What Does His Kiss Mean? 9 Types of Kisses Decoded!

Your field guide to the most common lip locks.

There are many different ways to kiss your lover, and knowing how to kiss a guy or girl in certain ways allows you to communicate something different about what or how you’re feeling in the moment, whether you’re making out, making up or out in public on a date.

But usually, when you’re on the receiving end of any of these types of kisses, it’s hard to channel your inner Jane Goodall and make notes about the experience.

Don’t worry, y’all.

We’ve got you covered with both kissing tips, as well as the scoop on what kisses of different kinds mean.

Here’s a field guide to the major types of kisses, how to kiss a guy or girl like you mean it, and what you’re saying with every smooch.

1. The Peck

Sounds innocent, doesn’t it? But this quick lip-on-lip contact still sends a message.

The primary one?

“I want to kiss you and — hopefully, sometime soon — make out, but it’s early and we’re not there yet, so this peck on the lips is a suggestion that there is to be much more smooching in our future.”

2. The Long Peck

This is a lingering, closed-mouth kiss on the lips. It’s very sensual, yet still somewhat chaste and restrained. It’s how grown-ups say, “We are so about to make out big-time.”

This extended peck is usually followed by a knowing smirk and, sometimes, an audible “mmmm …”

3. The Woodpecker

These are rapid-fire pecks. Playful and cute, these say, “I really like you, a lot, but I don’t want to get myself all worked up right now.”

These kisses convey a lot of affection without allowing things to get too hot and heavy.

It’s also a good option when it comes to PDA. No one wants to watch you swallow each other’s faces while they’re having their morning coffee.

4. The French Kiss

The French kiss is the king of kisses and involves open mouths and some form of tongue interaction.

It’s too complex and nuanced for one description, so we’ve broken it down even further:

  • Standard French Kiss: Moving your open lips against each other with some tongue interplay can be very sweet, very hot, very passionate, or all of the above. This kiss really gets the hormones racing and says, “I would like to sleep with you.”
  • Tongue Tango French Kiss: Ideally an elegant ballet of tongue play, the Tongue Tango occurs when the tips of the tongues push off of each other and twist around. This kiss says “I think outside the box in and out of bed” This kiss, however, is a close relative of the dreaded Lizard Kiss, where tongues dart in a stabbing, lizard-like motion. What’s the lizard’s saying? “I am a creep.” So be careful.
  • He’s Eating My Mouth French Kiss: This kiss leaves the kissee with what we call a saliva beard. Basically, the kisser opens his or her mouth as wide as possible, rolls their tongue all around and down their partner’s throat and then, inexplicably, slides it all over their poor partner’s face. This kiss says, “I want you to think I’m really sexual and passionate but in reality, I am totally oblivious to your vibe and will probably stink in bed. Big time.”

5. Love Bites

Getting in a little nip of the lip or neck means “I’m playful,” and might also reveal that you’re not totally opposed to a little bit of pain with your pleasure.

Try not to draw blood, though.

6. I Love You/I Hate You

This one involves a sudden, passionate embrace after bickering.

This kiss is unchoreographed mayhem at its best. It says, “You make me so mad and I can’t stand you but I must have you and that makes me even more mad which makes me want you even more, damn you!!!”

7. Hard-mouth-closed

This one is featured in many classic films. It occurs when the leading man finally pins down his female nemesis/love interest and plants one on her. It’s often accompanied by a wrist grab so that you don’t push him away, you firebrand!

It says, “I’m going to teach you not to sass me and give me guff, by gum!”

8. Against The Wall

“I want you so bad.”

Although this kiss usually happens spontaneously and in a semi-public setting (e.g. alleyway, bar bathroom, book reading, etc.), you always wish there was a bed nearby that you could collapse into, because — damn it! — this is hot!

9. The Bend Back

Old-fashioned and romantic, he leans into you and bends you backward, often with one hand holding the small of your back, and the other placed gently against the side of your face. Swoony.

This is generally for people who are uber-comfortable with each other, have a sense of humor and are absolutely crazy about each other.

This kiss says, “Darling, I am yours. Hold onto your petticoats as my white steed approaches to whisk us away to fairy-land.”

Yeah, it’s a fun one.

 

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10 Golden Relationship Rules Revealed by Marriage Therapists

Falling in love is wonderful, but getting married is a completely different level in relationships. That’s why it’s so important to understand relationship rules offered by marriage counselors.

When you’re young, falling in love seems easy. You think that just because you’re attracted to someone and love to spend time together, that this is enough to make a lifelong commitment.

Well, think again. There are relationship rules that every potential couple needs to learn and understand before making any longterm plans together. These rules will prove valuable in the long run.

How important are relationship rules?

