Dating and Relationship Advice – 7 Golden Rules for Maximizing Right Swipe Potential on Tinder

“It’s not rocket science.”

A 2015 study by Global Web Index revealed what most Tinder users already know: whether they’re looking to find love or make love, men far outnumber women on the dating app. The study found that 62% of Tinder users were male, while only 38% of users were female.

This creates a situation where women overwhelmingly have the upper hand, because they have more options to choose from. As a result, many men remain baffled by Tinder and how to effect the seeming phenomena of matching with someone who is not a sex bot, doesn’t work for a live cam website, is not a prostitute, and is not too scared to meet in person.

So regardless of your gender and sexual preference, here are seven golden rules for increasing the likelihood of right swipes on your Tinder profile.

1 – Be An Active Tinder User

Many of the people complaining about lower than average matches on the site are hardly ever on it. Do a lot of swiping, and interact with the matches you already have to increase your chances of keeping them. Users often clean up their Tinder matches over time by unmatching the people they don’t interact with. Reduce the likelihood of being unmatched for this reason.

2 – Identify what you Need and Want

Some dating experts insist that dating is a numbers game, and you should create a profile which will appeal to the majority. This may work for those looking for casual encounters, but to develop more intimate connections – whether platonic or intimate – tailoring your account to the kind of person you want to attract is key.

As a result, knowing what you need and want in a relationship (or lack thereof), and from a person, should set the tone for the rest of your interactions on Tinder.

3 – Pick Better Pictures

If you don’t have a picture with your Tinder account, then you’re already doing it wrong. Some people may swipe right out of curiosity, but most will not, even if you have an amazing bio.

Your profile picture should be a recent, general favorite as decided by not just yourself, but your friends. Pick the ones that got the most likes on Facebook or Instagram, because this implies that it is the most attractive one you have.

The rest of your pictures should reflect not just the life you live, but the kind of things your match will be included in if he or she becomes involved with you. For instance, if you’re an active man, bring out the hiking and climbing pictures. If you’re a dog lover, post a picture of you with your four-legged friend.

4 – Fill Out Your Bio

A lot of people don’t fill out their bios. Reasons range from “Nobody even reads that” to “I don’t know what to say”. But the truth is many people do read it and use the content of your bio to break the ice.

Some potential matches also wonder, If you don’t know what to say in a bio, will you make good conversation on a date? Few things are as awkward as being stuck on a date with someone who doesn’t know how to carry on a conversation.

If you’re looking for something shallow, then perhaps a bio isn’t that big of a deal. For the people looking to create deeper connections, even when it doesn’t lead to a relationship, find some witty words to throw in that bio.

5 – Capitalize on the Power of Social Media

Tinder allows users to link their Instagram pages to their dating profile. Don’t miss out on the opportunity to let potential matches see more pictures of you and the things that interest you. You might also gain yourself a few new followers in the process.

In addition to this, Tinder shows mutual interests between you and your potential matches, which often helps to establish common ground. The more interests and pages you like on Facebook, the greater the likelihood of catching someone’s eye based on shared interests.

Don’t go crazy on liking pages though. Stick to the ones you’re genuinely interested in, so as not to create a false perspective of who you are. Overselling and under-delivering may get you more matches, but won’t work in your favor in the long run.

6 – Don’t Judge a “Book” by its Cover

Don’t judge potential matches based on their pictures alone. That lumberjack beard could be shaved off by now, and those muscles could have recently dissolved into twenty pounds of extra fat.

Similarly, accounts with bad pictures are often owned by people who are just not photogenic – I wasn’t. Take it from a former user who met up with maybe a dozen people from Tinder: almost every user looked even better than they did in their photos.

7 – Widen Location Settings

Only dating within a 20 mile radius doesn’t do much to expand your dating pool. Be open to matching with people no matter how far away they are, or if they live in a different country and are only in your area on vacation.

I met my husband on Tinder, while on vacation, and ended up marrying him and moving to his country. You never know what can happen.

Also, often times when people are planning to relocate, they will check out the dating pool in the area prior to moving. Don’t miss out on that opportunity by confining yourself to men and women up the street.

 

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Wildwood Daze – Summer of 1977 – Anna Marie – The Awakening – Part 1

I was working as a pool boy at the El Morro Motel in North Wildwood, New Jersey for the summer. (See: Wildwood Daze – 1977 – El Morro Motel)

I had already gone on my landmark date with Terri. Truly a watershed moment in my then brief dating life. (See: Wildwood Daze – 1977 – Terri – First Love)

Anna Marie was an older girl who lived next door to the motel. I was 14 going on 15 and she was already 16 years old. That’s a leap during your formative years.

She was an attractive Italian girl with a buxom body. Girls my age were usually slender and developing. This girl already had hips and breasts. She was more woman and less girl. Up to this point I had little romantic contact with any girls. I was still mired in puberty.

One of my jobs at the motel was to bring in the cushions from the pool area every night at 7pm. I worked at the pool area each morning till about noon, but I would go back every night at night to do that too. I didn’t mind. Also, while I was there on Mondays I would have to take out the trash. The trash cans were kept in a little area behind the hotel. They were usually filled with bottles and tourist trash. I would carry the cans down a little concrete walkway along the side of the motel and then out to the curb.

That little walkway went along the length of the property where Anna Marie lived. I started to notice her sitting on her porch at night when I’d be at the motel. She’d be just hanging out in her bathing suit or a pair of shorts and a tube top.

At 16 she looked hot as fuck.

I was but a boy but she would wave and started saying hi to me. For some reason even though I’m good with women, I never can sense when they’re attracted to me. I could go out on five plus dates with a woman even now, and I’ll have no idea that she wants me to have sex with her the second time we go out. I think when a woman decides she’s into you, it’s like a switch gets thrown.

Plus, I love romance and dating. I’m more focused on getting to know her and falling for her than bedding her. If you’re sincere sex becomes and ineviteble mutual celebration, not  transaction or even wose, a conquest.

So you can imagine what an idiot I was at 14 years old. I thought this older Italian hottie was just being neighborly. I swear to God I did.

She started to speak to me more when she would see me, and it always seemed that she was on that porch when I was taking out the trash. What I didn’t know was she knew what my schedule was and would make sure she was on the porch when I walked by. But of course I was too dumb to pick up on her vibes, because no girls liked me before this and there was no way that a girl would actually pursue me. (Especially an older girl!) I was too much of an ugly loser back then.

But all of that was changing.

I had a job. Top braces were off. Skin had cleared up. I was tan, fit and my hair was really blonde from the sun. Not a bad-looking kid now.

I was up the street one night at an arcade called Botto’s. A retired Philly cop and his wife owned the place. They were just lovely people. My friends and I would always hang out there. Practically every day. We’d play songs on the jukebox and play pinball. It was one of my favorite places on Earth in the summertime. I probably hung out there every summer for maybe a decade.

I was there one day doing my thing and Anna Marie walks in with her sister. Her sister was a bigger girl, probably 18 years of age. So to me at 14 she was basically a woman.

Anna Marie comes over and starts chatting. Of course I can’t take my eyes off my game of pinball. We just talk about local stuff and what not.

“Do you want to go to the beach with me tomorrow?”

“Umm, sure Anna Marie.”

“Can we go after 2pm because that’s when I’m done my chambermaid job at the Lolipop Motel.”

“Sounds good. I’ll come by your house around then and we’ll go.”

 

 

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