Another Life – Chapter 47


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4 Unspoken Traits Every Man Looks For In A Partner

There are certain qualities all men are looking for in a partner, but may be afraid to admit they want.

Every guy has certain unspoken traits that he unconsciously looks for in a partner.

Love is an experience every guy desires and seeks to make a reality in his life.

Each of us has a burning need to share our life with someone who gets us and loves us. We know how much better life would be to wake up every day next to a person who completes us and gives us feelings we didn’t know we were capable of experiencing.

A lot of relationships start out hot. We are exploring our partner mentally, physically, and emotionally. We are experiencing moments of absolute pleasure as we have fun during the honeymoon phase of our relationship. But at some point, the realities of making a relationship last start to kick in.

Maintaining a relationship can be even harder than getting into the right one.

As the relationship progresses, there are certain things every guy looks for as they build their life with someone they love. These are things you won’t hear us talking about, but trust me when I say; they are on our minds as men.

1. A Partner Who Has Their Own Identity

One thing that happens in a relationship is partners get comfortable with each other. This is good for many reasons, but there is one negative aspect to getting comfortable: losing your identity as an individual. You can end up identifying yourself and what you want out of life through the relationship and not as a person.The goals, dreams, and ambitions you once had get lost in you wanting to do what you feel will better the relationship.

A strong relationship requires sacrifice but never losing who you are and what you want. Guys want a partner who never loses sight of themselves as an individual.

They want a partner who is committed to the relationship, but also committed to being the best version of them self. There is nothing sexier than a strong and confident person.


2. A Partner Who’s Self-Motivated

When you see problems arise in a relationship, it’s often because one partner lets himself or herself go. This can related to weight, habits, work, ambitions, or a variety of other areas in a relationship. They’ve lost their self-motivation and rely on their partner for their strength.

At first, this is cute and flattering. After a while, it’s exhausting to constantly have to be someone else’s inspiration and strength. Life is hard enough on its own, so adding the weight of motivating your partner can lead to resentment.

To be the best version of yourself, you can only rely on YOU. Yes, there will be things you do as a couple—like workouts or healthy eating habits together—but your main source of strength has to transcend the relationship. 


3. A Partner Who Shares Your Goals and Dreams

When you start out in a relationship, you’re agreeable to the things your partner tells you they want out of life. At some point, you reach that level of comfort where you can tell them what’s on your mind. What’s on your mind may crush your partner’s dreams and goals.

Every man wants a partner who will be real from the beginning so that we don’t waste our time.

We want a partner who will support and dream with us. We want a partner who won’t settle for living a good enough life. This, of course, is assuming the goals and dreams are somewhat realistic.


4. A Partner Who’s Committed to Doing the Hard Work

Relationships are hard work to maintain in the long run. They require our time, energy, and digging deeper. To grow, we have to choose to love instead of how we feel at times. Guys want a partner who gets that and is willing to put in the hard work with us.

We want someone who tries to understand us. Someone who attempts to get a feel for our moods and tries to understand what we’re going through. I’m not saying we want someone who will put us on a pedestal because we understand relationships are a two-way street. But, we want to know if you’re willing to put in the work–we are.


Love is one of life’s greatest feelings and experiences.

Every man and woman should experience a love so strong that you know it can only end very well or turn into a train wreck. That kind of love helps you grow as a person either way.

When you find that person you love with everything in you, commit to doing the hard work, but never lose who you are. Stay motivated and don’t get comfortable to the point of letting yourself go. And, this applies to guys as well.

Never stop pursuing your love, in the same way, you had done before you were together. Keep it spicy.


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Sun Stories: Delaney – Chapter 4 – She’s Writing Checks She Can’t Cash

Delaney was supposed to come in on Saturday, but again was a no show. This is becoming more of a trend than an anomaly.

She totally blew it last weekend because she got drunk and was too hungover to function. Friday night she was in here making all sorts of promises for Saturday to see me and nothing happened.

