7 Ways Being Unfaithful Changes You & Your Relationship for Good

It affects you more deeply than you might think.

Experiencing the thrill of infidelity changes everything. On one hand, the world seems more vibrant and you feel more alive than you’ve felt in years. On the other, the relationship you’ve spent so long building is suddenly in peril of being destroyed because of the choice you made to stray.

These wildly divergent realities of your life put tension and strain on every single part of your existence. And the pressure will change you in myriad ways.

Here is how cheating changes you and your relationship’s future.

1. You will be humiliated

At some point, most, if not all of the people in your life catch on to what is happening.

You have failed to protect and defend the very values you swore to honor, and everyone knows. Even people who don’t know you seem to know. And God forbid the news hits social media.

2. Your spouse has permanent ammunition against you

No matter your reasons for straying or your efforts toward penance, you will always be “the one who cheated”.

Your spouse may use that sin as a dumping ground for everything involving blame, anger, judgment, and abuse.

3. Your children may blame you

Children will not know how to properly process their fears and sense of loss without professional help, especially if they know something damning about one or both parents.

Even as adults, they may reach back and blame you for their own choices or unfulfilled lives.

4. You can’t trust others to be loyal to you

As you try to balance your ability to cheat on your spouse against what you know to be a personal core of goodness, you have to face the irony.

If you are capable of doing something so unthinkable, what’s to keep someone else from doing the same to you?

5. Everything you do is questioned

You know you can’t blame your spouse for not trusting you, but you also can’t live forever under a microscope. Short of having a spouse-appointed chaperone, you will always have the company of “who, what, where, when, and why.”

If you and your spouse decide to work on your marriage, you will have to be painfully, humbly transparent while your spouse inches toward a new kind of trust. And that means answering a lot of questions.

6. You lose credibility

You may do a lot of soul-searching to answer for your infidelity and take responsibility for it but there will always be those who resort to the “once a cheater always a cheater” conclusion.

7. Your confidence may get a boost

During the affair, that is. After all, neuroscience reminds us that people who are addicted are seeking a dopamine rush. And settling into a long marriage isn’t known for those feel-good jolts.

An affair, on the other hand, can reawaken the confidence that comes from a dopamine rush. However, as with an addiction, that confidence can easily come crashing down in a pile of guilt. And that guilt can play a huge role in your attitudes and behaviors going forward.

 

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Boyfriend Puts Engagement Ring In Front Of His GF As Many Times As He Can Without Her Noticing

Getting engaged is one of the most exciting events in someone’s life, and is something to be remembered for years to come. When Edi Okoro had figured out that his girlfriend Cally Read was his one and only, he picked out an engagement ring and waited until the perfect moment to ask for her hand in marriage.

Edi wanted to have some fun though and decided to parade the ring around her a little before popping the question. After all, they would be together forever, so what’s the harm in dragging it out a little longer?

He even documented his engagement ring challenge in photos to see how long it would take for his gf to notice. Take a look at these hilarious photos of one guy just trying to see how much he could get away with before his beloved girlfriend caught on.

BF Decides to See How Many Times He Can Put Engagement Ring In Front of GF Without Her Noticing

Just chillin on the couch with the engagement ring while Edi’s girlfriend is in the kitchen behind him. No big deal.

He even left it in her jewelry plate for two days without her noticing.

Wearing the ring before she got a chance to.

She photobombed this without even trying to, and luckily she wasn’t turned around to see her boyfriend posing with her soon-to-be ring!

Maybe she’s dreaming of what her ring will look like while her boyfriend holds it in front of her.

These just keep getting better, don’t they? How close do you think he can get before she finally notices??

Looks like he brings the ring with him wherever he goes. These pictures just keep getting better and better!

It’s funny how in all of these pictures, she seems to be conveniently turned the opposite direction.

This one gives me a little anxiety, I have to say!

Wow, this guy is having way too much fun with the engagement ring challenge!

Luckily his girlfriend can’t see well without her glasses, so this was an easy way to get the ring in front of her without her noticing.

Wow, this one’s almost too close for comfort!

We love how happy he looks in every photo where he’s posing with the engagement ring. He just can’t wait to show his girlfriend all these pictures!

The ones with both of them in the picture are just the best.

Even on vacation, this guy can’t help himself.

Modern technology really is the best when you want to pose with an engagement ring while your girlfriend plays on her phone.

We will leave you with this photo. These are just the best.

Have You Tried the Engagement Ring Challenge?

So, if you want to partake in the engagement ring challenge, you now have some clever photo ideas thanks to this guy. Which one of these photos was your favorite? Please share with us in the comments, and if you loved this article, make sure to share with friends and family!

 

 

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