Murder Mystery Weekend – Chapter 50


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How to Get Your Crush’s Attention: 15 Smooth Ways to Catch their Eye

Your eyes are always all over your crush, but they don’t know your name. It’s about time that changed, right? Learn how to get your crush’s attention.

Having a crush can be a lot of fun! Of course, it comes with a hint of drama, but that’s what crushes are for. They take you on this roller coaster of emotions. But if you’re ready to move from crush to something else, it’s time to learn how to get your crush’s attention.

In high school and university, I was always crushing on the popular guy. It didn’t work out too well for me. I was a complete tomboy, but I would spend my days and nights thinking about them *stalking them on social media, guilty as charged*, and daydreaming about the moment they’d come and confess their love for me. That day never came, but that doesn’t mean it can’t play out that way for you.

How to get your crush’s attention

If I had someone to take advice from, I probably would have done a lot better back in the day. That’s why I’m here. You don’t need to follow in my footsteps. Instead, allow me to show you what you need to do to grab your crush’s notice. It’s not as hard as you think, but it will require you to put in some work.

What’s important is that you don’t change who you are in the process. You are you, always remember that. You can change the superficial things, but don’t try to change who you are to please your crush because it won’t last even if you do get their attention. So, use these tips to learn how to get your crush’s attention, but not at your own expense.

#1 Use your personality. All of us have personalities that are different from one another. Now, you may be thinking that this is bad, but that’s silly. This is your biggest advantage. Your personality is rich with humor, thoughts, and opinions. Use this to flirt with them and turn them on.

#2 Look at them! If you’ve never spoken a word to them, start with eye contact. It’s harmless, and it can be super flirty. If they’re into you, it’s a hint that you’re into them too. Now, you don’t need to stare them down, but look at them when you pass by. If you’re talking to their friends when your crush is around, make sure to look at them.

#3 Befriend their friends. This is an old trick, but it can be very effective. You want to get their attention, right? So, if you’re a little nervous, start by befriending their circle of friends.

This way, they’ll slowly start to hear your name and pay more attention to you. You’ll get invited to some mutual events, and by doing this, you slowly bring yourself and your crush closer together.

#4 Keep your distance. They’re your crush, obviously, you’re going to want to be around them all of the time, but this isn’t what you need to do. Instead, keep a little distance. Everyone knows when someone likes them, and if you’re around too much, it becomes more annoying than anything. Plus, they see you as someone who likes them. You need to be the one they’re into.

#5 Work on your confidence. If you’re not confident in yourself, your crush won’t take notice of you. You need to show yourself as someone with high self-worth and respect. If they see that, they’ll be intrigued. If you can, try to go up to your crush and introduce yourself.

#6 Crack jokes. The best way to create a bond is through laughter. That’s right. If you have a good sense of humor, use it! You’d be a fool not too. You can crack small jokes here and make them laugh. By doing this, they’ll want to be around you more.

#7 Watch out for the friend-zone. Ah yes, the friend-zone. I know very well about that zone from both sides. Now, it’s entirely possible to be friends and then lovers, but you don’t want to be spending too much time in the friend-zone. It’s important you find a balance and eventually make your intentions known.

#8 Use your smile. It’s easy for people to fall in love with a smile. How can you not love other people smiling? It’s sexy, it’s sweet, it’s positive. All the things people want in their lives. If you run into your crush, give them a hello smile. You want to look like someone they can approach and talk to.

#9 Don’t push for conversation. It’s easy to become that one person who’s obviously trying to get their crush’s attention. If they text you, don’t try to prolong the conversation for hours and hours. Let it naturally fade. Relationships don’t start from one person obsessing over the other.

#10 Be direct with your crush. When you have a crush, it isn’t easy to speak your mind. We usually just stutter and blush whenever they’re around. You don’t need to declare your love for them, but you should, at least with your body, show your interest. Sit near your crush, touch their arm when they crack a joke. These small things work wonders.

#11 Have a little mystery. I’m not mysterious, so this one is hard for me. But when it comes to knowing how to get your crush’s attention, if you can show some mystery to your crush, do it. You don’t want to give everything away, let them become curious. This is how you turn your crush into something more. They need to want to get to know you.

#12 Have a mini-makeover. Not only will this boost your confidence, but it may grab the attention of your crush. If you want to switch up your hairstyle or try a new lipstick, you should totally do it. Why not? If you feel good and your crush notices you, it’s a win-win.

#13 Wear something red. This can be a red shirt or red makeup. The point is, it’s red. If you’re wondering why you need to wear red, that’s because red automatically draws the eye to you. Plus, it’s also a sexually arousing color. Say whaaaat.

#14 Practice. You’re going to have to practice getting your crush’s attention. You may not nail the first conversation with them. Maybe you were nervous, but eventually, it’ll get easier to talk to your crush. What’s important is that you don’t let that get in your way. Just keep on practicing.

