Dating and Relationship Advice: 11 Signs You Can Totally Trust Your Partner

11 Signs You Can Totally Trust Your Partner

While part of trust is simply taking your partner’s word, these little indicators make it easier to know you’re in a loving, stable relationship.

She shares all her feelings

Being honest about all of her thoughts and feelings is one of the biggest signs you can trust your partner, says Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and author of The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference. “Openness and vulnerability in conversation—their willingness to really open up their heart and share what they’re really thinking, even if it puts them at risk for ridicule and being criticized for you—that is a scary thing in a lot of relationships,” she says. That said, just because your partner doesn’t immediately jump to tell you her thoughts doesn’t mean she isn’t willing to share. Talking helps some people process their emotions, but other people need alone time to sort out their feelings. Even if it takes a couple of hours (or even a couple of days) for your partner to open up, that emotional discussion shows a deep level of trust.

He admits when he’s wrong

Admitting small screw-ups—like when your partner put the wrong type of gas in the car—shows that he’s willing to be honest and trusts you when he’s vulnerable. “If you can’t take responsibility for the small things, you can’t take responsibility for the big things,” says Aniesa Schneberger, MA, LMHC, founder of Tampa Life Change. “When we hide things and lie and get defensive, we’re afraid to let that person in.”

She gushes about details of the day

A partner with nothing to hide will give you consistent stories that don’t have big gaps of information. “There’s trust if they’re willing to talk about things, give you details, sometimes share additional details, and have no hesitations,” says Pepper Schwartz, PhD, co-author of Snap Strategies for Couples: 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls.

He looks for excuses to touch you

Sex isn’t the only sign of physical intimacy in a relationship. Holding your hand and giving you a kiss in the morning show that you have a deep connection. Your couple sleeping positions may also indicate how close you two really are. “How a couple is intimate with each other physically says a lot about how much they trust each other on a deeper level,” Schneberger says. “Coming behind you to give you a hug when you’re cooking is intimacy. It’s not just the sexual act of sex—it’s those little things.”

You share a bank account

“It’s become very common for people to hear when they get married, ‘Keep a bank account on the side so if he flakes out, you can support yourself,’” Feldhahn says. “A sign of trust is if they’re willing to totally put themselves ‘at risk’ and be very open about finances.” The act of hiding money from your partner shows that, at a certain level, you expect the worst from your partner. Even if you have separate bank accounts, being open about finances shows you depend on each other and trust each other enough to be left vulnerable.

She goes out of her way to put you at ease

Accept your partner’s gestures of faithfulness if you’ve been feeling insecure. For instance, if you feel threatened about her attractive business partner but she offers to introduce you to him, she’s going out of your way to prioritize your relationship. “It’s always important to show your partner that they come first,” Dr. Schwartz says. “It’s just going out of your way to make sure your partner isn’t feeling insecure and untrusting.”

He drops everything to talk to you

Turning around from doing the dishes or resisting the urge to get up for a glass of water during a discussion are good indicators that he cares about what you’re saying. “The front of the body facing the front of the other person’s body is a big indicator of trust,” Schneberger says. Closed-off body language like crossing your arms are putting your hands on your hips could do the opposite and tell your partner you’re not interested, she says. Even if that guarded position is just a comfortable stance for you, try to keep your body language open to show you’re listening.

She lets you do the talking

Sitting in silence while you’re venting about your bad day shows that your partner respects your feelings. “A lot of time we try to fill the space with suggestions or ideas of how to help that person,” Schneberger says. “That often doesn’t help, because the other person just wants to be heard.” If you’re the one doing the listening, try not to let the silence make you uncomfortable. When she’s let out her feelings, ask if there’s anything you can do to help rather than immediately volunteering your advice.

His questions don’t feel like an interrogation

Often—though not always—people get suspicious of a partner because they can imagine themselves making the problems they accuse their partner of, Dr. Schwartz says. So if your partner trusts you, he won’t give off those skeptical vibes. “You show support by displaying that you do, in fact, believe and trust that person by taking their word at face value, not grilling them,” Dr. Schwartz says. “Wholehearted acceptance of what that person is saying or asking follow-up questions that show interest in what happened as opposed to what did or did not happen show trust.”

