Dating and Relationship Advice – 15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud) – Part 2

  • Just like women, men can play games, send mixed messages and stop themselves from saying what’s on their minds.
    They say that while women are complex and hard to read, men are simple. Supposedly, they say what’s on their minds, pursue what they want and don’t overthink things. But if you’ve ever dated a man, you’ll know that this isn’t exactly the case, at least with most guys! Just like women, men can play games, send mixed messages and stop themselves from saying what’s on their minds.

    If you’re a woman dating a man, you might want a little insight into how his mind works and what it is that he wants from you. We’ll never have the answers that speak for all men on the planet, but we do have 15 Whisper confessions from real guys that detail the things they want from the women in their lives, but don’t like to say out loud.

    Some of their desires are pretty logical, and not at all unique—most humans crave unconditional love and all its elements. There are also some confessions that are a bit more confusing, some you probably would have guessed, and others that will surprise you.

    So, what do at least some guys secretly want from their women? Glad you asked! Read on to find out.

  • 7. Ask For His Help, Advice And Input So He Can Feel Wanted And Needed
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

Not all men want to fit into that hero stereotype, but some guys do. Some feel pressured by that expectation to be brave and save the day, while others feel inspired by it, and this anonymous Whisper confessor is one of those guys.

We don’t think anybody should act like they need saving when they’re perfectly capable of rescuing themselves—women have come much too far to feel obligated to play the damsel in distress again. But when you do need some advice or help, don’t be afraid to ask for it! This shows him that you value his presence and his opinion in your life and will probably boost his confidence a little bit. You probably don’t need a man in your life, but feel free to show him that you do want him.

  • 6. Laugh At His Jokes, Even When They Couldn’t Be Less Funny
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

This might sound like something incredibly simple, but you’d be surprised how many guys feel exactly the same way. A sense of humor is usually at the top of the list of ideal partner qualities, meaning everyone likes to feel like they are funny, whether they’re men or women. It can take some nerve to crack a joke in front of someone you like because you could end up just hanging there without any laughs and a battered self-esteem.

You’re not obligated to laugh at something that you don’t find funny, but it is a kind thing to do to save someone’s feelings. And if you’re into them, it makes them feel more relaxed around you, which has to be a good thing, If the joke genuinely is funny, don’t be afraid to tell them so. You’ll make their day!

  • 5. Don’t Be Afraid To Embark On Adventures With Him
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

As we mentioned, there have been a number of unfair standards and expectations of behavior placed on both women and men throughout history. While men have been expected to be brave and full of confidence, women have been required to be gentle, submissive and in need of saving. It’s fine if you feel like you fit into that standard, but it’s also fine if you don’t. And according to this guy, it’s attractive too.

Having an adventure together is one of the best things you can do as a couple. It brings you closer, lets you learn a lot about each other and form a stronger bond and gives you something to do besides Netflix and Chill. Mind you, an adventure doesn’t have to be trekking through the jungle in search of gold; you’d be surprised what adventures you can find right in the comfort of your own town!

  • 4. Don’t Play Dumb When You’re Smart Since He Craves Intellectual Conversation
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

Sadly, some women still feel like they have to dumb themselves down to appear more attractive to men. The main cause of this is usually a woman thinking that the man she’s talking to will be intimidated by a woman who’s intelligent. Even more sadly, that sometimes is the case.

But a lot of the time, men aren’t as turned off by a smart woman as society makes them out to be. On the contrary, studies have found that many men actually find it incredibly attractive when they can have a real, intellectual conversation with a girl. Whether you like talking about space science, have opinions on Shakespeare or just have something to say that reflects your real opinions on any subject, don’t feel like you have to button it up.

