10 Ways to Say ‘I Love You’ Without Actually Saying It

We all know those 3 magical words: I love you. They’re simple, yet incredibly powerful words. Hearing them from your significant other can be the most incredible and heartwarming feeling ever. Your stomach flutters with butterflies, your excitement and energy could move mountains.

However, saying “I love you” is not the only way to show your partner how you feel. While words do matter, actions often speak louder. Sometimes, it’s better to show someone how you feel rather than simply say it.

Here are 10 ways you can let your significant other know that you love them without using those 3 words:

1. Support them.

This is an excellent way to display your love for your significant other! When you support your partner, you show your willingness to cheer their success and also comfort them when they struggle.

2. Love them despite their shortcomings.

Everybody’s flawed, but we should love each other despite those shortcomings. This is important in relationships because it shows how deeply you care about your partner. You can showcase your passionate feelings by loving someone even in their less flattering moments. You’ll both feel more connected once you accept each other’s shortcomings.

3. Teach them new things.

When you love someone, you want to help them grow as a person. Learning together is a powerful way to feel closer since it forces you to rely on each other. It also allows you to share your knowledge with your partner and lets them see you shine.

4. Show up when you know they’re not OK.

It’s important to know when your partner is not at their best. When you know someone well, it’s obvious when they need extra support, and you should provide just that. A gesture as simple as bringing them their favorite food, giving them a long hug, or letting them vent does wonders for your relationship. When you show compassion and show up for them, trust and connection blossom.

5. Leave random notes for them.

This one is our personal favorite, even though it sounds cheesy. Leaving simple notes in your significant other’s pocket or their bedside table lets them know you care. You don’t need to write elaborate poems or love songs: just jot down an inside joke or a reminder that you love them. Not only do these notes show your lover that you care, but they’re also a labor of love since you took time to scribble something sweet on paper for them.

6. Remember the small things.

Don’t you feel extra appreciated when someone remembers your favorite candy and buys it for you? Little gestures like that show just how much you pay attention to your lover. Don’t just remember the big stuff, like their birthday, last name, or favorite coffee order. Focusing on the tiny details makes your partner feel like they are your world, and you remember them even when you’re not together.

7. Do their chores for them.

Sometimes, your partner needs a break after a hard day at work. If you live together, try doing the dishes or laundry. This allows your lover to relax and forget about their troubles. If you don’t live together, try cooking for them while they sit with their feet up and unwind in your company.

8. Compromise with them.

Relationships require commitment, meaning that compromise becomes a very important aspect of coexistence. Both parties must understand that they can’t always have their way. Sometimes, you need to reach a consensus. Additionally, when you willingly compromise, your partner feels like you see the relationship as more important than whatever you were arguing about.

9. Stay up to wait for them.

In nearly every relationship, one person works longer hours or spends more time at university. Lack of quality time can drive a wedge between partners. So, try staying up if they arrive home late. They will be happy to see you and enjoy a late-night meal while discussing the day.

10. Shower them in hugs.

Simply showing affection without a reason is a huge sign of love. It conveys your true feelings without any words. Plus, studies show that physical touch between loved ones holds several positive health benefits.

It’s not difficult to show your significant other that you love them, but sometimes we forget. Building this habit floods your relationship with affection and care, bringing you closer to your partner. If you struggle to show your love, try one of our 10 ideas rather than just mumbling, “I love you.” You might be surprised what positive changes occur!

 

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Why Are Some Men Obsessed With Barely Legal Girls?

When I was young and received unfettered access to a computer, I looked up porn out of curiosity. The most fascinating part was the category “barely legal” and how… popular it was. Women around my age or slightly older depicted as some kind of sexual prize. As a developing person, and thus with many questions about their sexuality, the sorts of scenarios that played out on the screen that afternoon confused me.

Did girls my age (or older) really behave like that? Was this normal? Should I feel that way? Act that way? Is this why my parents became more concerned the older I got? If a boy came onto me in such a manner, should I respond like that? Finally, I clicked off, erased my search history, and tried to put the matter out of my mind completely.

The way that some men obsess with barely legal girls has confused me for a long time. Perhaps I would have felt less uncomfortable if I had more comprehensive and accurate information about sex. Or, if I had parents who would have frank discussions with me. Neither of those scenarios happened.

Instead, we made condom balloons in sex ed classes and laughed at naked scenes in movies at school. Moreover, we would also watch classmates spend the weekend with their 30-year-old “boyfriends.” (As if that was a normal thing to do.) Hence, I did not fully grasp the extent of the problem until I came across the following quote:

“She informed me, matter-of-factly, that she was old enough to know the difference between intriguing and fucked up. “You should go for younger women,” she advised me. “They can’t always tell.”

― Tana French, In the Woods

Then, things started to fall a lot more in place after this quote sunk in.

I had always entertained wildly romantic notions of love — notions that I tended to keep behind a smokescreen of snark and violence. Moreover, I assumed that my partner would be someone who would treat me with respect, care about my boundaries, and see me as an equal (otherwise, why bother?). I wondered why certain boys my age, and even some older men, treated me as an alien, sometimes to the point of abuse. I asked myself if maybe I was the problem if I was expecting too much. Nevertheless, turns out, I was not expecting too much — they just wanted to give too little.

Some men’s obsession with “barely legal” girls is based on misogyny, pure and simple. They want to see us as fragile little flowers, while they get away with all sorts of shit. Young women with no idea what relationships are like will put up with all sorts of abuse. Grown women are terrifying to these abusers in comparison, and for good reasons.

Grown women don’t accept wishy-washiness about condoms and STI-testing. And they never will.

Grown women don’t put up with bullshit like cheating or ghosting. Period.

Grown women are not afraid to dump you on your ass if you don’t treat them like queens.

Barely legal girls are still children. Some men can take advantage of them and make them comply easily. Some men can convince them to do what they want, and not hear a peep. If those girls are afraid or sad or unhappy, they may just convince themselves they are not working hard enough. That’s attractive to certain men – this vulnerability, the lack of experience. It’s disgusting, but it’s also true.

Society talks a lot about girls growing up too fast today. However, there is something to be said about women stepping into their own power and responsibility sooner than our mothers or grandmothers. We are here. We are strong. And we are more than just some porn category to jerk off to.

And we are not sitting down anytime soon.

 

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