16 Questions To Ask Your Ex To Get Closure & Know It’s Really Over

Breakups can feel like a big explosion scene in an action flick. They often happen so fast, with so many moving parts. When you stand back and watch it all, totally bewildered, you might find yourself wondering what the actual heck just happened. No matter how long you were dating your old flame, if you’re looking to better understand why you split, these questions to ask your ex to get closure may really come in handy.

Whether you and your ex had been fighting nonstop for a while or you thought you were going to be together forever, calling it quits with someone call cause 50 shades of confusion. But as Dr. Joshua Klapow, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show, previously told Elite Daily, creating a sense of closure can be especially important. This is especially true when you’re not sure why your ex broke it off, or you didn’t want your relationship to end.

“Getting ‘closure’ means getting information, getting questions answered, and then pulling all that information together to create a narrative that makes sense to the individual,” Dr. Klapow shared.

 

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1. I need to process that we’re no longer together — can we take a break from talking and texting every day?

2. Can you walk me through what happened, from your perspective?

3. Moving forward, what do you need from me?

4. Do you feel comfortable talking about why it ended right now, or do you need time to process?

5. What positives did you take away from our relationship?

6. Are you interested in staying friends?

7. What did you learn from our relationship?

8. I have a lot of questions about the way things ended, so can we set up a time to talk about it?

9. Do you have anything else you want to say to me?

10. How have you been processing everything?

11. Did you feel seen in our relationship?

12. Do you feel like you’re healing from our breakup?

13. What types of relationships are you looking for in the future?

14. Why do you think our relationship ended?

15. Could we have done anything differently?

16. Can I still ask you to hang out, or do you need to take some time and space?

 

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Signs You Could Be Dating An Alcoholic

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DRUNK WOMAN (Daily Nation)

Some people are so good at masking their real selves when they want to achieve something. That’s why it’s possible to date an alcoholic without knowing it. And by the time you know the truth, you will have tied the knot and a divorce is not always an easy decision.

When dating, you need to have your eyes wide open so that you know your partner well enough. It’s unlikely that they will come and tell you that they are struggling with alcohol. It’s upon you to watch out for the signs and make a decision.

If your partner portrays these signs, it’s possible that they are alcoholic:

1. They are always looking for an opportunity to drink

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An alcoholic will even celebrate the smallest achievement with alcohol. When you have a small fight, they will go out drinking in order to release stress. It means they depend on alcohol to cope with the ups and downs of life.

2. They do not stick to one brand

Most people who take alcohol have a particular brand which they stick to. If your partner is not one of them and takes anything that is available, you need to get worried. Alcoholics do not care what they drink so long as it makes them drunk.

3. They have problems related to drinking

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If your partner has ever lost a job or done something humiliating due to drinking and they still won’t stop, they have a problem. They know how much drinking has cost them but still won’t stop because they are already addicted.

4. Withdrawal symptoms

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Does your partner often complain of headaches, nausea or anxiety after going a few days without drinking? That’s a telltale sign that you should never ignore.

5. They have a high tolerance for alcohol

After downing three beers, you already are feeling tipsy. But your partner is on their eighth and show no symptoms of being drunk.

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California Dreamin’ – Donna – 1982 to 1984 – This Worked Out For Everyone

I was hanging with my then girlfriend Kelly for the weekend up at my friend Tim’s place up in Topanga Canyon. He’s the one with the hot wife, Donna. (See: California Dreamin’ Tim’s Wife Donna)

 

We got up on Saturday morning and started partying early. The girls fixed up some food, blankets etc. while we iced down the beer and chilled by the pool.

It was great and secluded spot. The closest property was at least 300 yards away. About noon we got set up and in our suits and were all frolicking in the pool started partying heavy. The girls had on almost nothing for suits and looked sweet. (Kelly was a cute 20 year old blonde and we already know how Tim’s wife Donna is.) We kept saying they were almost naked and they may as well take them off and tan.

We kept on drinking and smoking and by 3:30 THE TOPS CAME OFF. We dared them if we all get naked for the rest of the day, we would do any dare they wanted the next day.

They agreed and we all stripped down. We were really getting ripped now and the girls were loving the freedom out here. They decided to walk towards the trees to take a leak. We were really proud of ourselves for getting them to loosen up.

When they got back they told us they wanted to make us do our dare tonight. We thought what the heck, let’s do it. They went over to the van and came back with some scarves. (from my mike stand) They told us we needed to lay on our backs on the blankets and allow them to tie our hands and blindfold us.

I tried to find out why, but was told its part of the dare and do it. Tim and I were now hand tied on our backs. I then felt a hand slowly running up and down my body and then a tongue. I asked what was up and was told it could be either one of them doing so but if we looked the 2 of them would both play with the other guy.

I can’t say in detail what went on for the next couple of hours.  It was so exciting not knowing who was doing what to me. After we were all exhausted we lay back still naked and enjoyed a few more beers and then headed back. I begged my girlfriend for 2 weeks to tell me if they swapped with us and she finally admitted they did.

I never told Tim or Donna that I knew.

 

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