5 Signs He Will Never Cheat

5 Signs He Will Never Cheat

For all the over thinking ladies out there who are worried about their men being unfaithful, this article aims to help put your mind at ease.

We’ve all heard the story before. Man grows bored in the relationship, he decides to sneak around behind his woman’s back. He gets caught. The girl throws a fit and gets her heart-broken and the relationship is never the same after that. It’s the same old narrative, and we still wonder why it happens to often. Why do men cheat? Why can’t they just ever be loyal or honest? Why is it so difficult for men to just stay away from infidelity? These are but some of the most pressing relationship questions that no one can give a definitive answer for.

The reason why there are no definitive answers for it is because of the complexity of relationships in general. Each relationship brings with it very specific characteristics and so it can be very difficult to pinpoint and generalize the possible reasons for infidelity. However, one thing is for sure though: infidelity is never healthy for any relationship. A lot of peoples’ feelings get hurt as a result of cheating and there’s just no denying the emotional toll it wreaks on peoples’ lives.

It shouldn’t come to anyone’s surprise that most marriages come to an end once an affair is brought out into the open. That’s why a lot of women are paranoid at the thought that their man would ever cheat on them. That’s why some women have crazy tendencies to be very protective and snoopy on their men. They will act like that “crazy” girl who wants to read her man’s text messages and emails. You can’t really blame these women knowing how rampant cheating is in relationships these days. It seems like if you’re in a loyal and loving relationship nowadays, you are the rarity; you are the outlier.

So for all the paranoid ladies out there who are worried about their men being unfaithful, this article aims to help put your mind at ease. You shouldn’t have to be constantly worrying about the loyalty of your man. You just have to be on the lookout for some of these signs. If your man happens to exhibit a lot of the things that are about to be listed on here, then he’s probably never going to cheat on you. However, if a lot of the items on this list are nonexistent in your relationship, then perhaps you have a cause for worry.

Here are a few signs that your man is never ever going to cheat on you.

1. He practices pure honesty with you at all times.

He is always honest with you when it comes to both the little things and the important things. He always tells you the truth about his whereabouts. He has no problems with being open and honest about his feelings. He always expresses to you his true opinions. He doesn’t hesitate when it comes to revealing his true colors because he knows that you love him enough to accept him for his flaws so as long as he remains true to you.

2. He makes an effort to always keep you in the loop.

You don’t even have to keep messaging or calling him to ask about where he is about a particular moment. You don’t even have to keep asking him about what he’s up to. You don’t have to keep pestering him about his plans. You don’t have to keep asking him about what’s bothering him. He’s an open book to you. He will willingly take the initiative to keep you informed on the ins and outs of his life. He would never want to make you feel excluded at all.

3. He is always keeping himself busy.

If he is the type of guy who is always doing something, then chances are he probably will not have the time to engage in any 3rd party relationships at all. If he’s always getting caught up with his work, hobbies, or fitness routines, then he really doesn’t have time for dating other women. Unless of course he sneaks off at night when you are asleep, but it would be highly unlikely he would have the energy to do so with such a busy schedule.

4. He has burned all bridges with previous relationship partners.

A lot of times, men will cheat on their current women with their previous flames. That’s why if your man has burned all bridges with his exes, then you really don’t have to worry much about him cheating on you with his old partners. It means that he’s moved on from them. He’s cut all ties from them because the only woman he wants to commit himself to is you.

5. He always puts your needs above his own.

A selfless man is a man who would never cheat. He is incredibly sensitive and he knows how much it would hurt you for him to cheat on you. He would never want to do anything that would bring you heartache or despair. All he wants to do is make you happy for the rest of your days spent together.

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Ambria – Chapter 12 – Dan Dan

I’ve been seeing Ambria a lot lately.

We head to Dan Dan and Chet is working the bar and all is right in the world. The place is spars on a Monday night so we’re good. It’s early and we grab a pair of seats at the bar. Chet sets me up with my signature Chardonnay with a side of ice and we take it from there. Ambria orders a glass of Rose’ and we’re good.

We talk about life, and the film we saw, and how we felt about it. (See: Ambria – Movie Rendezvous) With my twenty-five years in the banking industry I can speak to everything that happened and why, buy we also discuss the greater implications as to why it happened. I love that I can talk to Ambria about such things and even though she doesn’t understand it all, she’s so attentive to learn what I know.

She gives me a new perspective on things and I hope I do the same for her. I love to learn new things and my heart and mind are always open to learn new perspectives. Things she saw and felt during the film in conjunction with mine.

There is a mutual closeness between us and an electric sexual connection that smolders below the surface of every word we speak. She’s smart, sarcastic and sexy all in the same sentence. It’s really delightful to me.

Chet asks if we’d like to order food as it’s last call for food on happy hour. I know happy hour never ends for me here no matter what I order from Chet whenever I come here, but unlike Roman at Square it doesn’t extend to my guests. Just me.

Ambria and I go back to the film we saw today.

“When I was watching Abucus today when I saw the Sund family ripping into all of that chinese food it made me crave Asian cuisine.”

“Well let’s take a look at this happy hour menu.”

“Yes, Please.”

I check the menu and Chet ribs me that all I ever order are fried chicken pot stickers. But there is something called “Dan Dan baby noodles.”

