Tales of Rock – Leslie West, Mountain Co-Founder, Dies at 75

Leslie West, the co-founder and co-vocalist/guitarist of Mountain, has died. He was 75.

West’s death was confirmed by Dean Guitars who wrote, “With a heavy heart, we are saddened to hear about the passing of #Dean Artist and part of the Dean family, Leslie West. Legendary and one of a kind. Rest In Peace.” Dean Guitars CEO Evan Rubinson shared his personal condolences via Twitter writing, “To a man that I truly loved more than most — the funniest, most honest guy I’ve met.” An exact cause of death has not yet been confirmed.

News of West’s health started to make the rounds on social media on Monday (December 21.) West’s brother, Larry West Weinstein, wrote in a since-deleted Facebook post (transcribed by Blabbermouth), “I am asking for all your prayers. [Leslie’s wife] Jenni is by his side in Florida but it’s not looking good. Thanks, Jenni, he wouldn’t have made it this far without you. His heart gave out and he’s on a ventilator. May not make it through the night.”

Twisted Sister’s Dee Snider shared via Twitter, “The final hours on this earth for the amazing Leslie West of Mountain. His voice and guitar will be silenced but his music will live forever. I am heartbroken. Prayers for him and his amazing wife, his rock, Jenni who is with him now.”

Snider added, “Leslie West and Mountain are one of the founding fathers of heavy metal. His explosive, powerful guitar playing and searing solos helped define the genre. Attending guitarists gatherings with Leslie I saw ALL guitarists bow down before him (yes even @eddievanhalen). And his influence on HIP HOP (You heard me!) is undeniable. His song Long Read has been sampled on over 750 hip hop tracks including Jay-Z 99 Problems. What an incredible force @lwestmountain was! He’s still with us but leaving very soon. Love and prayers for you my friend.”

Formed in 1969, Mountain’s original lineup consisted of West, bassist/vocalist Felix Pappalardi, keyboardist Steve Knight and drummer N. D. Smart. The band’s debut album, Climbing!, was released in March 1970 and featured their most popular single “Mississippi Queen.” Over the course of its 50+ year history, Mountain would release eight studio albums, five live albums and become one of the most influential hard rock bands of all time.

West was the subject of a recent tribute as part of “The Hanukkah Sessions,” a covers series by Foo Fighters frontman Dave Grohl and producer Greg Kurstin. Grohl and Kurstin released a cover every night of Hanukkah paying tribute to notable Jewish musicians. On the third night of Hanukkah, Grohl and Kurstin released a blistering cover of “Mississippi Queen.”

In the cover’s YouTube description, Grohl and Kurstin wrote, “Talk about making a mountain out of a mohel … named Leslie Weinstein at his bris, the singer of our next band built a wailing wall of guitar as Leslie West. Check out our take on a track from Leslie’s monolithic band, MOUNTAIN.”

 

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How to Hook Up with a Girl Who Has a Boyfriend

Sometimes it seems like all the good ones are taken. Now, you’ve found a girl that you feel a strong connection with and attraction to, but she has a boyfriend. Here are some ideas for how to win her over, ranging from being straightforward to being stealthy. It’s up to you to decide: is all fair in love and war?

Method1

Telling Her Your Feelings

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    Evaluate your relationship with her. It’s important to consider whether telling her your feelings is appropriate based on the strength of your relationship.

    • Imagine you tell her. Is your relationship strong enough to handle it if she doesn’t feel the same way, or if she does but decides to stay with her current boyfriend? If yes, it might be worth the risk. If no, weigh your options carefully.
    • If you haven’t known this girl very long, this probably isn’t a good option. She could see your professed feelings as very abrupt or forward.
    • Make a pro/con list to weigh the risks and benefits of telling her your feelings. Also consider the risks and benefits of not telling her. Is it worth the risk? [1]
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    Plan out what you want to say. Frame this conversation carefully, so she knows you are not making demands of her. Ask a friend talk out the scenario with you to work out any kinks. Your friend can give you perspective on your choices of words.
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    Build up your courage. Of course you’re nervous to tell her your feelings. Not only could this admission change your relationship with this girl, but it could affect your relationship with her boyfriend or other mutual friends, if you have them. Fear signals that the outcome is important to you. Once you’ve decided you want to go ahead with expressing yourself, use your fear to motivate you, rather than deter you.[2]
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    Tell her. Once you’ve built up your courage, go for it.

    • When you’re alone with her, say something along the lines of: “Caitlin, I know that you’re dating Sam, and I don’t want to mess anything up for you, but I’ve started to have feelings for you. I want you to know.” If you think she reciprocates the feelings, you can add, “I’ve sensed that the attraction might be mutual, and I want to clear the air.”
    • If she has been giving you vibes that she’s interested, it’s important that she knows so that she doesn’t keep giving you mixed signals.
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    Respect her response. You’ve weighed the risks and benefits of your decision, and you knew that she might not respond favorably. It is important, especially if you want to remain friends, to accept and respect her response.