  • 3. Some Men Really Like To Be The Head Of The House
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

Yikes. It’s a little confronting to find out that some men feel like this deep inside, but we’re better off knowing the truth than living in the dark. We’d like to think that we’ve advanced beyond the days of men expecting women to submit to them and cater to their every need, but not everybody is at that level. All we can say is be aware that there are guys out there who do want obedience in a woman and don’t feel like you have to fill that role just to get them to like you. You’re probably more compatible with someone else!

Some people, whether they’re men or women, naturally prefer to be submissive or obedient to their partners. If you find this works for you, it’s probably fine to end up with someone like this, as long as you’re happy and he doesn’t turn abusive.

  • 2. Like Women, Men Want Someone To Just Be Real
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

Society tends to pick on males for only wanting one thing from women. They’re often portrayed as ravenous beings that are only on the physical side of love, incapable of having a real relationship without a side chick. We speak from personal experience when we say that, although this might be true of some men, it’s simply not the case with them all. Men are human, and just like women, some of them are no good. Just like women, they want someone who cares about them and who can stay loyal.

It’s foolish to assume that men don’t have feelings and that they can’t get their hearts broken. They might not feel like they can talk about it openly like most women do, but many of them just want to be loved properly.

  • 1. And Others Want You To Be The Boss
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

In the same way that there are guys out there who won’t accept anything less than being the alpha male and wearing the pants, there are also guys who prefer their women to be the boss and take the lead. Online studies claim that many men out there love women to make decisions and take the lead, and even become a little aggressive when things get physical, favoring love bites over soft kisses.

We don’t love the word “bossy” because it’s hardly ever used with regard to men, and is often a negative way to describe a woman who goes after what she wants and isn’t afraid to stand up for herself. But this confession is proof that there’s no one standard that appeals to all men, so don’t bother changing yourself to fit anybody else’s idea of attractive.

 

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Dating and Relationship Advice – 15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud) – Part 1

Just like women, men can play games, send mixed messages and stop themselves from saying what’s on their minds.

They say that while women are complex and hard to read, men are simple. Supposedly, they say what’s on their minds, pursue what they want and don’t overthink things. But if you’ve ever dated a man, you’ll know that this isn’t exactly the case, at least with most guys! Just like women, men can play games, send mixed messages and stop themselves from saying what’s on their minds.

If you’re a woman dating a man, you might want a little insight into how his mind works and what it is that he wants from you. We’ll never have the answers that speak for all men on the planet, but we do have 15 Whisper confessions from real guys that detail the things they want from the women in their lives, but don’t like to say out loud.

Some of their desires are pretty logical, and not at all unique—most humans crave unconditional love and all its elements. There are also some confessions that are a bit more confusing, some you probably would have guessed, and others that will surprise you.

So, what do at least some guys secretly want from their women? Glad you asked! Read on to find out.

  • 15. Have Your Own Goals And Strengths, And Be Your Own Person
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

Bless this marine! He really said it all: people shine when they love themselves, work hard to fulfill their goals, stick to their values and show strength and resilience, even when it’s hard. Beauty means something different to everyone, but these character traits almost always end up reflecting positively on a man or woman.

Many women believe that by doing things like this, they turn men off. They’re afraid to have big dreams and chase them, they’re afraid to show how strong they are and risk intimidating their love interests and they’re afraid to stick by their values. But this guy is proof that these concerns are just silly. There may be men out there who don’t want a real woman like this, but they don’t have to be your problem. There are also plenty of guys who want nothing less than real.

  • 14. Have “Respect” For Yourself, Whatever That Means
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

We get the notion of respecting people who respect themselves. It’s hard to help someone when they won’t help themselves, hard to love someone who doesn’t love themselves and we subconsciously teach people how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. That’s just how the world works.

What we don’t understand is how going out and “getting lit” means that a girl doesn’t respect herself; she’s simply found something that will bring her enjoyment, and she’s doing it. If anything, that shows that she does respect herself enough to let herself have some fun. Stay home and read if that’s what you love to do, but don’t feel pressured to act a certain way because of guys like this. Respecting yourself means living the life you want, not bowing down to what someone else thinks is appropriate.

