re back.”

She’s munching on an apple as we chit-chat about our collective holiday experiences. Hers seemed fun with her sister and the family, mine just hanging with friends. Then out of nowhere:

“So I texted Steve.”

Steve is the guy who was her rebound off former boyfriend JR. She hung out with him for a month or so. He never took her on a proper date. They just hung out at his place or she would just sit around and watch him work on his truck. She kissed him but no sex. (So that’s good)

(Sigh) “How’d that go?”

“I told him I still cared about him and he said the same and that maybe we can get together when I get back to Philly.”

“Good luck with that. Don’t reach out to him again. He needs to take the step and pursue you. You’re the prize Kita. Against better judgement you’ve reached out to him again. Now that the connection is there it’s up to him to make the move now and set up a proper date.”

“What if he doesn’t?”

“Then he’s really not interested in seeing you again.”

“Okay. He always says he’s really busy with work and things are crazy.”

“People say things like that to get out of stuff, Kita.”

“Why can’t people just be straight forward and say what they want?”

“Because you’re straightforward, forthright and honest and you want everybody else to be like you. It just doesn’t work that way I’m afraid.”

“But that sucks.”

“People suck sometimes.”

“I hate boys.”

“Then date men.”

She looks up at me and grins ever so slightly. I look away.

“Can I have my lotion? I guess I’ll go tanning.”

“That’s all we do here! Where do you want me to send you?”

“Send me…”

“Send you where?”

“Send me to Room Two.”

I set her up in the system and the song “You Send Me” pops into my musical brain. She tosses the apple into the fresh plastic bag that I have just put in to line the waste basket this morning, and heads to her room.

I’m walking past the basket and see there is still plenty of flesh (mesocarp) on that apple. So I pick it up and start eating it. (The bag is clean and there is no other objects in the bag. Just the apple)

I don’t bite into that apple because I’m hungry. I don’t savor every sweet, delicious bite of this discarded piece of fruit because I need to eat more healthy. I don’t eat out of the trash can like a homeless person. I eat that apple because Kita has just had her sweet mouth on it. Her plump, soft lips and tongue have been all over this lucky bit of fruit. I know to some of you this may seem a little gross, but that apple was delicious! It was better in my twisted mind because Kita had her hot mouth all over it. There’s something sexual about the whole, sharing food/biblical/forbidden fruit thing working in my mind. So I ate that apple right down to the seeds and stem. It’s like I was devouring a part of Kita.

Or Kita herself.

 

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Amount of Young People Who Don’t Have a Romantic Partner up SIGNIFICANTLY Since 2004

Are your extensive right-swiping efforts fruitless? Do you spend hours at the smoothie bar at Whole Foods in an attempt to meet chicks, but end up going to the beer tap at the grocery store to drink away your loneliness? Well, chin up because a majority of young Americans can’t find love according to a new study.

According to a new study from the General Social Survey, 51 percent of Americans between the ages of 18 and 34 do not have a steady romantic partner. You have to ask, how many married couples have a steady romantic partner? This is interesting because that number is significantly higher than in 2004 when the figure was 33 percent, the lowest number since the GSS first asked the question in 1986. The number is up from the 2016 findings that 45 percent of young people were single.

The General Social Survey is a “biennial, nationally representative survey that has been conducted by NORC at the University of Chicago since 1972 to monitor societal change and study the growing complexity of American society.”

In other relationship surveys from the GSS, the amount of people saying that they had a divorce has been steady or declining since 2014. People who were very happy in their marriage were up in 2018, 65 percent compared to 60 percent in 2016. The question was asked, “Is it wrong to have sex before marriage?” The response was 17 percent in 2018, the lowest level since the question was first asked in 1972 when it was at 34 percent.

A Pew Research Center study found that about 18 million unmarried partners were living with their partner. The cohabitation unmarried couples was up 29 percent since 2007.

The polls don’t only focus on relationships, they also find the pulse in the U.S. on a variety of topics such as current affairs, social issues, economic well-being, civil liberties, crime, politics, work, and religion.

