6 Ways To Get ANY Guy You Want (For Real, Ladies!)

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We’ve all heard about the powers of feminine wiles, but not every lady knows how to use them. Luckily, we have access to the top flirting experts in the country, so we’ll tell you exactly what to do.

We had the chance to get flirting tips from dateologist Tracey Steinberg at the first-ever Single In Stilettos conference — basically, a haven for single gals to find out what’s cooking in the world of love and learn the latest dating tips.

When you’ve mastered these tricks, you will become a true pickup artist and learn how to flirt with men successfully. And what better way to show off your skills than by turning your next girls’ night out into a flirting frenzy?

Steinberg defines flirting as playful communication which both parties enjoy. It should involve a lot of body language and minimal thinking.

I, despite having a boyfriend, like to practice my flirting techniques during my daily commute. There’s nothing that boosts your confidence for the rest of the day like getting compliments before breakfast.

But before you head into the night to find your male victims, you have to prepare your inner persona as well as your outward appearance. Here are six steps Steinberg claims will help you get any man you want, all while flirting.

1. Think of a woman who could get any man she wants.

Think: Angelina Jolie. Try to mimic her best qualities and appearance. But your outfit should only be 20 to 30 percent sexy (like Salma Hayek, not Courtney Love) or guys may get the wrong impression.

2. Send yourself good thoughts.

Steinberg recommends using positive affirmations like “I’m a sexy woman” five times a day.

3. Go out to places crawling with men.

 

Once you and your friends have this part down, it’s time to show up where the men are (we recommend sporting events, gyms and the park).

4. Don’t hit on every man who catches your eye.

Surprisingly, the majority of male-female interactions are initiated by the woman, Steinberg says. Now, this doesn’t mean you should hit on every hot guy you see. Be discerning.

5. Don’t forget that starting a conversation includes physical signals.

 

The killer move is to make eye contact, linger and smile. This lets the guy across the room know that you’re interested, and that he won’t get rejected if he gives you a try (yes, men need their ego stroked).

6. Keep the conversation light by sticking to topics like the music and the drinks.

Save the life-story questions for the first date.

So gather a group of girls and make it a flirting party. You can even make it a game by picking out guys for each other and counting the numbers you scored at the end of the night. Who knows, the love of your life could be in that pile of digits.

 

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If You Exhibit More Than A Few Of These Personality Traits, People Probably Think You’re A Prick

It should go without saying that having the character traits that make one likable is one of the most valuable tools any person could ever possess.

Likable people earn more money, get more ass, and generally have better social lives than their counterparts.

And it makes perfect sense when you stop and think about it.

Let’s face it, no one likes an asshole, and more importantly not a single person – not an employer, not a client, not the guy sitting at the bar – wants to be anywhere near someone they can’t stand.

Just think about the last time you were around a person who, for one reason or another, just rubbed you the wrong way.

Perhaps your gut reaction was to just get the fuck out of dodge and away from that person as quickly as possible, or maybe you even wanted to unleash a violent haymaker against the side of his head to shut him the fuck up.

We typically know right away who we like and who we don’t.

Although without even knowing it, you too may fall into the ranks of an unlikeable person.

Hey, we realize that might be hard to believe – how could anyone not like you? – but it is possible you’re not the crowd-pleaser that you think you are.

What’s encouraging, however, is that even if a person falls into this category, he can rise above it by making some minor tweaks to his behavior. But he must first learn more about what makes him unappealing in the first place before a change is possible.

These attributes are a sure-fire sign that there is room for improvement.

Modest-Bragging

It is essential to be confident and feel like you are the very best at what you do – whatever that may be.

But no one likes a braggart.

Most people are privy to this, even people needing so desperately to brag, so they boast about themselves in a way that almost sounds like they are their worst critic.

These people might do this as a way to fish for compliments or to point out their supposed awesomeness to a crowd.

The guy casually playing guitar at a party might talk about how it would be easier for him to get gigs in his hometown if he didn’t write such obscure tunes.

But what he is trying to say is: Hey, I’m writing music unlike anybody in this area, and I’m smarter, more talented, and more original because of it.

The same goes for the guy who makes fun of himself for being a gym rat when all he is doing is drawing attention to the fact that he works out extensively.

He might as well rip off his shirt and make everyone feel his pecs. That’s what he really wants to do.

People who exhibit this behavior believe that it makes them less of a blowhard, but according to Forbes columnist Travis Bradberry, no one is fooled.

