Dating and Relationship Advice – 5 Things Men Do That Women Just Don’t Understand (And Why)

“There are some major differences between him and you.”

We often hear about how difficult it is for men to understand women — usually leading to jokes about men wishing didn’t have to learn to read minds in order to understand women better. But there are just as many masculine behaviors that women struggle to understand, too.

The truth is, the masculine energy traits and perspective are drastically different to the feminine. Most men possess a strong, masculine essence deep within them. They can’t help it, they were bathed in masculine hormones during their entire gestational period.

Of course, that doesn’t make it wrong for men to be feminine or women to be masculine. We all have our own internal “center of gravity” when it comes to our own sexual essence. So we shouldn’t feel pressured to become more feminine if we’re women, but we don’t necessarily resonate with femininity.

The point here is for us all to understand the massive difference between these energies and therefore, have more compassion for those around us.

1. The masculine is always looking for the point.

The masculine energy is always looking for the point because the quicker he is able to get to the point, the quicker he is able to get the end result, the goal, or the touchdown. Ultimately it’s in the masculine energy to reach the goal efficiently so that he could have internal peace of mind. And that means he won’t always have a lot to tell you at the end of the day, he won’t always have a whole collection of fancy gossip.

The masculine just wants to get the job done, because it may just keep him up at night knowing that he hasn’t completed his mission.

2. The masculine looks to make big things small.

In order to score the touchdown, to complete the mission, to change the world — the masculine has to take gigantic missions and turn them into bite-size pieces so that he doesn’t feel overwhelmed. By making things small, they become simple to accomplish.

That’s why, sometimes, the masculine doesn’t like to make big deal out of things. They just get on with their lives. Whereas women living in their feminine tend to do the opposite. They make small things big, so they can fully feel their emotions.

Feminine energy lives in the flow of emotions because to the feminine, emotion is life. The better you can be attuned to your emotions, the better you can nurture life.

 

3. Feelings and emotions slow down the masculine in his mission.

Why doesn’t he have any feelings about this? Why does he look so blank?

As a feminine soul, it’s easy to be affected by emotions, as they come and go like the waves in the ocean. The masculine sees emotions as a burden — a hurdle to completing his mission. You can’t be in the middle of a buffalo hunt whilst feeling sad, angry, or even joyous.

That, of course, doesn’t mean men don’t have emotions. Au contraire, men in their masculine tend to block out emotions for the sake of their mission. But often times, when they are out of that masculine mode, they need emotional stimulation more than women in order to feel alive.

Remember, just like women, men also have both masculine and feminine parts of their soul. The only difference is our center of gravity per se.

 

4. The masculine essence doesn’t naturally feel at home in a relationship.

Wait…that doesn’t mean men don’t want relationships! It means that when men are in their masculine (imagine them hunting wild boars), they are in no condition to be aware of the relationships around them.

That’s why men pull away, disappear, or go into their man caves; all these behaviors are an indication of his masculine instincts kicking in. That’s what is intuitive for the masculine energy.

It is often the feminine energy that draws masculine men into the realm of an intimate loving relationship. As I always say, intimate relationship is a feminine domain.

 

5. Sex doesn’t mean love for the masculine.

For the masculine, sex and love are completely different worlds, and they take up completely different parts of the brain. That doesn’t mean they can’t overlap. In fact, when a man falls in love, sex and love do come together.

By default, most men intuitively understand that sex is just sex. Love is love. He could have sex with women for years and not feel an ounce of love.

However, when a man is in love, then he is living in both masculine and feminine, so he has easier access to both energies. Otherwise, if he was only in his masculine, he could and would never connect with a woman in her feminine.

If you are a woman reading this, then my hope is for you to really start to understand the masculine perspective, because the more understanding and awareness you have, the more value you can bring to the table in every single interaction with men.

 

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Sun Stories: Ben – Gym Guy

“Let me put it this way to you Achilles…Our worst prison nightmare is a decent payday for Ben.”

Ben came to us as a guy who tanned at our salon. He was always talking to Achilles about all his business deals and things. I never trusted this guy, but Achilles always gives people a couple of chances.

We were building the fitness part of our business out on Walnut street to compliment the tanning salon. I think Ben saw an opportunity to insert himself into this opportunity and came on strong.

