7 Habits that Guarantee a Happy Relationship

Disclaimer: This is a fictional piece that was written in 2017 that uses stock photos and a made up name.

Looking for love? Or simply aiming to be happy with the partner you already have? While the media is awash with information on finding true love, once you’ve met your match you’re expected to simply live happily ever after.

But according to the Office for National Statistics (ONS), 42 per cent of marriages in England and Wales end in divorce and many of us could do with some guidance in the relationship department.

The secret to lasting love

To avoid being one of these disconcerting statistics, help is at hand. If you want to be part of a happy couple, Dr Robert Epstein is your guy. The renowned American psychologist, along with colleagues Regina Warfel and James Johnson, conducted in-depth relationship research at the University of California San Diego and found strong relationships boil down to seven key skills.

‘No matter what your personality, or the state of your relationship, improving these skills will help your relationship work better,’ he says.

According to Dr Robert Epstein, the seven key relationship skills you need to follow are as follows:

1. Communication

This means knowing how to listen, sharing your thoughts and feelings honestly, refraining from criticizing and encouraging your partner to share his or her feelings.

It’s all about opening up, and letting your other half open up too, in a judgement-free space. Sounds simple enough!

2. Knowledge of your partner

What’s his shirt size? What’s her favorite food? After communication, simply knowing a lot about your partner is a powerful way to show them you care, and makes you better equipped to tend to each other’s ongoing needs.

When she gets home from a stressful day and you’ve run a bath with her favourite lavender oil and poured a cup of Pinot Grigio, she’ll know how much you really do care (and listen).

3. Being mature about conflict resolution

Conflict-resolution skills include techniques like staying focused on the topic, staying in the present, being ready to forgive or apologize, and knowing when to take a break. You’re going to disagree, so make sure you do it in the best way possible.

4. Brushing up your life skills

Do you plan for emergencies? Do you exercise and stay fit? Studies show people want their partners to take good care of themselves and also want them to contribute a degree of security to a long-term relationship.

We’re not saying you need the survival skills of Bear Grylls, but being calm in a crisis and having a plan B when things don’t work out makes you a far more appealing mate.

5. Being able to self-manage

This is not the same as life skills, Epstein insists. People who are skilled at self-management take inventories of their strengths and weaknesses and always strive for improvement. They know how to interpret disturbing events in positive ways and they work hard to reach their goals.

This skill is also great for life in general, and it can help boost everything from professional success to your relationships with your children.

6. Being romantic and intimate

What does having strong skills in sex and romance look like? Inquiring and caring about how to please your partner sexually, setting aside time for intimacy, refraining from blaming each other when sex doesn’t go smoothly, and trying to stay physically attractive for your partner. So lay off the donuts and make time for romance!

7. Stress management

Do you know how to use breathing, meditation, or imagery techniques to help you fight stress? If you know how to avoid or fight stress, you’ll be better able to love and support your partner.

 

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21 thoughts on “7 Habits that Guarantee a Happy Relationship”

  1. As usual I am crying laughing, especially at the “salty casserole”
    What is wrong with explanation points, I love them!!! So expressive!!!
    I do think you should come up with a code name instead of ( my name ), when I am mentioning your blog to anyone I call you Phil but I am sure there is something more suitable!!

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  2. I like the valuable info you provide in your articles. Items bookmark your weblog and check again here regularly. I am quite sure I will learn many new stuff right here! Good luck for the next!

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  3. This article is absolutely disgusting. Do you really have nothing better to do than degrade and make fun of a woman you have literally never met before and reveal her real name and photos?? Picking apart everything she says and proving to us how much you would never want to be with her does NOTHING for anyone. This article isn’t helping anyone, and it’s not informative or funny at all. You just seem like a huge asshole feeding off of someone who is clearly just a little lonely. Stacy is lucky she never got her first date with you. Grow a pair and get a life, please.

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  4. You have something deeply wrong with you if you willingly wrote and posted this. I know and respect Stacy and you have publicly berated her. This is extremely fucked up. You revealed your private conversations with her, her full name and information. Delete this post. What the fuck is wrong with you? Do you not realize you could ruin a this woman’s career and life by posting something like this online? You have a wonderful place waiting for you in hell I’m sure.

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  5. Wow. Misogyny much?

    First – do you have permission to share Ms. Moscotti’s images? Her name? Her comments to you, which were considered private? Have you no shame nor any concern about a lawsuit?

    Second – What is it about you that you find so special and amazing? Looked through your blog here. You claim to be a gentleman, but your posts, especially this one, refute that.

    Third – You dare to call yourself a writer, but what I have read from your site so far has been less than impressive. Venting is not writing.

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      1. Wow… this is pretty ballsy…. publishing a woman’s images and name I assume without permission.

        Glad you got your rocks off. Honestly looks like she dodged a bullet.

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  6. Dear Mr. Hickle, If I were you I’d take this down immediately. You are grossly GUILTY of character defamation, labile, cyber bullying, and slew of other hate related crimes, as well as releasing her personal and confidential information without her consent. If this woman want to, she could sue with in an inch of your life. I know you didn’t like this person, but you are not only way out of line here, you are committing several felonies in the process by keeping this online.

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  7. You would have been lucky to meet her, you douchebag. Looks like you spared her though which is great because you should see Stacy now! She’s a WONDERFUL woman and even an inspiration to me to stay positive no matter what life throws at you. You, my friend, never deserved that first date with Stacy because you would have NEVER have been good enough. If only ONE thing you said was right about her then maybe you’d have something here but you never got to know this wonderful woman. Again, you’re a douchebag and have no place writing this bull shit with no actual FACTS to go on. Good luck in your endeavors, I hope woman on Bumble see this and avoid your ass too!

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  8. Hey Phickle—would you like to know how you come across, here? Do you know how it sounds when you add your bold-faced lies to your perspective?… Do you have any sense of personal accountability or introspection at all? (Rhetorical questions, obvi.)

    This isn’t funny. *You* are not funny. I hope the women you’re attempting to meet catch wind of your site and steer clear.

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  9. This article is extramural cruel and unnecessary . I’m glad you have the time to purposefully put people down and look down on them for no reason. You are the definition of what a bully is put other people down and make fun of them to make your self feel better . I also love how you multiple time point out that your a lier wonderful quality dude ! She was better off with out you

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  10. So phicklephilly has changed the name of the person in this blog to protect their privacy rights… years after it’s been out there online.

    I smell a lawsuit!! And one that NEEDS to be heard. Good luck Mr. Phicklephilly;)

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  11. Someone who describes themselves as having “been at this a while” has clearly got his own issues with relationships to deal with himself.

    I wish I was cool enough to have a blog where I could judge random strangers based on one interaction.

    I wonder if you’re still alone…

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  12. You, sir, are an ass. First, you slander someone in your writing using her real name and photos, then suddenly its a “fictional story” after you get called out on it? No wonder YOU are/were single and on a dating site in the first place. Bullet dodged by everyone who didn’t date you. Grow up!!

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