“While many people think that self-deprecation masks their bragging, everyone sees right through it,” Bradberry wrote. “This makes the bragging all the more frustrating because it isn’t just bragging; it’s also an attempt to deceive.”

Always So Serious

There are those people who are so desperate to be revered as passionate that they always try to give off the impression as someone who is absorbed in their work.

At social functions, these people might not laugh at jokes, make jokes of their own, or engage in any of the conversations.

Nope.

They are too busy trying to be seen as intense and focused geniuses to care about having fun.

This is a huge turn-off.

Likable people can be serious about their chosen profession and still cut loose when it is appropriate.

More importantly, they are friendly to others and do not act above them.

“They focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers, remembering what people said to them yesterday or last week, which shows people that they are just as important to them as their work is,” Bradberry wrote.

 

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11 Science-Backed Flirting Tips That Make You More Attractive

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If your flirting skills are lacking, it’s time to step it up. This is, of course, if you’re looking to procure a mate. And you are, aren’t you? Isn’t everyone? Well, the thing about flirting in that whole finding a boyfriend or girlfriend department is that it works.

Studies show that not only does flirting help in the dating department, but flirting and being able to do it well are far more effective than your excessive good looks.

After conducting research regarding flirting in places where people go looking for love, psychologist Dr. Monica Moore found that “it’s not the most physically appealing people who get approached, but the ones who signal their availability and confidence through basic flirting techniques like eye contact and smiles.”

Easy peasy, right? Here are some other interesting facts about flirting and seduction that you didn’t know, but probably should.

1. There are five types of flirting.

You may have thought that a subtle arm touch or a wink might be the extent of flirting, but you’re wrong. According to the University of Kansas, there are actually five types of flirting: traditional, physical, sincere, playful and polite. While 25 percent of flirting falls into the playful category, 30 percent is intended to sincerely lure a mate into our web of desire.

2. Eye contact makes you more attractive.

Once you get that whole smiling thing down, go in for some eye contact. Not only is it a major signal that you’re interested, but eye contact can go as far as making someone even more attracted to you than they would have been. Studies have found that a “mutual unbroken gaze for two minutes with a stranger” leads to “increased feelings of passionate love.”

3. Women who touch while flirting get more dates.

While men need to play it cool when it comes to this one, if women lay it on thick, it will reel in the dates. There are three levels of touching: friendly (shoulder push or tap), plausible deniability (touching around the shoulder or waist, or on the forearm), and nuclear, which is the face touch.

When you can, without being creepy, go nuclear. Is everyone taking notes?

4. Playing hard to get really does work.

Yep, it’s true, and the studies can back it up. Making yourself appear to be a “scarce resource worth having” while maintaining your interest is the ticket. People want what they can’t have.

5. Men don’t consider age to be a factor.

When it comes to a playful night out with the ladies and flirting just for fun, 83 percent of guys say they don’t care how old (or young) you might be. And when it comes to a good time, age doesn’t weigh too heavily for dudes.

6. The sexier your voice, the better your chances.

Men don’t do so great when it comes to turning on the sexy voice, but women have all the advantages in that category. Along with being able to successfully manipulate our voices, if we’re interested we tend to talk smoothly and quickly. If we’re meh on the situation, our speech ends up being hesitant and awkward.

7. Angling your head can also determine how you come across.

Scientists at the University of Newcastle in Australia have found that you’re most alluring when you angle your head forward, so you’re forced to look ever-so-slightly upward. This creates a more feminine look, and we know how guys dig that.

Men, in order to look more masculine and more attractive to women, you’re going to tilt your head back and look a bit down your nose. Don’t go overboard and cross your eyes, though.

8. Wearing red is more attention-grabbing.

Whether you choose red lips or a red dress, the color red will bring all eyes to you. The red dress effect not only helps in attention-getting, but also makes women appear more open to sexual advances. This may or may not be what you want, but it’s something to consider before going out on the prowl.

9. Being direct is better than using cheesy pickup lines.

While women prefer boring opening lines that lack pizzazz, men want women who are direct. There’s nothing sexier than knowing what you want; however, both men and women agree that “cute” pickup lines are just awful.

10. It has amazing health benefits.

Weird, right? But those who get their flirt on and do so regularly are walking around with higher white blood cell counts, which means they’re really, really healthy.

11. It’s illegal in some places.

To engage in “lascivious banter” in Little Rock, Arkansas could lead to 30 days in jail, and in New York City, men can be fined $25 every time they “gaze suggestively” at a woman. Can you imagine what that fine would do to the endless catcalling and suggestive gazing that goes on in NYC?

 

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