    • She may tell you that she does not feel the same way. Rejection is painful, but it is one of the ways that we reduce our ego and grow.[3]
    • She may tell you that she does have feelings for you, but that she wants to stay with her boyfriend because they have a strong relationship and she also has feelings for him. This is harder to accept, because it feels like there is a glimmer of hope, but once she tells you her decision to stay with her boyfriend, you need to move on.
    • Don’t torture yourself. Waiting around and hoping that she’ll change your mind will only be a waste of your time. If you accept her response, you will be better able to move forward and search for a romantic connection elsewhere.

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Seducing Her Stealthily

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    Establish yourself as a constant in her life. If she only sees you around every once in a while, you won’t be on her mind that often. If you want a shot with her, you need to see her regularly

    • Join her friend group. Ingratiate yourself to her best friends. If her friends hold you in high regard, chances are she will, too. Being part of her friend group ensures that you will be invited to events that she will be attending.
    • Get her phone number. Wait for a natural opportunity to ask for her number. You were having a conversation and it was cut off? Ask for her number so you can continue talking. You’re planning a get-together for your friend group? Perfect reason to make sure you have her number.
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    Highlight your good qualities. Make sure she sees that you’re a positive person to have in her life. Do you have a great sense of humor? Are you empathetic and open to talking about your feelings? [4] Are you particularly creative? Slip these traits into your conversation with her or her friends. She’ll start to see what she’s missing out on.
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    Find the weak points in her current relationship. No relationship is perfect, and there are likely things she’d change about her boyfriend if she could.

    • Casually ask her about her relationship. As she grows to trust you, she’ll share more information with you. If she tells you that her boyfriend never takes the time to hear about her day, don’t tell her that you’d always make time to listen to her if you were in his shoes. Store this information. Another day, make sure you ask her how her day is going and actively listen.
    • If you are hanging out with her friends while she’s not around, pay attention if they are gossiping. They may say something about her relationship that you can use to play up your strengths in contrast to her boyfriend’s weaknesses.
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    Make your move. You’ve set the stage so that she sees you in good light. You can decide if your move will be verbal or physical. Will you tell her you’re attracted to her or just lean in for the kiss? Wait for a time when the two of you are alone and the mood is light.
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    Be prepared for her reaction. Though you’ve been contemplating this for a while, it could be totally out of the blue for her.

    • If she tells you she’s attracted to you, too, give her some time to decide if she wants to act on that. Don’t pressure her. That will make her withdraw from your friendship and undo the work that you’ve done to show yourself off.
    • If you physically hook up with her, recognize that there will be consequences. In all likeliness, she’ll feel guilty, and might even be angry with you for disrespecting her relationship status. You will seriously damage any relationship you have with her boyfriend, and likely with mutual friends.
      • If you make this move and she tells her boyfriend, you will probably be cut out of her life unless they decide to break up.
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    Ask her for a decision. Regardless of whether you expressed your feelings emotionally or physically, give her time to process her feelings. She may decide that she wants to give a relationship with you a shot. She may decide that she wants to stay with her boyfriend. Once she makes that decision, that’s it. Trying to convince her to change her mind will only make her put up walls. [5]

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Waiting Patiently

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    Decide if she is someone worth waiting for. You could be waiting around for a long time for this relationship to end, if it ever does. Even then, you might have to watch her go through a string of relationships if she moves quickly from one relationship to the next.

    • Consider her current relationship. If she’s in a strong relationship, she is not likely to leave it, even if she likes you, too.
    • Though it’s not romantic, scientifically there’s no such thing as “the one.”[6] Do you want to spend your life waiting around for a girl who is interested in another person? There are plenty of other girls looking for someone like you.
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    Foster a strong friendship with her. If you care enough to wait for her, disregard Method 2. Don’t manipulate her feelings. Be present in her life and let her know that you are someone she can trust. She may drift in and out of relationships, but she will keep you around.

    • If you genuinely care about her, nurturing a friendship with her will come naturally. Make small gestures. [7] Remember her birthday and how she likes her coffee. If you notice she’s having a rough day, ask her if she wants to talk about it.
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    Wait until her current relationship ends. She will know you care for her well-being if you respect her relationship. Don’t try to break it up.

    • If she is happy in her relationship, she will not thank you for critiquing her boyfriend or finding ways to get their relationship on rocky ground. Even if she is unhappy in the relationship, if she realizes your motive she will see it as manipulative.
    • If you truly care for for her, you will want her to be happy, even if it’s not with you.
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    Express your feelings to her in a timely but respectful time frame. Once she and her boyfriend break up, give her time to grieve that relationship and heal from the hurt. Don’t wait too long, though, or she may move on to another relationship before you get your chance.

