Dating and Relationship Advice – Men: Taking Off The Mask

When beginning any new career, hobby, or general pursuit, it’s easy to day dream about the time when all our hard work has paid off and we are basking in the glory of  fame, money, or women’s panties. It’s those daydreams that drive us to push harder, take chances, and try things outside of our comfort zone.  Therefore, for many aspiring  Casanovas, we look forward to the time where we can walk up to any woman, whether in a bar or on the street, whisper a few sweet words in her ear and she grabs us by the hand and into the back of a darkly lit booth.

As great or horrible as that might seem to you, it’s really not a one size fits all dream. It might be hard to believe, but not every guy out there wants to sleep with everything with a vagina.  Some guys just want help asking out their secret crush, best friend, or help finding a date in general and they turn to the phicklephilly community in order to help them achieve their goal, and there is nothing wrong with that. On almost a daily basis, it’s not uncommon for me to educate both men and women, that the majority of guys aren’t looking to sleep with hundreds of women, they just want help finding that one special woman to settle down and start a family with.

Now there are many different books, routines, and experts out there who claim they know the secrets to picking up women, and we’re no different.  However, at the end of the day, you will find that the routines and methods that work best, are the ones that worked for you. Just like there are thousands of diets and exercise plans out there, some work and some are crap, but ultimately, you are going to go with the plan that helps you both reach your goal, as well as, fit your lifestyle. So I cannot stress enough how important it is, from early on in your training, to pick the methods, routines, and approaches that fit your personality. I say this not because I don’t think certain methods will work, any method will work as long as you’re calm, confident, and try it enough times. I tell you this because at some point, you may want to settle down or establish a long-term relationship with a woman and if the man that she wakes up with the next morning or goes on that next date with is a complete 180 from the man she met at the bar telling stories and performing tricks, then it will be a very tough transition as you try to make a long term relationship work.

The concept of a Mask comes these die-hard Pick Up Artists you read about. As you read more and more of their conquests, you’ll start to see a pattern develop.  PUA sees girl, PUA approaches girl.  PUA runs routine X, Y, and Z.  PUA gets number, kiss, or sex, rinse and repeat. These guys are great at what they do, and aspiring PUAs worship them for it.  But the sad reality is that these guys are as only as deep as their bag of tricks.  Once they’ve run through their routines, there’s nothing left.  They’ve gotten so great at the game that their routines and approaches define them as a person. Without them, there is only a shell of a man because they have become a cliche’ of themselves.  They spent so much time working on and practicing how to be someone else, they forgot how to be themselves, and women will eventually see through all this.  Even if they wanted a long-term relationship, most women won’t go for it as they tire after the guy has run the same line on her from the 20th time.

It’s no secret that the main reason a routine or approach works is because you were confident when you were presenting it.  In one word, that’s the secret to being successful with women, confidence. We give you these routines to follow, because it gives you a script that you can practice, rehearse, and repeat so that it becomes second nature to you. So that every time you follow this script, you are more confident, because A. you believe that it will work, and B. it comes from a higher authority with their stamp of approval.  Have you ever given a speech?  Did you prepare ahead of time or did you just make it up on the spot and wing it. If you just made it up, I bet it was hard to give, might have flubbed over some words. But if you prepared and rehearsed, it was easier to deliver, your speech was strong and your body language was confident. The same concept applies to approaches and routines.

So I encourage you to take off the mask and incorporate your personality into the routines you run and don’t try to incorporate elements that don’t fit who you are. If you aren’t good with wordplay, don’t attempt so much banter.  If you don’t like being the center of attention, don’t try and perform a stupid magic trick that involves a large group of people to pull off.  But do incorporate parts of your personality, tell personal stories, talk about your hobbies, don’t show fake action shots of the activities you’re expected to be doing. Instead, modify the routine to fit parts of you into it.  Sure it requires some thought and there is more work on your part, as well as it doesn’t carry the same stamp of approval because you went off the script a little. But I guarantee that you will find success because you are no longer the same guy who struggled around women a few months ago, you are confident and women are drawn to that confidence, and because of this, they will be interested in the things that you might have thought kept you from getting a girl before. The worst thing that can happen is they say no and you move back to the things that worked, but you just might find yourself making a real connection this time around. That is of course if you’re looking to make one. If all you want is as many numbers and one night stands as you can get, see girl, approach girl, run routine X, Y, and Z.

