4 Texts to Send When You Want to Break It Off with Someone You Just Started Seeing

Sometimes when you meet someone, sparks fly instantly. But other times, your date can turn out to be more of a dud and someone you don’t feel is worth pursuing. If you went on one date via an app, or you were connected by mutual friends, it’s totally fine if you don’t want to continue seeing someone again. Breaking it off doesn’t need to be a big deal – but articulating why without ghosting someone is the hard part.

You might want to break it off, but aren’t sure what to say, or how to say it. Talking to someone in person can be difficult, as the other person can put you on the spot with questions, or may become emotional, making it hard for you to maintain your resolve.

I’m personally in the club that texting can be the best way to communicate with someone when you’re just not that into them, especially if you’ve just started getting to know each other. And if you’re not sure what to say, don’t worry because here are four straightforward ways to break things off, pain-free.

1. “I’m not ready to date right now.”

Hopping back into the dating pool right after a breakup can be overwhelming, and it might make you realize that you aren’t ready for another emotional commitment. If that’s the case, the best thing you can do is be honest with the other person and explain that you aren’t ready to date just yet.

Even if you just aren’t ready for a relationship with that specific person, there’s no arguing with this line. If they don’t take this well or try to convince you that you are ready, be firm and stand your ground. It’s important that you put yourself first in every relationship, and don’t allow them to manipulate you into getting involved in something you aren’t ready for. Don’t feel guilty or ashamed for taking some time to prepare before embarking on a new relationship.

2. “I think we’re better as friends.”

You may find that you really enjoy spending time with someone, but don’t feel the romantic attraction for them that they do for you. When this happens, it’s important to let the person know that they aren’t to blame, but that there’s just something missing from your romantic connection, and that you still want them to be a part of your life. Hopefully, they’ll be understanding.

You may find that even if you weren’t right for each other as romantic partners, you are great friends and will be able to move forward with a healthy, supportive relationship free of all the drama that romantic entanglements always seem to entail. If this turns out not to be the case, it will be disappointing, but you shouldn’t feel any guilt. You’ve done the right thing by being honest, and if they can’t commit to the friendship, that’s on them, not you.

3. “I need time to focus on myself.”

Your first commitment should always be to yourself. If you feel like this person or your relationship with them is too demanding of your time and energy in a way you can’t accommodate, don’t be afraid to send them this message. If they truly care about you and your well-being, they will respond with support and encourage you to do what is best for yourself.

Whether you’ve had some recent obstacles thrown in your path or are just struggling to balance the responsibilities of school, work, family, friends and a relationship, you should never be met with derision or resistance when you ask for time to yourself.

This period of personal growth may help you understand what you’re looking for in a partner, making you even more ready for a relationship when you do get back into dating. You may even find that once you are ready to start dating again, you and this person will be able to pick up where you left off and try again!

4. “I don’t feel a spark.”

You’ll probably end up going on at least a few first dates that leave you feeling like you have no connection with the other person at all. When that happens, don’t give up right away! It simply may take time for your feelings for the other person to grow. But if you’ve been on more than three dates and there’s just no romantic connection on your end, don’t feel like you have to force it to avoid hurting the other person.

If your date is a truly mature individual, they will respect your openness and appreciate you choosing to be honest, rather than stringing them along out of fear of hurting them. If they ask you if you’d be willing to keep trying to see if feelings develop over time, don’t say yes unless you truly believe there is a possibility that this will happen.

Breaking off a new relationship is never easy, and you’re never going to know exactly what to say. The most important thing to remember is to be honest and respectful about your feelings towards the person and to make sure that you fully listen to them when they share their feelings with you—no matter how hard it is to hear what they have to say. Using these lines will help guide you through an open conversation with the person about the relationship and your feelings.


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Kita – Chapter 23 – Anxiety and Depression

Kita’s was having terrible anxiety and depression after her first love broke her heart. Her mom put her on Escitalopram. Poor thing. I’ve lived with anxiety and depression my whole life, but instead of raging out or becoming mentally paralyzed, I just soldiered through if for the last half century.  I’m much better now, because I’ve rewired my mind to become friends with my anxiety and depression without ever taking a single drug for it. You feel that way for a reason. I believe as long as you’re not self destructive, you need to work on yourself and walk towards the things that frighten or hurt you and work through those feelings, over and over again. Worked for me but these days it seems when someone has a feeling they get prescribed a drug to block that feeling. I’m not a fan. Don’t get me wrong, some people really need medicine and therapy to function, but not everybody. You’re supposed to feel sick when your heart is broken. It’s human emotion. It teaches and trains your brain how not to get destroyed and shredded next time. The mind and body is a wonderfully complex machine.