Rules put in place before marriage helps guide couples in the right direction. It helps you learn qualities, good and bad, and checks for true compatibility. Relationship rules help you weed out unhealthy unions before they being.

With that being said, here are those relationship rules that will keep you on track:

Trust

You knew this one would be listed. Trust is one of the most important rules in a good relationship and goes hand in hand with loyalty. Learning to trust each other leaves you with a sense of comfort and support.

If you can find a mate you trust, this means so much. Of course, it is important to show you can be trusted as well. It’s just that simple.

Understanding needs/feelings

When entering into a relationship, we make one huge mistake. We often forget about our partner’s feelings and focus on our own. Most of the time, it’s not purposeful hurtful actions. It’s important, however, to not only recognize feelings but understand the needs your partner may have.

This helps you see them as a separate human being which must be respected. As you probably know, the lack of respect has ended many marriages or relationships, and by understanding needs, we will be able to have more respect and know how to deal with differences.

Fighting fair

Calling names is never good in a relationship unless it’s for fun. In many cases, fights between partners will turn ugly. They will resort to bringing up the past, name-calling, yelling, or other derogatory weapons of warfare.

This only makes things worse and often hurts feelings. Sometimes things done during fights can leave deep scars and eventually end the relationship. When fighting, try to focus on the problem at hand and talk calmly no matter how angry you become.

Keep promises or don’t make them

If you feel like you cannot keep a promise, then don’t make one. Couples should strive to never break promises. The thing is, they tend to make them too quickly. Before promising anything to your partner, think long and hard about the topic.

Although promising may make your partner happy for the time being, there is a chance that promise will be broken. The more likely it will be broken, the less reason to make the promise. It’s usually better to just say that you will try to do something.

Keep a sense of humor

Laughter really is the best medicine, and it can help you during some of the most horrible circumstances in your relationship. Sometimes just laughing about a bad situation will give you time to breathe, step back, and approach the issue in a new way.

A good sense of humor will also keep you connected to your loved one and help you create an even stronger bond after problems arise.

Stay intimate

Sexual relations or intimacy are not everything in a relationship, but they are important. Attractiveness is often underrated because people want to make sure they focus on the personality of their partner. It is best, however, that you choose someone that you’re attracted to.

This helps so much to keep intimacy alive. Always be willing to spend that sort of quality time together no matter what life throws at you.

Loyalty loyalty loyalty

There are many different types of relationships and it’s important to understand the standards that you’ve set in the beginning. If you’ve agreed to have a monogamous relationship, then you should be loyal to that form.

If not, then you must adhere to the loyalty agreed upon when you entered into a union. Loyalty, truth be told, is a state of mind. If you haven’t made your motivations and standards clear, then that’s something you need to do before marriage.

Apologies and forgiveness

Never be too prideful to apologize in your part of an argument, fight, or problem. If you’re not sure which one of you is to blame, then both of you should apologize. Saying you’re sorry doesn’t mean you are weak or less of a human.

It just means you care more about the relationship than whether or not you’re the winner of the disagreement. Also, be quick to forgive as well. Apologies and forgiveness are key aspects of a healthy relationship.

Show appreciation

Whether your partner gave you an expensive bracelet or one wildflower, treat this gesture the same way. Always say thank you and show how much you appreciate the fact that your partner was thinking about you.

Being and feeling wanted and appreciated is so powerful and one way to seal the deal on happiness.

The 60/40 rule

I was having a bit of trouble with this one lately. I am always afraid that I will either take too much from my partner or he will do that to me and take advantage. To solve that problem, I’ve learned, I should use the 60/40 rule, and you should too.

In other words, I should give a bit more than I take, and hope that my partner will act in the same way. Trying to hit it 50/50 on the mark all the time will leave you stressed and always keeping score. That’s no relationship.

These Rules Can Help You Thrive as a Couple

Before you get married, make a list of what you want from the union. Encourage your partner to do the same. Use these relationship rules to guide you through the process. You will learn about your compatibility and how to fight fair when things go wrong.

Most importantly, take your time to learn about each other. It’s better not to rush into something so serious and permanent.

I hope this has helped you and your partner understand the basics of these relationship rules and marriage. Good luck and I wish you happiness!

 

 

When Your Boyfriend Ignores You: Why He Does It and How to Respond

If you’re in a relationship, you know it’s normal for couples to argue. But when your boyfriend ignores you after, do you wonder why?

We’ll talk about what to do when your boyfriend ignores you, but what’s important is to look at why they ignore you first. That way, you kind of see where their behavior originates. This doesn’t mean you should excuse the fact that he’s ignoring you, don’t let it slide. But knowing the root cause helps you decide which angle to approach this from.

Again, this doesn’t excuse his behavior, but it gives you a better idea of what’s going on in his head. Since ignoring you is his go-to move, you should be the bigger person and approach the subject. It’s clear that he won’t.

