Whether you’re new to the world of online dating or you’ve been in the game for a while, making a profile is tough.
How do you explain what you’re looking for without using cliches? Should you be yourself or play it cool with a few suave pickup lines?
And should you really mention that your friends say you look like George Clooney?
Don’t worry. We’ll cover all that and more. Here are five online dating profile tips guaranteed to win the ladies over.
1. Just Say No to Selfies
It’s true that selfies are a huge part of our culture. And on Facebook and Instagram, selfies are fine.
But not on your dating profile.
You don’t have to run to a studio for professional photographs, but you do want to show that you care enough to have a decent photo taken.
Enlist a friend to take a few shots of you, both close-up and full-body. Another tip: It should be just you in the photo. Save the pictures of your dog or best friend for another time.
2. 70% About You, 30% About Her
We didn’t invent these numbers. Studies show that profiles using this ratio get the most response on online dating sites.
Catch her eye with an interesting opening, perhaps an exciting travel tale or a funny anecdote. Give her a glimpse of your personality and tell her just enough to make her want to read more.
Next, mention your occupation and a little bit about your daily life. Focus on aspects of your work and lifestyle that you truly enjoy, and play them up. The more positive emotions you can elicit, the better.
Finally, describe your ideal woman. Be honest and specific, and don’t be afraid to set the bar high. Women like confidence.
3. Be Honest, But Not TOO Honest
You want to be honest on your profile, but there such a thing as too much honesty.
If you feel the need to mention you’re divorced or separated, go ahead. Most women will appreciate knowing that up front.
But avoid using sad words like “alone,” “desperate,” or “lonely.” While it may be true, it will detract from the more attractive parts of your profile.
What if you’re lacking in the self-confidence department? Sign up for a course like Social Attraction to help you feel more confident around the ladies.
4. Use Proper English
You only get one chance to make a first impression, so make sure your profile is spell-checked and error-free.
Skip the slang, emoticons, and abbreviations. These are fine for social media and text messages, but on your profile, you want to come across as an intelligent, educated adult.
On that note, steer clear of colloquialisms like “baby” or “doll.” It might have worked for Humphrey Bogart, but modern women aren’t the biggest fans of chauvinism.
5. Don’t Make a Checklist
Finally, remember that you’re looking for a real, live human being.
If you list every single quality you want, women who read your profile will feel like they’re in a livestock competition instead of looking for a date.
Women want to know about you, not fifty things you’re looking for in a mate (refer to the 70/30 rule). So tell her about yourself and let her decide if you two are a good match.
Creating a strong dating profile is challenging, but it’s doable.
With these online dating profile tips, you’re ready to log on and make a profile that will win the ladies over.
Be sure to check out our recent relationship posts for more helpful dating advice.
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