I get it. She’s 22 years old. They like to get smashed on the weekends. I was the same way back in the day. Get drunk with your friends, or go hang out with some old guy at a salon. The choice is easy.

I even text her on Friday night to show her she was in the blog. She loved that she was the new girl in own and how Kita was no longer my number one. Girls love destroying each other. She liked using up the end of Kita’s lotion and throwing it in the trash. I know it felt good. I loved it. Knowing another girl took something away from Kita and discarded it like Kita did to me for the month of January. (See: Kita – You’re No Longer My Number One)

I even texted her on Saturday that Kita had miraculously came in on my shift. Crickets. No response.

Most of these girls that get addicted to tanning can’t go for more than two or three days without a session. They start to think that they’re color is fading. It’s a vicious cycle that they bring on themselves.

It’s money for us, but they’re faces look like shoe leather in their thirties.

It’s been three days since she’s come to the salon, so I’m thinking she may make an appearance tonight.

Update: She was a no show. So, based on what she said Friday night and her absence in general, this was over before it ever got started.

As Simon Cowell would say: “Sorry Delaney, but it going to be a no for me.”


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What It Means If You Dream About Someone You Haven’t Seen In A While


It’s common to dream about people who are currently in your life. But once in a while, you might find yourself dreaming about someone you haven’t seen or even thought of in a long time. It can have you wondering, should you try to reconnect with them? Dreams can be interpreted in many different ways. But according to dream experts, dreaming about someone you haven’t talked to in years has less to do with the person you’re dreaming about, and more to do with yourself.

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“The thing to remember about dreams is that everything and everyone in your dream represents some part of you or something that directly affects you,” professional dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells us. “That being said, when you dream of a person you haven’t seen in forever, or a person you don’t deal with daily, or someone who doesn’t even actually exist, they will represent a part of your personality.”

Dreaming about other people can be a way for you to gain a better understanding of yourself and your behavior. If there’s something that needs to be worked through and addressed in your waking life, it might show up in your dream in some way. Many times, it will show up in the form of a person in your past or present.

How To Understand What Your Dream Is Trying To Tell You

When you dream about someone from your past, there may be something in your waking life that you need to work on.


Many people will dream about old friends and classmates from back in elementary school. It can be a little strange, especially if haven’t seen or heard from a particular person in years. If this is the case, think about the person that you once knew and the traits they have that stick out to you the most. According to Loewenberg, that outstanding quality or fault is a trait that you may have.

“There was a time when I kept dreaming about this kid named Jeff from third grade,” Loewenberg says. “I don’t remember his last name, but I do remember that he was the shyest person I’ve ever known. I realized, he would show up in my dreams when I wasn’t speaking up about something in real life, or when I wasn’t taking action on something I needed to. My subconscious was saying to me, ‘Well you may as well just be Jeff.'”

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It doesn’t matter what the person is like now. They’re showing up in your dream as a way for you to pay attention to something important that needs to be addressed in your life at the moment.

You should also take note of how this person is acting in your dream. For instance, are they helping you, or are they angry and threatening? According to Loewenberg, their behavior in the dream will be directly connected to how a part of you is behaving in real life. “They’re showing you this behavior from a different perspective so you can better understand yourself,” she says.

People will randomly show up in your dreams for all kinds of different reasons. If you’re into astrology, Joy Strong, transformation life coach, and professional dream analyst tells Bustle that planetary retrogrades can stimulate subconscious thoughts from the past to reappear.

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“It’s important to consider that just because someone shows up in your awareness does not dictate whether or not they should have a current role in your life,” Strong says. This is important to keep in mind if you find yourself dreaming about an ex you haven’t thought about in forever and you’re wondering if you should reach out.

Dreams have more to say about you than the people in them. So if you find yourself dreaming about anyone from your past or present, think about what they could represent in your own life. If they’re showing up in your dream, there’s something worth paying attention to.

For more on this fascinating subject, click here.

What Does It Mean When You Dream About Someone?


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