#15 Be yourself. If you want your crush to be into you for the right reasons, be yourself. Sure, you can cut your hair, and buy new clothes, totally fine. But, never, and I really mean this, never change yourself for your crush. If you’re not into smoking, for example, don’t start smoking because your crush smokes. Be you. If they don’t like it, find a new crush.

Not everyone is going to come to you. Sometimes, you have to put in some effort. Some elbow grease is part of what it takes when learning how to get your crush’s attention.


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Cherie – Chapter 57 – Warm Love

I spent Saturday with Cherie on Saturday. We hadn’t seen each other in a long time, but I was happy we were re-connecting. She came to Philly and we had some intimate conversation and sex.

I figured we were all good. This has happened before. The distance thing, and if it goes too long she gets a little reserved. I figured I had fixed that on Saturday. The sex, the time, the conversations… we’re good.

I’m a man. Women are far more complex than we are. That’s why we need them! To make us better people! We’re a bunch of Jeeps and they are elegant angels that we are blessed to have in our lives. We must treasure them and pay attention at all times, even though most of us suck at that.

I get a text a day later after our orgasmic brunch weekend from my beloved.

“I’m kind of mad at you.”


“Because I’m still upset about how I thought you didn’t love me anymore.”

This is what happens when you don’t see your lady for a long period of time, gents.

“When was this? I never stopped loving you.”

“Well we didn’t see each other for a long time. We stopped talking so much. I was really sad.”

“Me too. But I thought we cleared that up last Saturday.”

“I thought so too, but I thought about it and I’m still mad at you. You’re going to have to earn it back if you expect to get the (Cat Emoji. = Sex)

“I’m going to work to be better to you.”

“You have A LOT of making up to do.”

I didn’t respond. I had to think about it. I love Cherie so much. She is probably the greatest girl I’ve ever met. I can’t throw this away because of where I am in my life and pride.

We open the conversation again a day later. I didn’t know she was still pissed.

“Yo Dawg.”

I send an emoji with a heart.

“Love on the brain.”

“I like that song! How is your day?”

I’m just hoping Cherie has cooled off.

“I wish I could sleep in, Lol. It’s ok. Lot’s of studying. You?”

“Just living the dream at the gym and salon.”

“You have big dreams and I admire them.”

Seems like maybe she’s not so mad at me anymore.

“You too! I just want to stay busy and be with you.”

“I want to be with you and only you. I miss you.”

This is good news. I think Cherie is back.

“I’m off next Saturday. Movie date?”

“I work. I don’t know what time I get done.”

“I am now off every other Saturday and I’d like to spend them with you, if possible. I know I have A LOT to make up for…”

I quoted her to show her I realize that I need to put in some serious time in our relationship so I don’t lose her. Cherie has great value. I can’t squander this wonderful, loyal woman.

“I want to spend time with you too.”

“Let’s try to do that, dear!” (Heart emoji) I don’t want you to be sad or mad at me.”

“I agree. I want us to be happy and in love.”

Cherie is the greatest woman I have ever met.

“I am happy and in love with you. Just need to see you more and do fun stuff with you and more fun stuff together.”

“Yes. I want to see you more too and do fun stuff and just be with you.


That’s how our texts end for tonight, but I think I’m working my way back into the heart of my girlfriend. I know everything will be fine. This relationship is a dynamic that works beautifully for me. Cherie gets a little lonely and moody but she’ll be fine. I’ll over do it on Valentine’s Day and since I’m taking more time off from my three businesses now I will make more time for her. We have the sweetest connection.

The Sunday after we were together I ran into a few of my female friends at the salon and at a bar I frequent. The conversation was always the same.

“How was your weekend?”

“Fantastic. I got to spend time with my girlfriend on Saturday. I love her so much.”

“Awww that’s so nice.”

“I absolutely love her. She is an absolutely wonderful woman. I’m blessed to have her in my life.”

“That’s so great Charles!”

I have truly hit the lottery with Cherie. I have been myself and I’ve done things. But like I said before, I compartmentalize my life. I have to at my age. Living in Rittenhouse. Daughter lives with me. Paid out $125,000 in child support. I have to be careful from now on. Cherie is amazing but I must keep my distance but love her unconditionally. She’s so easy to adore, but I’ve been through so much and now I’m wise, but jaded.

I will hold onto her as long as I can and I see a glorious finale to this movie that is my life, but there are so many things that are happening. I will never do anything to hurt Cherie, but this blog is called phicklephilly and it won’t write itself…

I am loyal and my heart belongs to my queen, but things are going to happen in my life and as long as they aren’t toxic, I’m going to let them happen. Out love affair is unconventional, but the best set up that’s ever happened for me so I’m just going to keep sliding down destiny’s rainbow.


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