So if you haven’t found that special someone don’t get worried, most other people haven’t either.

 

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Tales of Rock – Slash is Having a Yard Sale — and there are Dinosaurs!

I love rock and I love dinosaurs!

Slash from Guns n Roses and Velvet Revolver

Well, it’s not really a yard sale, but the Guns n Roses and Velvet Revolver guitarist is unloading a bunch of his stuff at auction. As you might expect, there is a ton of his clothes and guitars, but what interested me was all the cool things he used to decorate his home.

From the auction description:

Ever the archetypal rock star and ranked as one of the world’s best guitar players of all time, Slash has spent years traveling the world and collecting various items which will now come to the auction block for the very first time. Some of his eclectic collection tells the story of Slash’s love of film, television and fast cars. Offered are items which include the bench from the “One Flew over the Cuckoo’s Nest” movie set (Est: $6,000-8,000), a South Park Pinball Machine (Est: $2,500-3,500), a 2007 Harley Davidson V-Rod VRSCAW Twin Racing Street Custom Cruiser (Est: $8,000-10,000), and the star of the show is his 1966 Corvette equipped with a big block 427 cubic inch V-8 engine with 435 horsepower, 4-speed manual transmission(Est: $90,000-$100,000).

When you make millions of dollars, you have to spend it on something, and it always amazes me to see how these celebrities blow their wad. Apparently, Slash likes dinosaurs. Nothing wrong with that. Check this out…

Slash dinosaur table

LOT 392: DINOSAUR FORM COFFEE TABLE

Slash must have had an entire dinosaur themed room since there are a bunch of lots of dinosaur models. I love the windup Creature from the Black Lagoon in this lot:

Slash dinosaurs collection

LOT 386: GROUP OF ASSORTED DINOSAUR ITEMS

Of course, every rocker needs some down time to unwind, and what better way to relax than to play some Asteroids…

slash - asteroids arcade machine

LOT 409: ATARI ASTEROIDS VIDEO ARCADE GAME

or pinball!

slash - south park pinball machine

LOT 406: SEGA SHOWCASE SOUTH PARK PINBALL MACHINE

Of course, this is the item any Slash fan would want in his collection:

Guns n Roses Slash top hat

LOT 380: SLASH WORN FELT TOP HAT WITH “JEWELED” SKULL AND CROSSBONES BAND

This is just a small sampling of the cool items from Slash’s personal collection that will be auctioned off later this month. Julien’s Auctions will be holding the auction on March 26, 2020, and you can bid now online.

 

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4 Ways the Most Attractive Men Get Women to Fall for Them

It’s pretty simple.

Do you know what women want in a man? How do you become the man she constantly thinks about?

To be attractive in her eyes, you have to learn how to connect with women on another level that most men don’t know how to do.

So many women think, “If he only knew!” Well, by the following the right dating advice, you’ll know how to get a girl to like you!

We, women, desire to be wanted by a man just like a man desires to be wanted from a woman. But the ultimate connection happens when you understand how a woman thinks. We are completely different from men in the way we process things and in terms of what makes us fall in love.

 

So, what do women find attractive? It all starts with an emotional connection. This does not mean that you get overly emotional and attached, but it does mean you voice your desires early on. This means showing her that you are the kind of guy that she wants.

The time that you spend with her is very important in the attraction phase. Make sure you remain calm, cool and collected while you are attracting her. You do fun things and make things pretty light-hearted early on. Do not put pressure on her. She has to want to desire you. This is how you make your presence known.

So, once you start going out on dates and you want her to think about you non-stop, the goal is to remain in control of the situation. Do not tell her you to want to be with her on the first, second, or third date. Also, do not get mad at petty things and throw a line like, “What kind of girl are you? Are you looking for something serious?” This is too aggressive.

Many men go in head first too soon. Listen, things come up in life so try not to respond with an ego if something happens. Let things progress naturally and do not try to force anything.

