5 Clear Signs He’s Cheating On You

If you love your man, the last thing you want to believe is that he’s cheating on you. But if he’s been acting differently lately, you deserve to know the truth. So is it a case of paranoia, or is the man you love cheating on you?

Here are 5 clear signs he’s being unfaithful, and take notes because you won’t find any of the “He’s had a haircut and brought new aftershave” type clichés on this list…

 

1. You don’t see his phone anymore – 

Suddenly instead of leaving his cell phone out on the table or on the kitchen sides, your guy keeps his phone on him at all times. Most the time he keeps it hidden in his pocket, and the only time you’ll see it is when he pulls it out to have a quick glance to see if he has any messages.

To make this sign even more obvious you’ll also notice he has all his ringtones off. The phone is always on silent or at best set to vibrate. Ask yourself the question, why would someone have their phone on silent 100% of the time unless they were in a meeting, the cinema, or they had something to hide?

A hidden, silent phone is not good news!

2. He starts schmoozing – 

He always gave you the occasional cuddle and kiss on the cheek during the day, but all of a sudden he’s being very affectionate for no apparent reason. This is a dead giveaway and hears why…

The majority of women assume a guy goes cold and distant when he’s having an affair. That’s true some of the time, but that’s normally a sign he wants you to catch him. If he’s suddenly showing lots of love it’s a sure sign of guilt. It’s a typical childlike way to react to something you’ve done wrong, and like I always say, men are like big babies most the time.

3. He lets you go to bed before him – 

Normally you always go to bed together. Now all of a sudden he suggests you go before him. He’ll tell you he just needs to send an email or check some work thing on the PC.

This is when you want to keep an eye on him. The chances are while you’re snuggling under the covers he’s sending his mistress a text message or two. If he’s very adventurous he might even give her a late night booty call.

4. He starts deleting everything – 

If he’s hiding his cell phone from you there’s no way you’ll know this, but a cheater will delete all his calling and text history. You’ll also find an empty email inbox, and browsing history on the Internet will be a thing of the past.

You’ll probably find he stops having receipts stuffed in his trouser pockets. It’s man’s way of covering his tracks. The thing most guys don’t realize is this kind of stupid behavior stinks of guilt!

5. He buys new shoes –

Don’t bother looking for new aftershave or sudden weight loss. Most guys are happy with the aftershave they’re using, and they know new aftershave is a dead giveaway. Here’s the thing you really need to worry about…

New shoes!

If your man stops wearing those dirty old sneakers he always wears and comes home with a couple of pairs of brand new shoes, he’s trying to impress a woman. Unless he’s suddenly paying attention to fashion, he probably knows women look at a man’s shoes and wants to make a good impression on someone. Unfortunately, it’s probably not you!

So what are you supposed to do if you spot any of these signs?

Sit down and talk to him. Just because he’s showing signs of infidelity you need to give him the benefit of the doubt. Tell him you’re worried about his behavior and tell him what he’s done to worry you. Don’t get all crazy on him and start throwing a tantrum because it might turn out he isn’t cheating on you.

Explain how you feel, and tell him you just want to clear your mind. See here’s something you need to know about men…

Yes, some men are cold, narcissistic, and don’t have any problem cheating. They won’t show any emotion, and they’ll happily lie to your face without caring. MOST guys though will feel some degree of guilt about what they’re doing. Think about a little boy that broke one of his Mom’s favorite ornaments and then spends the next month terrified she’ll find out.

He knows he’s doing wrong, and he’s worried you’re going to find out. But why is he having an affair? Why does he care if you find out? If he wants another woman, what does it matter to him?

Guys cheat for a ton of reasons.

Maybe he has low self-esteem, maybe a woman hurt him in the past, maybe he isn’t certain if he wants to settle down, or of course, he could just be an ignorant, selfish man-boy who isn’t ready for an adult relationship.

The good thing is, you more likely to know if you’re with a cheater IF you have a better understanding of men. To be honest, once you learn how to spot certain traits and characteristics in guys, you’ll know how to avoid players altogether.

 

Isn’t it about time men didn’t confuse you anymore?

 

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Sun Stories: Delaney – Chapter 1 – My New Number One?

We have this client that’s been coming here since college. She now works at an IT recruitment firm here in the city. Thing is, she has referred more of her co-workers to this salon than anyone else. I spoke with my partner Achilles about that and he was surprised.

“I feel like I should get her a bottle of booze.”

“Give her a free bottle of tanning lotion!”

So we did and she was surprised and happy when I handed her the bottle last Saturday.

The last girl she referred was lovely Delaney. Enthusiastic about tanning and a fiery personality. She expressed how she wanted to get dark and loved tanning. She bought the All Access EFT. (That’s when they sign up for a monthly debit on their credit card)

That’s our favorite kind of client. Makes a six month commitment and the money just rolls in every month.

Delaney is twenty-two years old but acts much more mature than most girls her age. But I’m sure she likes to go out and party with her girls on the weekends. She’s 5’5″, fit, dark brown hair and green eyes. Beautiful girl.

We got to chatting and I feel like I’m really connecting with this girl. Obviously connecting over tanning and the salon. I really like her.