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Tips

  • Don’t be too clingy or she will try to distance herself from you.
  • Make absolutely certain that this girl is worth it. So often we want the impossible relationship because we are too afraid to find a relationship that might actually happen.[8]
  • If you step on her boyfriend’s toes, it will be all over. He will be more protective of their relationship, and you might even be cut out.
  • If you realize you’re stuck in the friend zone, move on. There are other great girls who don’t have boyfriends.

Warnings

  • If she breaks up with her boyfriend for you, someday she may break up with you for someone else.
  • You can seriously damage relationships by trying to break a couple up. Not only might you ruin your relationship with her and her boyfriend, but you also may hurt relationships with mutual friends, classmates, or coworkers.
  • If you succeed in hooking up with her and she finds out about your plot, you could jeopardize your relationship.
  • In Method 2, you will be manipulating your own crush for your own selfish wants. If you are willing to do this, you may not care about her as much as you claim to.

 

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15 Intense Signs of Chemistry that Reveal an Instant Connection

You just met them, but sparks are flying already! But how do you know it’s intense signs of chemistry? Well, it’s time you found out.

If you felt an immediate connection with someone you just met, don’t ignore it. Instead, investigate those emotions because it shows a mutual understanding. What are the intense signs of chemistry you need to remember, you ask? Well, wait no further. I’m about to tell you everything you need to know.

The magic of chemistry

You either have chemistry with someone or you don’t. There’s no in-between and not something you can force. There are some people you just click with, while others turn you off.

There have been a couple of times where I met a guy, and the chemistry was mind-blowing. We couldn’t keep our eyes off each other, the conversation was amazing. It was like we were made for one another.

Okay, fast forward and none of those relationships worked out—except for one, and we’re still together. In other words, intense chemistry isn’t just this feeling of wanting to sleep with someone. It’s also a sign you share something deeper. [Read: Have you found your twin soul?]

What you need to know about the intense signs of chemistry

Sometimes when you really like someone, you can’t tell if they really like you or not. Your mind becomes a little cloudy. Plus, you feel impatient, and I completely understand. So, you want to know if there are intense signs of chemistry between you. Everyone loves a little intensity.

#1 You’re immediately comfortable around them. Usually, when we have a crush, we’re very nervous and uncomfortable around them. But when it’s mutual chemistry, you’re automatically comfortable around them. You feel safe and judgment-free. Remember, chemistry is all about shared energy, and it’s clear you two are vibing. [Read: How to read people and understand what they’re thinking instantly]

#2 You can be yourself. Whatever you say, whatever is on your mind, you feel free to say it to them. When we’re uncomfortable, we’re constantly analyzing what we said and what we should say in the future. But when it’s intense chemistry, there’s no pressure to try to be someone you’re not. In fact, you’ve never felt freer than when you’re around them. 

#3 Endless banter. Who doesn’t love the banter with someone they can have a good conversation with? Not everyone loves engaging in small talk, many people want to share a deeper conversation with someone. When the conversation just flows effortlessly, and you feel light, that’s a great sign they understand you on a deeper level. [Read: How to tell if there’s serious chemistry between two people]

#4 Eye contact. Never underestimate the importance of eye contact. Most of us communicate non-verbally. When you’re at a bar, how do you know if someone likes you? They look at you. Eye contact is a great way to is if there’s chemistry. If both of you are staring at each other intensely, well, it’s clear there’s something going on.

#5 You get each other’s humor. When you hang out with someone who you don’t share chemistry with, you may not understand their humor and vice versa.

Laughter is one of the best ways to connect with someone, and if you two share a similar sense of humor, well, that’s a sign of intense chemistry. Good chemistry is when you can both laugh together at the same jokes.

#6 It’s all about one another. Whether at a party or out with friends, you’re always focused on each other. You make sure both your needs are being met, and share affection when you can. Chemistry isn’t just about the sexual connection you share; it’s deeper than that. You genuinely care about one another.

#7 Time is relative. When you’re with them, you’re not looking at your watch or checking your phone. When you spend time together, no one is keeping track of the clock. Whether it’s five hours or ten minutes, time flies when you are together. If there’s a real connection, then you  are in your own world.

#8 You can’t wait to see them. The minute you leave them, you’re waiting to see them again. The butterflies in your stomach are going wild, and the anticipation is killing you until you see them again. You don’t want to be away from them; you feel like something is pulling you to them every time.

