9.He Changes The Subject So That You’re Always Talking About Him
Nobody likes spending time with someone who’s utterly self-absorbed. While it’s bad enough for a casual acquaintance or a friend to act that way, it’s a totally insufferable trait in a partner. Often, narcissists like this start off seeming totally normal. They show an interest in your thoughts and feelings and seem to genuinely care about your opinions. However, once they have you tied down, it’s a whole other story. You end up acting more like an emotional caretaker than a partner. Everything is about them: your actions, your feelings, even your thoughts are overwhelmed by their need for attention. They see you as nothing more than an emotional servant of sorts. If you try to bring up your own thoughts or feelings, you’re labeled selfish and accused of not caring about your partner. These kinds of partners are toxic influences and have no place in the life of a happy person. If you’re in a relationship like this, the damage done may be irreparable.
8. He Turns Down Intimate Time Whenever You Suggest It
While romantic relationships aren’t all about the physical aspect of things, having a healthy intimate relationship is still pretty important. It brings an added sense of closeness to a couple – and it’s pretty enjoyable, too! If a physical connection is lacking, you’re basically just best friends who hang out a lot. If your partner consistently turns down intimate time for no apparent reason, it could be a sign that the romantic element of your relationship is in trouble. The first step is obviously to talk to your partner about it; it could be that a specific issue is going on that’s affecting this area of his life. The relationship might not be doomed if you can find a solution to the issue or even just a compromise. However, a prolonged ‘dead bedroom’ situation could spell the end of your time together.
7. He Flinches When You Go To Hold His Hand
It might sound like a pretty basic and unimportant gesture, but hand-holding is a surprisingly intimate act. It’s soothing, sweet, and a simple way to make someone feel appreciated and loved. Let’s face it, it’s probably the first physical milestone that all couples pass, and it becomes second nature after a while. A sudden unwillingness to engage in hand-holding could be a sign that your partner is having doubts about your relationship. If he won’t even give you this simple gesture of love, is he going to make the effort to care for you in other ways? If physical contact apparently makes him that uncomfortable, does he really want to be romantically involved with you any more? It’s an issue that you should definitely address before his behavior towards you escalates into an even colder territory.
6. He Constantly Puts Other People Before You
Finding a balance between prioritizing your partner and looking out for the other people in your life can be tricky. How do you make sure that you’re not neglecting your significant other in favor of your friends, or vice versa? Unfortunately, it’s very hard to spread your time in a way that pleases everyone. However, that doesn’t mean you can totally ignore your partner to please your friends. While prioritizing a friend in need over your girlfriend is necessary sometimes, ditching her for your pals shouldn’t be a constant occurrence. If your partner is constantly leaving you behind to focus on everyone else in his life, it’s worth considering how much you actually mean to him and whether the relationship is worth salvaging. The harsh truth is that if he isn’t spending any time with you, he most likely just doesn’t want to. You deserve better than that kind of apathy.
5. When He’s With You, His Body Is Always Tense Or Hunched
A tense body often reflects a tense mind. If your partner’s body language suggests that there’s something negative occupying his thoughts, it might be time to address it rather than let him bottle his feelings up. Common signs of this are being twitchy and nervous, being unable to stay still, and frequently getting lost in thought. Likewise, having closed body language could indicate that your partner wants to hide their feelings or negativity from you. However, it’s always better to let frustrations and anxieties out before they escalate. Staying silent could lead to a huge blowout and a potentially relationship-ending argument. If it seems like your partner has unresolved tensions that he’s not expressing, try to coax him into sharing what’s bothering him. It’ll minimize the damage that such frustrations could do to your relationship.
4. Where He Once Would Soothe And Reassure You, He Now Criticizes You
Nobody likes to be criticised. It bruises the ego and makes us question our validity and worth. However, it’s even worse when harsh words come from someone who once supported us, or from someone who claims to love us. Sure, we all need to have our flaws pointed out to us sometimes, but if your partner seems to do nothing but tear you down, something is seriously wrong. This is especially the case if criticism comes after you’ve asked for reassurance or emotional support from your partner. In happier times, your partner may have gladly provided soothing words to placate your anxieties. However, if all they do is criticize you for getting upset in the first place, your relationship is probably on the rocks. Your partner should be there to raise you up, not bring you down even further.
3. He Kisses You With Closed Or Stiff Lips
That’s right: even the way he kisses you can provide a clue to the state of your relationship. In a healthy relationship, a ‘hello’ kiss should be soft, sweet, and welcoming. It should last for a reasonable amount of time: your loving partner will want to savor the feeling of his lips on yours. He’ll pull you close, turning it into an embrace rather than just a quick peck. However, things will be markedly different if the relationship is turning sour. The kiss will be brief, cold, and emotionless. His lips will be closed and stiff, and he’ll make as little contact with the rest of your body as possible. This lack of intimacy and general hostility is a major sign that he’s checked out of your relationship. He’s trying to generate as little affection as possible, decreasing the amount he gives you until he finally leaves you. It’s better to nip something like this in the bud: if you see the initial signs that his kisses are becoming more emotionless, have a frank talk about how happy he really is in the relationship.
2. During Arguments, His Body Language Is Practically Threatening
Acting aggressively or threateningly towards a partner is never acceptable, but it’s especially concerning when you’re in the middle of an argument. It can be terrifying for the object of the person’s rage: what if the altercation becomes physical? How far can their anger go? It also suggests that your partner simply cannot deal with disagreements healthily, something that can only spell bad news for the relationship. If you can’t trust your partner to listen to your concerns without totally blowing up, it’s time to re-evaluate your situation. Even subtle incidents of belittlement or frustration can be a sign that things are deteriorating between you. A loving partner simply wouldn’t treat you like that. At even the slightest sign of an anger issue in your significant other, have a frank discussion about the problem. It’s better to deal with it when it’s minor than wait until the situation escalates and becomes dangerous. Even small actions like finger-pointing, aggressive hand gestures, or stomping around can turn into something more sinister if left unchallenged.
- When You’re Out, He Walks Way In Front Of You
When you’re out for a walk with your partner, you’d expect to spend your time side-by-side. You might hold hands, walk-and-talk, or point out your beautiful surroundings. Whatever you’re doing, you’re likely to present a united front. The happiest couples often take synchronized steps or even mimic each other’s walking style! While this kind of closeness isn’t for everyone, it’s certainly a lot healthier than your partner totally ignoring you when you’re out in public. A major red flag is your man choosing to walk for out in front of you rather than by your side. He’s literally leaving you behind! He’s making it very clear that he doesn’t want to be in your company and is almost treating you like a stranger. This kind of behavior can cause serious self-doubt to creep in on your part. Is he embarrassed to be seen with you? Is he so sick of you that he can’t bear having you next to him? It might be time to ask him these questions rather than obsessing over them alone. Opening a dialogue is way better than letting hostility fester until the relationship is fatally damaged.
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