  • 13. Let Him Express Himself In His Own Way
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

It’s often been said that men have trouble expressing their feelings and don’t like to get emotional, which leaves the women they’re in relationships with feeling frustrated. But this guy makes a good point: perhaps most men do like to express how they’re feeling, but they do it in a different way to what women are used to. From this confession, it seems like this man wishes women would just let him be himself and express himself however he wants.

We think this is good advice to take! As long as the way he goes about it isn’t harmful to anyone, just let him get things off his chest however he wants to. This will keep him from bottling things up, which always results in a huge fight.

  • 12. Ain’t Saying He’s A Gold Digger, But…
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

Can you imagine how controversial this would be if a woman said it? When we think of gold diggers or freeloaders, we tend to think of women. After all, the majority of women have only recently been given the opportunity to achieve financial and career success to the point that men do, so it’s traditionally been women that leech off of men. But now that there is an increasing amount of successful women out there, male gold diggers and freeloaders are a thing!

This just serves to remind the successful and financially comfortable women to be careful. That’s not to say that any man interested in them must have an ulterior motive, but clearly, some of them do. Thankfully, this sort of thing tends to be pretty obvious.

  • 11. Some Guys Don’t Want To Date Another One Of The Guys
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

We can sort of see where this man is coming from. There are women out there who think that if they try to mirror the behavior of their guy, he’ll somehow be more into them. This never works because it means she’s straying from who she really is and trying to be something she’s not to be accepted. Never a good idea!

On the other hand, some girls are genuinely more into things that are seen as traditionally masculine. Some girls don’t like makeup, couldn’t care less about creature comforts, don’t like to shop and would much rather play football. Those women shouldn’t be shamed out of being who they are because some guys don’t like it. The bottom line is to accept who you are and trust that you’ll find somebody who will accept it too.

  • 10. Ask About His Passions, Interests And The Things That Make Him Tick
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

Wanting to talk about what lights you up is just a human thing, no matter who you are. We naturally want to share our passions and those things that instigate fires inside of us, so the person you’re dating usually gets endless points for encouraging you to do that.

Unless he gets excited at the thought of cheating on women and bashing up puppies, you can’t go wrong in asking him about the things that interest him. Find out what it is about them that he loves. Not only will this make him appreciate you and feel more comfortable and accepted around you, but it will help you to get to know him better than you did before and form an even deeper connection. Try it!

  • 9. Be Bold Enough To Make The First Move
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

Society has traditionally painted very clear pictures of what the gender roles should be: in the context of a courtship, women should be reserved and hard-to-get and men should be the chasers. For obvious reasons, not everyone feels like they fit into this strict mold, but even in 2018, some people still feel too afraid to step outside of the designated boundaries.

According to this anonymous man, there are at least some guys out there who would prefer women to make the first move for a change. It goes without saying that being the one to instigate conversation and take that step is daunting, which is all the more reason why it shouldn’t always fall on the man’s shoulders. Walking over there is scary, but it also comes with a huge amount of power, and will probably immediately gain you the other person’s admiration, even if they aren’t feeling you back.

  • 8. Some Guys Like Women To Dress Up Rather Than Down
15 Men Confess The Things They Want From Their Women (But Will Never Say Out Loud)

There are men out there who honestly couldn’t care less how a woman is dressed, and then there are others, like this guy on Whisper, who do notice what she’s wearing. This particular man (and there would be others like him) finds it attractive when women get dressed up in heels and chic outfits.

What you wear is a personal choice, and we wouldn’t recommend changing up your style just to suit guys like this (or switching from heels to sweatpants for the same reason). At the end of the day, you always look the best in what you feel comfortable in. The most stylish dress in the world would seem off on someone who’s self-conscious in it. Find what you feel the best in, whether that’s a dress, leggings, makeup or jeans, and rock it.

 

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