Anyway… Let’s look a the uses of the drug.

Escitalopram is used to treat depression and anxiety. It works by helping to restore the balance of a certain natural substance (serotonin) in the brain. Escitalopram belongs to a class of drugs known as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI). It may improve your energy level and feelings of well-being and decrease nervousness.

How to use Escitalopram Oxalate

Read the Medication Guide and, if available, the Patient Information Leaflet provided by your pharmacist before you start taking escitalopram and each time you get a refill. If you have any questions, ask your doctor or pharmacist.

Take this medication by mouth with or without food as directed by your doctor, usually once daily in the morning or evening. The dosage is based on your medical condition, response to treatment, age, and other medications you may be taking. Be sure to tell your doctor and pharmacist about all the products you use (including prescription drugs, nonprescription drugs, and herbal products).

If you are using the liquid form of this medication, carefully measure the dose using a special measuring device/spoon. Do not use a household spoon because you may not get the correct dose.

To reduce your risk of side effects, your doctor may direct you to start taking this drug at a low dose and gradually increase your dose. Follow your doctor’s instructions carefully. Do not increase your dose or use this drug more often or for longer than prescribed. Your condition will not improve any faster, and your risk of side effects will increase. Take this medication regularly to get the most benefit from it. To help you remember, take it at the same time each day.

It is important to continue taking this medication even if you feel well. Do not stop taking this medication without consulting your doctor. Some conditions may become worse when this drug is suddenly stopped. Also, you may experience symptoms such as mood swings, headache, tiredness, sleep changes, and brief feelings similar to electric shock. To prevent these symptoms while you are stopping treatment with this drug, your doctor may reduce your dose gradually. Consult your doctor or pharmacist for more details. Report any new or worsening symptoms right away.

It may take 1 to 2 weeks to feel a benefit from this drug and 4 weeks to feel the full benefit of this medication. Tell your doctor if your condition does not improve or if it worsens.


Side Effects

Nausea, dry mouth, trouble sleeping, constipation, tiredness, drowsiness, dizziness, and increased sweating may occur. If any of these effects persist or worsen, tell your doctor promptly.

Remember that your doctor has prescribed this medication because he or she has judged that the benefit to you is greater than the risk of side effects. Many people using this medication do not have serious side effects.

Tell your doctor right away if you have any serious side effects, including: decreased interest in sex, changes in sexual ability, easy bruising/bleeding.

Get medical help right away if you have any very serious side effects, including: bloody/black/tarry stools, fainting, fast/irregular heartbeat, vomit that looks like coffee grounds, seizures, eye pain/swelling/redness, widened pupils, vision changes (such as seeing rainbows around lights at night, blurred vision).

This medication may increase serotonin and rarely cause a very serious condition called serotonin syndrome/toxicity. The risk increases if you are also taking other drugs that increase serotonin, so tell your doctor or pharmacist of all the drugs you take (see Drug Interactions section). Get medical help right away if you develop some of the following symptoms: fast heartbeat, hallucinations, loss of coordination, severe dizziness, severe nausea/vomiting/diarrhea, twitching muscles, unexplained fever, unusual agitation/restlessness.

Rarely, males may have a painful or prolonged erection lasting 4 or more hours. If this occurs, stop using this drug and get medical help right away, or permanent problems could occur.

A very serious allergic reaction to this drug is rare. However, get medical help right away if you notice any symptoms of a serious allergic reaction, including: rash, itching/swelling (especially of the face/tongue/throat), severe dizziness, trouble breathing.

This is not a complete list of possible side effects. If you notice other effects not listed above, contact your doctor or pharmacist.


Holy shit! The side effects seem worse than the actual ailment! How could her mother put her on this crap?

Well, now I know and so do you. I don’t want my little Kita to suffer. She seems fine even though she’s going through it all right now after the loss of ex boyfriend JR.




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