What Exactly Does A Side Chick Do Better Than A Main Chick?

Through the eyes of millennials, we observe the force that side chicks wield over men, which main chicks may never be able to compete with. Or will they?

What is it about a side chick that makes her so darn appealing to the man who already has a girlfriend, fiancee, or worse, a wife and kids of his own?

The side chick is not unknown in modern relationships, or in relationships of previous eras for that matter. She is the mistress, the other woman, the one who never comes home, the hidden one that no one knows, the force behind the scenes that the man cannot resist. The side chick is the babe over whom the man is willing to risk it all.

From the university undergraduate to the grandma travelling abroad to care of her grandkids, women of all ages are pretty familiar with her. Only few have been fortunate [or is it unfortunate?] to see her face or come in contact with her, but her legend can’t be missed nor can her looming shadow over a relationship or marriage be denied.

Most times after this great encounter or discovery, the question that women find themselves asking, either rhetorically in the darkness and still silence of their empty beds or to the man’s face when he quietly tiptoes through the front door late in the night is; ‘what is special about her?!’

Some phrase theirs as ‘what does she have that I don’t?’ and ‘what does she give you that I don’t?’ but the essence of those questions remains the same all the time. Women want to know what it is about the side chick that makes her a better woman than they are.

And young Nigerian men in their mid-twenties and mid-thirties are dishing out reasons why that other woman gets their attention over the woman they should be giving that attention to.

What does a side chick offer that the main chick doesn’t?

In a frank, no-holds-barred response to a question posted on Instagram by user @macshayn on August 22, another user, @odlanky says the ability of the side chick to offer wild sex and be less problematic is the edge she has over the main chick.

“Less drama…unexplainable sex positions…” he comments.

@iamn_oloh and @gboyin.esq agree that these two are the strongest pull with which the side chick draws the man in. “No drama… Just benefits!” says the former. “Less wahala, steady knacks,” says the latter.

While the question was posted majorly due to a desire to understand how the male mind works when it comes to the issue of side chicks, women didn’t mind dropping their two cents, too.

@hormo_tee says a man is drawn to a side chick due to the “peace of mind” she gives him, As far as @inemudodiong is concerned, some men can hardly say no to the chance to put in “less commitment” than normal, escape from the stress and pressure their woman mounts on them, while likely enjoying “more sex.” These are offers too juicy to resist for men, according to the Instagram user.

Ntianu Obiora, an Editor at Pulse says that in her opinion, are drawn to the side chick because, with her, men experience “no stress or less stress.”

She continues: “There are issues in relationships that ultimately put a strain on [men].

“[Issues] like money, stuff to do with kids, rent, [and the expectation of] a [certain] level of accountability.

“…In general the main chick, rightly so, puts certain expectations on her man. A side chick doesn’t have to expect anything except trips and sex.”

For Chidumga Izuzu, a Lagos-based movie critic and Editor at Pulse, men are attracted to the side-chick simply “because they are scum.”

Justification for cheating?

With all the opinions popularly expressed above, it is easy to get the feeling that having a side chick is justifiable, provided that the man doesn’t get peace of mind with the woman, gets overly pressured, gets pestered for a level of commitment he’s incapable of giving, or in the instance where he feels the sex isn’t enough.

Do women need to give men more peace of mind in relationships? Can they be blamed for men cheating on them?

 

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Signs You Rushed This Relationship

You can try and try to pretend you’re super speedy relationship moved at a super normal pace, but some signs that you rushed this are just unavoidable. The world doesn’t care how much you want it to accept this insta-boyfriend. Life has no concern with the fact that you’d like to just brush the past under the rug and skip ahead into the future. There are just certain practicalities and logistics that will come up, that make it so obvious that you moved too fast in this relationship. People can’t hide the looks on their faces when you tell them you’re living with this new man. The confused comments surrounding your Facebook relationship status scream the truth. You can try to lie to yourself and say, “We didn’t rush!” but you probably won’t believe the lie for long. Here are signs you rushed into this relationship.

You’re manipulating the numbers

You’ve been truly dating for three months, and now you live together. But when people ask how long you’ve been seeing each other, you say it’s been six months since you technically met six months ago. But really, that was one time, then you didn’t run into each other for two more months, or start dating for another month after that.

People are still asking about your breakup

People are still checking in to make sure you’re okay from your previous breakup. Friends are still giving you breakup baskets full of things like vibrators and funny cards about hating men.

You’re still dealing with logistics from your last breakup, too. You’re still splitting up stuff. You’re still getting your name off of his utility bills. You’re still negotiating what you’ll pay the landlord for breaking the lease you shared with your ex.

You’re getting hoards of mail to you and the ex. The postal service has not received the memo. No, sorry; your world has not received the memo. Heck, some of this mail was sent when you were still sort of with the ex, and arrived after you got with this new guy. You know how slow ground delivery can be.

FB memories are embarrassing

Facebook memories are a bit awkward. “This time last year…” you were on a cruise with your ex and his whole family. Oh and he proposed on that cruise. And you said yes! Now a mere 365 days later, you’re living with a new dude.

Distant relatives are behind on the details

You have some friends and relatives you only catch up with every few months. They, naturally, assume you’re still with the dude with whom you were living just a few months ago. So they bought a gift for him. They’re asking all about him. They printed photos for you, of you and him, from their last visit there.

Friends forget to invite him

Friends keep forgetting to invite him to things like dinner parties and birthday parties. In their minds, you’re a single woman. You have to ask, “Can I bring my boyfriend?” and they do a double-take before saying, “Your boy—what?—oh, right, of course!”

People still try to set you up

Some people still try to set you up on blind dates. It’s never crossed their mind that since seeing you, two months ago, when you were devastated from heartbreak, that you’d now be living with somebody new.

You’re justifying red flags

You’re justifying red flags left and right. You’ve had to be very good at coming up with excuses for the most troubling discoveries. You could practically be a criminal defense attorney at this point.

You’re waking up with anxiety

You wake up with anxiety, and you don’t know why. It’s not working. It’s not something with your best friend or family. Hmmm…what could that be…

How people respond to your moving in

When you announced you were moving in with this new dude, people said things like, “You know, if you need a place to crash until finding your own new apartment, you know you can stay with me.” They said that instead of, “Congratulations!”

The rescue is hesitant to give you a dog

You and this dude want to adopt a dog. When the rescue asks you to fill out a questionnaire and reads your answer to, “How long have you lived at your current home?” they look worried. They fear your relationship isn’t yet solid enough to bring in a pet.

He’s not your wedding plus one

You got an invitation to a very close friend’s wedding and…you don’t get a plus one. Or, you do, but it’s just open-ended. It’s just a plus one. It’s not an invitation to you and this guy, specifically.

Some people never registered your breakup

You moved on so quickly from the last guy to this guy that some people were never even aware of you being single for any period of time.

You know his passwords but not his friends

You have his Netflix and Amazon Prime password, but you haven’t met his best friend. You bought a couch together, but you haven’t even had your first real fight yet.

 

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