The Physiological Changes That Happen in Your Body When You Sleep With Someone New

Love affects your limbic system and reward centers

“You may also experience spikes in levels of dopamine, serotonin and adrenaline with a new partner,” Jess O’Reilly, author of The New Sex Bible and Astroglide’s resident sex expert, told Mic. “The resulting mood changes can include feelings of excitement, euphoria and even a natural high.”

A study from the journal Neuroscience found that animals choosing mates showed increases in oxytocin, the muscle contractor and blood pressure-raiser vasopressin and dopamine in the brain.

Neuropeptides are for lovers

Research published in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology studied 58 subjects; some had recently fallen in love, some were single and some were in long-term relationships.

The subjects who’d recently fallen in love showed higher levels of nerve growth factor, which contributes to keeping your body’s systems steady and is full of seminal plasma, or sperm. This makes sense — when you’re in a new relationship, your body is perpetually ready to get laid.

You get sweaty palms like a big galoot

Trying to stay calm can, ironically, make you nervous or anxious. So when you’re flirting and have no idea if it’s working, your amygdala — where your emotions and emotional behavior live — kicks into gear.

What’s funny about this particular brain structure is that your amygdala controls elements of both fear and sex. Like Nicole He recently proved with a Tinder-swiping robot, your palms soften to indicate sweat gland activity when you see someone you find attractive. Nervousness raises the stimulation of a sweat gland thanks to your sympathetic (fight or flight) nervous system — but the same reaction occurs, at least physiologically, when you orgasm.

“We see activation in the amygdala, which increases heart rate and blood pressure and sweating,” neuroscientist Barry Komisaruk told Mic in October. It doesn’t even have to be the cartoonishly heavy sweat associated with sex.

But! Performance anxiety, and even pain, can kick back in

Not everyone has performance anxiety, or the brain’s rude-as-hell tendency to flounder and kill your flow in the bedroom, but it’s more common than you think.

In a study of 600 college students, women were half as likely to orgasm from oral sex or intercourse during a casual hookup than when in a serious relationship. The researchers said it probably stems from women feeling uncomfortable telling their hook-ups what they want during sex — and guys are often less focused on giving them what they want, anyway.

“You may experience performance pressure that results in inhibitions in the sexual response cycle, [like] vaginal pain, spasms or erectile dysfunction,” O’Reilly told Mic, adding that vaginismus, or spasmodic pain in the vagina, “may be related to anxiety which can increase with new partners and may decrease in a long-term relationship.”

In fact, a study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that the women with vaginismus had higher levels of anxiety and neuroticism and lower levels of extraversion than the control group.

Sex with a new partner can be both fun and intimidating — and hopefully not just the latter. But in any case, if you’re trying to make the experience great, here’s something physiology, biology and neurology won’t tell you to do: Ask questions and figure out what the other person likes. Don’t just mash buttons and hope for the best.

 

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5 Behaviors That Reveal Someone Is Romantically Attracted To You

Attraction is a funny thing. No matter how much you try to hide it, some signs of it will seep through in someone’s body language. The question is whether the person you’re romantically attracted to notices those signs or not.

But that also extends to you – do you notice when someone has feelings for you? Or are you oblivious to it? Admittedly, most of us don’t go out of our way to look for signs of attraction. On top of that, many of them are very subtle, giving you no reason to pay any attention to them.

1. Facial Changes Can Show When Someone is Romantically Attracted

The face reveals a lot about a person, whether it’s what they’re thinking, how they’re feeling, or how they’re reacting to any given situation. It’s difficult to see any person who is constantly in control of every single movement of their face. Here are some signs to look out for!

· Smiles

Smiles aren’t just a sign of happiness. They signify comfort, enjoyment, appreciation, infatuation, and a wide variety of other positive feelings. As such, a person who always seems to be smiling wide around you may just be into you!

Most people don’t smile constantly throughout the day – they do so when they experience something that makes them do so. And maybe that “something” is your extra-special company!

Sure, faking a smile is totally possible, but many people can easily detect a less-than-genuine grin. It’s unlikely that someone is holding up a totally passable and believable smile for long periods of conversation. So if that certain person just can’t seem to stop grinning whenever you’re around, they may be romantically attracted to you.

· Tilts Of The Head

You may notice that, when you speak, the person who may be attracted to you tends to tilt their head to one side. Their head may be ever so slightly angled. This move has its roots in biology. How?