So, when in the process of figuring out how to get girls to like you, this attraction phase is vital. This is when the woman is still trying to figure out if she desires you, if she desires you sexually, and if she desires to be with you long term. And many men mess up in this sensitive area.

Keep in mind that a girl does not know you when you are in the beginning stages and they find this mysterious and attractive.

A surefire way to spark her interest is to pace yourself and get to know her. You’ll have her attention when she sees that you are holding yourself of value.

Men are visual creatures and when you see a perfect girl, you tend to go all in too soon because you’ve already decided this is what you wanted. But she hasn’t decided this yet.

So, in turn, you start to get too intense, too early on. You may start assuming the worst of things if things do not go exactly how you want. Then, you jump to conclusions and she could end up seeing you as someone who might not be secure with themselves or who might be too clingy in the future.

This is what kills attraction and it happens often.

So, in order to get a girl to like you and always think about you, here are 4 ways to get her attention.

1. Do not be predictable

This is the most important thing of all. You want to show balance so she knows that she has to still attract you and that she still has to do some work to get you.

For example, if you text her “Good morning” or “Good night” all the time, let her do it instead. Do not be the only one doing this as she has to show up in her ways too. Also, do not respond to her text too early on so she can get excited to see you on her phone. Let the anticipation build up before she sees you again.

2. Be mysterious

Let her wonder what you are doing. Do not post every single second on social media about what you’re doing, what you’re eating, or what you’re thinking. Post less if you are active on social media.

Also, mysterious means disappearing. You don’t want to disappear for too long but you want to disappear just enough so she wonders what you are up to.

If she texts you in the morning, say something like this later on that night: “I’ve had such a busy day! I hope your day was great as well. I’m going to head to bed as I have a long day tomorrow. I’ll talk to you soon and goodnight.”

Then text her again in the morning so she sees you are present but still have a life of your own. This shows her that she is not yet your priority and ultimately women love this. It shows her that you have a sense of stability in your life and that you are fulfilled with the way you live it.

3. Pop in and out

There are some coaches that will tell you to go off the radar for days but let’s be honest, she is not going to be turned on by this because she could think it’s shady. Instead, pop in and out on your terms. You are the busy one!

Keep this up for about three days. When you start to engage in normal conversation again she is going to be thinking, “What is he up to?” or “What is he doing that he is so invested in that he is not giving me all the time in his day?”

This stands out from a lot of other men and what they are doing right now. Remember you want to be less predictable which enhances the attraction phase. Most of the time, this girl might even say, “When am I going to see you again?”

This is what you want!

4. Don’t be too available

You want to pop in here and there, but be less attentive during the next 3 or 4 days. Do not reply to her texts all the time and don’t be too available. When you start chatting with her again, focus the conversations back on her and what she has been up to.

Tell her you’ve been busy and that work has been crazy. You don’t want to fully answer exactly what you have been doing so you can spark the mystery.

Once you do this, schedule something with her, eventually. Why? The time that passes will get her excited to see you again. That time that passes will get her looking forward to a date with you.

Say something like this when planning a date: “Hey, I’m busy the next two days but have some time Friday night. Would you like a grab a drink around 7 pm?”

Make sure your texts are simple and to the point. You never want to become her text buddy.

The ultimate way to get a girl to want you or to think about you more is by living a life that you truly love.

Never forget about your goals and aspirations, and do something daily that gets you closer to them. This is the ultimate source of attraction. Women love this!

A man who is comfortable in his own skin and that has taken the time to work on himself and his own insecurities really play a part in a woman’s life. Not only because he is putting himself first, but because he sees himself as a desirable man. At the end of the day, if you see it, then the chances of her seeing it will increase.

The man who always holds himself with pride and dignity is the man who will win. If a woman is not reciprocating, then you walk away with your head up because you continue to put yourself first, just like you would want your woman to do the same.

Apollonia Ponti is an internationally certified relationship coach who works with men to attract the woman they desire, build confidence, master their attraction skills and rebuild relationships. Find more of her expert advice by visiting her YouTube Channel, reading her Attract a Woman e-book, or booking a coaching session.

 

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