Should You Hook Up On The First Date? Experts Say It’s Up To You

Imagine this: You’re on a first date that’s going extremely well. You’re having a good time, you’re comfortable, and you’re super attracted to the person you’re out with. A special connection on a first date doesn’t always happen, but when it does, it can feel like some sort of supernatural gift from the universe. At that point, you might just be tempted to jump your date’s bones right then and there. We’ve all been there, and there’s nothing wrong with feeling like you want to get freaky ASAP. But, should you hook up on the first date? Well, according to experts, it really depends on what you’re looking for and what you want.

But, are you doomed for a potential future relationship with this person if you hook up on the first date?

“No!” Queen says. “If you have sex with someone who’s sex-positive and not a sl*t-shamey type, you’ve basically just accelerated the getting-to-know process a little,” she explains. “If there are no judgements, getting busy is not a mark against you in the big book of life.” Basically, if the two of you are on the same page, there’s a chance your casual hookup could, indeed, turn into a relationship.

Every situation is different. I actually hooked up with my fiancé on our first date, and now we’re getting married. We’ve been together since that first date, fell in love, and moved in after three months. It was definitely a “when you know, you know” situation, and I feel lucky. I’m not saying that if you hook up with someone on the first date, you’ll get married one day, but don’t rule out a relationship with someone you hook up with right away.

And if you do think you might want a relationship with this person, and they turn out to no longer be interested in you after you hook up, Queen says not to stress. “Sex-positive frisky people shouldn’t mourn the loss of a potential relationship with someone like that,” she explains. “You are not compatible with them!”

At the end of the day, the decision of whether or not to hook up on the first date is one only you can make. “Enjoying casual sex is a choice like so many other sexual choices: engaging in kinky play, enjoying porn, sex with toys, sex with the lights on!” Queen explains. “And what matters is you are clear about what you want, what your boundaries are, you can communicate about that, you know what safety protocols you need to master, and you seek out people who are compatible.” Only you know that’s best for you. Maybe it’s having sex on the first date, and maybe it’s waiting a week, a month, or a year. It’s your call, and whatever you want to do, it’s about you and your partner.

 

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