Well, according to behavioral investigator Vanessa Van Edwards, the subtle movement of neck exposure allows chemicals containing scents and odors – mainly pheromones – to enter the air. It’s a sometimes subconscious, sometimes intentional method of attracting a “mate”!

You can also interpret a head tilt as a sign of trust – the act of exposing a vulnerable location to the person sitting near you. It can also be a cute position that some people naturally adopt when they are listening intently. Whichever way is true, it bodes well for attraction!

· Blushing

Ever notice that your face gets warm when you’re around someone you like? It happens when blood rushes to your face, which can happen due to embarrassment, nervousness, or being flustered. Some of these emotions can occur when you’re attracted to someone.

It’s not obvious in all people, of course, especially in those with darker complexions. But if you have a sharp eye, you may be able to spot blushing in cheeks, lips, ears, noses, or even necks.

2. Signs Of Attention

If you don’t pay attention to someone a lot, chances are you don’t have strong feelings for them. That’s why the way someone responds to you, indicates their attention or reacts to show acknowledgment can greatly reveal how they feel about you. Here are some examples.

· Eye Contact

This is likely the most well-known sign that someone is romantically attracted, among other things. The eyes are the window to the soul, and eye contact indicates interest, encourages honesty and can make you both feel more open to each other. Essentially, it helps to build a connection. (1)

This is especially true if someone looks into your eyes for a long period of time. This can quickly become sensual and alluring. Interestingly, the inverse can also be true – someone who seems too nervous to hold eye contact for a long time may have a big crush and not know how to act because of it.

Regular, long periods of eye contact can also lead to the building of a deeper relationship that is more affectionate. So this eye contact could actually cause both of you to like each other even more!

· Leaning In

Someone who doesn’t want to be around you may seem to slowly back away or put some distance between both of you. But someone who wants to hear more will slowly, subconsciously lean in.

You may notice that this person stands noticeably close to you – as close as they can get. They don’t back away when you approach them first, and they tend to angle themselves so that they are fully facing you. This means they are fully invested in what you have to say – and maybe attracted!

Believe it or not, the direction of their feet can also indicate this. If their feet are pointed towards you, it’s because every inch of them wants to face you, be closer to you, or, at the very least, pay rapt attention you.

· Nodding

When someone repeatedly nods their head as you speak, it may be because they want you to know just how interested and invested they are. It is, however, often an unintentional movement – typically a small form of acknowledgment to what you’re saying because they don’t want to interrupt and break your stream of voice with their own.

3. Posture

Body language and posture make up a huge amount of communication, and many subtle movements can be an indication that someone is romantically attracted to you. After all, verbal communication has to work in tandem with nonverbal communication to get a point across correctly! Here are some areas that may reveal attraction. (2)

· Crossing Legs

Especially common in men, the act of crossing one’s legs and angling them towards someone else is a big sign that someone is interested. It is a way for them to express their attraction in a way that is biologically programmed, so it’s not easy to control – but it is very easy to notice!

· Palming

Palming is the act of holding your hands out, palms facing upwards or outwards usually towards the other person. Typically common in women, this act indicates a sense of vulnerability, honesty, and openness. It often also shows that someone wants to get to know you and is trusting you to get to know them.

· Open Stances

An open posture – such as a wide stance, an open facial expression, or relaxed limbs – are all a sign of comfort and point to a welcoming nature. This person wants to let you into their life, or, at least, into this conversation and all that it entails.

On the flip side, if someone’s posture is stiff and tight, they may be feeling awkward and may dislike the situation that they are in. They may cross their arms, look away, or tense up. If this is happening, it’s fairly safe to say that this person is either not interested or extremely guarded.

· Mirroring

Mirroring is the subconscious act of mimicking the posture or position of another person. For example, if you rest your chin on your elbow, someone who is attracted to you may do the same, effectively mirroring your appearance.

You can also take note of this from afar. If someone sitting several desks away seems to mirror everything you do, they might be secretly watching you.

4. Touch

Someone who likes you may try and find a lot of excuses to touch you. This can build a bond and help create chemistry and tension between two people, especially if you reciprocate. They may do things such as:

  • Lightly punch your arm
  • Touch your hand
  • Put their arm around your shoulder
  • Touch your arm or leg
  • Offer to get something out of your hair

Touching someone is an intimate action, and it can help the person in question to gauge your own interest. The way you react to the touch will tell them whether they should continue to pursue you or give up the conquest.

