Dating and Relationship Advice – 11 Pictures To Send Your Partner If You Feel The Passion Fading

If you’re anything like me, the first thing you do when there’s a special moment is reach for your phone and snap a photo (or 20 million, with very slight adjustments to the angle of your face, because let’s be real it makes a big difference). The result is, over time, your phone basically becomes a historical document with archives of special moments captured in images. That also means you have a ton of pictures to send your partner if the passion fades to choose from, if or when your relationship hits a natural lull.

It may be clichéd to say that relationships take work, but that doesn’t make it any less true. There are natural ups and downs for any couple, but the key is to just recognize when things slow down instead of panicking and doing something rash to “fix” it. One of the easiest ways to do that is to just remind your partner (and yourself) how things felt early on when the passion came easy, plus all the ways that you’re making each other’s lives happier and more fulfilling. But it’s not all nostalgia. You can also take some new pictures that remind them exactly why you’re their bae. Here’s some ideas to get you started, and it’s as easy as scrolling all the way up.

 

1. A Photo Of The First Place You Met

If you want to recall a time when the passion was popping, then take it all the way back to the beginning with photos of the place you first met. If you have one of the two of you there, amazing. If you don’t, no worries — just a selfie of you or the place itself should be enough to get those happy memories flowing.

2. A Sexy Photo Of You At Work “Just Thinking” About Them

Who doesn’t love knowing that the person you love can’t get you out of their head? A seemingly spontaneous picture of you looking sexy and “thinking” of them is a very effective way of kick starting the old libido. Just be ready to follow through when you get home.

3. That Cute Selfie Of The Two Of You On Vacation

The daily pressure of life in general can be a real passion killer, but vacation? That’s a whole other story. You may not be able to pack a bag and catch a plane tonight, but you can help inspire that mind-set with a photo that triggers memories of fun days and oh-so-sexy nights.

4. A Photo Suggesting A New Romantic Vacation

It also doesn’t hurt to have something to look forward to. Maybe send them a pic of a place you’d like to go together or a screenshot of some killer airfare deal. Something that will help their mind wander to your next adventure together.

 

5. A Sweet Selfie Of You Snuggling With Your Shared Pet

The quickest way to my heart is with aww-worthy photos of my cats. Who doesn’t love cute selfies of the human you love with the critter you love too? It just gives me the warm, family fuzzies.

6. A Throwback Photo Of A Special Memory

Nostalgia is powerful. Use it to your benefit with a picture of a special moment the two of you shared. Maybe it’s from the day you both said “I love you,” or when you had your first kiss. Anything that will remind you about those early butterfly filled days will help to fire things back up.

 

7.A Shot Of You Looking Amazing From A Time You Know They Were Feeling You

Remember that night you put on that special dress, or the pants that made your booty look right? Well, make sure your boo does too by sending them a picture from a night you know they thought you looked especially hot.

 

8. A Pic Of The Two Of You Doing Something You Love To Do Together

My partner and I love to play board games. Before we met, I hadn’t played them in years, so it’s one of the ways that our relationship has made my life more fun, and it’s something special that we do together. Think of an activity that you love to share with your partner and send them a little reminder — especially if it’s something you haven’t been able to do in a while and you’d like to make some time for.

 

9. A Thoughtful Image Of You Doing Something They’ll Appreciate

Like the pic of you doing something you love together, you doing something for them that either they didn’t want to do, or that’s just a sweet gesture for them is a great way to show how much you care about them!

 

10. A Cheeky Selfie Of You At The Lingerie Store

One very effective way to put the spark back into the relationship is with some sexy teasing. Send them a cute selfie of you outside a lingerie store, going in to buy something extra special for tonight. Their imagination is going to be racing.

 

11. A Sexy AF Photo Of You Teasing What You Bought At The Lingerie Store

Last but not least, send them one more pic of you back home with your special purchase. But just a tease! Don’t give them a full show, that’s for IRL later tonight.

Come on, with all this photographic proof of how awesome your relationship is, how could your partner not be feeling the passion? You came with the receipts, girl!

 

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Sheryl – Not the Muse

Back in the 90’s I worked in banking. I was a branch manager at First Union Bank in South Philly. I was taking some college courses at night paid for by the bank. That’s where I met a 22-year-old Sheryl. She was in some finance course I was taking. Cute little blonde that I got to know on smoke breaks during class.

We became friendly and started meeting at a bar called Charlie Brown’s in Woodbury, New Jersey. Back then you could smoke in bars and we’d do just that. Drink martinis and smoke cigs and chat. She worked at a local bank as a teller.