“Give us that.”

Chet: “There’s pork in that.”

Ambria: ” Do it.”

Within minutes out come a white bowl full of slender noodles with seasoings and meat. Chet serves it to us and tosses it with a fork and spoon. If I were starving, I could crush that, but after a couple of beers, tacos and a basket of fries at the other dive, I’m ready to share.

We drop our orange cloth napkins in our laps and reach for our chopsticks. From coming here I’ve gotten better with their utensils. Ambria is thrilled.

“I saw the Sung family tearing into all of that delicious Chinese and I want these noodles so bad.”

Ambria takes the lead, and dives in with the fork and spoon and delivers me my portion onto my plate. I am a neat eater and prefer a knife and fork, but I’m ready to roll here today. I tell her it could end up being a “Lady and the Tramp” moment but It’ll still be fun. I’ve never had the baby noodles.

Can I just tell you all right now that if you are ever in Philly between the hours of 4:30 and 6:30, go to Dan Dan, say hello to Chet, and order the happy hour baby noodles.  They are absolutely fabulous. Warm, a little spicy, but not too much and so deliciously savory. Tip him well because he’s my friend, but the noodle bowl will only cost you $5 bucks!

They were so good Ambria attacked them twice and thrice!

I loved them too and decided that if I were ever hungry around dinnertime on a Monday or a Wednedsay, I’m SO going to Dan Dan, slug Chardonnay with Chet and crush an entire bowl of these glorious noodles.

They were that good!

I’ve had another glorious day with Ambria. There is so much more to come.

Literally.

I pay the bill, and she takes the remainder of the noodles in a doggie bag. I’m envious that she will bask in that treat tomorrow and I will not. (It’s that good!)

I pay the bill, and it’s reasonable because my wines are $4. I love the fiscal balance of this relationship. It can only get better.

Chet tells us he’ll be on vacation next week so I tell him to rest up and I’ll see him in another week.

Ambria and I step out onto 16th Street and I se my buddy Brad from Marathon sitting on the stoop two doors down from his job. He’s taking a smoke break. I ran into him last week with Ambria and he was with his hot young girlfriend. But today’s different. He’s alone. I introduce her and we chat. I tell him everybody tells me I should be a bartender for the last ten years. He told me I’d be perfect. I tell him I would do a free internship at a beer and shot tavern to learn the ropes. He says I should lie, use his name and weasel into a bartending gig. I love that idea, but I don’t think I can do that. I want to do it my way. But I’ll give it some thought. Even Ambria loves the idea of me as a bartender two nights a week and lying my way into it.

It’s time.

I have so much going on, but I feel that if I don’t become Bryan Brown in the film Cocktail, I’ll always regret it.

I know once I learned the mechanics of it I’d be one of the most deadly bartenders in the city.

I never worked in a tanning salon before and I became the king of that place, and now we’re going into business together and opening a gym in Rittenhouse, why shouldn’t I pursue this? I’m a natural.

The game is changing and so am I as I evolve. It’s all going to work out as long as I keep moving forward. If you’ve been reading this blog since Fall 2016 you know, shit is working.

I walk lovely Ambria up to 16th and Market. She says she is getting a train in 20 minutes. I offer to send baby home in an UBER, but she says he’s fine. She asks me what I’m going to do with the rest of my night now that it’s nearly 10pm.

“Go home, and get out of these clothes. Pour a vodka club. Light a cig, and watch Netflix.

We’re standing in the exact spot that we did on our first date. Under the scaffolding on the northeast corner of 16th street. I hold her close and we kiss. The kiss that has been waiting for us both all day. The lovely swirling kiss. The passion you have in that moment of the new and the beloved. Your hand as it gently slides behind her neck as you light the fire between you. She can’t escape and doesn’t want to. She attacks with more vigor than you.

That’s your girl.

Think about the other one.

The girlfriend kiss.

(You know how that feels. It’s different)

One is never enough.

Two is really…. nice.

Three is magic.

It’s inevitable at this point. You know what’s going to happen in the coming days.

You met her on Tinder. This is the new world. She thought it was a hookup site. Her friends told her about it. She had reservations about it. It is a hookup site for some, but more and more people are meeting on Tinder and getting married. That’s a real thing. Welcome to the new world. This is how people connect now.  Congratulations if you met your spouse through any other conduit. It’s over. This is how it’s done now for the masses. There are a lot of dogs out there but you don’t have to crawl back to your loser middle school crush and hope you can live the American Dream and pray to God you can have a normal life that all of your Facebook friends will find acceptable. They all suck anyway. You know it. I know it. The best people are a just a text away. Delete Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.

But online dating? I got on this to write a dating blog.

I’ve been wildly successful on these platforms, because I have game. But I’ve met a pile of losers.  But there have been some lovely diamonds in here.

Find your diamond.

If you find one, God bless if you can handle it.

If you find TWO. Call me. You probably can’t handle it but we should probably hang out and have a drink, because even I could use your support. I’ll help you manage those lovely ladies.

 

Feels like Michelle in 2008.

But different.

Not so manic. More in control of it all now. I like this. I think I’ve finally found what’s right for me.

Two girlfriends at the same time. Cherie and Ambria.

 

 

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