5. Speech Patterns That Indicate When Someone is Romantically Attracted

Everyone flirts in a different way, but in certain areas, it’s easy to spot someone who is romantically attracted – if you’re paying attention to how they speak. Certain very simple, seemingly casual and platonic interactions can actually be indicators of romantic interest. This is especially true if they are done alongside other signs. Here are a few examples.

· Teasing

Playful teasing is a common habit in those who flirt. It’s done to get a reaction and build chemistry. It can often cause the two of you to share a laugh, and you may even get a couple of inside jokes out of the deal. It builds a good rapport between two people, making it easier for them to relate to each other.

· Compliments

Compliments are a great thing to give and receive, and they increase positive thinking in both parties. If someone is repeatedly showering you with compliments, then chances are, they’re at least somewhat attracted to you. (3)

A few offhand comments of a positive nature don’t necessarily indicate that someone is romantically attracted to you. But repeated compliments that are heartfelt can be a sign of someone trying their very best to impress you or get you to like them.

· Tripping Over Words

Someone who is anxious around you may fumble their words, say the wrong things, or stammer a lot. It can be quite endearing to watch, and it’s a sweet sign that someone is nervously trying to impress you, or is simply too flustered to think of what to say coherently.

· Asking Questions

Asking questions is part of any normal, positive conversation. However, there is one fact across all interactions – people don’t ask a lot of questions unless they’re interested in the answers.

Small talk questions about the weather and how you are can be dismissed as politeness. But someone who is clearly invested in you and asks about many different aspects of you is really trying to get to know you better.

Final Thoughts On Some Hidden Behaviors That Reveal Someone Is Romantically Attracted To You

Do you think someone is romantically attracted to you? With an observant eye, some positive thinking, and a little luck, you’ll be able to spot these signs in the person who has caught your own attention. Don’t be surprised when you notice that you display a lot of these signs of attraction when you’re around your crush, too!

 

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Tales of Rock – David Bowie’s ex-wife Angie reveals she was drugged and raped in the 70s but never told him

DAVID Bowie’s ex-wife Angie has revealed she was drugged and raped in the 1970s – but she never told him.

Angie, 69, was married to the late rocker for 10 years from 1970 until their divorce in 1980.

 

David Bowie’s ex-wife Angie has revealed she was drugged and raped in the 1970s – but she never told him.

However Angie never told her husband she was raped by two men while in New York at the height of the Starman’s fame.

Speaking to The Sunday Mirror, Angie revealed she woke up after her drink was spiked to find herself covered in blood on a bed with two men looming over her.

Despite the terrifying situation, Angie lashed out at her attackers, punching them numerous times before leaving the room.

She revealed for the first time: “I never told David. I never gave him bad news. That wasn’t my job.

 The couple were married for 10 years from 1970 until their divorce in 1980

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The couple were married for 10 years from 1970 until their divorce in 1980.

 Angie pictured with David in 1974 - the year she was raped by two men in a New York hotel room

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Angie pictured with David in 1974 – the year she was raped by two men in a New York hotel room.

“He wouldn’t have been able to deal with that kind of thing. I just learned to block it all out. I ignored it.

“I’m not a survivor. I’m a warrior because that’s what you have to be.”

The incident took place in 1974 when she was 24 and while David was in Philadelphia recording.

Angie headed out to 82 Club with some of her husband’s business associates, but revealed to the publication she never drank or did drugs.

 Angie's drink was spiked in a club, and when she woke up, two men were looming over her and she was covered in blood on a bed

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Angie’s drink was spiked in a club, and when she woke up, two men were looming over her and she was covered in blood on a bed.

She recalled: “I had a Coca-Cola sitting at the bar and I was about to go and sit with them. I didn’t notice two South Americans putting a date rape drug in my drink.”

Angie collapsed and the men took her to the Seville Hotel in New York and raped her.

Of the moment she came round, she said: “My dress, which was see-through silk, organza yellow, was covered in blood.”

 Angie helped David get his first record deal and worked with him on his iconic looks

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Angie helped David get his first record deal and worked with him on his iconic looks.

But of her reasons for not telling David, who died in January 2016 aged 69, she said: “David wasn’t in touch with his emotions when it bordered on intimacy and relationships.”

Angie reveals all about her marriage to Ziggy Stardust in a new book called Lipstick Legends.

 

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