23 Unromantic Signs That You’ve Found Your Soulmate

You have found your soulmate when your relationship bears these 23 Unromantic Signs

 

1.  You have great fun shopping grocery, going to the pharmacy, calculating and filing your taxes and even cleaning your house.

2.  More than romantic dinners, eating take away on your couch is something you enjoy.

3.  You love to eat whatever you like in their presence without having to care to look cute and that is what you enjoy the most being with them.

4.  You can’t help falling in love with them in their most unguarded moments. For example, when they sleep open-mouthed.

5.  And you are equally comfortable being yourself.

6.  While you appreciate each other when you dress up, your favorite version of each other is when you are in your sweatpants and old worn t-shirt.

7.  For you, their cards and casual notes are lovelier than any expensive gift they have given you.

8.  They don’t hesitate to ask you for help when they need it, and the same is for you.

9.  You don’t display your affection publicly, not as a principle but because you really don’t need to. You have those smiles and eye contacts that let you communicate.

10.  They are there to pep you up when you are down but won’t coddle you.

11.  You can be open and even laugh about things related to your bodily functions.

12.  Sometimes attending a wedding is more about getting drunk and acting stupid for the sake of fun than the ceremony and the emotional toasts.

13.  A very significant indicator of a deep emotional bonding is the relationship lexicon, which both of you create. It’s personal and sweet as the words and phrases hold special meanings most of which no one understands.

14.  There is perhaps nothing that you don’t know about each other. You can answer 9/10 questions correctly about each other.

15.  Your ‘terms of endearment’ are different and seem like nicknames.

16.  You aren’t disgusted when they fall sick because you are too worried about them and just want to take care.

 

17.  You never shy away from expressing annoyance when you irritate each other. But both of you don’t get too serious over it.

18.  You can spend a lot of ties together without saying a word and still not feel it weird

19.  When you are with them you can completely relax and chill. You don’t need to think how to make the time more interesting or engage in small talk.

20.  You won’t do anything alone which your partner enjoys too. It’s a kind of betrayal, you think. Whether it is binge watching a tele series or eating something, you would do it together and won’t break the deal ever.

21.  You get the regular supply of your favorite candy and snacks than you get flowers and you really like it that way.

22.  With them around you can burst into laughter in the most unlikely situations.

23.  You can spend a lazy day just being with each other than going for a more exciting date with someone else

What Makes Men Fall in Love Hard With the Wrong Girl

It’s called “Shadow Side Attachment.”

Do opposites attract? We’ve all seen at least one couple that just didn’t make sense, especially when you’d learn more about the two of them. For me, the first time I saw it was with a casual acquaintance. He was a high-earning, super-conservative banker who had just divorced his kind, sweet, emotionally stable wife of 20 years.

He was now dating a woman who had no degree, a serious drug issue, and a history of getting on the wrong side of the law. Everyone, including his own wife, was left in disbelief that he was falling in love with this woman.

What I later found out was that this story was far from unique. This is, in fact, a pretty common occurrence — or, at the least, more common than I thought it’d be. And, after doing some research, I realized there’s actually a lot of psychology at play in these kinds of relationships.

According to relationship guru Dr. J. Cookerly, much of this has to do with something called “Shadow Side Attachment.”

As the name suggests, many of us have an interest in things that we don’t normally show other people. This is what one might call our “Shadow Side.”

For some of us, that shadow side could be an interest in dating someone who is unusually conservative for our tastes. For others, it could be the desire to do wild and crazy things with people we really shouldn’t be interested in. This is the basis behind the old adage “Opposites attract.”

The funny thing about Shadow Side Attachment is that it often manifests when we’re trying to repress the way we feel.

The good girl wants to escape her “good girl” image for a while and ends up with a “bad boy” who does all sorts of crazy things involving sex, drugs, and maybe a motorcycle.

The bad girl wants to date a good boy who can give her the stability her lifestyle can’t afford her. She wants to have moments where she can bake cookies and just be a normal person. You get the picture.

People who get Shadow Side Attachment don’t necessarily fall in love with the person as much as they fall in love with the fact that the person represents their ability to explore a side to them that they don’t normally get to explore. This is why Dr. Cookerly calls it a form of “false love.”

For the most part, it’s not really sustainable. After all, the thing about people who are polar opposites is that they generally have clashing lifestyles and goals — and that’s usually a dealbreaker in the long run.

While the forbidden nature of a shadow side love may be sexy at the start, it often dissolves into bickering and quarreling about every little thing. As a result, these relationships are typically short-lived, but highly passionate flings.

In the case of the acquaintance and his mistress, it lasted a good two months before he tried to return to his wife, tail between his legs.

However, once in a blue moon, you’ll see a couple that is based on Shadow Side Attachment that actually does turn into a serious, stable, and loving relationship.

I’ve personally seen wild girls end up with conservative guys who never even drank liquor before he met her. However, they tend to be the exception to the rule rather than the rule itself.

So, do opposites attract? Absolutely. There’s just no saying that they’ll stay together.

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