5 reasons why he’s ignoring you

Whoever said relationships were easy has never been in a relationship—or not a normal one. Of course, when you’re in a relationship, it’s normal for people to disagree and argue sometimes. You may not like it, but it happens in any relationship. But the way you come out of a fight is what matters.

Everyone argues, but how does the argument end? Are you talking about what happened or is someone ignoring the other for days on end? Now, no one is perfect but ignoring someone is a sign of immaturity. It isn’t cool.

And men say women are complicated—yeah, right.

#1 He’s angry at you. If you just had an argument with him and he’s been ignoring you, well, then you have your answer. Obviously, he’s upset with you. Now, him ignoring you could be one of two things.

He could be so angry that he just needs some space from you. Or, secondly, he’s using this as a way to manipulate you into admitting fault. It really depends on the fight you had and your role in it.

#2 He feels suffocated. When your boyfriend ignores you, this could be another reason too. You’re not necessarily clingy for wanting to spend time with him, everyone has their own personal space and amount of alone time they need to recharge. But this doesn’t mean he should ignore you, instead, he could tell you that he needs space instead.

#3 He’s cheating on you. Okay, before I say anything, remember, just because they’re ignoring you, doesn’t mean they’re cheating. This is possibly the most drastic reason behind why he’s ignoring you, so don’t freak out. If you feel he’s cheating on you, you need to look at other behaviors as well.

#4 He’s thinking about breaking up. When we’re thinking about breaking up with someone, we distance ourselves from the person in order to make the breakup easier for ourselves. I know, we’re selfish but that’s just human for ya. He’s making his decision and while doing so, he’s pushing you away.

#5 He has other things going on in his life. Whether it’s work or school, he could be really stressed in other areas of his life and as a result, he ignores you. Now, this may not be intentional, but he’s not keeping your feelings in check either.

The things you need to do when your boyfriend ignores you

No one likes being ignored. So, it’s time to take action and stand up for yourself when your boyfriend ignores you without any explanation. Don’t let him behave like this towards you.

#1 Don’t “pay him back.” I know that you’re probably giving him a taste of his own medicine. In some cases, it can work but let’s be honest, is that really showing him that you don’t appreciate his behavior? The only way for him to understand that his behavior is wrong is if you talk to him. Don’t try to do the whole “he needs a taste of his own medicine” because that won’t solve the problem.

#2 Communicate with him. If you don’t communicate with him, it’s only going to get worse. Communication is key, and it can solve a lot of issues that you’re experiencing as a couple and on your own. So, if it’s bothering you that he ignores you, I recommend that you just sit down with him and talk about it.

You may find out things that you didn’t know before. Make sure you talk about how this makes you feel.

#3 Spend time with family and friends. Well, you can’t change his behavior, but you can change yours. Don’t sit at home twiddling your fingers, instead, go out and spend time with the people that care about you. He’ll come around but don’t wait for him in the meantime.

#4 Don’t chase him around. When we feel that we’re going to lose something, we try to grab onto it even harder, but it never works. If he’s ignoring you, don’t panic and start texting and phoning him twenty times. Instead, back off and give him the time he needs. When he’s ready, he’ll come to you and that’s when you sit down and talk about it.

#5 Set boundaries. He can’t keep ignoring you every time something doesn’t please him. You need to set firm personal boundaries in order to protect yourself. He needs to know that you won’t be putting up with this behavior any further. If he continues to use this strategy as a way to deal with his problems, you don’t need this.

#6 Wait for him to connect with you. He needs to make the first move and reach out to you. If not, you’re just going to be chasing him like a lost puppy and that doesn’t look as cute as it does on Instagram. Only time will tell what will happen and if he continues to ghost you, you’ll have to end it yourself.

#7 Don’t let it absorb all your thoughts. This is going to bother you, but refocus your attention and do not let it ruin your day. This is his behavior and you can only control your own behavior. I know that you have many unanswered questions but having it consume all your thoughts won’t change the fact that he’s ignoring you.

#8 Practice self-care. No one likes being ignored, and in fact, it’s extremely hurtful. If your boyfriend has done this a couple of times, each time is like a knife to the heart. So, rather than getting sucked in, focus on yourself and practicing self-care. Think about your emotions and how they affect you. Write your feelings down, go for walks, and be around supportive people.

#9 Talk about finding a solution with him. After figuring out why he’s behaving this way, then you can figure out how to solve it. Of course, at the end of the day, he’s going to need to work on this, but you may have played a larger role in this than you originally thought. This obviously goes deep, so, by knowing the root problem, this behavior can be changed.

Ignoring people isn’t going to help any situation. When your boyfriend ignores you, it hurts even more. But now you know exactly what to do when he starts with this behavior.

 

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