She hands you her phone while she’s driving

You shouldn’t go snooping through your partner’s messages when she’s not there, but if she hands you her phone without being prompted, you’ll know he has nothing to hide. “It’s not like you should go and check up on somebody, because that makes you the police, and that’s not healthy,” Feldhahn says. “But it’s to just know ‘I’m an open book in technology and if you happen to be there, there’s nothing I wouldn’t want you to see.’”

Conversation feels natural

11 Signs You Can Totally Trust Your Partner

A good liar knows that fibbers supposedly can’t look you in the eye, so a deceitful partner might overcompensate by looking you straight in the eye. “When someone’s telling the truth, they don’t have to be so dramatic,” Dr. Schwartz says. “If being trustworthy, people are casual and direct.”

 

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Cherie – Chapter 34 – It’s All About The Journey – Part 2

“Cherie has come along and pulled me from a cold black river named Annabelle.”

I’ve never given up. I never will. I’ve been driven by my heart and passion my entire life, but those powers forever remain if your heart is open. I’ve always believed this. “Be true to thyself” my dad always said. I know he read that somewhere, but it’s a solid piece of advice.

I now know real love is achievable at this point in my life. It’s not the prettiest girl you can close, or the youngest girl, or anything like that. You can find it in a stranger and connect with her in a way that’s beyond the traditional structures you’ve been taught. Love is all around you.

Just keep going.

Learn from your mistakes. Be a better and more patient man. Mind your manners and always be giving and romantic. That never gets old.

She’s out there for you and I hope everyone reading this finds their him or her.

I’d love to hold onto this lady forever.

My Mother once said, ‘you never know, life is a dice roll’. She was probably talking about her marriage with my dad but that is a blog post for later.

But for now I will bask in the sunlight of this lovely relationship. She really seems perfect for me, but you never know. This is a dating blog. I started this journey dating women and striking out. Babe Ruth struck out all the time. But we know that story. Michael Jordan practiced non stop and did free throws and struggled for years.

But he kept at it.

Don’t give up. Keep your heart open. Too many people close their eyes and heart and become bitter.  Stay positive. Keep loving the little things in life your health and your family and all of the good things in your life.

An open heart is a new day. Every day is a new opportunity to meet someone. Don’t obsess about it.

If you meet someone be cautious but real.

“We always want that which retreats from us.” – The Tao of Steve

You can do it.

I could go down in flames in the next year and this could be over. I’ll have lost again for the fourth time in a row!

But you have to evolve and put yourself out there because you never know. Swipe right, be cautious and have fun. Don’t push to hard. You’ll know when you meet a good one.

The universe will unfold as it should for us all.

Don’t be bitter on your past relationships and don’t carry that crap around with you. Clear your mind. If you don’t it’s just you drinking the poison hoping the other person dies.

And that is a waste of time.

The cage you’re in right now is of your own making. Drop the bars and walk the fuck out and go meet somebody. It can be done. I’m living proof of that.

There are so many people out there that would LOVE to meet you. You’re not great, you’re just human. We are a social species, so go out there and make it happen.

Cherie has come along and pulled me from the cold black river named Annabelle.

(See: Annabelle – Guy walks into a bar – 2013 to 2014)

Falling in real love is like being in a raging sea and washing up on a warm sunny beach with a drink in your hand and a lovely girl next to you. She always assures you she loves you more than you love her. No one ever reveals that. Most don’t know where they stand in a relationship, but she does. She’s happy in her role. you can’t believe your fortune or the reveal. You have the power to squander or embrace.

You go in for the sweet hug.

I’d love to go on more about this but I have to go bang my girlfriend back to the Stone Age.

I’m so glad I installed air bags in the headboard of my bed.

 

Love you all for still following and not turning the hose on us.

 

 

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