She tells me about some guy she’s been seeing. She shows me a picture. (She could get a hotter guy) But from what she tells me, is sounds like this guy has a great job like my friend Duncan. (See: Duncan – 1997 to Present – Concentrated Dosage) This guy could be a great catch for Delaney. But at twenty-two she should probably take her time and enjoy her youth.

If this guy she’s dating is working all the crazy hours my friend Duncan works, that works in my favor. Because Then I can have Delaney for drinks and snacks at night.

But she’s got a good job too. Technical Recruiter right out of college. She went to Penn and during that time she earned a BS in Telecommunications all the while performing volunteer work in the community.

After a few visits I can tell Delaney has great enthusiasm for tanning. I tell her about Kita. (See: Kita – Chapter 37 – You are no longer my number one) I start letting Delaney use Kita’s Sweet and Sexy lotion that I gave her. Delaney relishes in the idea of bumping this ingrate off her pedestal and taking her place.

I’ve already ordered a new bottle of Sweet and Sexy. I knew I would need to gift it to my new queen. I wasn’t sure who was going to get it, but I know now.

Lately she and some of the girls have been coming here to that salon on their lunch hours. So I haven’t seen her in a couple of days. Achilles knows I like her and he’s been teasing me about that. I don’t mind.

Delaney came in Friday night! We chit chatted and Delaney’s excited to be the new Number One! I mean she’ll have to earn her way into it but I think she’s up for it. But only time will tell.

“Yea, I need to be able to bring food to you and tell you my stories. I need to be able to text you and see if I can bring you a coffee.”

Okay. Theses are the things I need to hear from my Number One. All Kita did was take, take, take. She’s a self-absorbed young girl that is lacking any real social skills. I haven’t even see or heard from her and she’s been back for over a week. She even came in and bought a new EFT package. (Probably just waiting for her Mommy to drop some loot in her account) But she did it all when I wasn’t here. I don’t understand what’s going on. But I must move forward with the new batch of ladies that are my top five.

Delaney asks for my number. I’m ecstatic but remain calm. We exchange numbers. I’m feeling happy about all of this. Because with the Kita ghosting, and the recent Bailey fail, (See: Bailey – From Texting to Connecting) I’ve been feeling a bit used.

But it’s my own fault. I just love beautiful young women and romance.

But maybe it’ll be different with Delaney. She’s Ivy League. She seems more mature and may know how to behave to earn her place as my Number One Favorite Client at the salon.

I actually enjoy all of this contrived, created drama. It makes the job more interesting,  and phicklephilly’s not going to write itself. As much as I complain, I’m enjoying this journey. The yearning, the disappointment, the surge of euphoria, and none of it is really affecting my real personal life. I’ve compartmentalized my life so well this time. I pull the strings on what will happen, and occasionally my lines are cut. But that keeps it interesting!

Things are cool between Cherie and I and I’m free to build content for my work and nobody gets hurt.

Delaney says she’ll be in on Saturday and I tell her I’m off that day. She says she’ll come in Sunday. Perfect!

Sunday comes and it’s painfully cold again in Philly. I head straight to the salon to warm up. I thaw a bit. I’m in an hour early so I run across the street to Starbucks and grab a breakfast sandwich. My stomach is a bit fucked up. I ate almost an entire pizza for some unknown reason. Probably just a late night craving. I just can’t do that anymore. That sort of behavior just gives me a food hangover. Plus all the cheese doesn’t fair well with me anymore. (But it was delicious!)

We’re open from 11am to 4pm on Sundays. I’ve brought with me a brand new fresh bottle of Sweet and Sexy lotion.

The very same lotion I got for my former Number One, Kita. The same product that I’ve been allowing Delaney to use that I kept at the salon under the counter for that ungrateful welp, Kita.

I text Delaney around 2:30pm.

“Feeling a little pale?”

“I AM. And hungover. Getting some hair of the dog in my system then coming over for some sunshine.”

“Nice!”

Later it’s getting near closing and I text her at 3:50pm. We’re closing in 10 minutes but for Delaney I’ll stay open for her.

I get a text from her at 4:05…

“NO. Ugh. I fucked up today Charles. Today was not my best. You’ll be in tomorrow afternoon?”

“Aww! Poor baby! I’ll be here from 3 to 8pm Monday.”

I’m fine with it. It’s cold out and I just want to go home. But Monday comes and what I realize is that it’s Martin Luther King’s birthday. It’s a national holiday. Most major corporations and banks observe this holiday and they’re closed.

So let’s recap the weekend but I’m going to allow my friend Zach from City Tap House, (A huge sports bar in center city) describe what happened.

“Dude. Eagles are in the playoffs. It’s huge in this city. Everybody went out drinking Friday night. My bar was a shitshow. Saturday they all kept going and the Eagles played at home. Everybody’s out eating and drinking. Shitshow. Sunday everybody was hung over and fucked up in general. Delaney probably was so banged up from the weekend she forgot she was off on Monday. I was here working out at the gym here all night. Nobody came in because nobody is at work today. She’ll be in tomorrow and she’ll be sorry she didn’t come in to see you. But the weekend and with the Eagles going to the Superbowl, the city and it’s inhabitants are just going insane. Don’t worry. She’ll be in. She wants that Number One spot. Now she owes you.”

He’s right. I’m not worried. I’m here and writing about it all. I’ll just let the universe unfold as it should.

And it will.

 

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