I never got a good vibe from him but Achilles gave him a chance. At first we thought we’d bring him as a trainer because he was a fitness guy. We gave him a trial and he actually did pretty good with some of the people who came in.

But there was always something about him that gave me a bad vibe. He’s been married a couple of times. The kids live here in Philly and he lives in DC. I asked Achilles what the guy did for a living and he said he was a party planner. Apparently he worked as a personal trainer at a gym, but also worked as a driver for escorts for bachelor parties. He also told us he worked as a stripper in his past life. This guy is 48 now and dyes his hair blonde. We know he’s on steroids because he has bitch tits and is always sniffing. I’m thinking that’s coke.

I’ve lived in LA and been in the music industry. I can spot a druggie a mile away. This guy’s a loser. I don’t want him to poison what Achilles and I are working on with this gym. But I can see him trying to. He’s trying to spend more time here and work at the salon.

I tell Achilles that when I’m here Ben can under not circumstances touch anything in the salon. I run this place. This causes me stress of this weird invader, but Achilles knowing that I’m his golden goose puts the kibosh on Ben.

We’re mired in a lawsuit with the fitness center upstairs and can’t even open our little place. We’ll settle that nonsense eventually and figure it out. I’m sure we’ll just do personal strength training and it will all fall away.

But I can’t shake my suspicion about Ben. I google the shit out of this parasite. I see he has worked as a male stripper. I watch the videos. It’s gross. I’ve met his 11-year-old daughter. She’s a lovely child. I’m sure she has no idea what her dad has done.

I’m a dad, I get it. We have kids, and we’ve all done things we’re not proud of. There are things I’ve done my daughter can never know. That’s just being and adult and being responsible. They never need to know certain things. We’ve all done things we’re not especially proud of, and we let them die in silence.

But everything is online now and kids could find things. I’m just glad that all of my evil never made it to the internet. Lorelei never needs to see that, and even if she did she wouldn’t be interested and wouldn’t even look because it would be gross. But thankfully there is nothing out there on me.

I never liked Ben and always got a weird vibe from him. I didn’t want Achilles to get sucked in by another asshole because I love the salon and like every company I worked for always protect the integrity of that company. It’s what professionals do. Achilles has never had an employee like me but I bring great power and a flurry of 5 star Yelp reviews.

When I was at the salon at night I kept googling him. I needed to dig. I found some things. He was arrested 10 years ago for not paying his child support. No problem. I feel you dude. That shit is expensive and ruins your life.You missed some payments and your ex is a fucking relentless monster. I get it. I was married to that kind of fucking asshole. A relentless harpy that just wants what’s coming to her. A lonely empty cunt that will never be happy. So that’s a pass from me brother.

But I keep digging because you are trying to infiltrate what I’m doing with my partner Achilles.

Achilles tells me you want to invest in the business and cut me out. Achilles immediately tells me about this conversation and it’s not happening buddy.

I continue digging.

I keep googling you and then I come across a name that isn’t you in my search. I plugged in your name, Ben, but there is a new name that comes up.

I click on the link and learn a whole new thing about you sneaky male stripper, Ben.

I find a different name and you’re a porn actor. Payday. Not only are you are a porn actor you only do gay porn. All you ever talk about is banging girls to Achilles and me.

I watched your video’s Ben. I’m able look into the darkness and see the light. I found what I was looking for about you. I don’t care if you’re gay or straight but I watched videos of you doing everything sexual with men. Only Men. No girls. That changes one’s perception. Does gay for pay pay more than straight porn?

I called Achilles and this was our conversation:

“Dude, I’ve been googling Ben and found something.”

“What?”

“Please do not look upon this because I care about you and you’re a good man and I consider you a friend,and I don’t want to hurt you”

“What is it?”

“Ben does hard-core gay porn all the time.”

“What the fuck?”

I’m not going to mention any names but just know this dude does gay porn and only gay porn. No chicks!”

“Fuck!”

“I really looked to see if there were any girls and there are none.”

“Shit”

“Let me put it this way to you Achilles. Our worst prison nightmare is a decent payday for Ben.”

Achilles lost his shit and laughed his ass off.

We don’t really work with Ben anymore.

As a side note, I lent Ben $20 and we haven’t seen him since. So that’s a blessing. It only cost me $20 to rid our salon of him.

 

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