#9 You love to tease each other. You may think teasing sounds childish, but when you’re with someone you like, teasing can be used as a form of flirting. If you share an intense chemistry, there’s going to be a lot of flirting. But, that’s not a bad thing, I mean, who doesn’t love flirting with someone they like? [Read: 20 clear signs of chemistry in the very first conversation]

#10 You have butterflies. Your stomach is going wild whether you’re beside them or apart. You’re nervous, in a good way, and your stomach is reminding you of that. If you’re feeling butterflies, don’t ignore that. This is a sign of great chemistry going on.

#11 You annoy each other. But in a Notebook type of way. You will pick on each other for no real reason. Rather, you are testing the boundaries and trying to get a reaction from one another. If you hear people telling you that you’re an “old married couple,” well, you have a real connection going on between you two. 

#12 You can handle silence. There’s an awkward silence, but then there’s a good silence, the silence that’s needed. If you can’t sit beside someone in complete silence and feel comfortable, well, then something is off. Intense chemistry isn’t just about talking. It’s also about how you share those quiet moments together.

#13 The feeling doesn’t go away. If you share intense chemistry, it’s not going away that fast. When two people feel close to one another, that’s a bond which isn’t easy to break. This isn’t a feeling that’s going to just disappear overnight. It’ll last for a long time.

#14 And then there’s sex. I can’t pretend this part doesn’t matter. Intense chemistry is deep, but it’s also sexual. When you are around each other, there’s a constant sexual tension floating in the air. You want to rip their clothes off, and they can’t stop licking their lips when they look at you. [Read: How to create sexual chemistry that sticks] 

#15 There’s a flow. Here’s the thing, when you are together, things just flow. You feel comfortable; they feel comfortable. There’s nothing forced. And this flow doesn’t usually happen unless there’s intense chemistry, and this is rare. If you feel this flow, then ride the wave and don’t overanalyze it.

[Read: How your body’s chemistry affects love]

Sharing chemistry with someone is an amazing experience and definitely something you need to enjoy. Are you sharing these intense signs of chemistry with someone special?

 

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Nobody Gets the Point of Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer

“Yea, I get it. If they have a use for you, they’ll accept you.”

Happy Holidays!

 

https://time.com/5479322/rudolph-the-red-nosed-reindeer-history-origins/

Since no disposable coffee cups have prompted any holiday outrage this year, that pent-up aggression has seemingly found a new battleground: Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer. The classic 1964 stop-motion Christmas special has come under increased media scrutiny. For instance, there was a video posted by The Huffington Post, which assembled a handful of Tweets from people who have just now realized that Santa Claus is kind of a prejudiced asshole in the beloved story.

Nobody Gets The Point Of 'Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer'Huffington Post

This naturally being the most important issue of 2020, it prompted many on the right to publicly rebuke the somewhat tongue-in-cheek video, including a Tweet from the president’s son (who we guess needed a distraction from his massive legal problems) and an entire segment on Fox News decrying the left for seeing racism and misogyny in a harmless Christmas fable that certainly contains no social commentary that would, say, contradict their entire worldview.

Of course, these aren’t new observations. People have been analyzing the subtext of Rudolph for years. It’s not difficult to interpret the story of a reindeer bullied because of his appearance and an elf who isn’t accepted by his conservative society as a lesson on the perils of discrimination. And it’s not just these two. We find out there’s an entire community of “misfit” toys. With society having turned its back on them, these exiled toys live under the rule of some kind of, um, winged lion demigod?

OK, we're not really sure what that's all about.

OK, we’re not really sure what that’s all about.

But it’s downright impossible not to see a broader commentary, given the context in which Rudolph was made. The summer of 1964 saw the U.S. government pass the Civil Rights Act, ending segregation and banning “employment discrimination on the basis of race, color, religion, sex or national origin.” According to the book Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer: An American Hero, “Rudolph displayed the same generational disruptions that defined the counterculture during that era.” It adds that “part of the appeal was the show’s willingness to mirror changes in the American family” — meaning these themes weren’t incidental, but were why the special was so damn successful. Producer Arthur Rankin Jr. points out that the reason the show has resonated for so long is that the issues of bullying and rejection are universal among children: “I think all kids are looking for guidance. I think all kids feel slightly inferior.”

So both sides of this argument are misguided. Yes, Rudolph does contain scenes wherein the denizens of the North Pole act like bigoted D-bags, but that doesn’t make it problematic. And to deny that any of these elements are present in Rudolph is straight up missing the entire point. It’d be like reading A Christmas Carol as a fun little story about spooky ghosts, or watching It’s A Wonderful Life and thinking that the moral is “Don’t hire your useless relatives.”

Continued reading:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rudolph_the_Red-Nosed_Reindeer_(TV_special)

https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/movies/2020/11/15/christmas-special-rudolph-figures-auction-368-000/6302519002/

 

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