 

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Celebrity Sightings: Elisany da Cruz Silva

‘I have always wanted to go out with a tall girl and she came and fit that perfectly.”

 

The world’s tallest bride: 6ft 8in Brazilian teenager to marry her 5ft 4in boyfriend.

  • Elisany suffers from gigantism from a tumour on her pituitary gland
  • Couple have been together three years and have lived together for a year
  • Elisany still draws stares but Francinaldo says he is proud to show her off
  • The pair want a long engagement but are already planning the wedding
  • Although only 18, she hopes to conceive soon due to fears over her fertility

 

Brazil’s loftiest teen is set to become the world’s tallest bride after her compact fiancée popped the big question.

Aspiring model Elisany da Cruz Silva – who is a staggering 6ft 8ins tall – has been dating 5ft 4ins Francinaldo da Silva Carvalho for more than three years.

Despite a massive 1ft 4ins between them, Francinaldo had no problem increasing the distance by dropping to one knee after a romantic stroll along the beach.

With well over a foot difference between their heights, Elisany and Francinaldo have more difficulty than most couples kissing after becoming engaged

With well over a foot difference between their heights, Elisany and Francinaldo have more difficulty than most couples kissing after becoming engaged

Brazil's tallest teen Elisany Da Silva accepts her new fiancee Francinaldo Carvalho's proposal on March 29, 2014 in Salinopolis, Brazil

Francinaldo gets down on one knee to ask his girlfriend of three years to marry him

Brazil’s tallest teen Elisany Da Silva accepts her new fiancee Francinaldo Carvalho’s proposal on March 29, 2014 in Salinopolis, Brazil

The lovestruck pair have shared a small home in the Brazilian town of Salinopolis for one year and are hoping to soon hear the pitter patter of tiny feet.

Elisany is so stuck on having a child that she is willing to adopt if she does not fall pregnant soon – despite being only 18.

The youngster is worried that she may not conceive because of a form of gigantism that was caused when a tumour grew on her pituitary gland.

Despite this the couple are still looking forward to a long and happy life together.

Remembering the romantic proposal, Elisany said: ‘I told him many times, ‘do not ask me to marry you because my answer will be no’ – I think that’s what he was thinking.

‘I was so nervous when I saw him there. I don’t even know how I coped.’

Construction worker Francinaldo added: ‘I have always wanted to go out with a tall girl and she came and fitted into that perfect.

Elisany

Despite planning a long engagement, Elisany has already picked out her wedding dress

Despite planning a long engagement, Elisany has already picked out her wedding dress

Elisany's height still draws stares, even in her hometown, but Francinaldo says the attention doesn't bother him and he is proud to show her off

Elisany’s height still draws stares, even in her hometown, but Francinaldo says the attention doesn’t bother him and he is proud to show her off

The couple is planning on a long engagement despite Elisany already having a dress for the big day.

‘We think how will the preparations for the wedding be, the church, the best men and bridesmaids,’ added Francinaldo.

‘We have taken just one step towards the wedding – which was me asking her to marry me.

‘We are giving it some time to get it all in order.’

The newly engaged couple have not always seen eye to eye and Francinaldo had to work hard to get the ring on Elisany’s finger.

‘When we met I had already turned 16,’ she said.

‘I was still a bit childish and so I was just playing around with him for a while and I got so annoyed with him – as if he was a rival that I hated.

‘I just didn’t like him and wanted to hit him every time we met.’