Sheryl had kind of a rough upbringing. I don’t remember most of the details, but her family life was pretty dysfunctional and she had been with some outlaw type boyfriends. One which broke her jaw during an argument. So at 22 she had already seen a lot of bad things and made even worse choices.

We would meet up about once a month. I was writing a book back then entitled: Angel with a Broken Wing. Sheryl became the inspiration for one of the characters in the book. She was the friend to the main character who he should have made his girlfriend because they were so good together. But of course our hapless hero chooses the hotter, crazier chick in the story.

The crazy chick was inspired by a real life hot, crazier girl I met in another class I was taking. That girl was actually the muse. She’s the one who inspired me to write the book. But that’s a whole other insane story I’ll get to at a later date in this blog.

I would read the drafts to Sheryl during our sessions and she loved it. She adored being the inspiration of a cool character in my manuscript. We began to have a romantic relationship. Which developed into a sexual relationship.

Sheryl had a dark sexual fantasy she told me one night. She said she wanted to give me a key to her apartment. I was asked not to tell her when I was coming over and to park my car around the corner. I would surprise her and we’d enjoy a bit of scary role play for fun.

Yea. Dark stuff. back then I was a more sexually daring and a darker man in my 30’s. So I was up for it mentally, but didn’t know if I could physically play that twisted game with someone I cared about. She really wanted it but I will tell you now, it never happened. It remained a fantasy and that’s it. I’m glad about that and don’t regret that we didn’t do it.

We lost touch when she moved to California for a while. I think she went to live near her mom but the details are fuzzy now. It’s been 20 years since I’ve seen or spoken to her.

But you know how it is now in the wonderful world of social media. Sheryl found me on Facebook and we re-connected. We chatted a bit but lost touch again. This was a few years ago.

Then she resurfaced recently. Now she’s a woman in her mid 40’s. Hard to believe how that happens. I remember her as the cute sexy young lady and now she’s middle-aged. Just like that. Based on her Facebook profile it appears she has 2 children. I don’t know if she’s twice divorced or just once, but I definitely know she’s single.

I’m pretty sure if she’s resurfaced and started chatting with me again I could sleep with her if I wanted to. But she’s a little old for me and I’m done with that part of my life. If not for social media a lot of the people from your past would stay gone like they’re supposed to, but not anymore. But I’d have a nostalgia bang session with her just for old times sake if she wanted that. But probably not.

We’ve been texting lately and she wants to meet up at Charlie Browns like we used to for a drink.

First of all I’m not going to Jersey for anybody but family. Second, I would have to take a bus and it would take forever, cause I’m not drinking and driving for anybody.

We talk some more and she decides she’ll deal with her anxiety and hop on PATCO and take the train into Philly. I’m good with that. (Did I know she had that bad of anxiety that she’s afraid to board a train and come to Philly?  I can meet her the minute she gets off. We decide to shoot for a Sunday after 4pm when I finish at the salon.

We lock down a date and it’s on. I’m actually looking forward to seeing her after all this time. In the days leading up to our reunion, she’s blowing up my phone texting me. I don’t mind. It’s nice to reconnect.

So that Sunday I’m working in the salon and I get a text from her around noon. (We’re scheduled to meet in 4 hours)

“I apologize but I have to reschedule. Something came up involving my son. (His dad actually) and I need to stay and be with him. (son) He may pretend not to care, but he is angry and sad.”

“You suck. (lol emoji)”

“I know!! His dad was arrested. Just found out that he is facing 15 years. His dad has always been a screw up, gets locked up frequently on small shit. This time he fucked up really bad. And as much as my son says he doesn’t care, his tone of voice and body language tells me differently.”

“No worries. We’ll try again some other time.”

“Definitely! What’s your schedule like for next weekend?”

“Ok. Just move me to next Sunday then. And thank you.”

“No worries.”

And that’s where it ends. I haven’t heard from again. All of last week just radio silence. The weekend arrives and I don’t hear anything. She’s the one who wanted to see me. I could care less. I haven’t seen her in 20 years. A few more won’t make any difference to me.

I thought about what she said. I remember she was making bad decisions back in the 90’s. Is her life still filled with bullshit, problems, and drama? Because if so I don’t want any part of that. I cleaned all of the fleas and ticks out of my life last year.

But the big question on our minds is:

I wonder if she still has that home invasion fantasy?

 

Maybe I’ll reach out to her and tell her about how she’s about to be in my blog.

 

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