But little Francinaldo has a big heart and remembers their meeting a little differently.

He said: ‘The first time I saw her I went to get some bread and I noticed her from a distance.

‘I checked her out and she also checked me out straight away.

‘Then I just thought, “I need to be with that girl”. I always found her beautiful.’

The newly engaged couple have not always seen eye to eye and Francinaldo had to work hard to get the ring on Elisany's finger

The newly engaged couple have not always seen eye to eye and Francinaldo had to work hard to get the ring on Elisany's finger

The newly engaged couple have not always seen eye to eye and Francinaldo had to work hard to get the ring on Elisany’s finger, but the couple now can not wait to wed

And the hate eventually turned to love for Elisany when she became jealous of Francinaldo’s prowess with the ladies.

‘He was talking to another girl and I was jealous,’ she said.

‘He intrigued me – I wanted to know more about him.’

Despite the pair being completely in love, not everyone is as happy about the new engagement.

Elisany’s mother, Ana Maria Ramos, said: ‘I don’t know how this could happen – this proposal.

‘It was a surprise – no-one was expecting it.

Elisany seen here as a young, aspiring model,  is so stuck on having a child that she is willing to adopt if she does not fall pregnant soon - despite being only 18

Elisany seen here as a young, aspiring model, is so stuck on having a child that she is willing to adopt if she does not fall pregnant soon – despite being only 18

‘In spite of everything she is still a very young girl with a lot ahead of her.

‘She is sometimes a bit difficult to him but I’ve never seen him treating her badly.

‘He has been an excellent person.’

Elisany still draws stares while walking down the street where she has lived her entire life and is often referred to as the giant girl.

Francinaldo said: ‘I keep telling her to get out more so that people don’t feel so curious about her.
‘When we go for a walk people keep staring saying ‘look at that giant girl’.

‘It really bothers me because people don’t have the consciousness of thinking that she’s also a human being.’

But despite drawing stares Francinaldo cannot wait to show off his new fiancie.

He added: ‘ am always boasting about being with her.

‘Everyone thinks she is beautiful – my friends think she is beautiful.

‘They always ask me to take her to meet them but she won’t go because she’s embarrassed.

‘She is a person that is very different and I know I can make her happy.

‘Our relationship is special because she understands me and I understand her.’

The world’s tallest teenage girl walks hands in hands with her boyfriend, the picture of young love despite a staggering 1ft 6in height difference.

Elisany da Cruz Silva, 17, measures an unbelievable 6ft 8in tall and has to bend down to plant a kiss on her 5ft 4in lover Francinaldo da Silva Carvalho, 22.

The youngster, from Salinopolis in Brazil, has a form of gigantism because of a tumor on her pituitary gland, which regulates growth. Doctors have since removed the tumor.

Okay. I love this 5’4″ little guy closing this incredible queen.  Because as we all know now at phicklphilly I love women’s legs. To have a woman like this would be like winning the lottery. Sure her head seems a little small, but she has miles of legs. I would worship Elisany forever. I’ve never seen anyone like her and probably won’t again. I love that this dude had the power at his small stature to pursue this amazing woman.

When I look upon her I want to chop her down like a tree and make mad love to her. (Sorry they’re all the same size on their backs) Haters gonna hate. If you have a fetish and you love something, if it can be more or bigger or more intense you want it more. Like any drug, anything worth doing is worth overdoing. 

Elisany is an extraordinary lady and I am smitten. I’m happy for this couple but Elisany represents the overdose that I crave of my love of women’s legs. They go on for days!

It’s my thing and I’m just so happy I stumbled upon an article about this extraordinary woman.

If you love something, you always want more of it. That’s me.

Francinaldo (Her boyfriend) casts a great shadow and at 5’4″ is a giant among men.

Well done Sir!

My last two previous girlfriends were 5’11 and 6 foot. You are a King in my book! You’re my hero, dude.

And lastly… It must be nice knowing a woman you can always look up to!

 

 

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